I appreciate your thoughts. I’m still stuck in black and white thinking such as how if I have compassion for my ex-husband I feel like it invalidates my suffering. I feel like these videos are a helpful tool to start my movement away from holding the anger, though.
Self Compassion practices bring relief to anxiety, this simple gesturing practice has been profound in bringing ease to the present moment.
Thank you for all of the work you do to bring more awareness and healing!!!
I’ve noticed that dispassionate, non-judgmental watchfulness creates a paradox in my mind. It is hard to self-instill the unimportance of judgments. It seems like letting of this importance is like letting go of the importance of one’s self existence. And one’s ability to control our own survival. Trying to fully understand the implications of a such a paradox while living a normal life takes time and an ever stretching mindfulness, even for an open minded person such as myself.
The example of the little dog with its leg in the trap is powerful and very helpful.
Seeing the vulnerability in the other shifts things for me.
Thanks for these excellent videos.
I found that I went back over 20 years to the time when I was married and was constantly put down, belittled and made to feel “not good enough”
I wish I had the knowledge I have now so that I might have been more compassionate rather than eventually walking away as I did.
Thank you for your wisdom and your compassion.
Janet.
Linda Levine, Another Field, New York , NY, USAsays
I would be less constricted and tense. I would allow my feelings of sadness and longing to surface without judgement, allowing them to pass like the waves in the ocean that you mentioned, rather than using my energy to push them away, where they just continue to live deep inside me.
Thank you Tara for hope. I had a terrorizing childhood. Full of blame and hate. Your videos caused me to feel a tiny ray of hope for the first time in a very long time. May you be blessed. Thank you.
When I was listening to the video’s I realized how I truly dont know who I an.
I appreciate that you mentioned the importance of how important it is to have compassion for one self, recognizing how the pain is stored in the body.
Kathleen Murphy, Psychotherapy, Rochester Hills, MI, USAsays
I’d be a kinder, gentler more compassionate person both for myself and all others I encounter. What lovely & simple practices with powerful impacts. Ty!
Such a timely teaching. You helped me with a situation that is current. I will keep this teaching and come back to it until it is part of me and is something that I can call upon in times I need it. Thank you Tara, for being you and for your graceful and compassionate presence.
I’ve done something like this before however the “u-turn” made me feel sorry for myself thus causing depression. The “trap” on the other person doesn’t excuse them for their abusive behavior. I just want to learn how to not let abusive, catty, or mean people affect me. I don’t want to forgive them—I just want to carry-on with life and not let their negative energy get to me.
I’ve let go of a lot of blame and judgement from the past but there’s still a residue that letting go of now would free up energy within me too realize more of my creative potential. I think I’d be healthier and live with a lighter heart.
Self-compassion and the hand gesture of self-love are daily practices, and I appreciated going more deeply today. I am practicing self-compassion for my deep weariness. I am seeking to discern how with compassion for the world to make reparations for my privilege. Thank you, Tara.
Your words are balm for my wounds.
Living with judging, criticizing and not accepting myself has caused so much pain, grief,shame and sadness.
Self compassion has opened my heart and mind to the wonder and beauty of me.
I am forever grateful for this incredible gift.
Thank you Tara Brach
Molly Eisenberg
Montreal Quebec
Letting go of judgement and blame meant that I was able to take control of my feelings and reactions because I wasn’t giving my power to some one else.
By allowing myself to feel the hurt and sadness caused by people in my life that I love, has given me the opportunity to practice the “U-turn” and acknowledge how others wounding has affected them in their lives.
Maria Smith, Student, FredericksburgFredericksburg , VA, USAsays
It is difficult to allow myself to imagine this amount of freedom to even imagine who I would be. The patterns of self-blame and self-judgement run so deep that any amount of self compassion is throughly welcome and I need to take it slow, one little step at a time. I value this practice deeply. I like to think that if I could completely shift, I’d first enjoy feeling free.
Judy Y Martin EdD, Counseling, Woodstock , GA, USAsays
This video is phenomenal. Thank you, Tara for doing this and imparting knowledges and technique like the “ U turn”
Love it!
I can see how it works when practicing self compassion and forgiveness.
Thanks for a reminder to take care of ourself. Learn to foregive those who did not know how to meet the needs in early childhood, challenging our our own vulnerability.
Shifting is easy with awareness and methods to improve a damaged nervous system. With that repair we can gain health and hope for a better future. We need to reverse the longterm damage caused over a lifetime of neglect and poor awarenss of the body. That was not taught on the school roster and assure our own health.
Due to a lack of awarenss of the nervous system I learned how to run away from abusers, had a stroke, broke multiple bones still not seeing the truth and need for personal care. It is imperative to acknowledge personal health needs. This is just not taught in our youth or in school.
We see this in our offices constantly. The more we can help them heal by learnikng the secrets of the nervous symptoms we can give hope to self and others.
