This is so helpful. I can clearly imagine the joy and freedom to be found in moving without pain or fear of pain. Carefree times with grandchildren, making the most of every moment. Fear is literally a waste of precious time.
I am not sure, but I do more feel fear that others will reject me for certain parts inside of me instead of feeling that sth is wrong with me. Probably therefor I do not like the parts of me that are fearful and sad. I also struggle with them because of the tremendous pain they can cause. It feels so hard to cope and makes me feel losing control which feels threatening. Probably it is my parts again that want to stop to handle it and run which causes a feeling of control loss.
Great question! I will use it with some of my clients. If people believe they are loveable it can only have a positive impact on all of their relationships.
There is such a thing as too much courage and that has gotten me into trouble. Discerning what is fear and what is wisdom is hard for me these days. Gainging that discernment is what would help me. 🙏
I would be happier, more confident, show and enjoying to be myself and the person I am with along with any situation I could possibly go through.
Being a good person :painter, psychologist, mother, lover, friend, daughter, any role in this journey we call life.
Than you so much for your care and kindness.
Who would I be if I didn’t believe I wasn’t good enough? If I could face the possibility of failure without fear?
I would be living a freer life, unbounded by self restriction and doubt and fear.
I am working in move on, how to decrease some ruminate thoughts. Mindfulness is helping me to break vicious circle, other times, recognize moments of un pleasant feelings. Then I accept my fragility as human being.
I don’t know who I would be. I‘be been trapped in fear, anxiety, depression, and self-judgement for so long. I know I want to be happy, fully loving and accepting of myself, and able to face life, not hide from it.
I don’t know the person I would be, not anywhere near as I know I am the person who lives in fear and self-doubt. But I imagine that I would be less burdened by continual self-reproaches, I imagine that I would be a clearer thinker and a braver woman. It seems as if I would be an attractive person, able to do things without thinking first of all the ways I might not do them well, or not do them brilliantly. It seems like a clearer and lighter life.
Fear dashes hope and if patients believe they are always going to be sick due to past experiences, they struggle with following a treatment plan. Using the phrase of “What would it feel like if you didn’t think something was wrong with you?” It’s transformative even if it’s short in duration.
who would I be if i did not believe that there’s something wrong with me
i could leave the anger and pain about not seeing my adult children, i would love them en be grateful that they find their own way. I could leave the anger towards my husband, and maybe i could save my 38y old marriage by loving instead of fearing , by caring instead of crying, by caressing instead of holding tight.
my life should be different, i should love my self, with less doubts en more joy
It’s very hard not to believe that my thoughts are real related to medical trauma. I have too many memories and flashbacks that keep me stuck in the loop.
Having sat with this question, I find my heart-felt answer surprising…
I wouldn’t be anyone different.
I would just be more accepting of that. I will still play the cello badly. I will still struggle sometimes in large groups of people. I will still feel a distress with the the world’s apparent inability to love and let live and I will still feel the fear that society is heading towards some stark moments of crisis. I think I would still find my legs thin and my face crumpled. I think I will still worry about whether or not I’m good at my job, disciplined enough, focussed enough…
But maybe I’d be OK with it? Perhaps I’d be happy manifesting here and now, as this unique person? Showing up as me, with no second guessing? Maybe the fearless me is the same me, but without quite so much fear… 🙂 if that makes any sense?
Who would I be without fear is a question I can answer only when I am free of fear and that happens sometimes and, often I am not sure how or why. Then other fears come up and that’s when I need to find a way out of the stranglehold again. It would be great to be much more conscious of how I free myself from fear so that I could deal with it quickly and more effectively and get back to being free from fear again. I am wondering if Tara’s 6 week program could help me achieve that goal.
Thank you so much Tara 🙏🏼
This came to me at the right time.
I found out about you by watching your « Where the olive trees weep » conversation with Gabor Mate on YouTube. I was very grateful for what you said and for the fact that you were willing to be there. What you shared resonated with me and made me feel how possible it is to act and speak from a context of transformation. This was a huge step for me.
last year I often felt overwhelmed with anxiety and anger, wanting to « fix things » that seemed so wrong, and this led me to a very unhealthy habit of cultivating negativity and suffering. I’ve practiced Adhyatma yoga and meditation for some years and this wave was strong and in a way blurred boundaries between me, and others: a suffering that I was witnessing but wasn’t mine to live (cf Mark Twain quote). I’m now engaging this : both my previous naïveté in the suffering that is part of our lives and everywhere, and idealism that brought me in a direction I would never recommend. So now, I’m taking steps in a new direction, more real, AND joyful. Your videos help me greatly thank you so much .
I believe that who I would be, if I didn’t believe I’m inadequate (as in not yet knowledgeable enough, not “ready”, not skilled or courageous enough), would be a person of frequent joy, inspiring in a simple, straightforward way, and often filled with peace and appreciation that others sense and share.
