I felt an element of peace as I tried the u turn process, but definitely something I need practice at. It was difficult to pinpoint exactly what my feelings were with the situation I was picturing.
Hi Tara, I have learnt here that with my clients I need to practice the turn around method with care if there is trauma in the history to avoid re traumatizing. Thank you. Would love a copy of the audio recording always live your work and listen to your podcasts regularly
Found the videos very helpful. I often use metaphors or visual pictures to make my points. The dog trapped in the woods was a wonderful imagery to use. The metaphors of “u turn” and “heart space” are great metaphors too. Will be using them too. Thank you.
I know I have a long way to go. But the thought, Jim it’s okay to feel this, is very helpful. I am pained in my realization that I am not healed at this point in my life and in all that I have gone through. Maybe things will get better. Thank you for this video and way of thinking.
Spacious and warm. Deeply accepting and welcoming. Overflowing with kindness and understanding. Free to embrace possibility and begin to open to potential…unbound…disentangled, free of confusion and doubt.
Lisa Sparagna, Stress Management, Woodridge, IL, USAsays
A much better understanding of my pain, shame and anger as well as the person who has hurt me. Seeing my wounded areas and seeing theirs has helped me to soften around the pain they caused.
I would be a happier, calmer and more loving person. Connected to myself and others. The story of Stefan and his father brought me to tears. I related to hearing words that sounded critical but were not meant in that way. The U turn practice helps to identify that it’s not really about the other person it’s about what I’m feeling. Not easy to do in the moment of strong feelings.
I definitely can see how much practice this will take. I found this exercise challenging, but also beneficial. I feel blame for self and others is so deeply rooted that I don’t have any idea who I would be without it. I feel ashamed of this, but I also know it’s true. And that this is an important lesson for me.
Turning with awareness toward my inner self/sensations/emotions aligns me with the resource of my soul and engages the healing process, helping me let go of blame/judgement of self/other. Thank you for the simplicity of this practice.
Thank you Tara for sharing your wisdom. This series has really struck home how stuck I am behind the walls of self judgement and how deeply that has affected my relationships. If I could let go I would be more open and connected to others.
The dog in the trap analogy is fascinating and brought home to me what I have always known that others suffering causes the way that they behave, this will definitely help me to turn the judgement and blame around. Thankyou
Yes! Living from greater love, creativity, and adventure holds such a draw. Increasingly holding my experiences with kindness over the past few years has been freeing, indeed. Yet engaging in these practices has opened awareness to a quieter, deeper self judgement and self aversion: I’ve held a false belief that the ocean of my experience is supposed to be still, and that waves are a shameful intrusions. Thank you, I look forward to accepting, maybe even welcoming, the waves in my ocean of experience.
I would move through life with inner strength and loving presence for self and others. That is deeply appealing. A key component for me and my future as a coach for other seekers.
I am a Mental Health Nurse working in an underdeveloped area of Canada. Overtime I have had to really ground myself as I have seen a lot of suffering. After listening to Tara, I found myself shifting my focus from someone who has been abusive toward me in the work place. Rather than imagining what her leg in the trap is about, I found I was able to focus my compassion toward the people I am there to help and thus willing to utilize the abusive person’s expertise to attain the same purpose. Help people.
Dear Tara
Thank you so much for these videos. As I listen to them I realized that a lot of my issues are around shame .Shame that if I don’t blame myself I wouldn’t improve as you say in your video. I realized that at times the story takes a life of its own and is hard to let go keeping me in a never ending loop of blame/shame.
This exercise is something like what I’ve tried to to do in my own way before, but yours is kinder to the self & leads to a much quicker acceptance of the emotions & relaxing & letting go. Thanks so much.
…I’d be a much calmer and kinder individual to myself and others. Encouraging to hear these wonderful ways to bring us in alignment, to improve our life and and those that are close to us. Thank you for your teachings.
Peace and understanding for myself and the other person arrised.
Letting go of the story brought myself back to what is going on with me, where my triggers are and why I m reacting that way.
Thank I you for sharing this practice Tara
Michael Girard, Another Field, Fort Lauderdale, FL, USAsays
I sensed an opening upon doing the U-turn along with a feeling of space and curiosity followed by compassion. Then came a feeling of connection with my heart and gentle emotional release.
I felt relief. I almst allow my anger to destroy my marriage. Gtanted, more practice is needed but I feel a bit more peace in me so that I do not have to bear all the work
I would be a much happier free peace giving person to myself ( first to myself ) and to others. Why is it so hard realize forgiving ourselves is something we are worthy of?
