I could feel my longing to connect with a partner or companion in my life and the emptiness because there is no one there. I am afraid to reach out to find this person. Because of my fear of rejection I am closed off to others. I am unworthy of their love. I want to give myself comfort but it feels self-indulgent.
This video reminded me that I have neglected to be kind to myself, because I am my greatest enemy. I’ve never felt good about myself. Now, practicing meditation/being mindful, reading and learning from Buddhist teachings, along with reading your book, Radical Acceptance and listening to your talks, I am realizing how important it is to accept myself as I am.
Thank you, Tara, for assisting me on my spiritual path.
I don’t like that the world seems to encourage a lack of awareness of Self and awareness of entertainment, hard work ( why do we need to work hard, how about just working), self-condemnation, and more. Plus throwing it at me at an incredible speed so that taking the time to check in with me. I fear that i am letting people down all the time. I know I am letting me down.
On top of this is ADHD with its problems with time and organization, Chronic Fatigue with its brain fog and energy limitations, PTSD which is much better but not gone and especially, Anxiety.
I also have demands both real and imagined from family.
I also have good stuff in life but that may be stuff for the next video.
I believe gratitude is the key to self-compassion for me AND I can always use more tools. Power tools, anyone?
Margery Hall Marshall, Supervisor, Kyle, TX, USAsays
It’s been an extremely rough week in all areas of my life so I am down on myself and depressed.
What happened during the video?
I had a hard time focussing on one thing to be kind to me about but I know I have journeyed a long way and there are many things that I love about myself.
But right now I am overwhelmed.
I so enjoyed your video. I have been working on this for years. Peeling the onion and really liking myself more and more. I feel that I in really spiritually growing now. Thank you, Namaste
I felt the familiar physical feeling of emptiness in my core and I interrupted the self-critical, you are not as good as…, tape with “I am here for you. It is ok. I want to be here for you. I want to surround you with love.” And, I did experience another presence uniting with my sense of self, a sense of God.
SUSAN WILEY, Another Field, TANNERSVILLE, PA, USAsays
I couldn’t feel anything, not the fear that I’m not good enough, that I usually feel, not the kindness toward myself I should have felt when given permission to…
I come from a large family. I am the youngest of 7. I have always felt not good enough and now I am beginning to know that kindness to my self is rewarded.by feelings of love and compassion as I try to forgive myself for self hatred and loathing in the past and begin on my new journey of adventure and experiment and learning to be myself and bwe content in that
I couldn’t focus. I could feel my worry and sadness, but I couldn’t grasp feeling it with kindness. I was already in a place of acceptance…it just is what it is. No judgement.
Claudia Cara, Another Field, Atwater , CA, USAsays
When I try to be compassion to myself, the feeling of unworthiness becomes stronger. The wrongs, disappoints and pains I have brought upon others and myself are evident and I shut down going more quiet and not wanting to cry or feel anything.
I’m feeling sick. I came down with a cold yesterday. I feel frustrated that I’m sick, my mind feels foggy and I feel like I’m not going to get much done this weekend. I want to be well enough to go to a memorial tomorrow. I struggle with being kind to myself. I feel guilty.
Thanks Sarah
Lonelyness came to me .. by watching it with kindness, by offering my self some compassion a sense of release arised… a smile appeared in me
I had been feeling anxious…And a kind of deep loneliness. The thought of being my own best friend, ot holding myself in loving compassionate kindness, filled me with the recognition that I wanted to be compassionate and kind, to myself and others. I felt warm and filled with JOY and certainty. I realised that there are a lot of loving kind compassionate others out there in what only seemed to be loneliness. That I was not alone after all. Thanks for reminding me of this simple human truth
I imagined a more loving self embracing the flawed self realizing that My spending is a result of being abused and neglected as a child, that I’m trying to fill that void from 40 years ago. Many tears accompanied that.
I experienced something like a release, a softening, a feeling of warmth inside. And a bit tearful. Thank you for this Tara, I meditate doing your guided meditations, and they have been transformative for me. BE KIND has been my motto for the last year, and what an incredible effect is has had on me.
