Most helpful moment in the video, for me, was the suggestion to put your hand on your heart and say, “It’s ok to feel this way”. When I feel resentful I usually include a feeling of guilt for feeling this way. Just doing and saying, it’s ok, freed me in a way that was new. Thank-you
I have found self-forgiveness and self-compassion to be one of the most difficult parts of my spiritual journey. I have heard much of what was said in this meditation before but it is always good to hear it in a new voice and we was obvious compassion and desire to help. I like the concept of the u-turn I think it will help me to implement these practices in my consciousness. And although I know that compassion for the person who has hurt me and whom I’m feeling anger at is critical to my growth it has proven difficult and I believe this will help me to move forward. Thank you
Madi Mantell, Counseling, North Wales, PA, USAsays
This one was really terrific and helpful. I love the part where we use our own name and put our hand over our heart. I’m going to try to use more compassion and self-forgiveness with my clients to try to help them to deal with some of their own self blame and judgment. Beautifully done. Thank you so much and I sure would love to have a copy of these three segments.
Sydney Haggerty, Another Field, Dover Foxcroft, ME, USAsays
I’d be an amazing leader if I let go of judgment. This meditation helped me feel okay about the shame I feel. I hadn’t gotten in touch with that in this one particular situation. I could really use this exercise more often.
Self compassion into the past, where the pain began = I did nothing wrong, my father truly was coming from his own deep pain and sellf-hatred. Carrying self-compassion into the present = helps with process of integrating my being as body-mind and living in the moment.
Very powerful – thank you so much for sharing. Acceptance is the awareness and compassion is the tool in facing life. My heart constricts a bit at this thought as blame has been such a go-to defense and the expression, story, of… what will be there to protect me if they are not judged comes immediately to mind. I think it goes without saying that I have not actually felt a real connection and protected by myself or others with all this judgment and blame. I am going to practice for 21 days and see how I feel after that. Thank you!
Love Tara’s teaching style! I find her a master of compassion in the way she shares information. this talk on releasing blame is short, concise and very effective. I found myself taping into deeper levels of myself within moments of her guided imagery. Thank-you Tara for the work you do! Karen Patriquin RP
Thank you. Radical acceptance is revolutionary! We have so little time to get straight with ourselves, I value the opportunity to practice self compassion and forgiveness. I can feel the difference just with a shift of perspective.
This was very difficult to do. Telling myself that it is ok to feel these feelings of anger, shame and blame. I always feel like a horrible person when these feelings come up. It is definitely a process and will take practice to get through the emotional bondage. Thank you for the metaphors, I really like the perspective.
Thank you Tara this came at the perfect time … I used my breathe and felt my heart soften and then again I felt my shoulders and jaw soften….opening to my pain and the consideration of another’s pain invites the shift .. thank you ? so much ?
I would be an enlightened, compassionate mother to my children. I’d bring out the best of them without judgement and anger. They would thrive instead of withdraw from me. I will follow your steps to stop the blame, do the u turn and feel my emotions so I can move trough them
Teresa Halperin, Another Field, Walnut Creek, CA, USAsays
My relationship with my son has disintegrated into us not speaking. This has undermined my trust and feelings of love toward others by leaving a deep hurt that is palpable daily. Rewriting the story may help me to save other relationships I feel I am destroying due to creating distance because of the hurt I’m feeling in relationship to my son. I truly just want to run away and be left alone but intellectually know that is not the best path to healing.
With you on the path, Teresa. My resentment against my husband has done and does the same to my relationships with my children and others. It is so helpful, simple and yet difficult to see what we are doing and then to stop it. With you on the path….
Heather Berg, Another Field, Boca Raton, FL, USAsays
Thank you, Tara. I have been a long time listener of your podcasts and meditations. I found this exercise interesting. Thinking back to a situation that created intense resentment, (which was a result of deep seated fear), and then giving myself permission to have those feelings in a compassionate wayward viscerally shifting. It was much more clear as to WHY the person (whom I love) made me feel that way. Compassion begets more compassion. I’ll be sure to use this method again. Much gratitude
This simple U turn technique is very powerful! I focused on a situation with my sister and was able to see her vulnerability in the situation while remaining tender with myself! It will take a while to “re-program” my inner critic but feels so liberating when I’m able to do so AND I realize how the walls can come down between myself and those I love. I can be vulnerable and I can open to love. Thanks!
Precious times of self healing
as we forgive then offer support
to others walking this journey of
blaming others for decades and
never see how healing themselves
first gently lays a path to real change
in relationships because we each remember
The similar childhood family experience
differently.
Thanks for the video III. It took me back to my childhood.
Once I could see and feel my mother’s sufferings, my anger toward her mellowed and eventualy disapeared all together.
A happier person with more space inside that will restore, nourish and give energy. More space for my own chosen being and a clearer direction.
More space to bring in new ways of working,new ways of seeing that are healthier, more sustainable.
Thank you Tara! I’ve been self-judging for most of my life. Unfortunately having suffered a traumatic brain injury so many years ago and not receiving any rehabilitation, I’ve lived with lack of confidence, anger, short-term memory loss and executive functioning difficulties. For me I usually have to also see what I’m hearing to retain any of the information.
