good question. who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong w me? I’ll have to bring that to my therapist. Thank you!! I’d save a lot of energy and/or be more positive and/or present!!
I’d be bolder, more able to speak my truth, more able to be more deeply in the moment, less fear of consequences. So both more and less – in all the ways I wish for myself. Thank you. Xx
If been stocked for years now. My computer my car damaged. The police can’t do anything. I’m exhausted and my fear is normal. Hard to go on. No one to turn to. I am mentally still hangin in but for how much longer I’m not sure. I tell myself everyday to forget about it. I meditate pray and tell as many people as I can and yet no one can help. Odd to me no one can help.
without fear I would be able to tackle all sorts of problems without being paralyzed, shut down, or overwhelmed. I would have more space for creativity and the beauty of life.
if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me, I would be more confident, enjoy friendships on a deeper level and stop pretending I have everything under control.
Without fear! I wouldn’t be anxious!
I know in my head there are people and things we can’t control! Yet I keep trying.
I know I need to surrender and let go but not so easily
Tracy Krause, Another Field, Morganton, NC, USAsays
Tara does an excellent job of normalizing the experience of fear and self doubt, and providing clear steps with examples and options based on people’s experience. Challenging and doable.
This aligns with RAIN process, which is in my daily toolbox. It successfully shifts self doubt and obsession to focus on grounding and here and now. Thank You again.
I’ve asked myself this many times because I’ve always felt I have an adventurous spirit and interest in business yet I’ve stayed in safe jobs out of fear. I’d be CEO of a beauty company if I wasn’t anxious
If I didn’t believe there was something wrong with me I would feel freedom and trust that I would not have to work hard to deserve love and friendship. I would remember that FEAR = False Expectations Appearing Real.
I found these three sessions from Tara really helpful.
I have really struggled with learning to sail over the past year – fear of failure, not learning as quickly as others, embarrassment, lack of confidence and shame at not passing a course stopped me from practising.
Being kind to myself and acknowledging all the deep feelings that go back to my childhood nearly 60 years ago enabled me to take small steps back to repeated practice and eventually begin to overcome my paralysing fears.
At last, I’m no longer ashamed to be me……
I am 74 year, Psychologist, always doubting my worth, I grew up with narcissist parent, that didnt validate me, so I am always feeling like a person that doesnt belong… I come from panama, so excuse my english…. I think if I try to feel what I am really feeling, I will be in too much pain…
I would be much less defensive (critical, judgmental), open-hearted, relaxed, free thinking, accepting of others along with healthy boundaries, less tired with more energy to seek out what I could only dream of. Thank you, Tara. I listen to your talks on You Tube often.
I would be someone who effortlessly changes and fine-tunes personal habits and not dwell in self-destructive behaviors. I would have fun in my work and educational development. I would laugh and smile more, take good care of my body,, and assure myself a consistent income and stable living, with resources for travel and fun.
A man with shiny eyes who simply enjoys life and simply observes what he thinks and feels. Was absent in dissociating and overthinking for far too to much time.
Probably a pretty kind, mild-mannered, gentle and compassionate human being. I have some of these qualities currently but my need for control (OCPD) often blankets these more preferred qualities.
Donna Farmer, Counseling, Mount Pleasant, SC, USAsays
Less anxious in public speaking environments, free flow of thinking & sharing of awakened thoughts if not in ‘mild freeze response (part on line), more access to creative process, more aware of my thoughts to name a few!