As I became aware of my desire to grab a handful of M&M’s and linked it to lonliness and bordeom, with love and compassion as a parent to a child and without judgment, my desire for the M&M’s lessened and I was able to walk away and do something else. I was also reminded of the use of candy to reward good performance when I was a little girl. I’ll have to look closer at that connection.
Thanks for this video!
I have been unable to resolve my interrelationship with my father for many years. And this has been an obstacle in all my relationships. I isolate myself to avoid all relationships and it has been until now I open up to what it can bring to the table and work endlessly with few result. As someone said, hope but is not only that patience to learn about growing is what it takes.
How similarly to what Tara said I can relate to. This is very timely. Hope and allowing the feelings to flow is what makes me feel like all my tensions are then released.
I felt anxious. Wondering g what I should do about my financial problems. Feeling like I’m not doing enough but not sure what to do. Down on myself. But during the mindfulness pause, the feeling softened. I could be with this even if it doesn’t feel great. ?
I need to learn how to be kind to myself
I could feel my longing to connect with a partner or companion in my life and the emptiness because there is no one there. I am afraid to reach out to find this person. Because of my fear of rejection I am closed off to others. I am unworthy of their love. I want to give myself comfort but it feels self-indulgent.
I felt a nurturing and it felt comforting which made me cry even more because I realized I am so far removed from feeling that on a regular basis.
I made excuses and then I added more kindness and allowed the self talk to simmer while I sat in my own being and was aware of my presence
A sense of calm
I experienced extreme sadness
Beautiful
This video reminded me that I have neglected to be kind to myself, because I am my greatest enemy. I’ve never felt good about myself. Now, practicing meditation/being mindful, reading and learning from Buddhist teachings, along with reading your book, Radical Acceptance and listening to your talks, I am realizing how important it is to accept myself as I am.
Thank you, Tara, for assisting me on my spiritual path.
I don’t like that the world seems to encourage a lack of awareness of Self and awareness of entertainment, hard work ( why do we need to work hard, how about just working), self-condemnation, and more. Plus throwing it at me at an incredible speed so that taking the time to check in with me. I fear that i am letting people down all the time. I know I am letting me down.
On top of this is ADHD with its problems with time and organization, Chronic Fatigue with its brain fog and energy limitations, PTSD which is much better but not gone and especially, Anxiety.
I also have demands both real and imagined from family.
I also have good stuff in life but that may be stuff for the next video.
I believe gratitude is the key to self-compassion for me AND I can always use more tools. Power tools, anyone?
It’s been an extremely rough week in all areas of my life so I am down on myself and depressed.
What happened during the video?
I had a hard time focussing on one thing to be kind to me about but I know I have journeyed a long way and there are many things that I love about myself.
But right now I am overwhelmed.
Kindness is readily available when called upon.
I so enjoyed your video. I have been working on this for years. Peeling the onion and really liking myself more and more. I feel that I in really spiritually growing now. Thank you, Namaste
I felt a shift, a lightness replacing the negative feelings , it was nice, thankyou
I get a sense of peace and hope
I realized how critical I am of myself and how easy it typically is for me to have compassion towards others and their concerns.
I felt a physical release, and grounding.
I felt the familiar physical feeling of emptiness in my core and I interrupted the self-critical, you are not as good as…, tape with “I am here for you. It is ok. I want to be here for you. I want to surround you with love.” And, I did experience another presence uniting with my sense of self, a sense of God.
I felt a connection with the message. And some hope and kindness. Thank you.
A lightness came over me and i felt like i could be a friend to myself no matter what i was going through. I felt like i was going to be ok.
My anxiety lifted and I felt lighter.
I felt a sense of relief
I felt like reaching the inner child in me and nurturing it with Love, forgiveness,compassion and kindness.