I am not certain at this time, but I believe that I may feel younger and have some joy back in my life. I have shut down so much that joy seems an unattainable goal. I look forward to learning how to heal and move forward with a lighter step and more freedom to feel OK.
Loved this exercise of U-turn and then learning to see vulnerability in others. This is powerful. One more way to practice self-compassion. Extememly helpful. Thank you!
BRIAN STEPPACHER, Other, SOUTH PORTLAND, ME, USAsays
As I attempt to become aware and mindful of thoughts, feelings and emotions through meditation, I find solace, contentment, peace, compassion, and an unconditional love and appreciation for all creation . Yes, maybe these ultimately are what will replace the inner discord and fighting within myself and also with others caused by judgement and blame. By first, looking away from the “other” as source or cause, I can see myself there. (Funny thing. Well, maybe not so funny. “A house divided against itself will not stand.”) There is something very unsettling about seeing one’s self as the source when the other has been consistently judged or blamed.
Secondly, I would be more apt to engage others as equals. Judgement and blame arise out of comparisons and comparisons put one’s self or others below or above, condemned or lifted up. There can be distancing and misunderstanding. What if we could see the other face to face? What if we could see the humanity in the other? What if we could speak with humility and compassion?? What if we really DO care?
Thank you, Tara. You have helped me with my journey to peace following a painful marital separation from my love of 45 yrs.
I had to forgive a betrayal and a deep soul wound. Blessings to you!
Wendy Olin olinfineart@aol.com
Thank you for this new-to-me approach to exploring hurts. I have new awareness of how hurt leads to blame leads to distance – meanwhile, time flies by. The concept of healing through compassion, for oneself and then for the other, speaks deeply to my heart.
I felt an element of peace as I tried the u turn process, but definitely something I need practice at. It was difficult to pinpoint exactly what my feelings were with the situation I was picturing.
Thank you so much. All three videos shook me gently out of a static space I hadn’t really noted. I am grateful.
Thank you. All three sessions were helpful and thought provoking.
Hi Tara, I have learnt here that with my clients I need to practice the turn around method with care if there is trauma in the history to avoid re traumatizing. Thank you. Would love a copy of the audio recording always live your work and listen to your podcasts regularly
Great sessions. Thank you for sharing. The exercises were thought provoking, safe, engaging and healing,
Very helpful and very insightful about how to be compassionate with oneself.
Found the videos very helpful. I often use metaphors or visual pictures to make my points. The dog trapped in the woods was a wonderful imagery to use. The metaphors of “u turn” and “heart space” are great metaphors too. Will be using them too. Thank you.
I think I would see more of my true self emerge
I know I have a long way to go. But the thought, Jim it’s okay to feel this, is very helpful. I am pained in my realization that I am not healed at this point in my life and in all that I have gone through. Maybe things will get better. Thank you for this video and way of thinking.
A very helpful teaching.
Lovely to feel compassion for myself for not being productive
Spacious and warm. Deeply accepting and welcoming. Overflowing with kindness and understanding. Free to embrace possibility and begin to open to potential…unbound…disentangled, free of confusion and doubt.
A much better understanding of my pain, shame and anger as well as the person who has hurt me. Seeing my wounded areas and seeing theirs has helped me to soften around the pain they caused.
Thank you!
I would be lighter, happier and less self-absorbed. Thank you ? for this information.
Norma
I can feel my heart opening more
I would be a happier, calmer and more loving person. Connected to myself and others. The story of Stefan and his father brought me to tears. I related to hearing words that sounded critical but were not meant in that way. The U turn practice helps to identify that it’s not really about the other person it’s about what I’m feeling. Not easy to do in the moment of strong feelings.
So helpful. And such important and worthwhile work to do on ourselves and realise our own worthiness.
I love an expression I’ve heard :
‘Being resentful is like drinking poison and expecting it to affect the other person’.
No, it affects us more!! Thanks for the reminder to keep on the journey of self growth
I definitely can see how much practice this will take. I found this exercise challenging, but also beneficial. I feel blame for self and others is so deeply rooted that I don’t have any idea who I would be without it. I feel ashamed of this, but I also know it’s true. And that this is an important lesson for me.
Excellent teaching. Really helpful visual of leg in a trap.Thank you Tara!
Turning with awareness toward my inner self/sensations/emotions aligns me with the resource of my soul and engages the healing process, helping me let go of blame/judgement of self/other. Thank you for the simplicity of this practice.
Thank you Tara for sharing your wisdom. This series has really struck home how stuck I am behind the walls of self judgement and how deeply that has affected my relationships. If I could let go I would be more open and connected to others.
I love the leg in a trap analogy, it helped to make the shift.
I think this has an authentic connection for
me.
