I suddenly stopped struggling. Felt peace, space, beeing…release of tension and inner stress….silence. Attention, capacity and energy for other things and persons. I was there, available.
Thank you. My kids are gonna love that. My partner too.
Richard Vantrease, Marriage/Family Therapy, Sarasota, FL, USAsays
Deep breathing hurt. I didn’t want to breath deeply therefore. So I lessened my breathing deep and felt better. I realized then that when taking a deep breath two things arose. 1. I wondered if I was breathing deep enough and in the right way? 2. By lessening the depth of the breath, I was able to relax a bit more and just let my breathing become what I was comfortable with and so then I felt less pressure to breathe “right”. Now I am more relaxed just breathing at whatever level I feel most comfortable. I think maybe “trying to breath just right” was a set up for self-judgement. How about that? I didn’t realize that until just now. Thanks!
Relaxation, untensing, an easing of resistance. I decided to become my best friend a while ago, but sometimes I forget, and it is so needed, so good to be reminded of these things. Thank you for this beautiful video.
I realised I was thinking “nobody supports me”…… and immediately I knew this was incorrect. I have lots of support. My thoughts are skewed and I am more and more aware of this. I reminded myself I am loved by many people and I need to stop blocking that love with crazy thoughts. I recalled all the people who supported me in the past few days and felt happy and grateful. Awareness is key and I didn’t give myself a hard time for blocking… I appreciated myself for the awareness. Thank you for the videos, it does help so much. Janine
A hard, black core that was tight softened to light feather-grey and had softer, feathered edges. This is a journey of reconnecting and coming back to myself.
I felt irritation and a constriction in my throat. When I brought kindness to myself I there was a shift from irritability to sadness and the constrain in my throat disappeared and I felt a heaviness in my heart area. So then I thought what if I bring acceptance and kindness to these feelings. Then they lifted quite a lot and weren’t so strong.
I have a hard time giving myself uplifting thoughts. I’m too fat..do I do anything about it? No,I’m waiting for a time to start. What’s stopping me? I don’t know. I need someone to take my hand and get me going.
I am a kind and very giving person to others but not to myself.
No self love.
My heart area felt sad, yet when I stayed with the feeling the sadness lifted like a soft gentle, wave and I felt a calmness that felt awesome.
Thank you for sharing your story with me.
I feel so worried about exposing my self alone. I always try to work with friends because it’s so much fun BUT also it is a way to never be exposed by myself. I don’t have any problems when i attend a workshop or a class, but when I’m the guide and I’m alone I feel so much insecure than when I’m with others… I have mixed feelings about this. I FEEL this desire to just do it… but also it brings me a lot of tears to my eyes thinking about it. In my younger years I often felt rejected by my peers. Now I feel so empowered by my outsideness, but I carry this pattern of feeling rejected so embedded in my nervous system. I know I could start asking myself in every situation “What I’m experiencing it’s an actual rejection or it’s my pattern being triggered” then either way, I will use Tara’s keys “Can I be with this with kindness?” Yeah, I think I can. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and giving us some space to write whatever came.
It took me some time to identify what I was feeling, but I was able to attend to it with kindness, the kindness took over and that was all that was left. I could no longer go back to the emotion that I had been originally feeling. There was only kindness.
Yes. Anger and fear of punishment for doing nothing wrong. A victim, a pawn of another’s deep wounded lashings. Being blamed externally, and not having the inner strength to seal myself, being filled with fear and feelings of injustice.
I immediately felt lighter after offering to be with my feelings with kindness. I started with a feeling of roiling waters in my gut. after offering kindness, it became a still pond. brilliant.
I deflected the emotion by saving the video to my homescreen thereby interrupting the narrative and breaking the discomfort so i didn’t have to deal with my feelings. I went to autopilot.
The video reminded me of something that I read Frequently, From An Early Talk Of Tara’s “The Sacred Pause “ I have Found That Embracing All That’s my Being, I’m able to Experience Loving Kindness,&, Self Compassion! Then and only Then Am I Able To Share This With Others…. Confronting myself was a Daunting Task, But I began being Free From The Bondage Of Self…. ?
I thought about the uncertainty of what happens next. School, work, social changes as we move into the next stage of living with COVID in our humanity. Find the kindness to sit without solutions or plan, patience and curiosity at what will work and feel right for me and my family.
My heart broke open with the pain of hurting so much inside from a life of unhealed wounds. I felt my eyes watering, throat tightening, being on the edge of a big cry… I opened to the 2nd step and imagined hugging myself as the wounded child I carry within. I gave kindness to him. .. feels like I would need this forever to heal. I need so much more practice
Wilson Stiner, Another Field, Topanga, CA, USAsays
it made me want to be in that kind peace forever and had me wonder if somehow this act is silencing/making passive all the people who can heal the wounds of the world or if we can access the unconscious healing to make changes in the physical
I thought of my mother and how she was unable to comfort me as a child and young adult. I could relate to your feelings of feeling like something is wrong with me- hoping I can learn to accept myself and comfort myself
I have to constantly remind myself to “please be kind” throughout the day. I still have such an inpatience with myself and it angers me. I’ve been working on this a long time. I just keep at it, but feel I should be better at it by now. One day at a time – I tell myself.