Thank you as I have valued this 3 part series.
Your use of imagery, gentle words and loving approach is a reminder that self compassion works. It allows one to offer more kindness and openness to others and to clients who are suffering and afraid. This in turn, creates increasing safety for them to start to release their anguish, and to begin self compassion.
The practice of the U-turn is so helpful and healing.
Thank you.
Mona , therapist, Canada
Thank you for this. I do show more compassion but sometimes I am harsh and rush around with the feelings bubbling away. Your warm, kind compassionate voice and wisdom and my deciding to sit quietly and really embrace this session has left me feeling calm and open with a desire to do more.
Lorelei St James, Teacher, Fort Worth , TX, USAsays
I felt an immediate sense of freedom as I said to myself “ It’s OK to feel this way! I had not done that before—instead my focus was on the anger and frustration; fighting these emotions and ultimately condemning myself for feeling these emotions.
I found that when I looked at how I was hurt I became aware that this was a pattern in my life. I have allowed myself to be hurt while the other person felt better and more powerful. I though that I was helping them feel better about themselves while telling myself that I didn’t matter…
Thank you Tara, I found the metaphor of the ocean and waves is so helpful. I connected with a long felt hurt and the practice helped me soften to my own and the other person’s part in this. Blessings to you.
Henry Rolnick, Another Field, Nevada City, CA, USAsays
Thank you Tara. If I could let go of judgement and blame I would be free, enjoyable, enlivening, compassionate. I would be someone who lights up a room with conversation, who can be a channel allowing for people to let out their deepest layers, someone who follows my soul’s blossoming no matter what. I would be closed anymore, I wouldn’t be angry. I would be loving and accepting of all things.
This has opened up a whole new area for me. Turning the focus around helped me to see my wounded ness but seeing the wounded ness in the other person has helped me to be more compassion for them. I am challenged to offer myself the same compassion. The u-turn is the hardest for me as I experience my own emotions, I hope to be able to bring some tenderness to myself.
Thank you. This is helpful and timely.
A very useful and humane approach. Thank you!
I would be articulate. I would not be afraid to show emotion.
Most helpful moment in the video, for me, was the suggestion to put your hand on your heart and say, “It’s ok to feel this way”. When I feel resentful I usually include a feeling of guilt for feeling this way. Just doing and saying, it’s ok, freed me in a way that was new. Thank-you
I have found self-forgiveness and self-compassion to be one of the most difficult parts of my spiritual journey. I have heard much of what was said in this meditation before but it is always good to hear it in a new voice and we was obvious compassion and desire to help. I like the concept of the u-turn I think it will help me to implement these practices in my consciousness. And although I know that compassion for the person who has hurt me and whom I’m feeling anger at is critical to my growth it has proven difficult and I believe this will help me to move forward. Thank you
This one was really terrific and helpful. I love the part where we use our own name and put our hand over our heart. I’m going to try to use more compassion and self-forgiveness with my clients to try to help them to deal with some of their own self blame and judgment. Beautifully done. Thank you so much and I sure would love to have a copy of these three segments.
I’d be an amazing leader if I let go of judgment. This meditation helped me feel okay about the shame I feel. I hadn’t gotten in touch with that in this one particular situation. I could really use this exercise more often.
Self compassion into the past, where the pain began = I did nothing wrong, my father truly was coming from his own deep pain and sellf-hatred. Carrying self-compassion into the present = helps with process of integrating my being as body-mind and living in the moment.
This is wonderful. I think Tara is amazing at getting to the heart of compassion.
thank you
Very powerful – thank you so much for sharing. Acceptance is the awareness and compassion is the tool in facing life. My heart constricts a bit at this thought as blame has been such a go-to defense and the expression, story, of… what will be there to protect me if they are not judged comes immediately to mind. I think it goes without saying that I have not actually felt a real connection and protected by myself or others with all this judgment and blame. I am going to practice for 21 days and see how I feel after that. Thank you!
If I let go of judgment and blame I would be the authentic me, someone who meets the day with compassion, confidence and kindness
Love Tara’s teaching style! I find her a master of compassion in the way she shares information. this talk on releasing blame is short, concise and very effective. I found myself taping into deeper levels of myself within moments of her guided imagery. Thank-you Tara for the work you do! Karen Patriquin RP
Thank you. Radical acceptance is revolutionary! We have so little time to get straight with ourselves, I value the opportunity to practice self compassion and forgiveness. I can feel the difference just with a shift of perspective.
This is something that has come in such timely fashion for me. Thank you Tara.
This was very difficult to do. Telling myself that it is ok to feel these feelings of anger, shame and blame. I always feel like a horrible person when these feelings come up. It is definitely a process and will take practice to get through the emotional bondage. Thank you for the metaphors, I really like the perspective.
I would be free and fully alive and present
I probably would have celebrated 50 years of marriage this year.
Thank you Tara this came at the perfect time … I used my breathe and felt my heart soften and then again I felt my shoulders and jaw soften….opening to my pain and the consideration of another’s pain invites the shift .. thank you ? so much ?
