Thank you, Tara. You are a bright light! My meditation practice has helped me move into my heart. Still today I feel some self aversion and the few moments there made me cry.
As an arrow shooting „expert“ I can feel very well once target shooting and hitting the bulls eye. That is one way of shooting and yet I have another „shooting image“ that I really like: shooting off an idea, thought, question and feel it „winging back to me“ with an answer…
Thank you for making me think deeper!
My name is Maricarmen, I’m from Costa Rica. Tara has been the most generous companion and guide throughout this pandemic and before. There’s no day I don’t listen to her and feel absolutely held by her energy, every day I feel closer and closer to myself and to who I really am in all my wholeness. Thank you Tara, for inspiring and accompanying me in my most sacred transformation.
Thank you so much Tara. I can start feel the space and the difference between head and heart, the heart space support.
I hope I can give this to the people I work with…
Lisa McConnell, Another Field, McPherson, KS, USAsays
I felt compassion for myself. I was able to move out of my mind and the pain/blame of my thoughts while feeling the comfort of being compassionate to myself. I put my hand on my heart and was able to feel compassionate love for myself and all those going through the stress of this pandemic.
This enabled my mood to lighten and release the pain/blame of my thoughts. I was able to remember that thos is what everyone is going through. And no one was to blame. It was a normal reaction to the events going on over the last year.
Thank u Tara
Love u -love ur work-love ur effort to heal
us from the inside out!
….It’s always me running from feelings
But when I gather courage , and it does take courage to slip down the steps from head to heart , feel sadness (a big one for me) … I can begin to know relief as the sadness has permission to be there , then move , shift and unstick …. I can be sweet to the human that is me … ? J
I felt aware of my harsh voice about my weight, my waistline, being fat and unattractive, my veins on my legs, my creepy skin
So unkind and judgemental
What a great way to start my day. I had an experience last night where I needed to find compassion with myself. I reflected upon it this morning in the exercise with Tara. I was triggered and I blamed myself. I struggled to stay in connection with what I was feeling as opposed to what my mind was saying. I still struggle. However, I practice. Eventually one will outweigh the other. Thank you.
Again, thank you Tara. I looked forward to your video today as I realize that is is part of my self-care to instill these concepts in my heart not just my head. For me, I have to consciously practice developing attention to my feelings, acknowledge them and move on to self-care. I understand my thoughts are just thoughts….and sometimes I let that suffice instead of addressing the feelings that caused the thought. I always feel better when I process my feelings instead of pushing them away or stuffing them down. It’s often old sadness, fear or laziness. I love exploring this way of living.
Thank you Tara. Your words came to me at the wright time. I am a recently Certified Coaching and I feel like Jenny did. I think I can´t be of any help to anyone. I´ll keep practising your exercises because I´ve felt so much better after doing them
Holy wow
Scary and awareness provoking.
Recognizing huge blocks. I understand deeper why my physical state is in such chaos.
I just hope I can heal my physical before the ‘no turn around stage’.
I was raised with a perfectionist script reinforced by both of my very perfectinistic parents. For me, nothing I do is “good enough”……I always fall short. Awareness of this trait is a critical first step, followed by challenging its truthfulness and then comforting myself with self compassion and acceptance that I have done the best I am capable of doing at that moment in time. No one is perfect, and that includes me. That’s O.K. because that’s the reality of life and dukka.
For the first time in over a year, kindness, a sense of being able to leave it be, felt possible when I did the exercise just now. I blame myself every time I get triggered by my four year old son (I’m very normal that way), but the self-blame spirals into habitual self-loathing left over from a traumatized childhood, and it’s been particularly difficult over the past couple of months for some reason. I’ve been following your work, Tara, for over a year now, and you have helped me begin to see that it IS possible to (allow myself to) heal after all… but self-kindness is something I struggle mightily with, and this simple exercise felt nurturing and soft, a pathway to easing the tight constriction I have felt in my heart especially in these past few weeks, as pain and disability from chronic illness flares. Namaste and thank you. May you be well.
