“If Only . . .” — Healing the Pain and Grief of Regret
Regret can keep clients chained to a painful past.
It can lead clients to fixate on past mistakes and constantly lament the “what-ifs” of the path not taken. It can keep them trapped in a belief that if only they could go back and have even just one “do-over,” their whole life would be different.
What’s more, when regret becomes chronic, it can keep clients locked in vicious cycles of shame, guilt, self-blame, and self-loathing.
So how do we help when a client is so fixated on “what might have been” that they’re sabotaging what IS (as well as what’s yet to come)?
We asked 21 of the top experts in the field to share practical, effective strategies that can help clients turn their regret into a catalyst for deep change. This is the result . . .
Practical Strategies for Helping Clients Who Struggle with Regret
Disrupting the Cycle of Shame and Guilt That Can Keep Clients Locked in Regret
George Faller, MS, LMFT Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT
Usha Tummala-Narra, PhD Ron Siegel, PsyD
- Two Primary Ways That Compassion-Focused Therapy Can Chip Away at Shame and Regret
- One Way to Approach the Delicate Process of Working with Regret Around Moral Injury
- 5 Core Reasons Clients Often Cling to Regret
- Helping Clients Shift Out of “Shame Convictions”
Working with the Ingrained Patterns of Ruminating and Obsessive Thinking That Intensify Regret
Dennis Tirch, PhD Lynn Lyons, LICSW
Juliane Taylor Shore, LPC, LMFT, SEP
- Two Distinct Ways to Conceptualize Rumination, and How Each Can Impact Your Approach to Regret
- A 3-Step Strategy to Help Your Client Course-Correct When the Brain Defaults to Unhealthy Patterns of Rumination
- One Essential Reframe to Help Your Client Understand What Rumination Really Is
- An EMDR Approach to Target the Source of a Client’s Regret and Obsessive Thinking
Unraveling Trauma’s Impact on a Client’s Experience of Regret
Zindel Segal, PhD Thema Bryant, PhD
Terry Real, MSW, LICSW Michael Yapko, PhD Elliott Connie, MA, LPC
- Two Key Strategies for Helping Your Client Work Through Trauma-Induced Regret
- Assessing When to Move from One Phase of Treatment to the Next in Working with Regret Rooted in Trauma
- The Link Between Regret and a Client’s Window of Tolerance (and How You Might Use It to Inform Your Approach)
- One Particular Skill That Can Be Crucial When You’re Working with Regret Fueled by Trauma
Working with the Impact of Regret On Your Client’s Relationships
Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT Thema Bryant, PhD Chris Willard, PsyD
- Strategies to Help You Approach Cycles of Regret-Fueled Conflict within a Couple’s Relationship
- How to Help When a Client’s Response to a Past Regret Sabotages Their Current Relationship
- Addressing a Couple’s Cycle of Regret Through the Lens of Attachment
- One Specific Type of Crossroads a Client May Come to as They Confront Regret (and How to Help Them Navigate)
Key First Steps to Help Clients Begin to Reverse Out of Regret
Janina Fisher, PhD Ruth Lanius, MD, PhD
Raymond Rodriguez, LCSW-R, Rev Russell Kolts, PhD
Eboni Webb, PsyD
- A Critical Piece of Neuroscience That Can Help You Conceptualize a Function of Regret for Your Client
- One Distinction That Can Shape a Client’s Experience of Regret (and Impact Your Approach)
- What Can Happen When Someone Doesn’t Experience Regret
- One Insidious Side-Effect of Regret, and the Question That Can Help Clients Shift Out of It
Strategies to Help Clients Disrupt the Anxiety-Avoidance-Regret Loop
George Faller, MS, LMFT Terry Real, MSW, LICSW
Juliane Taylor Shore, LPC, LMFT, SEP Russell Kolts, PhD
Chris Willard, PsyD Ruth Lanius, MD, PhD
- Helping Clients Confront a Common 2-Step Process That Often Ends In Regret
- 2 Specific Aspects of Regret That Clients Most Often Try to Avoid (and How to Help Them Move Out of That Avoidance)
- How to Respond When a Client Is Reluctant to Sit with the Difficult Feelings That Regret Stirs Up
Helping Clients Use Regret as a Springboard for Meaningful Change
Janina Fisher, PhD Joan Borysenko, PhD
Frank Anderson, MD Eboni Webb, PsyD Deany Laliotis, LICSW
- A Narrative-Based Strategy to Help Clients Shift Away from Regret and Connect to Their Values
- Specific Questions That Can Help Clients Convert Their Values into Action
- A 3-Step Process to Help Clients Move Beyond an “If Only” Mindset
- How to Help Regretful Clients Balance Accountability with Self-Forgiveness
Resourcing Clients with Creative Ways to Guard Against Regret
Eboni Webb, PsyD Thema Bryant, PhD
Michael Yapko, PhD Juliane Taylor Shore, LPC, LMFT, SEP
- A “Regret Prevention” Strategy to Help Clients Shift Their Approach to Decision-Making
- Helping Clients “Read Into” Regret to Discover Important Insight About Their Future Selves
- Critical Check-Ins That Can Help Your Client Process Past Regret While Also Progressing Toward Change
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For This Short Course, We Brought Together Some of the Top Experts in the Field
Janina Fisher, PhD
Licensed clinical psychologist and Instructor at the Trauma Center, an outpatient clinic and research center founded by Bessel van der Kolk, MD; past president of the New England Society for the Treatment of Trauma and Dissociation.