Living with compassion for self and others can turn lifes around.
We can learn to live without needless fear. We can reverse the damage done; make amends to that inner child; turn toward peace, love, and joy: and spread kindness whenever we can, starting with ourself.
Thanks for making this clear as we learn to make the shift from listening to our nervous system, enlightening the mind for personal healing if broken or growth for our future.
I can see more clearly how my daughter is suffering and instead of focusing on her disrespectful behavior, I see she is struggling with her self and the difficulty she and her heart faces.
It seems that negative self-judgment has long been a part of me. At 50 years old I am beginning to release it and your teachings have helped tremendously. I have shared these 3 videos with my husband as a way to help him understand what I’m feeling, and as a result we have had many deep and very helpful conversations. Thank you!
On a personal level I have been at war with my feelings of anger, hurt and hopelessness due to my Father’s sexual abuse of myself and my two sons. My Mother is in denial and I am unable to talk openly with her. This practice is essential for my path of forgiveness. I am gradually connecting to the Heart’s compassion for myself and this is gradually breaking the barrier down, but it is not easy , especially due to the Depression and Mental illnesses that I and my sons have endured and will never be free of in this life time. There is also the ripple effect on my Ex Wife knowing that she was unable to protect her Children from a person who one should have trust in. My Father is no longer alive and he died a lonely, unwell old man. I have only felt a neutral feeling for him and I am unable to feel Love for him or my Mother.
Thanks Tara, clear, concise teaching. I’d be freer, more trusting, more hopeful…and better able to transmit the light we were each born with.
As a dog lover, love Brian’s image….more wagging, less bark!
I would feel free as a butterfly.
I am so hard on myself and have high unsaid expectations of those close
amazingly freeing in not jut thinking about these steps,
but actually following and experiencing them
thank you
Very valuable info and practice.
Thanks so much for sharing!
I appreciate your thoughts. I’m still stuck in black and white thinking such as how if I have compassion for my ex-husband I feel like it invalidates my suffering. I feel like these videos are a helpful tool to start my movement away from holding the anger, though.
I would be free and light and self compassionate.
Thank you for sharing these with us.
Very powerful and helpful.
These bits of direction give me hope. Many thanks for sharing.
Self Compassion practices bring relief to anxiety, this simple gesturing practice has been profound in bringing ease to the present moment.
Thank you for all of the work you do to bring more awareness and healing!!!
I’ve noticed that dispassionate, non-judgmental watchfulness creates a paradox in my mind. It is hard to self-instill the unimportance of judgments. It seems like letting of this importance is like letting go of the importance of one’s self existence. And one’s ability to control our own survival. Trying to fully understand the implications of a such a paradox while living a normal life takes time and an ever stretching mindfulness, even for an open minded person such as myself.
The example of the little dog with its leg in the trap is powerful and very helpful.
Seeing the vulnerability in the other shifts things for me.
Thanks for these excellent videos.
Thank you. This was a helpful reminder that I can help myself when everything is falling apart.
I found that I went back over 20 years to the time when I was married and was constantly put down, belittled and made to feel “not good enough”
I wish I had the knowledge I have now so that I might have been more compassionate rather than eventually walking away as I did.
Thank you for your wisdom and your compassion.
Janet.
These videos are very helpful, life changing really.
I would be less constricted and tense. I would allow my feelings of sadness and longing to surface without judgement, allowing them to pass like the waves in the ocean that you mentioned, rather than using my energy to push them away, where they just continue to live deep inside me.
Thank you Tara for hope. I had a terrorizing childhood. Full of blame and hate. Your videos caused me to feel a tiny ray of hope for the first time in a very long time. May you be blessed. Thank you.
When I was listening to the video’s I realized how I truly dont know who I an.
I appreciate that you mentioned the importance of how important it is to have compassion for one self, recognizing how the pain is stored in the body.
I’d be a kinder, gentler more compassionate person both for myself and all others I encounter. What lovely & simple practices with powerful impacts. Ty!
freedom and joy.
Beautiful instruction. Gets at the core of self-judgement and the judgement of others.
Such a timely teaching. You helped me with a situation that is current. I will keep this teaching and come back to it until it is part of me and is something that I can call upon in times I need it. Thank you Tara, for being you and for your graceful and compassionate presence.
How lovely-thank you.
I’ve done something like this before however the “u-turn” made me feel sorry for myself thus causing depression. The “trap” on the other person doesn’t excuse them for their abusive behavior. I just want to learn how to not let abusive, catty, or mean people affect me. I don’t want to forgive them—I just want to carry-on with life and not let their negative energy get to me.
thank you for the practice of the U-turn. It’s a visual I had not used before and I found it very helpful.
I would be more at peace with myself.