The u turn practice is important …Is excellent…no more running in a straight line from vulnerability.
I would be an enlightened, compassionate mother to my children. I’d bring out the best of them without judgement and anger. They would thrive instead of withdraw from me. I will follow your steps to stop the blame, do the u turn and feel my emotions so I can move trough them
My relationship with my son has disintegrated into us not speaking. This has undermined my trust and feelings of love toward others by leaving a deep hurt that is palpable daily. Rewriting the story may help me to save other relationships I feel I am destroying due to creating distance because of the hurt I’m feeling in relationship to my son. I truly just want to run away and be left alone but intellectually know that is not the best path to healing.
With you on the path, Teresa. My resentment against my husband has done and does the same to my relationships with my children and others. It is so helpful, simple and yet difficult to see what we are doing and then to stop it. With you on the path….
-Sandra
I felt a warm sense of relief from anger and desire to do more healing. Thank you.
I would be free
Thank you, Tara. I have been a long time listener of your podcasts and meditations. I found this exercise interesting. Thinking back to a situation that created intense resentment, (which was a result of deep seated fear), and then giving myself permission to have those feelings in a compassionate wayward viscerally shifting. It was much more clear as to WHY the person (whom I love) made me feel that way. Compassion begets more compassion. I’ll be sure to use this method again. Much gratitude
Hard to make u turn. Who would I be if I let go of blame.
It felt freeing to feel compassion
Can definitely begin to utilize these practices immediately both with clients and for myself!
Thanks so much for providing these videos!
Amy
This simple U turn technique is very powerful! I focused on a situation with my sister and was able to see her vulnerability in the situation while remaining tender with myself! It will take a while to “re-program” my inner critic but feels so liberating when I’m able to do so AND I realize how the walls can come down between myself and those I love. I can be vulnerable and I can open to love. Thanks!
Me
Precious times of self healing
as we forgive then offer support
to others walking this journey of
blaming others for decades and
never see how healing themselves
first gently lays a path to real change
in relationships because we each remember
The similar childhood family experience
differently.
Thanks for the video III. It took me back to my childhood.
Once I could see and feel my mother’s sufferings, my anger toward her mellowed and eventualy disapeared all together.
A happier person with more space inside that will restore, nourish and give energy. More space for my own chosen being and a clearer direction.
More space to bring in new ways of working,new ways of seeing that are healthier, more sustainable.
I would be more at peace, loving and successful. I would be the person that I am on the inside and be that person on the outside.
Thank you Tara! I’ve been self-judging for most of my life. Unfortunately having suffered a traumatic brain injury so many years ago and not receiving any rehabilitation, I’ve lived with lack of confidence, anger, short-term memory loss and executive functioning difficulties. For me I usually have to also see what I’m hearing to retain any of the information.
Thank you as I have valued this 3 part series.
Your use of imagery, gentle words and loving approach is a reminder that self compassion works. It allows one to offer more kindness and openness to others and to clients who are suffering and afraid. This in turn, creates increasing safety for them to start to release their anguish, and to begin self compassion.
The practice of the U-turn is so helpful and healing.
Thank you.
Mona , therapist, Canada
Thank you for this. I do show more compassion but sometimes I am harsh and rush around with the feelings bubbling away. Your warm, kind compassionate voice and wisdom and my deciding to sit quietly and really embrace this session has left me feeling calm and open with a desire to do more.
I felt an immediate sense of freedom as I said to myself “ It’s OK to feel this way! I had not done that before—instead my focus was on the anger and frustration; fighting these emotions and ultimately condemning myself for feeling these emotions.
Enlightening, beautiful presentation and well explained. Thank you
I found the video helpful and it gave me the desire to start using mindfulness again and learning to be still and sit with my feelings. Thank you
I found that when I looked at how I was hurt I became aware that this was a pattern in my life. I have allowed myself to be hurt while the other person felt better and more powerful. I though that I was helping them feel better about themselves while telling myself that I didn’t matter…
A happier, calmer, more able Me.
rose
Thank you Tara, I found the metaphor of the ocean and waves is so helpful. I connected with a long felt hurt and the practice helped me soften to my own and the other person’s part in this. Blessings to you.
Thank you Tara. If I could let go of judgement and blame I would be free, enjoyable, enlivening, compassionate. I would be someone who lights up a room with conversation, who can be a channel allowing for people to let out their deepest layers, someone who follows my soul’s blossoming no matter what. I would be closed anymore, I wouldn’t be angry. I would be loving and accepting of all things.
This has opened up a whole new area for me. Turning the focus around helped me to see my wounded ness but seeing the wounded ness in the other person has helped me to be more compassion for them. I am challenged to offer myself the same compassion. The u-turn is the hardest for me as I experience my own emotions, I hope to be able to bring some tenderness to myself.
A huge weight could be lifted and I could have more time to love unconditionally. Time is precious.
Thank you! U-Turn is a wonderful metaphor. Very effective.
Thank you! I felt tearful but calm. Xo
These are practices that help me heal mentally and physically.
Thank you Tara. These exercises are a gift and can help to reframe how I can begin to look at myself and others in a more compassionate way.