I literally was trapped with a perp from age 5 to 11 and when he was arrested i was not given therapy and had ongoing nightmares and realize now when I listened to your information, I realized i used to think the reason I had this running away nightmare and a clinician told me it was due to the fact that my mother after they put this perp in prison due to his attack on a HS girl. Soon after that my mother divorced my father who never hurt me and the clinician thought is was due the divorce, but then in that interpretation, I never realized how the perp left me, obviously, with a fear of need to retreat. I encourage all clinicians not just leave one fear as the anwser and investigate other possibilities beyond one just in case, but perhaps in an alternative imagery experience. Thanks for the presentation as, for some reason, it never dawned on me that the chase also involved the perp that ai chose to bury even though I did know for years I road my bike around the neighborhood just so I did not have to go back to where I was supposedly taken care of. Sad, as well, due to a parent not assuring a child was not being harmed, how this needs to be examined as it caused me decades of repressed fear. I do know I was aware of both but hope this lecture mends the lack of a parent who did not respond appropriately or a therapist who let it go with just one fear and there were more that I never scrutinized as a result. In fact, one came out with a therapist and when is came out, she looked at the clock as that was the worst of them all and she also minimized the event in my heart but I am tough. As I age I am not as tough. Thanks for putting this out there.
I would be more chill and relaxed and better able to say “no, thank you, that’s not right for me.” I am loveable without over extending myself and you are too.
“Real but not true” — the tough part is recognizing what the beliefs are that underlie the feelings. Thank you!
I always love sharing self-care techniques/practices with clients in order to empower their self-healing
I would be who I was for much of my adult life. Confident, carefree and kind.
I have lost my faith in myself.
Real, but not TRUE! Good to remember next time I’m faced with one of my fears. This will take practice for sure.
Than you for the suggestions.
I would be healthy and happy, and figuring out my purpose for this stage of my life.
good question. who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong w me? I’ll have to bring that to my therapist. Thank you!! I’d save a lot of energy and/or be more positive and/or present!!
I’d be bolder, more able to speak my truth, more able to be more deeply in the moment, less fear of consequences. So both more and less – in all the ways I wish for myself. Thank you. Xx
If been stocked for years now. My computer my car damaged. The police can’t do anything. I’m exhausted and my fear is normal. Hard to go on. No one to turn to. I am mentally still hangin in but for how much longer I’m not sure. I tell myself everyday to forget about it. I meditate pray and tell as many people as I can and yet no one can help. Odd to me no one can help.
without fear I would be able to tackle all sorts of problems without being paralyzed, shut down, or overwhelmed. I would have more space for creativity and the beauty of life.
if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me, I would be more confident, enjoy friendships on a deeper level and stop pretending I have everything under control.
I’d be still compassionate towards others and yet also take care of my self – my dreams, my future.
I would be free to be and to allow my true self to be heard and seen
Without fear! I wouldn’t be anxious!
I know in my head there are people and things we can’t control! Yet I keep trying.
I know I need to surrender and let go but not so easily
Learn to love “ALL OF ME” especially the parts I think are flawed.
I would be comfortable in my own skin allowing others to know me fully. I would be light, able to go with the flow and laugh.
I would be more confident!
Tara does an excellent job of normalizing the experience of fear and self doubt, and providing clear steps with examples and options based on people’s experience. Challenging and doable.
This aligns with RAIN process, which is in my daily toolbox. It successfully shifts self doubt and obsession to focus on grounding and here and now. Thank You again.
I would be more relaxed
I’ve asked myself this many times because I’ve always felt I have an adventurous spirit and interest in business yet I’ve stayed in safe jobs out of fear. I’d be CEO of a beauty company if I wasn’t anxious
If I didn’t believe there was something wrong with me I would feel freedom and trust that I would not have to work hard to deserve love and friendship. I would remember that FEAR = False Expectations Appearing Real.
I found these three sessions from Tara really helpful.
I have really struggled with learning to sail over the past year – fear of failure, not learning as quickly as others, embarrassment, lack of confidence and shame at not passing a course stopped me from practising.
Being kind to myself and acknowledging all the deep feelings that go back to my childhood nearly 60 years ago enabled me to take small steps back to repeated practice and eventually begin to overcome my paralysing fears.