I couldn’t feel anything, not the fear that I’m not good enough, that I usually feel, not the kindness toward myself I should have felt when given permission to…
At times we are so focused on how bad we feel we do not leave enough time to ask yourself why.
This segment allowed me to pause and ask.
I come from a large family. I am the youngest of 7. I have always felt not good enough and now I am beginning to know that kindness to my self is rewarded.by feelings of love and compassion as I try to forgive myself for self hatred and loathing in the past and begin on my new journey of adventure and experiment and learning to be myself and bwe content in that
It is hard to be nice with myself
I couldn’t focus. I could feel my worry and sadness, but I couldn’t grasp feeling it with kindness. I was already in a place of acceptance…it just is what it is. No judgement.
I cried
The feeling moved back and created space
I struggled to do this for myself. The resentment and anger seemed to block me from feeling deserving enough to be kind to myself sadly
When I try to be compassion to myself, the feeling of unworthiness becomes stronger. The wrongs, disappoints and pains I have brought upon others and myself are evident and I shut down going more quiet and not wanting to cry or feel anything.
I’m feeling sick. I came down with a cold yesterday. I feel frustrated that I’m sick, my mind feels foggy and I feel like I’m not going to get much done this weekend. I want to be well enough to go to a memorial tomorrow. I struggle with being kind to myself. I feel guilty.
I felt calmer and amazingly with no thoughts! ?
A softening and uplifting of my spirit. Thank you.
when i listen and followed the presenter my breathing and heart rate slowed and i became relaxed and able to look at my heart for a minute.
My inner critic is a doozie. Whew.
Thanks Sarah
Lonelyness came to me .. by watching it with kindness, by offering my self some compassion a sense of release arised… a smile appeared in me
I felt like I became more embodied; I felt a warmth move into my hands, and my breath travel into all parts. I felt calmer and more settled.
I had been feeling anxious…And a kind of deep loneliness. The thought of being my own best friend, ot holding myself in loving compassionate kindness, filled me with the recognition that I wanted to be compassionate and kind, to myself and others. I felt warm and filled with JOY and certainty. I realised that there are a lot of loving kind compassionate others out there in what only seemed to be loneliness. That I was not alone after all. Thanks for reminding me of this simple human truth
My mind started to get loud and flood with busy thoughts
I imagined a more loving self embracing the flawed self realizing that My spending is a result of being abused and neglected as a child, that I’m trying to fill that void from 40 years ago. Many tears accompanied that.
I experienced something like a release, a softening, a feeling of warmth inside. And a bit tearful. Thank you for this Tara, I meditate doing your guided meditations, and they have been transformative for me. BE KIND has been my motto for the last year, and what an incredible effect is has had on me.
As I became aware of my desire to grab a handful of M&M’s and linked it to lonliness and bordeom, with love and compassion as a parent to a child and without judgment, my desire for the M&M’s lessened and I was able to walk away and do something else. I was also reminded of the use of candy to reward good performance when I was a little girl. I’ll have to look closer at that connection.
Thanks for this video!
I pictured myself being soothed by warm enveloping arms , present, kind, and understanding.
I have been unable to resolve my interrelationship with my father for many years. And this has been an obstacle in all my relationships. I isolate myself to avoid all relationships and it has been until now I open up to what it can bring to the table and work endlessly with few result. As someone said, hope but is not only that patience to learn about growing is what it takes.
How similarly to what Tara said I can relate to. This is very timely. Hope and allowing the feelings to flow is what makes me feel like all my tensions are then released.
I feel a softening. And like I’m being supported by a dear loved one. Thank you for the video. ‘Be kind’ will be a new tool for my self care practice
I felt quite tearful, a release of emotions, a need to be there for myself.
Thank you so much
I felt anxious. Wondering g what I should do about my financial problems. Feeling like I’m not doing enough but not sure what to do. Down on myself. But during the mindfulness pause, the feeling softened. I could be with this even if it doesn’t feel great. ?
I saw, and had some acceptance of, the chaos in my mind. I felt the part of my mind that could be apart from the chaos and just observe it.