Many thanks, as I became consciously aware of how I do not identify my gift of composing music , writing poetry. My ability to express myself well through words. Always allowed fear of criticism to go pubic. Now I do share some pieces with people. Trying to truly receive their kind messages of enjoyment listening to me play. Still a WIP. xx
I felt a spaciousness with who I am and my emotions and thoughts. I am not the judgement , I am not the self blame. The external circumstances that activate me internally are telling me something inside me needs my loving care and attention. It is practice, practice, practice. Thank you, Tara.
Ann Costilow, Social Work, Hattiesburg , MS, USAsays
Tara, thank you thank you thank you your teachings and tireless writing of things we can do to make our life happier and more content. I am so very grateful for you!!! I am on disability because of a major stomach condition and my funds are very limited… I can’t afford to pay for your videos but since they’re free I don’t get left behind, as you say. I play your videos in my car in my house and everywhere in between. If I’m feeling blue I put on your videos and my life gets better!
Tara, your words of wisdom (regardless of how many times I hear them), are so inspiring and reassuring.
The process as described, continues to be incredibly freeing and healing!
You have been and continue to be, rays of sunshine?
Thank you Tara?
I’ve been a therapist for 30 years and still feel inadequate, like “Jenny”. My second arrow has been condemning myself for my continued insecurity. This video helped me see that. Thank you!
This video comes at a perfect moment for me when I’m suffering from the pain of calmly setting a boundary and asking for a need of mine to be met. Yes, by my beloved, but mainly by me! Heart space for this Empath is hard to find for myself. I will be practicing your method and learn to have compassion for myself, perhaps even First!
Thank you,
Sheila
Thank you for your message about judgement is the root of the feelings of unworthiness and depression. I think I agree that. Judging things ourselves and around us is an adaptive ability to live life but these days it gets problematic while it is still useful. I think there are some reasons about this and one of them is that we learn from the early age that we should this and that so we try to keep our thoughts and emotions and behaviors in certain ways. And this makes us we are not fit well on certain category or something…
from Suwon, Korea. Now I feel I am not good in English… yet I courage myself to write this…
I’d just been laying in bed feeling anxious and insecure and thinking about what an insecure attachment I had to my mom, and decided I’d be better off not even trying to have a successful relationship with a man. Writing that off as a lost cause. Maybe the insecurity isn’t the problem but my negative attitude toward it.
Thank you, Tara. I was raised by a good but very judgmental mother whose voice I internalized. She judged everything and everyone. In fact, when she was quite elderly and in an assisted living facility, one of the aides came up to me one day and said, “How did you stand it?” I said, “What?” She said, “The judgment of your mother; everyone here calls her The Judge.” Your exercise helps.
Thank you, Tara. I was raised by a very judgmental mother whose voice I internalized. In fact, when she was quite elderly and in an assisted living facility, one of the aides came up to me one day and said, “How did you stand it?” I said, “What?” She said, “The judgment of your mother; everyone here calls her The Judge.” Your exercise helps.
During my listening I felt happy and I remembered some sentences, written by Angelius Silesius (1624-1677), in which it says:
„Halt an, wo läufst Du hin? Der Himmel ist in dir. Suchst du Gott anderswo, du fehlst ihn, für und für“ (Hold on, where are you running? The heaven is in you. If you are searching for God somewhere else, you will miss him, again and again (or more and more?)
Thanks a lot for your loving and healing words and voice. With greetings from Germany, Veronika
Thank you Tara. The metaphor of two arrows captures a dynamic within me that has followed me throughout life….often expressed as a voice saying ” you shouldn’t feel this way “.
Head to heart-space exercise, helped me to stop being judgemental . It helped me to be more compassionate. I went through an experience this morning and I could not understand what this person did to me. I was there judging myself and also judging the person, saying that I don’t understand her behaviour. But this exercise has challenged me now. I feel relaxed. Thanks a lot.
This is very helpful and I plan to use with myself and my clients. Thank you for sharing gifts that keep on giving.
