I found it difficult to bring kindness to the wounded part of me and didn’t realise before how hard that was for me. When I tried to do this my mind drifted back to all those old stories in which I failed and was subsequently rejected by others. I found just listening to Tara’s story so comforting as it resonated so deeply with me. It made me feel normal and gave me hope . I am so grateful for this free video ?
Judging my young woman self to Tara’s young woman self and coming up short. This was followed by sadness for the self that judged and judged to validate “I’m not good enough”.
Tears springing from the deep hole of grief.
A recognition that all shall be well.
I felt more self accepting of a big decision we are trying to make. I could acknowledge that I really feel afraid. Afraid of my own judging voice and even more of the voices of judgment of others.
I realised how hard I have been on myself. I got the sense that I certainly don’t deserve kindness nor compassion (unconsciously). I realised that all my life, I have been my most harshest critic, because I deserve only the harshest treatment! What a crappy way to treat myself!-taking up where my mother left off. Of course, consciously I know now that is untrue however, the unconscious is very powerful and will continue to play out in my life unabated, unless it is brought to light! I’m shocked at the insight, and grateful that I had it. Now I’ll know how to practice what I preach- be kind to yourself. Thank you.
Thank you for this video. I really like the bit about being with our wounded parts/places. I look forward to the next video as I clients will often talk about a core of bad/evil that has become part of them or is them. Offering compassion to themselves can be so hard.
It was amazing and very cpmpassionate. Thank you for this wonderful experience of insight. I was wondering, if this was possible with traumatized patients as well ?
I really value Tara’s work and have been following her for several years, both video and her writing. As ever with mindfulness and self-compassion, I find that it’s most difficult to be mindful when its most needed, i.e. when depressed, angry or self-hating.
I felt as though I had an unusually difficult time trying to articulate such words of kindness to myself. Thinking it in my mindset came with a bit more ease. But to speak them aloud, even to ones own self, brings a much more profound effect on the outcome of the reaction & the impression left upon.
I acknowledged my feelings of resistance, anger and frustration. This in a way made the pain worse hard to hear. Then I tried to bring kindness using my breath and talking to myself like a mummy would to their child who was hurting. Tried to bring optimism to my situation. I’m not sure if I am on the right lines. Acceptance is hard when you don’t like who you’re are.
I do have a sense of contentment even though things are not great at the moment. That’s largely because I have benefitted from your videos/teachings/books before Tara! Thank you so much. I do however feel I have some way to go still so wish to continue the process.
Many many thanks.
Sue
Cindy Foss, Another Field, Prescott Valley, AZ, USAsays
I sat with a sense of ‘failure’ with the system work I have been doing. I faced it fully and noticed a warmth and softness showing up which naturally led to a feeling of kindness and care for myself…..thank you.
When I tried to feel self-compassion I got a feeling of self-pity instead. Then using what I knew about the difference between compassion and pity with regards to other people, I saw that the reason I ´got’ self-pity instead of self-compassion was that there was a certain disdain for myself of which I was barely aware – interesting … Thank you
Tara. I just have to say that with your humour, kindness, caring, love and wisdom that everyday you make a wonderful difference for me in my life…..and I know for so many others. Thank you so much.
I sobbed at recognising the deep sadness in my heart. I can give to people at the drop of a hat but not to myself. This was a deeply affecting practice. Thankyou x
I have had chronic pain worsening with age. My right low back muscles are contracted and twisting my body to the right. I have been trying for 26years to release all of the anger. I am a compassionate oncologist. My wife of 29 years left. Have done guided meditation, mindfulness, practiced Mettu, and yoga. Written two books about mindfulness and joy . Nothing works . Your video was nice but hasn’t softened my heart nor changed the pain. Depression for years. Now on two antidepressants and a mild muscle relaxers. I feel worthless even though I save lives every day. No method has aided in bringing any lasting relief. Even now the neck is so tight and twisted it is difficult to breathe. This is nothing surgery can fix. I swam four times a week for a year, been to Physicans, had PT two separate times years apart. Tried pain medication that made me groggy. Took a three month leave of absence. Now making friends and went back to work five weeks ago working with pain. I was approved for total disability took it for a month and gave it up to go back to work as it was worse staying home. I have taught yoga in the past, followed Rodney Yee around the continent, did two week long intensive practices with him in Ca. The tightness gets worse yearly despite light yoga and weekly Counseling.
Nice video but some need something more that has yet to be discovered. Maybe that is my next calling, but who knows. Best to all.
I tensed up. My chest tightened and my jaw clenched. My first thought was I don’t know how to…how do I care for myself when I am so use to suppressing my emotions and feelings.
Julia Siobhan Storrs. Immediately my thoughts and mood went to “l’m not doing enough – packing to move, Dishes, folding laundry, scribe birthday cards. Bringing happiness in, l’ll call my handy man. Stress gone, Shoulders shrugged, mood lifted xo
Thank you for the gift of this video.
….a simple message, but so true.
I do ask these same questions….or very similar ones of the people I see
It can elicit very strong experiences.
Thanks again x Ute
My heart recognises the resonances that you Tara share with loving compassion.