I think many of us deny that we feel unworthy in some ways. Your description of the trance of unworthiness doesn’t leave us any room to wiggle out of such feelings. Good work!
After a second hearing of the video, I felt a relief, a bit of peace, a start to considering without anger towards myself some attitudes or emotions I sometimes have and that I judge not positive and not helping with my relationship with other people. I jusge easily myself but also others and they feel it and make a step away from me and it hurts. A vicious circle as we say in French.
I have found psychotherapy for myself over the years but to wake the careing and asking myself can I be apart of this with care. I was younger and felt more vulnerable. But the healing and being a heart like an ocean to gravitate towards others but back to myself again is difficult Thank you
At first I could feel sadness and anxiety , then afterwards felt lighter and tearful. I had included my inner child and could feel her responding with warmth and love .
Thankyou Tara
When I tried to notice what was happening internally, I felt numb. It’s hard for me to notice this. My thoughts are many places and I can’t connect to how I am feeling easily. I have been practicing avoid challenging emotions all my life.
I did hear my inner critic with this tho.
I felt nothing initially, then an overwhelming feeling of pain, like heartbreak. I stayed with it and felt an embrace of some kind, like comfort and the upset seemed to lean in to that and I felt comforted.
Thank you for the beautiful light of your presence! When I attuned to what was within me with gentleness and kindness, my shoulders relaxed and my body and mind softened to the mental and physical tension I was carrying In this moment. Ahhhhhhhh….
The feeling dissipated 🙂
I was feeling sadness, and when I brought a sense of kindness to the feeling, I felt a small sense of relief. And I started crying.
I suddenly stopped struggling. Felt peace, space, beeing…release of tension and inner stress….silence. Attention, capacity and energy for other things and persons. I was there, available.
Thank you. My kids are gonna love that. My partner too.
Deep breathing hurt. I didn’t want to breath deeply therefore. So I lessened my breathing deep and felt better. I realized then that when taking a deep breath two things arose. 1. I wondered if I was breathing deep enough and in the right way? 2. By lessening the depth of the breath, I was able to relax a bit more and just let my breathing become what I was comfortable with and so then I felt less pressure to breathe “right”. Now I am more relaxed just breathing at whatever level I feel most comfortable. I think maybe “trying to breath just right” was a set up for self-judgement. How about that? I didn’t realize that until just now. Thanks!
Relaxation, untensing, an easing of resistance. I decided to become my best friend a while ago, but sometimes I forget, and it is so needed, so good to be reminded of these things. Thank you for this beautiful video.
I realised I was thinking “nobody supports me”…… and immediately I knew this was incorrect. I have lots of support. My thoughts are skewed and I am more and more aware of this. I reminded myself I am loved by many people and I need to stop blocking that love with crazy thoughts. I recalled all the people who supported me in the past few days and felt happy and grateful. Awareness is key and I didn’t give myself a hard time for blocking… I appreciated myself for the awareness. Thank you for the videos, it does help so much. Janine
A hard, black core that was tight softened to light feather-grey and had softer, feathered edges. This is a journey of reconnecting and coming back to myself.
When I tried holding my feelings in the present with kindness, I felt a deep sadness.
I felt irritation and a constriction in my throat. When I brought kindness to myself I there was a shift from irritability to sadness and the constrain in my throat disappeared and I felt a heaviness in my heart area. So then I thought what if I bring acceptance and kindness to these feelings. Then they lifted quite a lot and weren’t so strong.
I noticed how big this guard i have up is
I have a hard time giving myself uplifting thoughts. I’m too fat..do I do anything about it? No,I’m waiting for a time to start. What’s stopping me? I don’t know. I need someone to take my hand and get me going.
I am a kind and very giving person to others but not to myself.
No self love.
I felt calm, at peace.
I was feeling tense most of the time wondering if I could do this the right way.
Thankyou Tara … Asking myself if I could be with my feeing with kindness, softened the sharpness of a moment of fear.
I began to feel my heart beat very fast, as I began to apply self compassion I began to soften.
I felt a sense of shame in recognizing that my feelings were in opposition with my values.
My heart area felt sad, yet when I stayed with the feeling the sadness lifted like a soft gentle, wave and I felt a calmness that felt awesome.
Thank you for sharing your story with me.
