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Successful Ways to Work With Clients Who Struggle With Deep Feelings of Shame
When a client experiences shame, they live in constant fear of being rejected. And they become trapped in the avoidance strategies they create to escape the pain.
However, shame left untreated grows more powerful. And it can often lead our clients into behaviors that invite even greater shame.
But to effectively work with shame, we have to understand its neurobiology and why it’s so difficult to erase its deep tracing on the nervous system. We need to know why shame vigilantly protects itself, and how our traditional treatments may be sustaining shame or driving it even deeper.
That’s why we’ve brought together 19 of the top experts in our field to bring you . . .
How to Work With Shame
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How to Break the Power of Shame by Engaging it
Kelly McGonigal, PhD Marsha Linehan, PhD
Bill O’Hanlon, LMFT Joan Borysenko, PhD
- The one counterintuitive technique that removes the fear of rejection from shame
- The most common type of shame (and why clients often believe they caused it)
- How to approach treatment when a client’s shame is legitimate
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The Way a Shame Posture Can Impact Emotions (And How to Bring Clients Out of It)
Peter Levine, PhD Bill O’Hanlon, LMFT
Ron Siegel, PsyD Kelly McGonigal, PhD
- Why a posture of shame may look identical to a posture of trauma
- How adjusting your office seating may avoid triggering your client’s shame
- A guided exercise that may help bring clients out of a posture of shame
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How to Work With Shame When it’s Connected to Trauma
Part 1: A Way to Heal Trauma-Based Shame Using a 3-Dimensional Space
Bessel van der Kolk, PhD Bill O’Hanlon, LMFT
- The “meaning-making” system that allows shame to take over a client’s life
- Why differentiation is so crucial in eliminating shame
Part 2: Shifting a Client’s Reaction to Shame and Trauma
Pat Ogden, PhD
- How attachment shame can lead to broken adult relationships
- How to pull a client out of hypoarousal when shame causes them to dissociate
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How to Shift Clients Out of Feelings of Unworthiness
Rick Hanson, PhD Ron Siegel, PsyD
Kelly McGonigal, PhD Bill O’Hanlon, LMFT
- Why it’s crucial to approach shame differently for introverts and extroverts
- How to use neuroplasticity to erase the old learning that promotes shame
- Why clients need to tolerate feelings of shame before undoing them
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How to Work With the Inner Voice of Shame
Richard Schwartz, PhD Joan Borysenko, PhD
- The 2-part phenomenon that creates shame
- The inner personality that you must approach first (so it doesn’t sabotage your work)
- The one thing you need to do to get a client’s inner critic to voluntarily disarm
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The 4-Part Skill That Can Build Trust With Your Client
Dan Siegel, MD Kelly McGonigal, PhD Ron Siegel, PsyD
- What happens when the hippocampus fails to integrate implicit memories
- The difficult choice point a neglected child may face that can invite lifelong shame
- How to help clients release deep feelings of inner defectiveness
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How to Work With Shame That Developed in Childhood
Part 1 : The Generational Effects of Shame on Loved Ones
Sue Johnson, EdD Ron Siegel, PsyD Kelly McGonigal, PhD
Joan Borysenko, PhD Bill O’Hanlon, LMFT
- The one element of shame that creates havoc in relationships
- How shame is passed on to future generations
- The parenting style that generates an inner incompetence in children
Part 2: How to Work with Shame without Retriggering It
Zindel Segal, PhD Elisha Goldstein, PhD Joan Borysenko, PhD
- Why some clients may be unaware that shame is fueling their behavior
- The first thing you should identify when treating a client’s shame
- Why it can be risky to reveal the developmental connection to your client’s shame
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The Impact of Shame Messaging and How to Dismantle It
Kelly McGonigal, PhD Terry Real, MSW, LICSW
Joan Borysenko, PhD Bill O’Hanlon, LMFT
- How unrealistic standards can lay the foundation for systemic shame
- The 3-second indulgence that helps unravel inner harshness
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The Neurobiology of Shame
Part 1: How Shame Triggers the Body’s Shut-Down Response
Stephen Porges, PhD
- How to avoid triggering your client’s physiological response to shame
- The one intervention that can stop the body from shutting down
- How the body’s reflexive response to shame can lead to dissociation
Part 2: How the Psychobiology of Shame Can Help Your Work
Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT Bill O’Hanlon, LMFT
- How the nervous system traps your client in shame
- The one thing a loved one can do to regulate their partner’s shame
- What can go wrong when the practitioner’s shame gets triggered in a session
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How to Unravel the Shame in Relationships
Part 1: The Crucial Role of an Attachment Figure in Treating Shame
Sue Johnson, EdD
- The big risk a client must take to gain a corrective experience
- The one assumption about love and caring that we almost always get wrong
Part 2: How Shame in a Relationship Can Trigger PTSD
Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT Bill O’Hanlon, LMFT Kelly McGonigal, PhD
- How to deal with a couple when one partner feels ashamed and the other feels betrayed
- The important thing a client needs to see when coming out of a shut-down state
- The one type of shame that can lead to a partner developing PTSD
If you purchase by May 22, you’ll also receive . . .
Addressing Post-Traumatic Shame and Moral Injury in Clinical Practice
A 1-Hour Live Course + Q&A Session
with Ruth Lanius, MD, PhD
. . . it can fuse with their identity, eating away at their self-esteem and sense of worth.
So how can the latest neurobiological findings on moral injury impact the way we help clients overcome deep feelings of shame?
In this one-hour live course, Ruth Lanius, MD, PhD will look at the latest research and offer practical interventions to address and treat moral injuries.