I would be a more compassionate to myself as well as others.
I’d be less anxious, and feel more at peace. I’d feel more able to be who I truly am.
The dog in the trap analogy is fascinating and brought home to me what I have always known that others suffering causes the way that they behave, this will definitely help me to turn the judgement and blame around. Thankyou
Yes! Living from greater love, creativity, and adventure holds such a draw. Increasingly holding my experiences with kindness over the past few years has been freeing, indeed. Yet engaging in these practices has opened awareness to a quieter, deeper self judgement and self aversion: I’ve held a false belief that the ocean of my experience is supposed to be still, and that waves are a shameful intrusions. Thank you, I look forward to accepting, maybe even welcoming, the waves in my ocean of experience.
It’s ok to feel this
I would move through life with inner strength and loving presence for self and others. That is deeply appealing. A key component for me and my future as a coach for other seekers.
I am a Mental Health Nurse working in an underdeveloped area of Canada. Overtime I have had to really ground myself as I have seen a lot of suffering. After listening to Tara, I found myself shifting my focus from someone who has been abusive toward me in the work place. Rather than imagining what her leg in the trap is about, I found I was able to focus my compassion toward the people I am there to help and thus willing to utilize the abusive person’s expertise to attain the same purpose. Help people.
Thankyou Tara!
Dear Tara
Thank you so much for these videos. As I listen to them I realized that a lot of my issues are around shame .Shame that if I don’t blame myself I wouldn’t improve as you say in your video. I realized that at times the story takes a life of its own and is hard to let go keeping me in a never ending loop of blame/shame.
This exercise is something like what I’ve tried to to do in my own way before, but yours is kinder to the self & leads to a much quicker acceptance of the emotions & relaxing & letting go. Thanks so much.
…I’d be a much calmer and kinder individual to myself and others. Encouraging to hear these wonderful ways to bring us in alignment, to improve our life and and those that are close to us. Thank you for your teachings.
It’s quite amazing how giving grace to yourself opens you up to give grace to another
Peace and understanding for myself and the other person arrised.
Letting go of the story brought myself back to what is going on with me, where my triggers are and why I m reacting that way.
Thank I you for sharing this practice Tara
This has been so insightful. I felt like the U-turn “tool” is such a beautiful way to pivot when disempowering thoughts arise.
Thank you for this. I have done a similar practice to this and it’s really helpful to conceptualize it a bit differently.
I sensed an opening upon doing the U-turn along with a feeling of space and curiosity followed by compassion. Then came a feeling of connection with my heart and gentle emotional release.
I would be a calmer, less anxious person.
I started to cry as I say my mother and how weak and scared she was, and I felt compassion and forgiveness. Thank you
I felt relief. I almst allow my anger to destroy my marriage. Gtanted, more practice is needed but I feel a bit more peace in me so that I do not have to bear all the work
I would be a much happier free peace giving person to myself ( first to myself ) and to others. Why is it so hard realize forgiving ourselves is something we are worthy of?
I am not certain at this time, but I believe that I may feel younger and have some joy back in my life. I have shut down so much that joy seems an unattainable goal. I look forward to learning how to heal and move forward with a lighter step and more freedom to feel OK.
Loved this exercise of U-turn and then learning to see vulnerability in others. This is powerful. One more way to practice self-compassion. Extememly helpful. Thank you!
Loving; physically free; truely compassionate and empathic.
As I attempt to become aware and mindful of thoughts, feelings and emotions through meditation, I find solace, contentment, peace, compassion, and an unconditional love and appreciation for all creation . Yes, maybe these ultimately are what will replace the inner discord and fighting within myself and also with others caused by judgement and blame. By first, looking away from the “other” as source or cause, I can see myself there. (Funny thing. Well, maybe not so funny. “A house divided against itself will not stand.”) There is something very unsettling about seeing one’s self as the source when the other has been consistently judged or blamed.
Secondly, I would be more apt to engage others as equals. Judgement and blame arise out of comparisons and comparisons put one’s self or others below or above, condemned or lifted up. There can be distancing and misunderstanding. What if we could see the other face to face? What if we could see the humanity in the other? What if we could speak with humility and compassion?? What if we really DO care?
Thank you, Tara. You have helped me with my journey to peace following a painful marital separation from my love of 45 yrs.
I had to forgive a betrayal and a deep soul wound. Blessings to you!
Wendy Olin
olinfineart@aol.com
Thank you for this new-to-me approach to exploring hurts. I have new awareness of how hurt leads to blame leads to distance – meanwhile, time flies by. The concept of healing through compassion, for oneself and then for the other, speaks deeply to my heart.
I would be at peace.