I feel so worried about exposing my self alone. I always try to work with friends because it’s so much fun BUT also it is a way to never be exposed by myself. I don’t have any problems when i attend a workshop or a class, but when I’m the guide and I’m alone I feel so much insecure than when I’m with others… I have mixed feelings about this. I FEEL this desire to just do it… but also it brings me a lot of tears to my eyes thinking about it. In my younger years I often felt rejected by my peers. Now I feel so empowered by my outsideness, but I carry this pattern of feeling rejected so embedded in my nervous system. I know I could start asking myself in every situation “What I’m experiencing it’s an actual rejection or it’s my pattern being triggered” then either way, I will use Tara’s keys “Can I be with this with kindness?” Yeah, I think I can. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and giving us some space to write whatever came.
It took me some time to identify what I was feeling, but I was able to attend to it with kindness, the kindness took over and that was all that was left. I could no longer go back to the emotion that I had been originally feeling. There was only kindness.
Mortal fear that never goes away, and rage at punishment when I have done nothing wrong.
Yes. Anger and fear of punishment for doing nothing wrong. A victim, a pawn of another’s deep wounded lashings. Being blamed externally, and not having the inner strength to seal myself, being filled with fear and feelings of injustice.
Grateful for the ease and relaxation I felt.
I felt how my whole body relaxed. I and what I felt was accepted. I was seen. I was not alone. I felt love.
I immediately felt lighter after offering to be with my feelings with kindness. I started with a feeling of roiling waters in my gut. after offering kindness, it became a still pond. brilliant.
I felt resistance and undeserving
I felt a block, like I can’t quite get there with kindness to myself just yet.
I can’t let my guard down.
I deflected the emotion by saving the video to my homescreen thereby interrupting the narrative and breaking the discomfort so i didn’t have to deal with my feelings. I went to autopilot.
I noticed how tired I’m right now, and how resistant I’m to rest
The video reminded me of something that I read Frequently, From An Early Talk Of Tara’s “The Sacred Pause “ I have Found That Embracing All That’s my Being, I’m able to Experience Loving Kindness,&, Self Compassion! Then and only Then Am I Able To Share This With Others…. Confronting myself was a Daunting Task, But I began being Free From The Bondage Of Self…. ?
I feel anxious yet hopeful
I felt a warmth and sense of acceptance
I thought about the uncertainty of what happens next. School, work, social changes as we move into the next stage of living with COVID in our humanity. Find the kindness to sit without solutions or plan, patience and curiosity at what will work and feel right for me and my family.
My heart broke open with the pain of hurting so much inside from a life of unhealed wounds. I felt my eyes watering, throat tightening, being on the edge of a big cry… I opened to the 2nd step and imagined hugging myself as the wounded child I carry within. I gave kindness to him. .. feels like I would need this forever to heal. I need so much more practice
I’ve really needed it. I’ve felt I am not alone because I can be with my feelings. Thank you, Tara.
it made me want to be in that kind peace forever and had me wonder if somehow this act is silencing/making passive all the people who can heal the wounds of the world or if we can access the unconscious healing to make changes in the physical
I thought of my mother and how she was unable to comfort me as a child and young adult. I could relate to your feelings of feeling like something is wrong with me- hoping I can learn to accept myself and comfort myself
I have to constantly remind myself to “please be kind” throughout the day. I still have such an inpatience with myself and it angers me. I’ve been working on this a long time. I just keep at it, but feel I should be better at it by now. One day at a time – I tell myself.
I think many of us deny that we feel unworthy in some ways. Your description of the trance of unworthiness doesn’t leave us any room to wiggle out of such feelings. Good work!
After a second hearing of the video, I felt a relief, a bit of peace, a start to considering without anger towards myself some attitudes or emotions I sometimes have and that I judge not positive and not helping with my relationship with other people. I jusge easily myself but also others and they feel it and make a step away from me and it hurts. A vicious circle as we say in French.
I have found psychotherapy for myself over the years but to wake the careing and asking myself can I be apart of this with care. I was younger and felt more vulnerable. But the healing and being a heart like an ocean to gravitate towards others but back to myself again is difficult Thank you
At first I could feel sadness and anxiety , then afterwards felt lighter and tearful. I had included my inner child and could feel her responding with warmth and love .
Thankyou Tara
When I tried to notice what was happening internally, I felt numb. It’s hard for me to notice this. My thoughts are many places and I can’t connect to how I am feeling easily. I have been practicing avoid challenging emotions all my life.
I did hear my inner critic with this tho.
I felt nothing initially, then an overwhelming feeling of pain, like heartbreak. I stayed with it and felt an embrace of some kind, like comfort and the upset seemed to lean in to that and I felt comforted.
Can I be with this? A powerful question that I never considered.
I found I was trying to push myself towards harness.
I have started think in new dimensions of life that I haven’t looked upon.
Thank for being insightful
I felt aversion to the kindness…
I feel relaxed, happier, though a bit confused.
I felt a wave of energy going from my chest to the pit of my stomach.
I experienced a sadness…and it shifted into amild optimism
Thank you for the beautiful light of your presence! When I attuned to what was within me with gentleness and kindness, my shoulders relaxed and my body and mind softened to the mental and physical tension I was carrying In this moment. Ahhhhhhhh….