I would be my true self, pursuing my deepest ambitions & dreams, living my life according to my values and desires and not society’s or family’s orders!
If I stopped believing something was wrong with me (I’ve made huge progress in this area but still it comes up), I would be someone who is not afraid to stand openly as a therapist and energy healer. I would create group programs that I know is part of my calling but fear holds me back from taking that next step. I would feel connected in my creativity and flow with much more ease when before a group. I would stop making myself small because I’m afraid to mess up or to look like an imposter. I would be my authentic self, truly accepting that I’m fallible and worthy simply because I’m human. Self Compassion work has changed my life and it’s the core of my work with others. Thank you Tara!
Who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me?
I would be taking action, feeling successful and fulfilled. I wouldn’t be caring for others’ opinions and expectations. I would feel lighter and happier. I would be free.
Who would I be if I didn’t believe something is wrong with me?
I would be whatever I want to be; prime minister, leader of a worldwide pacifist movement, leader of a worldwide ecologist movement, leader of a worldwide feminist movement, whatever, there would be nothing impossible to achieve for me, there would be nothing to extraordinary to experience, live and enjoy for me. No restrictions. No limits. I would be whatever I want to be!
These are great questions to help not only folks I work with reflect but myself as well. I would be able to trust my instincts and be confident in supporting others.
If I could get rid of my fear of failure I would be a very different person. Right now I am living a very limited life. Not able to go out or enjoy what life has to offer in a meaningful way. When I heard your talk I felt you were addressing me.
I would be more assertive, self confident and more t peace with my shortcomings, I would worry less and be more Present to the actual here and now. I would take more time. My life would be more in Flow and more congruent with my inner potentials. Thank you Tara! Also for all of your profound and practically applicable teachings, funny anectodes, references and Sayings: for ex.; Real but not true; issues are in your tissues etc! am so gratefull to find your videos, books! etc. Very usefull for me and my clients!
I would be more relaxed and feel free to be my authentic self. She’s been waiting for this opportunity! She’s really quite something and a gift to others!
With Cheers and Love….
I can relate to everything Tara says, it´s so important to mistrust the self doubt that keeps the cycle of worry thoughts, judgement and fear based sesationtions in the body going. Overthinking and judging is a form of flight from facing the fear I can watch in many people. Thanks for sharing Tara what you discovered is a very helpful tool. And yes… if trauma is involved, it takes many rounds.
Lisa Harrington, Psychotherapy, S. Burlington, VT, USAsays
Who would I be with a fearless heart? Gratefully, I can say I have mostly let go of the fear albatross, so I would be doing what I do! The only edge that I have not broken through is to try writing again! Let the writer ✍️ in me awaken!
Hank you for a life affirming question for myself and those I love & serve.
I would be lighter, more fun, more bold. I would rest more peacefully in myself and in my relationships. I think others would enjoy being around me more and I think I would feel more joy and gratitude instead of being afraid all the time. I would be able to care more for others and myself.
I would be a risk-taker, bold and confident to try new things instead of hypervigilant and avoiding people, places, and new experiences that make me uncomfortable.
If I released self doubt and fear, I would be a more confident, relaxed, and open person. I would trust that I am worthy of a fulfilling and mutually supportive relationship. I would be able to better engage in the work and pleasurable activities I have at hand. I would be more self accepting and truly love myself. I would also be more accepting of others.
Thanks so much Tara, for such great tools and reflections. When I think “Who would I be if I didn’t thing something was wrong with me” I see myself in full expansion. Then I think some fear is useful and has been useful in allowing me to stop and take care of myself.
I would he someone wh had a greater capacity to serve those in need
I would be my true self, pursuing my deepest ambitions & dreams, living my life according to my values and desires and not society’s or family’s orders!
I would be in a relationship
I would be a happier, more confident person less anxious about my relationship
If I stopped believing something was wrong with me (I’ve made huge progress in this area but still it comes up), I would be someone who is not afraid to stand openly as a therapist and energy healer. I would create group programs that I know is part of my calling but fear holds me back from taking that next step. I would feel connected in my creativity and flow with much more ease when before a group. I would stop making myself small because I’m afraid to mess up or to look like an imposter. I would be my authentic self, truly accepting that I’m fallible and worthy simply because I’m human. Self Compassion work has changed my life and it’s the core of my work with others. Thank you Tara!
When I believe I am perfect just as I am, I am able to be myself, openly and honestly, no longer having to please others.
Who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me?
I would be taking action, feeling successful and fulfilled. I wouldn’t be caring for others’ opinions and expectations. I would feel lighter and happier. I would be free.
I would be a happier individual, a less resentful wife, a more-present mother and chirpier friend.
Who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me?
I’d be less inclined to believe that I am the one to blame when things turn pear shaped in relationships or in work situations.