At last, I’m no longer ashamed to be me……
I am 74 year, Psychologist, always doubting my worth, I grew up with narcissist parent, that didnt validate me, so I am always feeling like a person that doesnt belong… I come from panama, so excuse my english…. I think if I try to feel what I am really feeling, I will be in too much pain…
I think I would be free of a constant gut anxiety I would have a clear mind without anxious thoughts I would be peaceful
Ree
I would be Swedens most competent specialist in trauma! ❤️
i would have more trust – in others and into myself! And i would be happier.
I would be lighter in my heart
I would be much less defensive (critical, judgmental), open-hearted, relaxed, free thinking, accepting of others along with healthy boundaries, less tired with more energy to seek out what I could only dream of. Thank you, Tara. I listen to your talks on You Tube often.
I would be happier, less burdened, more open and more able to accept the inevitable difficulties of life with equanimity.
Yes, I’d be living LARGE as someone shared earlier
I would live big and unapologetically even “at my age” when sensuality is even more shamed than when I was a young woman.
I’d be my authentic self
I would be much more relax and enjoy life more naturally. Thanks for all your teachings.
Without anything wrong with me I could live LARGE (Living Alongside of Real Gets Easier)!
I would be someone who effortlessly changes and fine-tunes personal habits and not dwell in self-destructive behaviors. I would have fun in my work and educational development. I would laugh and smile more, take good care of my body,, and assure myself a consistent income and stable living, with resources for travel and fun.
Thank you Tara. FEAR (False evidence appearing real but not true)
This is an important challenge to many of us. It’s hard to change a lifetime of belief that we are unlovable, don’t matter, etc.
I think I would recover from chronic fatigue syndrome and start to really live and enjoy my life.
A man with shiny eyes who simply enjoys life and simply observes what he thinks and feels. Was absent in dissociating and overthinking for far too to much time.
This is very helpful, and so simple! It helps to accept self and not just see flaws.
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If I didn’t think something was wrong with me I would be comfortable in my physical body and simply view my limitations as facts instead of flaws.
I would be more visible and less camouflaged in expressing myself!
I Wii accomplish what I desire mostly.
I would be someone who speaks their truth without regret.
Probably a pretty kind, mild-mannered, gentle and compassionate human being. I have some of these qualities currently but my need for control (OCPD) often blankets these more preferred qualities.
Less anxious in public speaking environments, free flow of thinking & sharing of awakened thoughts if not in ‘mild freeze response (part on line), more access to creative process, more aware of my thoughts to name a few!
“Who would you be if you didn’t believe something was wrong with you?” what an incredibly powerful question.
I literally was trapped with a perp from age 5 to 11 and when he was arrested i was not given therapy and had ongoing nightmares and realize now when I listened to your information, I realized i used to think the reason I had this running away nightmare and a clinician told me it was due to the fact that my mother after they put this perp in prison due to his attack on a HS girl. Soon after that my mother divorced my father who never hurt me and the clinician thought is was due the divorce, but then in that interpretation, I never realized how the perp left me, obviously, with a fear of need to retreat. I encourage all clinicians not just leave one fear as the anwser and investigate other possibilities beyond one just in case, but perhaps in an alternative imagery experience. Thanks for the presentation as, for some reason, it never dawned on me that the chase also involved the perp that ai chose to bury even though I did know for years I road my bike around the neighborhood just so I did not have to go back to where I was supposedly taken care of. Sad, as well, due to a parent not assuring a child was not being harmed, how this needs to be examined as it caused me decades of repressed fear. I do know I was aware of both but hope this lecture mends the lack of a parent who did not respond appropriately or a therapist who let it go with just one fear and there were more that I never scrutinized as a result. In fact, one came out with a therapist and when is came out, she looked at the clock as that was the worst of them all and she also minimized the event in my heart but I am tough. As I age I am not as tough. Thanks for putting this out there.
I would be more chill and relaxed and better able to say “no, thank you, that’s not right for me.” I am loveable without over extending myself and you are too.
I will be using this profound question with those I am privileged to know and to open up new possibilities for myself. Gratefully Robyn
I would be able to express my innerself in a free and joyful way