It is incredible how much transformational power can be contained in seemingly simple questions. Thank you for your compassion and for sharing this wisdom.
Who would I be without fear and self-doubt? Oh my. Its almost unimaginable. But in the imaginable space, I feel an open heart and space in my lungs; much freedom, peace, wit; curiosity; delight….
I’m sure I would be less anxious and uncomfortable if I believed “true, but not real”. Something to say to myself when my “white coat” syndrome wants attention or when meeting new folks and sharing my thoughts and feelings.
Who would I be? I would be a mother, in a committed passionate loving long term-relationship, neither if which I have. I would be working in a field that I could help others, versus wondering if I went into a a helping field of work, am there just for myself.
I would be sparkly and lively and full of love for others! I wouldn’t care if people made negative comments – I would just keep shining and opening myself to more and more of the world.
Who would I be, if I didn’t believe something was wrong with?
I would fearlessly build connections with other people, do & be what I trust in order help people heal, love loudly, perform my work more profoundly with a deep trust & confidence within myself
That I wouldn’t see myself at age 50 of being even less likely to attract in a healthy relationship ( after divorce and a recent failed long term relationship)
I would cast off those doubts about becoming an accomplished guitarist/singer/songwriter and believe my recent brilliant singalong session with friends is representative of my future not the early schoolday shyness and fear of performing which keeps producing a level of anxiety ahead of a performance opportunity. This is important to me over the next few years in a post work renaissance. Thank you Tara – this opportunity with you has appeared at the perfect moment. Regards, Giles
This is so helpful. I can clearly imagine the joy and freedom to be found in moving without pain or fear of pain. Carefree times with grandchildren, making the most of every moment. Fear is literally a waste of precious time.
I’d be courageous enough to do what I want instead of shoulding all over myself!
Thank you. I know I need this program.
I am not sure, but I do more feel fear that others will reject me for certain parts inside of me instead of feeling that sth is wrong with me. Probably therefor I do not like the parts of me that are fearful and sad. I also struggle with them because of the tremendous pain they can cause. It feels so hard to cope and makes me feel losing control which feels threatening. Probably it is my parts again that want to stop to handle it and run which causes a feeling of control loss.
Without fear, I would rediscover the joy within me
nice, listened with pleasure
Dear Tara,
Thank you for giving me the courage to be me. I love the idea of a fearless heart. I want to cultivate mine.❤️
thank you ,this was so eyeopening. love. lena
Great question! I will use it with some of my clients. If people believe they are loveable it can only have a positive impact on all of their relationships.
Thanks! Powerful question
The best mentor, guide, effective and more joyful counsellor to my clients. Thank you for this beautiful and important work.
Who would I be without fear – liberated, at peace
There is such a thing as too much courage and that has gotten me into trouble. Discerning what is fear and what is wisdom is hard for me these days. Gainging that discernment is what would help me. 🙏
Thank you Tara , listening to you , reading your books for so long , has been very helpfull and freeing .
I would be happier, more confident, show and enjoying to be myself and the person I am with along with any situation I could possibly go through.
Being a good person :painter, psychologist, mother, lover, friend, daughter, any role in this journey we call life.
Than you so much for your care and kindness.
Who would I be if I didn’t believe I wasn’t good enough? If I could face the possibility of failure without fear?
I would be living a freer life, unbounded by self restriction and doubt and fear.
Thank you, this course looks like it is exactly what I need
I am working in move on, how to decrease some ruminate thoughts. Mindfulness is helping me to break vicious circle, other times, recognize moments of un pleasant feelings. Then I accept my fragility as human being.
I would be the effective therapist for my clients that I want to be…
I don’t know who I would be. I‘be been trapped in fear, anxiety, depression, and self-judgement for so long. I know I want to be happy, fully loving and accepting of myself, and able to face life, not hide from it.
This is very helpful! Thank you!
I don’t know the person I would be, not anywhere near as I know I am the person who lives in fear and self-doubt. But I imagine that I would be less burdened by continual self-reproaches, I imagine that I would be a clearer thinker and a braver woman. It seems as if I would be an attractive person, able to do things without thinking first of all the ways I might not do them well, or not do them brilliantly. It seems like a clearer and lighter life.
Fear dashes hope and if patients believe they are always going to be sick due to past experiences, they struggle with following a treatment plan. Using the phrase of “What would it feel like if you didn’t think something was wrong with you?” It’s transformative even if it’s short in duration.
who would I be if i did not believe that there’s something wrong with me
i could leave the anger and pain about not seeing my adult children, i would love them en be grateful that they find their own way. I could leave the anger towards my husband, and maybe i could save my 38y old marriage by loving instead of fearing , by caring instead of crying, by caressing instead of holding tight.
my life should be different, i should love my self, with less doubts en more joy
It’s very hard not to believe that my thoughts are real related to medical trauma. I have too many memories and flashbacks that keep me stuck in the loop.