There has been a powerful, at times overwhelming opportunity for me, during this past twelve months of worldly fear during the pandemic. I have been given and have afforded myself, time and space to be with the strong feelings that have emerged from deep inside my wounded places. Heart has been a powerful teacher. Despite the painful feelings, heart has shown me how to be with pain until self compassion breaks through. Being with all feelings and listening deeply allows me to surrender rather than endure the pain. Pain is a powerful motivator once I embrace it and listen with loving tender kindness to what my heart tells me about myself.
Thank you Tara for this timeless wisdom. Anna Ireland
Thank you very much for this opportunity. During the video, I felt a great sense of relief and deep peace. I’m looking forward to the next workshop. Thank you again!
Hello Tara
I tried to deal with my churning stomach with kindness and compassion. I get the feeling of it but I don’t feel any different. I love the concept. It will need more practice and better focus
It was a revelation to me that I can allow myself to be kind to myself. I am extremely compassionate and kind to others but not to myself. Just giving myself the permission to be kind to myself has opened up a new doorway. Thank you!
I became very emotional and couldn’t stop the tears. This very often happens when I listen to Tara. She is the most amazing teacher I have ever heard. Namaste ❤️
I found the video enlightening.
Thinking about my inner self.
However, I struggle to understand how I help myself with ‘kindness’.
How do we see kindness?
How do I apply kindness to a mind of regrets & a feeling of a life purpose?
I can understand my inner feelings.
I can I hope be ‘kind’ to others but how do you do that to yourself?
I guess I just don’t understand the concept & it’s physical application.
I will review the video again & the two others to see if I can find a deeper understanding.
I found it difficult to bring kindness to the wounded part of me and didn’t realise before how hard that was for me. When I tried to do this my mind drifted back to all those old stories in which I failed and was subsequently rejected by others. I found just listening to Tara’s story so comforting as it resonated so deeply with me. It made me feel normal and gave me hope . I am so grateful for this free video ?
Judging my young woman self to Tara’s young woman self and coming up short. This was followed by sadness for the self that judged and judged to validate “I’m not good enough”.
Tears springing from the deep hole of grief.
A recognition that all shall be well.
Shoulders began to relax and I felt less hopeless
Self compassion is hard work
the dense black knot in my gallbladder dissolves
Very relevant. So needed. Please let me know how I can subscribe to the full workshop. Thank you very much!
Thank you for this powerful story! I’m going to send it to a struggling young woman I know, who really needs it now!
I literally experienced the lightness in the suffering when I give myself kindness.
I felt more self accepting of a big decision we are trying to make. I could acknowledge that I really feel afraid. Afraid of my own judging voice and even more of the voices of judgment of others.
I realised how hard I have been on myself. I got the sense that I certainly don’t deserve kindness nor compassion (unconsciously). I realised that all my life, I have been my most harshest critic, because I deserve only the harshest treatment! What a crappy way to treat myself!-taking up where my mother left off. Of course, consciously I know now that is untrue however, the unconscious is very powerful and will continue to play out in my life unabated, unless it is brought to light! I’m shocked at the insight, and grateful that I had it. Now I’ll know how to practice what I preach- be kind to yourself. Thank you.
Thank you for this video. I really like the bit about being with our wounded parts/places. I look forward to the next video as I clients will often talk about a core of bad/evil that has become part of them or is them. Offering compassion to themselves can be so hard.
It felt like hard work being kind to myself and then it started to soften as I focussed more on myself
It was amazing and very cpmpassionate. Thank you for this wonderful experience of insight. I was wondering, if this was possible with traumatized patients as well ?
I really value Tara’s work and have been following her for several years, both video and her writing. As ever with mindfulness and self-compassion, I find that it’s most difficult to be mindful when its most needed, i.e. when depressed, angry or self-hating.
I felt as though I had an unusually difficult time trying to articulate such words of kindness to myself. Thinking it in my mindset came with a bit more ease. But to speak them aloud, even to ones own self, brings a much more profound effect on the outcome of the reaction & the impression left upon.
I acknowledged my feelings of resistance, anger and frustration. This in a way made the pain worse hard to hear. Then I tried to bring kindness using my breath and talking to myself like a mummy would to their child who was hurting. Tried to bring optimism to my situation. I’m not sure if I am on the right lines. Acceptance is hard when you don’t like who you’re are.
This was very helpful. Thank you. ???
I felt a kind of calming down of the feeling of dissatisfaction and raising anxiety
looking forward to the next session
A softening towards myself
A sense of connection with myself, gratitude for being who I am.
I do have a sense of contentment even though things are not great at the moment. That’s largely because I have benefitted from your videos/teachings/books before Tara! Thank you so much. I do however feel I have some way to go still so wish to continue the process.
Many many thanks.
Sue
I sat with a sense of ‘failure’ with the system work I have been doing. I faced it fully and noticed a warmth and softness showing up which naturally led to a feeling of kindness and care for myself…..thank you.
A feeling of self-trust, and openness. And recognition that kindness can be brought to any experience. Thank you Tara.