You’ll see how neuroscientifically-guided treatments can directly target deep brain circuits to help clients who’ve experienced wounds to their personal identity.
You’ll also have the opportunity to ask Ruth Lanius your questions when you join the live video call.
When you purchase How to Work with Shame by May 22, you’ll get an invitation to join this one-hour live course with Ruth.
Register Here for $197 $97
and get 14 videos, audios, and transcripts, 2 bonuses to help you work more effectively with shame, and a bonus live course + Q&A session with Ruth Lanius, MD, PhD.
5 CE/CME Credits or Clock Hours are available for purchase at checkout.
Click HERE to get information about CE/CME credits and clock hours as well as speaker disclosures
“The complexity of the dynamics are addressed better in the courses you teach than I’ve seen anywhere else.”
— Carmela Wegner, MFT —
For This Short Course on How to Work With Shame, We Brought Together Some of the Top Experts in the Field
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Bessel van der Kolk, MD
Neuroscientist and Professor of Psychiatry at Boston University Medical School. Author of The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma.
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Marsha Linehan, PhD
Creator of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT); Professor of Psychology, Adjunct Professor of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at the University of Washington and Director of the Behavioral Research and Therapy Clinics.
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Peter Levine, PhD
Founder of Somatic Experiencing; Author of Trauma and Memory: Brain and Body in a Search for the Living Past: A Practical Guide for Understanding and Working with Traumatic Memory.
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Richard Schwartz, PhD
Founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and The Center for Self Leadership; Author of Introduction to Internal Family Systems.
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Stephen Porges, PhD
Developer of Polyvagal Theory; Distinguished University Scientist at the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University Bloomington and Research Professor in the Department of Psychiatry at University of North Carolina Chapel Hill.
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Sue Johnson, EdD
Creator of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT); Founder and Director of the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy.
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Pat Ogden, PhD
Pioneer in Somatic Psychology; Founder and Director of Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute (SPI); Co-founder of the Hakomi Institute; Author of Sensorimotor Psychotherapy: Interventions for Trauma and Attachment.
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Shelly Harrell, PhD
Licensed psychologist specializing in multicultural and community psychology; Professor of Psychology in the Graduate School of Education at Pepperdine University.
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Dan Siegel, MD
Executive Director of the Mindsight Institute; Co-Director of UCLA’s Mindful Awareness Research Center; author of Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation and The Mindful Therapist: A Clinician’s Guide to Mindsight and Neural Integration.
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Rick Hanson, PhD
Senior Fellow of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley; New York Times bestselling author of Hardwiring Happiness and Buddha’s Brain.
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Elisha Goldstein, PhD
Co-Founder of The Center for Mindful Living in West Los Angeles; Author of Uncovering Happiness: Overcoming Depression with Mindfulness and Self-Compassion.
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Joan Borysenko, PhD
Founder of Mind/Body Health Sciences LLC; Author of New York Times Bestseller Minding the Body, Mending the Mind.
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Zindel Segal, PhD
A founder of Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT); Professor of Psychology at the University of Toronto.
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Ron Siegel, PsyD
Assistant Professor of Psychology, part time, Harvard Medical School; Author of The Mindfulness Solution: Everyday Practices for Everyday Problems and Sitting Together: Essential Skills for Mindfulness-Based Psychotherapy.
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Laurel Parnell, PhD
Leading expert in Eye-Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR); Author of Attachment-Focused EMDR: Healing Relational Trauma.
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Kelly McGonigal, PhD
Health psychologist and lecturer at Stanford University; Author of The Upside of Stress: Why Stress Is Good for You and How to Get Good At It and The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do to Get More of It.
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Bill O’Hanlon, LMFT
Co-developer of Solution-Oriented Therapy; Psychotherapist, speaker, and author of Do One Thing Different: Ten Simple Ways to Change Your Life.
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Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT
Founder of the PACT Training Institute and developer of a Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT).
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Terry Real, MSW, LICSW
Founder of the Relational Life Institute; Author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression and The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work.
Course Director
Ruth Buczynski, PhD
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Two downloadable bonus videos to help you work more effectively with shame |
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A recording of the bonus live course + Q&A session with Ruth Lanius, MD, PhD |
Get 2 Bonuses That Give You Even More Strategies for Working with a Client’s Shame
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How to Work With the Institutional Racism That Feeds Shame
Laurel Parnell, PhD Shelly Harrell, PhD
Ron Siegel, PsyD Kelly McGonigal, PhD Joan Borysenko, PhD
- How a client’s particular culture impacts how they deal with shame
- How to help clients find the voice that has been silenced (and use it to undo shame)
- What happens when your client internalizes shame messaging from the environment
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Case Study: One Intervention That Helped an Iraq War Veteran Release Shame
Peter Levine, PhD
- Why you should get this one important piece of information from a client right away
- One misconception about working with members of the military
Register Here for $197 $97
and get 14 videos, audios, and transcripts, 2 bonuses to help you work more effectively with shame, and a bonus live course + Q&A session with Ruth Lanius, MD, PhD.
5 CE/CME Credits or Clock Hours are available for purchase at checkout.
Click HERE to get information about CE/CME credits and clock hours as well as speaker disclosures
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Diane Green, Private Practice Counselor
Washington, United States
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Ipswich, MA
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David Mensink, PhD Counseling Psychology, Psychologist
Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada
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and get 14 videos, audios, and transcripts, 2 bonuses to help you work more effectively with shame, and a bonus live course + Q&A session with Ruth Lanius, MD, PhD.
5 CE/CME Credits or Clock Hours are available for purchase at checkout.
Click HERE to get information about CE/CME credits and clock hours as well as speaker disclosures