Having sat with this question, I find my heart-felt answer surprising…
I wouldn’t be anyone different.
I would just be more accepting of that. I will still play the cello badly. I will still struggle sometimes in large groups of people. I will still feel a distress with the the world’s apparent inability to love and let live and I will still feel the fear that society is heading towards some stark moments of crisis. I think I would still find my legs thin and my face crumpled. I think I will still worry about whether or not I’m good at my job, disciplined enough, focussed enough…
But maybe I’d be OK with it? Perhaps I’d be happy manifesting here and now, as this unique person? Showing up as me, with no second guessing? Maybe the fearless me is the same me, but without quite so much fear… 🙂 if that makes any sense?
Who would I be without fear is a question I can answer only when I am free of fear and that happens sometimes and, often I am not sure how or why. Then other fears come up and that’s when I need to find a way out of the stranglehold again. It would be great to be much more conscious of how I free myself from fear so that I could deal with it quickly and more effectively and get back to being free from fear again. I am wondering if Tara’s 6 week program could help me achieve that goal.
i would be happier, closer to my loved ones, more supportive to the needs of others
i would be kind and loving to myself, I will be trully free
Without fear I would be alive, awake, grateful, creative and loving!
I would be more free and joyful; able to face fear and somehow walk with it more successfully
THANK YOU TARA, WHAT A GREAT QUESTION, A BIG QUESTION!
IN MY OPINION A TOTAL GAME CHANGER IN SOMEONE’S LIFE!
Thank you so much Tara 🙏🏼
This came to me at the right time.
I found out about you by watching your « Where the olive trees weep » conversation with Gabor Mate on YouTube. I was very grateful for what you said and for the fact that you were willing to be there. What you shared resonated with me and made me feel how possible it is to act and speak from a context of transformation. This was a huge step for me.
last year I often felt overwhelmed with anxiety and anger, wanting to « fix things » that seemed so wrong, and this led me to a very unhealthy habit of cultivating negativity and suffering. I’ve practiced Adhyatma yoga and meditation for some years and this wave was strong and in a way blurred boundaries between me, and others: a suffering that I was witnessing but wasn’t mine to live (cf Mark Twain quote). I’m now engaging this : both my previous naïveté in the suffering that is part of our lives and everywhere, and idealism that brought me in a direction I would never recommend. So now, I’m taking steps in a new direction, more real, AND joyful. Your videos help me greatly thank you so much .
I’d be free. Free to be, creative, empowered, confident, trusting of self, at ease
I believe that who I would be, if I didn’t believe I’m inadequate (as in not yet knowledgeable enough, not “ready”, not skilled or courageous enough), would be a person of frequent joy, inspiring in a simple, straightforward way, and often filled with peace and appreciation that others sense and share.
I would be more joyous, curious, and whimsical person filled with vitality and compassion for all.
It is incredible how much transformational power can be contained in seemingly simple questions. Thank you for your compassion and for sharing this wisdom.
Who would I be without fear and self-doubt? Oh my. Its almost unimaginable. But in the imaginable space, I feel an open heart and space in my lungs; much freedom, peace, wit; curiosity; delight….
I would be an amazing person in a loving relationship with the man of my dreams. I would be fearless, a person who gets adequate sleep and nutrition.
I’m sure I would be less anxious and uncomfortable if I believed “true, but not real”. Something to say to myself when my “white coat” syndrome wants attention or when meeting new folks and sharing my thoughts and feelings.
Who would I be? I would be a mother, in a committed passionate loving long term-relationship, neither if which I have. I would be working in a field that I could help others, versus wondering if I went into a a helping field of work, am there just for myself.
I would be sparkly and lively and full of love for others! I wouldn’t care if people made negative comments – I would just keep shining and opening myself to more and more of the world.
This was a nice refresher course. Even though I work with clients with these issues I liked hearing other ways to deal with fear and anxiety.
I would most likely would experience a freedom I have never had, and would engage I so many more activities and experiences.
I could feel the physical reactions immediately! Thank you for this!
Who would I be? A boundless part of humanity.
It’s a definite practice to go to instead of being adrift in doubt and concern! Thank you Tara.
Who would I be, if I didn’t believe something was wrong with?
I would fearlessly build connections with other people, do & be what I trust in order help people heal, love loudly, perform my work more profoundly with a deep trust & confidence within myself
That I wouldn’t see myself at age 50 of being even less likely to attract in a healthy relationship ( after divorce and a recent failed long term relationship)
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I would cast off those doubts about becoming an accomplished guitarist/singer/songwriter and believe my recent brilliant singalong session with friends is representative of my future not the early schoolday shyness and fear of performing which keeps producing a level of anxiety ahead of a performance opportunity. This is important to me over the next few years in a post work renaissance. Thank you Tara – this opportunity with you has appeared at the perfect moment. Regards, Giles