Yes. I agree. And I’d let others take responsibility for their part in the relationship and not take on the task of trying to fix things myself.
Who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me? I would be more courageous. Open with others. Authentic.
I will share this information with them. So they can trust fear is just a part added to them, so it can be removed (with work and patience).
Who would I be if I didn’t believe something is wrong with me?
I would be whatever I want to be; prime minister, leader of a worldwide pacifist movement, leader of a worldwide ecologist movement, leader of a worldwide feminist movement, whatever, there would be nothing impossible to achieve for me, there would be nothing to extraordinary to experience, live and enjoy for me. No restrictions. No limits. I would be whatever I want to be!
My client is me ….. I hear what Tara says and I understand it, but putting it into practice feels impossible.
These are great questions to help not only folks I work with reflect but myself as well. I would be able to trust my instincts and be confident in supporting others.
If I could get rid of my fear of failure I would be a very different person. Right now I am living a very limited life. Not able to go out or enjoy what life has to offer in a meaningful way. When I heard your talk I felt you were addressing me.
I would be more assertive, self confident and more t peace with my shortcomings, I would worry less and be more Present to the actual here and now. I would take more time. My life would be more in Flow and more congruent with my inner potentials. Thank you Tara! Also for all of your profound and practically applicable teachings, funny anectodes, references and Sayings: for ex.; Real but not true; issues are in your tissues etc! am so gratefull to find your videos, books! etc. Very usefull for me and my clients!
I think I would be someone more able than I am now.
And feel a weight lifted from me also resulting in more presence.
I would be more relaxed and feel free to be my authentic self. She’s been waiting for this opportunity! She’s really quite something and a gift to others!
With Cheers and Love….
I can relate to everything Tara says, it´s so important to mistrust the self doubt that keeps the cycle of worry thoughts, judgement and fear based sesationtions in the body going. Overthinking and judging is a form of flight from facing the fear I can watch in many people. Thanks for sharing Tara what you discovered is a very helpful tool. And yes… if trauma is involved, it takes many rounds.
Very useful information to live a better life!
Who would I be with a fearless heart? Gratefully, I can say I have mostly let go of the fear albatross, so I would be doing what I do! The only edge that I have not broken through is to try writing again! Let the writer ✍️ in me awaken!
Hank you for a life affirming question for myself and those I love & serve.
I would be able to express my feelings in a gentle and kind way.
i would be a “real” artist
I would be lighter, more fun, more bold. I would rest more peacefully in myself and in my relationships. I think others would enjoy being around me more and I think I would feel more joy and gratitude instead of being afraid all the time. I would be able to care more for others and myself.
I couldn’t have said it better – same for me! 🙂
I would be a risk-taker, bold and confident to try new things instead of hypervigilant and avoiding people, places, and new experiences that make me uncomfortable.
I would have a fearless, courageous heart and would be able to do more for others with that freedom.
More present, and confident
I enjoyed the 3 step process immensely, and would love to learn more about it.
I would be much happier and willing to try new things
If I released self doubt and fear, I would be a more confident, relaxed, and open person. I would trust that I am worthy of a fulfilling and mutually supportive relationship. I would be able to better engage in the work and pleasurable activities I have at hand. I would be more self accepting and truly love myself. I would also be more accepting of others.
I’d be living freely.
I would be freer to use my imagination to create
I would be feeling more, expressing more, understanding more. My life would be more authentic and less frightened to receive love and intimacy.
Id be an open loving awareness.
Better able to fully interact with others
Without fear I could be ME: unleash all my gifts, doing and giving what I am here to do… It will be amazing!
I would not be in such shock and want to run away when others may explode around me or at me. I would be stable, confident, and untriggered by others.
Free…
I would be myself, with ease and confidence. A flow between myself and the big picture of the universe.
Aware of myself
Free and without self-judgement.
but some fears are true as well as real are they not? we have many actual incapacities How do we overcome our addiction to them?
Thanks so much Tara, for such great tools and reflections. When I think “Who would I be if I didn’t thing something was wrong with me” I see myself in full expansion. Then I think some fear is useful and has been useful in allowing me to stop and take care of myself.
I would be free to be my list authentic self. I would be free from anxiety of what others thought and free of judgment
I’d be confident. I’d be trusting. I’d be free.
I would be more consistently connected with my soul and better able to pursue my life purpose and service to others.
What a powerful method that will help anyone, thank you!
I like this question. I intend to use it with a client tomorrow.
I believe that love is the opposite of fear. As such, compassion, and self-compassion in particular, are tools of love.
Thank you for your sharing, it’s very helpful.
Without fear I would be much more physically healthy.
Without fear, I am more likely to embrace opportunities with enthusiasm and joy. I would be me, living with childlike wonder.
I would be in full expansion. Thank you.