Learning to be compassionate with myself using the tools helps me learn how to teach them to others and hopefully make this world a more compassionate place to live
Thanks
Jeannie
I have done this practice many times and then get away from it. I forget how powerful it is. God bless you Tara for all the people you touch with your generous sharing of this life changing practice! Thank you❤️
During the head to heart to heart-space exercise, I incorporated deep breathing and was able to release the tensions and anxiety I was feeling. With this I was able to focus on breathing in self-compassion and exhaling negative thoughts. This allowed me to open up my heart-space and let go of releasing that second arrow. What an excellent way to redirect any negative thought patterns that may come up at any time! Thank you very much for this exercise.
Dear Tara I had a powerful dream after watching your first video. I felt so happy to discover that I was part of a habit that swept me away in a trance of unworthiness. I have made notes on the steps needed to change . My prayer is that this gift you have so freely given, will help me surrender deeply into living in love. I have felt so trapped, sending. so much love and blessings xDianax
Ollie McLaughlin, Another Field, Costa Mesa, CA, USAsays
For victims of PTSD like myself, this exercise is not only essential, it is lifesaving. I have repeated patterns cemented by abuse and I have listened to your heart space meditation more times than I can count. More than anything, the compassionate space of releasing the need to shame myself has given me my life back and freedom to live as myself. Thank you teacher. I have much to learn from you.
It brought some clarity into my understanding of the things that I do that you are able to describe very well (without even knowing me Tara). Thanks you x
opening in my heart as I realize that I put a lot of self blame on me. And it goes right to the lumb and the heart.
After doing this exercice, feeling more powerfull. Thank you !
Found this helpful but I needed more time to experience the path from head to heart to heart space. I feel this path is going to need more focus for me. Thank you for opening the door.
Thank you for sharing these videos they are clear and insightful. Keep them coming as I love the explanations to identifying struggles with visual aids of the ocean – simply and yet so transferrable.
I am just learning this concept and really loving it. Thank you.
How can we achieve a balance between self-compassion and narcissism?
Thank you, Tara. You are a bright light! My meditation practice has helped me move into my heart. Still today I feel some self aversion and the few moments there made me cry.
As an arrow shooting „expert“ I can feel very well once target shooting and hitting the bulls eye. That is one way of shooting and yet I have another „shooting image“ that I really like: shooting off an idea, thought, question and feel it „winging back to me“ with an answer…
Thank you for making me think deeper!
My name is Maricarmen, I’m from Costa Rica. Tara has been the most generous companion and guide throughout this pandemic and before. There’s no day I don’t listen to her and feel absolutely held by her energy, every day I feel closer and closer to myself and to who I really am in all my wholeness. Thank you Tara, for inspiring and accompanying me in my most sacred transformation.
Enjoyed this video but seemed a little vague at times. Hoping for more concrete habits.
As I was able to hold my experience with compassion it felt less intense and dissipated.
I paused, came out of my thoughts, went into feeling what was happening in my body, and just breathed deep breaths. It felt good to just be.
Thank you so much Tara. I can start feel the space and the difference between head and heart, the heart space support.
I hope I can give this to the people I work with…
I felt compassion for myself. I was able to move out of my mind and the pain/blame of my thoughts while feeling the comfort of being compassionate to myself. I put my hand on my heart and was able to feel compassionate love for myself and all those going through the stress of this pandemic.
This enabled my mood to lighten and release the pain/blame of my thoughts. I was able to remember that thos is what everyone is going through. And no one was to blame. It was a normal reaction to the events going on over the last year.
Thank u Tara
Love u -love ur work-love ur effort to heal
us from the inside out!
….It’s always me running from feelings
But when I gather courage , and it does take courage to slip down the steps from head to heart , feel sadness (a big one for me) … I can begin to know relief as the sadness has permission to be there , then move , shift and unstick …. I can be sweet to the human that is me … ? J
I felt aware of my harsh voice about my weight, my waistline, being fat and unattractive, my veins on my legs, my creepy skin
So unkind and judgemental
A sense of grace
I loved the image of the ocean and the waves, how the waves belong to the ocean, it is okay for the waves to be in the ocean they belong there.
What a great way to start my day. I had an experience last night where I needed to find compassion with myself. I reflected upon it this morning in the exercise with Tara. I was triggered and I blamed myself. I struggled to stay in connection with what I was feeling as opposed to what my mind was saying. I still struggle. However, I practice. Eventually one will outweigh the other. Thank you.