I’ve let go of a lot of blame and judgement from the past but there’s still a residue that letting go of now would free up energy within me too realize more of my creative potential. I think I’d be healthier and live with a lighter heart.
Tara your presence shines forth in this video series…well done.
Thank you so much
wonderful!
A deep thank you, Tara, for this and all your teaching.
Self-compassion and the hand gesture of self-love are daily practices, and I appreciated going more deeply today. I am practicing self-compassion for my deep weariness. I am seeking to discern how with compassion for the world to make reparations for my privilege. Thank you, Tara.
Your words are balm for my wounds.
Living with judging, criticizing and not accepting myself has caused so much pain, grief,shame and sadness.
Self compassion has opened my heart and mind to the wonder and beauty of me.
I am forever grateful for this incredible gift.
Thank you Tara Brach
Molly Eisenberg
Montreal Quebec
Love the three parts, thank you, very enlightening and helpful.
Bee
I feel freedom and connecting to my inner child. My life going to be more peaceful and able to shift suffering to kindness and compassion.
Letting go of judgement and blame meant that I was able to take control of my feelings and reactions because I wasn’t giving my power to some one else.
By allowing myself to feel the hurt and sadness caused by people in my life that I love, has given me the opportunity to practice the “U-turn” and acknowledge how others wounding has affected them in their lives.
Thanks Tara for this teaching. I’m not sure how to understand the “other person’s pain” if they do not share it with you ?
Feel so much lighter
Id be more compassionate if I could let go of judgement and blame towards people that have hurt me including myself.
Thankyou?
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It is difficult to allow myself to imagine this amount of freedom to even imagine who I would be. The patterns of self-blame and self-judgement run so deep that any amount of self compassion is throughly welcome and I need to take it slow, one little step at a time. I value this practice deeply. I like to think that if I could completely shift, I’d first enjoy feeling free.
Suggesting self compassion – something in me getting upset – that I don’t show enough self love either.
I will use this in my own life as well as with clients. A real U Turn in treatment approach, using what I kept hearing and will use as the You Turn.
This video is phenomenal. Thank you, Tara for doing this and imparting knowledges and technique like the “ U turn”
Love it!
I can see how it works when practicing self compassion and forgiveness.
Always love Tara Brach’s teachings and meditations. I use these for myself and my clients. Thank you!
Love the entire series
Wonderfully done
I will share you with my clients
Namaste
Thanks for a reminder to take care of ourself. Learn to foregive those who did not know how to meet the needs in early childhood, challenging our our own vulnerability.
Shifting is easy with awareness and methods to improve a damaged nervous system. With that repair we can gain health and hope for a better future. We need to reverse the longterm damage caused over a lifetime of neglect and poor awarenss of the body. That was not taught on the school roster and assure our own health.
Due to a lack of awarenss of the nervous system I learned how to run away from abusers, had a stroke, broke multiple bones still not seeing the truth and need for personal care. It is imperative to acknowledge personal health needs. This is just not taught in our youth or in school.
We see this in our offices constantly. The more we can help them heal by learnikng the secrets of the nervous symptoms we can give hope to self and others.
Living with compassion for self and others can turn lifes around.
We can learn to live without needless fear. We can reverse the damage done; make amends to that inner child; turn toward peace, love, and joy: and spread kindness whenever we can, starting with ourself.
Thanks for making this clear as we learn to make the shift from listening to our nervous system, enlightening the mind for personal healing if broken or growth for our future.
I can see more clearly how my daughter is suffering and instead of focusing on her disrespectful behavior, I see she is struggling with her self and the difficulty she and her heart faces.
It seems that negative self-judgment has long been a part of me. At 50 years old I am beginning to release it and your teachings have helped tremendously. I have shared these 3 videos with my husband as a way to help him understand what I’m feeling, and as a result we have had many deep and very helpful conversations. Thank you!
Thank You for providing instruction and compassion, your videos have helped me.
On a personal level I have been at war with my feelings of anger, hurt and hopelessness due to my Father’s sexual abuse of myself and my two sons. My Mother is in denial and I am unable to talk openly with her. This practice is essential for my path of forgiveness. I am gradually connecting to the Heart’s compassion for myself and this is gradually breaking the barrier down, but it is not easy , especially due to the Depression and Mental illnesses that I and my sons have endured and will never be free of in this life time. There is also the ripple effect on my Ex Wife knowing that she was unable to protect her Children from a person who one should have trust in. My Father is no longer alive and he died a lonely, unwell old man. I have only felt a neutral feeling for him and I am unable to feel Love for him or my Mother.
Not unusual to feel somewhat dissociated from such a monster.
I hope you find healing and you’ve done so well to come this far.
Thanks Tara, clear, concise teaching. I’d be freer, more trusting, more hopeful…and better able to transmit the light we were each born with.
As a dog lover, love Brian’s image….more wagging, less bark!