I would be free to get closer to the people whose behavior angers or scares me. Judgment is my default in work and personal relationships and even with close friends because it’s easier than dealing with my own feelings of inadequacy.
These brief videos have been thought provoking. What do you do when it is the opposite of blame? When a person who has been abused finds rationalizations which looks like compassion for the behavior of abusive parent but results in the deeply ingrained sense of shame, self worthlessness, & being never enough. Seems like acknowledging the role of the abusive parent may be a prerequisite to move to compassion.
Thanks Tara. I have tonight listened to parts 2 and 3 and, as always when I listen and practice your meditations, I feel rested and at peace in my heart.
I thought of a person that is bullying my partner. I was able to see how this persons behavior is based on her insecurity. It allowed me to calm my anger so I can better comfort my wife.
This video brought me to tears. But I was able to Redirect the pain I felt from my husband. It let me think of the foot-in the trap he might have
That I’ve never thought about. I will let go of self judgement and blame through self compassion. This sounds difficult but I am Willing to try. I need support as I am Bipolar which intensifies my emotions.
Thank you Tara, self compassion and to allow myself the time to feel the feelings, was a big thing for me, not a denial, or a guilty feeling for feeling them. I felt a shift with doing that. I had always tried to see the other person from a hurt place but my own feelings having not being allowed the expression of compassion, stayed in me as anger.. Thank you, I shall be using the U-turn scenario more and more.
Lindsey Chudzik, Social Work, Fort Myers, FL, USAsays
Thank you for sharing and taking us on this journey to self-awareness and what needs to change in order live a more open/loving life. Grudge and resentment are powerful variables in destroying relationships and within ourselves. This mindful practice of a u-turn and leg trap scenario place things in perspective!
This is such a worthwhile journey, and really clarifies that becoming mindful is not about tuning out from feelings or circumstances but tuning into them in a healthy way, to seek healing. Thank you.
To have more self reflection feels good …if I let go of judgement and chronic blame I’m sure I’d be happier than some days in this loop x
Thanks for the u turn and leg in a trap scenarios
Thanks so much Tara
Thank you. This concept, internal locus of control with self- compassion, is one I have experienced with clients and myself however, I really enjoyed your two techniques; U- turn and vulnerability. Thank you so much for sharing.
Sue
Thank you Tara, that last video about shifting blame and repairing relationships is very timely for me. I have already been giving a lot of thought towards how to forgive a person who deeply hurt me years ago, someone I love. I had been aware of but hadn’t connected deeply enough with how he is caught in a trap of his own making, i was stuck in needing his apology to be able to move forward. Your exercise allowed me to move past my desire to be respected and apologised to and to connect with his pain and sadness. I am keen not to resource myself and travel than road with him to wherever it leads. Hopefully compassion and connection.
Modita Engels, Another Field, Los Angeles, CA, USAsays
Much more relaxed.
The u turn really helped me to focus on my own feelings. I really liked the practice of self compassion and taking time to be with it.
I would be freeer to live authentically. I organically do this with many others in my life (some times taking more time than others) but I am not so good at turning this inward to deal with my inner blame and judgement and it keeps me living a life much smaller than I am.
I felt a warm and calming feeling when I put my hand on my heart but it was really hard to stop judging myself, I feel like it’s on such a deep-rooted level I don’t hear it I feel it and it makes me anxious..
I loved these videos – I have seen a glimpse of what is it is possible to feel like when freed from the blame and judgement – eventually.
I need Tara’s soothing guidance at times. Thank you.
I would be free to get closer to the people whose behavior angers or scares me. Judgment is my default in work and personal relationships and even with close friends because it’s easier than dealing with my own feelings of inadequacy.
These brief videos have been thought provoking. What do you do when it is the opposite of blame? When a person who has been abused finds rationalizations which looks like compassion for the behavior of abusive parent but results in the deeply ingrained sense of shame, self worthlessness, & being never enough. Seems like acknowledging the role of the abusive parent may be a prerequisite to move to compassion.
Thanks Tara. I have tonight listened to parts 2 and 3 and, as always when I listen and practice your meditations, I feel rested and at peace in my heart.
I thought of a person that is bullying my partner. I was able to see how this persons behavior is based on her insecurity. It allowed me to calm my anger so I can better comfort my wife.
This video brought me to tears. But I was able to Redirect the pain I felt from my husband. It let me think of the foot-in the trap he might have
That I’ve never thought about. I will let go of self judgement and blame through self compassion. This sounds difficult but I am Willing to try. I need support as I am Bipolar which intensifies my emotions.
Thank you Tara, self compassion and to allow myself the time to feel the feelings, was a big thing for me, not a denial, or a guilty feeling for feeling them. I felt a shift with doing that. I had always tried to see the other person from a hurt place but my own feelings having not being allowed the expression of compassion, stayed in me as anger.. Thank you, I shall be using the U-turn scenario more and more.
Thank you for sharing and taking us on this journey to self-awareness and what needs to change in order live a more open/loving life. Grudge and resentment are powerful variables in destroying relationships and within ourselves. This mindful practice of a u-turn and leg trap scenario place things in perspective!
This is such a worthwhile journey, and really clarifies that becoming mindful is not about tuning out from feelings or circumstances but tuning into them in a healthy way, to seek healing. Thank you.
To have more self reflection feels good …if I let go of judgement and chronic blame I’m sure I’d be happier than some days in this loop x
Thanks for the u turn and leg in a trap scenarios
Thanks so much Tara
I would be more of me.
Thank you. This concept, internal locus of control with self- compassion, is one I have experienced with clients and myself however, I really enjoyed your two techniques; U- turn and vulnerability. Thank you so much for sharing.
Sue
Thank you Tara, that last video about shifting blame and repairing relationships is very timely for me. I have already been giving a lot of thought towards how to forgive a person who deeply hurt me years ago, someone I love. I had been aware of but hadn’t connected deeply enough with how he is caught in a trap of his own making, i was stuck in needing his apology to be able to move forward. Your exercise allowed me to move past my desire to be respected and apologised to and to connect with his pain and sadness. I am keen not to resource myself and travel than road with him to wherever it leads. Hopefully compassion and connection.
So wonderful to have these excellent teachings available to us. Thank you Tara and crew.
Much more relaxed.
The u turn really helped me to focus on my own feelings. I really liked the practice of self compassion and taking time to be with it.
I would be freeer to live authentically. I organically do this with many others in my life (some times taking more time than others) but I am not so good at turning this inward to deal with my inner blame and judgement and it keeps me living a life much smaller than I am.
I would be a better friend to myself.
I felt a warm and calming feeling when I put my hand on my heart but it was really hard to stop judging myself, I feel like it’s on such a deep-rooted level I don’t hear it I feel it and it makes me anxious..