Lovely way to open the heart space..❤️
Again, thank you Tara. I looked forward to your video today as I realize that is is part of my self-care to instill these concepts in my heart not just my head. For me, I have to consciously practice developing attention to my feelings, acknowledge them and move on to self-care. I understand my thoughts are just thoughts….and sometimes I let that suffice instead of addressing the feelings that caused the thought. I always feel better when I process my feelings instead of pushing them away or stuffing them down. It’s often old sadness, fear or laziness. I love exploring this way of living.
Thank you Tara. Your words came to me at the wright time. I am a recently Certified Coaching and I feel like Jenny did. I think I can´t be of any help to anyone. I´ll keep practising your exercises because I´ve felt so much better after doing them
Holy wow
Scary and awareness provoking.
Recognizing huge blocks. I understand deeper why my physical state is in such chaos.
I just hope I can heal my physical before the ‘no turn around stage’.
I was raised with a perfectionist script reinforced by both of my very perfectinistic parents. For me, nothing I do is “good enough”……I always fall short. Awareness of this trait is a critical first step, followed by challenging its truthfulness and then comforting myself with self compassion and acceptance that I have done the best I am capable of doing at that moment in time. No one is perfect, and that includes me. That’s O.K. because that’s the reality of life and dukka.
So many wise words! I was particularly struck with the suggestion to offer care to vulnerability. Loving kindness for the self. Many thanks.
For the first time in over a year, kindness, a sense of being able to leave it be, felt possible when I did the exercise just now. I blame myself every time I get triggered by my four year old son (I’m very normal that way), but the self-blame spirals into habitual self-loathing left over from a traumatized childhood, and it’s been particularly difficult over the past couple of months for some reason. I’ve been following your work, Tara, for over a year now, and you have helped me begin to see that it IS possible to (allow myself to) heal after all… but self-kindness is something I struggle mightily with, and this simple exercise felt nurturing and soft, a pathway to easing the tight constriction I have felt in my heart especially in these past few weeks, as pain and disability from chronic illness flares. Namaste and thank you. May you be well.
Many thanks, as I became consciously aware of how I do not identify my gift of composing music , writing poetry. My ability to express myself well through words. Always allowed fear of criticism to go pubic. Now I do share some pieces with people. Trying to truly receive their kind messages of enjoyment listening to me play. Still a WIP. xx
I felt a spaciousness with who I am and my emotions and thoughts. I am not the judgement , I am not the self blame. The external circumstances that activate me internally are telling me something inside me needs my loving care and attention. It is practice, practice, practice. Thank you, Tara.
Tara, thank you thank you thank you your teachings and tireless writing of things we can do to make our life happier and more content. I am so very grateful for you!!! I am on disability because of a major stomach condition and my funds are very limited… I can’t afford to pay for your videos but since they’re free I don’t get left behind, as you say. I play your videos in my car in my house and everywhere in between. If I’m feeling blue I put on your videos and my life gets better!
Tara, your words of wisdom (regardless of how many times I hear them), are so inspiring and reassuring.
The process as described, continues to be incredibly freeing and healing!
You have been and continue to be, rays of sunshine?
Thank you Tara?
A softening and felt okay to say you belong,
Thanks.It makes sense.It enlarges heart
I’ve been a therapist for 30 years and still feel inadequate, like “Jenny”. My second arrow has been condemning myself for my continued insecurity. This video helped me see that. Thank you!
This video comes at a perfect moment for me when I’m suffering from the pain of calmly setting a boundary and asking for a need of mine to be met. Yes, by my beloved, but mainly by me! Heart space for this Empath is hard to find for myself. I will be practicing your method and learn to have compassion for myself, perhaps even First!