When I tried to feel self-compassion I got a feeling of self-pity instead. Then using what I knew about the difference between compassion and pity with regards to other people, I saw that the reason I ´got’ self-pity instead of self-compassion was that there was a certain disdain for myself of which I was barely aware – interesting … Thank you
I concur, Well spoken comment. I couldn’t have said it better myself.
I live with mental illness and this makes being kind to myself almost impossible so much of the time
A warm feeling swept over my body. Thank you.
The demons woke up.
Thank you. I felt a calmness and self compassion.
Tara. I just have to say that with your humour, kindness, caring, love and wisdom that everyday you make a wonderful difference for me in my life…..and I know for so many others. Thank you so much.
Many warm wishes,
Noel Palmer
I noticed a sense of softness towards what was happening for me and a feeling of ‘its okay’.
Thank you looking forward to the next session.
I sobbed at recognising the deep sadness in my heart. I can give to people at the drop of a hat but not to myself. This was a deeply affecting practice. Thankyou x
I have had chronic pain worsening with age. My right low back muscles are contracted and twisting my body to the right. I have been trying for 26years to release all of the anger. I am a compassionate oncologist. My wife of 29 years left. Have done guided meditation, mindfulness, practiced Mettu, and yoga. Written two books about mindfulness and joy . Nothing works . Your video was nice but hasn’t softened my heart nor changed the pain. Depression for years. Now on two antidepressants and a mild muscle relaxers. I feel worthless even though I save lives every day. No method has aided in bringing any lasting relief. Even now the neck is so tight and twisted it is difficult to breathe. This is nothing surgery can fix. I swam four times a week for a year, been to Physicans, had PT two separate times years apart. Tried pain medication that made me groggy. Took a three month leave of absence. Now making friends and went back to work five weeks ago working with pain. I was approved for total disability took it for a month and gave it up to go back to work as it was worse staying home. I have taught yoga in the past, followed Rodney Yee around the continent, did two week long intensive practices with him in Ca. The tightness gets worse yearly despite light yoga and weekly Counseling.
Nice video but some need something more that has yet to be discovered. Maybe that is my next calling, but who knows. Best to all.
I tensed up. My chest tightened and my jaw clenched. My first thought was I don’t know how to…how do I care for myself when I am so use to suppressing my emotions and feelings.
Julia Siobhan Storrs. Immediately my thoughts and mood went to “l’m not doing enough – packing to move, Dishes, folding laundry, scribe birthday cards. Bringing happiness in, l’ll call my handy man. Stress gone, Shoulders shrugged, mood lifted xo
Thank you for the gift of this video.
….a simple message, but so true.
I do ask these same questions….or very similar ones of the people I see
It can elicit very strong experiences.
Thanks again x Ute
I was moved to tears. Thank you for sharing this.
My heart recognises the resonances that you Tara share with loving compassion.
There has been a powerful, at times overwhelming opportunity for me, during this past twelve months of worldly fear during the pandemic. I have been given and have afforded myself, time and space to be with the strong feelings that have emerged from deep inside my wounded places. Heart has been a powerful teacher. Despite the painful feelings, heart has shown me how to be with pain until self compassion breaks through. Being with all feelings and listening deeply allows me to surrender rather than endure the pain. Pain is a powerful motivator once I embrace it and listen with loving tender kindness to what my heart tells me about myself.
Thank you Tara for this timeless wisdom. Anna Ireland
Warmth and relaxation pervaded when I treated myself with kindness. Thank you
The feeling of discomfort bwcame stronger. I became even more aware of the panic, heartbeat.
Thank you very much for this opportunity. During the video, I felt a great sense of relief and deep peace. I’m looking forward to the next workshop. Thank you again!
A sense of wonder that I really was allowed and could indeed look at myself with kindness, which I always thought to be reserved for others.
Hello Tara
I tried to deal with my churning stomach with kindness and compassion. I get the feeling of it but I don’t feel any different. I love the concept. It will need more practice and better focus
Thank you very much
Kind regards
Margaret
I felt as though it was possible to become calmer; it was as though someone had opened a door just a crack and some light was coming in. Thank you.
It was a revelation to me that I can allow myself to be kind to myself. I am extremely compassionate and kind to others but not to myself. Just giving myself the permission to be kind to myself has opened up a new doorway. Thank you!
I became very emotional and couldn’t stop the tears. This very often happens when I listen to Tara. She is the most amazing teacher I have ever heard. Namaste ❤️
I found the video enlightening.
Thinking about my inner self.
However, I struggle to understand how I help myself with ‘kindness’.
How do we see kindness?
How do I apply kindness to a mind of regrets & a feeling of a life purpose?
I can understand my inner feelings.
I can I hope be ‘kind’ to others but how do you do that to yourself?
I guess I just don’t understand the concept & it’s physical application.
I will review the video again & the two others to see if I can find a deeper understanding.
Thank you ?
First of all I would like to Thank you.
I always find it difficult to be kind and accept when my mood is “ being hard on myself “!
To accept the fight within me.
I felt my heart open and soften for my loneliness and sadness
It felt like a kind wise loving presence was sat with my, giving comfort and reassurance
I felt very vulnerable