Thema Bryant, PhD
Licensed psychologist specializing in relief and empowerment of marginalized persons; Professor of Psychology in the Graduate School of Education at Pepperdine University; author of Thriving in the Wake of Trauma: A Multicultural Guide.
Ruth Lanius, MD, PhD
Professor of Psychiatry and Director of the Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) research unit at the University of Western Ontario. Coauthor of The Impact of Early Life Trauma on Health and Disease: The Hidden Epidemic, and Healing the Traumatized Self: Consciousness, Neuroscience, Treatment.
Zindel Segal, PhD
A founder of Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT); Professor of Psychology at the University of Toronto.
Terry Real, MSW, LICSW
Founder of the Relational Life Institute; Author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression and The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work.
Ron Siegel, PsyD
Assistant Professor of Psychology, part time, Harvard Medical School; Author of The Mindfulness Solution: Everyday Practices for Everyday Problems and Sitting Together: Essential Skills for Mindfulness-Based Psychotherapy.
Usha Tummala-Narra, PhD
Professor of Counseling, Developmental, and Educational Psychology at Boston College; Author of Psychoanalytic Theory and Cultural Competence in Psychotherapy; Co-author of Applying Multiculturalism: An Ecological Approach to the Multicultural Guidelines.
Joan Borysenko, PhD
Founder of Mind/Body Health Sciences LLC; Author of New York Times Bestseller Minding the Body, Mending the Mind.
Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT
Founder of the PACT Training Institute and developer of a Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT).
Deany Laliotis, LICSW
Director of Training at EMDR Institute; Specialist in treatment of traumatic stress disorders and attachment issues; author of chapters and articles on EMDR therapy.
Lynn Lyons, LICSW
Author of Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents: 7 Ways to Stop the Worry Cycle and Raise Courageous & Independent Children, clinical social worker and psychotherapist specializing in anxiety in adults and children.
Christopher Willard, PsyD
Psychologist and educational consultant specializing in mindfulness; president of the Mindfulness in Education Network; serves on the board of directors at the Institute for Meditation and Psychotherapy.
Michael Yapko, PhD
Leading expert in clinical hypnosis and treating depression; Clinical psychologist and author of 15 books including his newest books, The Discriminating Therapist and Keys to Unlocking Depression.
Eboni Webb, PsyD
Licensed psychologist; specializes in DBT for trauma-based disorders and co-occurring disorders; advisor to the DBT National Certification Accreditation Association.
Dennis Tirch, PhD
Founding Director of The Center for Compassion Focused Therapy; President of The Compassionate Mind Foundation of North America; co-author of Experiencing ACT from the Inside Out: A Self-Practice/Self-Reflection Workbook for Therapists.
Russell Kolts, PhD
Clinical psychologist and professor of psychology at Eastern Washington University; Founder and Director of the Inland Northwest Compassionate Mind Center; author of The Compassionate Mind Approach to Managing Your Anger.
Elliott Connie, MA, LPC
Licensed psychotherapist; founder and Director of The Solution Focused University; co-author of The Art of Solution Focused Therapy.
Juliane Taylor Shore LPC, LMFT, SEP
Licensed therapist; expert in trauma recovery and couples counseling; specializes in applying Interpersonal Neurobiology to the healing of trauma; founder of IPNB Psychotherapy of Austin
George Faller, MS, LMFT
Licensed marriage and family therapist; founder and President of the New York Center for EFT; retired Lieutenant of the NYC Fire Department.
Frank Anderson, MD
Licensed psychiatrist and psychotherapist; program consultant for the IFS Institute; advisor to the International Association of Trauma Professionals; author of Transcending Trauma: Healing Complex PTSD with Internal Family Systems.
Raymond Rodriguez, LCSW-R
Licensed clinical social worker specializing in trauma therapy with members of marginalized communities; Adjunct Faculty Member at Columbia University School of Social Work; Faculty Member of the Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute.
Course Director
Ruth Buczynski, PhD
Program Co-Host
Ashley Vigil-Otero, PsyD
Here's What You'll Get:
Everything is yours to keep forever in your professional library
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Downloadable videos of all 8 modules so you can watch at your convenience, on any device |
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Audio recordings you can download and listen to at home, in the car, at the gym or wherever you like |
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Critical Insights sessions to distill key ideas (this is where we “land” the session) |
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Focus on Application sessions to give you concrete strategies to use with your clients |
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Professionally-formatted transcripts of the sessions, to make review and action simple |
Plus, All 8 Modules Come with Practical Tools to Help You Take Action Immediately and Effectively
Synthesize Key Concepts So You Can Use Them Immediately
Ron Siegel, PsyD and Usha Tummala-Narra, PhD sit down with Ruth Buczynski, PhD for 8 Critical Insights sessions to dig more deeply into the ideas from each module. They’ll clarify critical concepts and break down key strategies so you can gain confidence in your understanding.
Discover Concrete Practices That Will Work for Your Patients
Over the course of 8 Focus on Application sessions, we’ll turn smart ideas into easy-to-integrate applications for your work. Eboni Webb, PsyD and Chris Willard, PsyD join Ashley Vigil-Otero, PsyD to give you specific practices and exercises based on the ideas from each module. You’ll get strategies you can use with your clients as soon as your very next session.
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Up to 8.75 CE/CME Credits or Clock Hours are available for purchase at checkout.
Click HERE to get information about CE/CME credits and clock hours as well as speaker disclosures