Thank you,
Sheila
Thank you for your message about judgement is the root of the feelings of unworthiness and depression. I think I agree that. Judging things ourselves and around us is an adaptive ability to live life but these days it gets problematic while it is still useful. I think there are some reasons about this and one of them is that we learn from the early age that we should this and that so we try to keep our thoughts and emotions and behaviors in certain ways. And this makes us we are not fit well on certain category or something…
from Suwon, Korea. Now I feel I am not good in English… yet I courage myself to write this…
I’d just been laying in bed feeling anxious and insecure and thinking about what an insecure attachment I had to my mom, and decided I’d be better off not even trying to have a successful relationship with a man. Writing that off as a lost cause. Maybe the insecurity isn’t the problem but my negative attitude toward it.
Thank you, Tara. I was raised by a good but very judgmental mother whose voice I internalized. She judged everything and everyone. In fact, when she was quite elderly and in an assisted living facility, one of the aides came up to me one day and said, “How did you stand it?” I said, “What?” She said, “The judgment of your mother; everyone here calls her The Judge.” Your exercise helps.
Thank you, Tara. I was raised by a very judgmental mother whose voice I internalized. In fact, when she was quite elderly and in an assisted living facility, one of the aides came up to me one day and said, “How did you stand it?” I said, “What?” She said, “The judgment of your mother; everyone here calls her The Judge.” Your exercise helps.
During my listening I felt happy and I remembered some sentences, written by Angelius Silesius (1624-1677), in which it says:
„Halt an, wo läufst Du hin? Der Himmel ist in dir. Suchst du Gott anderswo, du fehlst ihn, für und für“ (Hold on, where are you running? The heaven is in you. If you are searching for God somewhere else, you will miss him, again and again (or more and more?)
Thanks a lot for your loving and healing words and voice. With greetings from Germany, Veronika
Awareness: The heart-space holds the community of shared care-taking of all hearts.
Thank you Tara. The metaphor of two arrows captures a dynamic within me that has followed me throughout life….often expressed as a voice saying ” you shouldn’t feel this way “.
Head to heart-space exercise, helped me to stop being judgemental . It helped me to be more compassionate. I went through an experience this morning and I could not understand what this person did to me. I was there judging myself and also judging the person, saying that I don’t understand her behaviour. But this exercise has challenged me now. I feel relaxed. Thanks a lot.
This is very helpful and I plan to use with myself and my clients. Thank you for sharing gifts that keep on giving.
Learning to be compassionate with myself using the tools helps me learn how to teach them to others and hopefully make this world a more compassionate place to live
Thanks
Jeannie
I have done this practice many times and then get away from it. I forget how powerful it is. God bless you Tara for all the people you touch with your generous sharing of this life changing practice! Thank you❤️
During the head to heart to heart-space exercise, I incorporated deep breathing and was able to release the tensions and anxiety I was feeling. With this I was able to focus on breathing in self-compassion and exhaling negative thoughts. This allowed me to open up my heart-space and let go of releasing that second arrow. What an excellent way to redirect any negative thought patterns that may come up at any time! Thank you very much for this exercise.
Terrence Needom
My whole body relaxed!
Beautiful ?
Dear Tara I had a powerful dream after watching your first video. I felt so happy to discover that I was part of a habit that swept me away in a trance of unworthiness. I have made notes on the steps needed to change . My prayer is that this gift you have so freely given, will help me surrender deeply into living in love. I have felt so trapped, sending. so much love and blessings xDianax
For victims of PTSD like myself, this exercise is not only essential, it is lifesaving. I have repeated patterns cemented by abuse and I have listened to your heart space meditation more times than I can count. More than anything, the compassionate space of releasing the need to shame myself has given me my life back and freedom to live as myself. Thank you teacher. I have much to learn from you.
It brought some clarity into my understanding of the things that I do that you are able to describe very well (without even knowing me Tara). Thanks you x
opening in my heart as I realize that I put a lot of self blame on me. And it goes right to the lumb and the heart.
After doing this exercice, feeling more powerfull. Thank you !
Found this helpful but I needed more time to experience the path from head to heart to heart space. I feel this path is going to need more focus for me. Thank you for opening the door.
Tears come – and I tell me that’s ok x
Thank you for sharing these videos they are clear and insightful. Keep them coming as I love the explanations to identifying struggles with visual aids of the ocean – simply and yet so transferrable.