Tara, Thank you for your very needed reminder about self compassion and self acceptance. I agree that to the degree that I accept myself and am compassionate with myself, to the same degree I become accepting and loving towards the others.
Your calm and gentle voice uplifts the soul and creates and environment of peace and compassion.
I look forward to your future lessons for life!
Dear Tara,
You words are so encouraging and warm and spoken from experience. You fill me with hope that I can stop being so critical and uncaring for myself and do that U-turn and be more kind and compassionate to myself and then also, as a result, to others. Compassion and tolerance are desperately needed in our world today, more than ever.
Thank you for being there and helping us and for your leadership and support.
God bless you…caroline
I am fortunate to have experienced an open heart as a child, and I know what it feels like to love and be loved without judgement. I just realized that when others judge me, I accept their judgement. I now see that my leg is not caught in the trap anymore. People that are mean to me are afraid of me, and they are barking and biting at me to let me know they are afraid. I will try to help people out of their traps one at a time to join me rolling around in fields of flowers, and swimming in the perfect temperature waves. I feel like I can love the barking, biting dogs again. I was afraid to love them because every time I did they bit me.
I found the resentment I was feeling was very deep and closely held. And, that it was my holding it that has put a wall around me. I wasn’t able to make a complete U turn, but I will continue to work on this resentment in this way as I think it’ll work. Thank you.
Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom. I have begun to awaken to my self/blaming, anger and blaming others. I discovered your book on Radical Acceptance, began regular mindful meditations and just found these three videos. I am trying to learn to embrace kindness and look forward to more growth.
Warm thoughts, lots of gratitude and wishing you well.
Deborah Van Cleef, Another Field, Norfolk, VA, USAsays
I’ve spent my life understanding where others come from. My issue has been the lack of self-compassion, understanding my own pain. Thank you for helping me to learn that I am enough as I am and am of value.
Wow! I can really relate and appreciate not only the description of what happens when we blame and hold resentment but the tool to help us become more aware and investigate our own feelings. I’m finding that in this covid environment of Zoom and distance contact, it’s so easy to write people off in a way that I would not if my interaction with them was in person. Thanks for sharing, Tara.
Erica
I’m a big fan of Tara Brach’s work and these videos were lovely. We can’t hear the message of the need for compassion for ourselves and others too often, especially in these times. Thank you.
Lin Topping, Social Work, Apple Valley, MN, USAsays
This 3-part series has been so helpful to hear, even though I have read many of your books and listened to many of your online blogs and YouTube videos. They are always relevant, always fresh and enlightening, and always welcome.
There is really no blame, just self protection, protection from abuse. They have their feet trapped by perpetual legacy of pain but I cannot play along. Opening my heart is only for me. I deserve love and compassion. Let others answer for their actions. Loving self acceptance is my goal.
I have trigeminal neuralgia, it is so scary but it is linked to being repeatedly abused by people in my life with no warning. Random assaults, psychotic people around my house and landlords. I have been trying to get away from it but I feels like a curse for my entire life. Who would I be without this anger and resentment? I’m actually scared to find out because I would be so powerful. I don’t have a lot of safe emotions left but I feel like someone who has been pushed and punched and pushed down over and over and over and over again well I must be made of steel. I certainly don’t feel like I am though.
I’ve been practicing this, honoring my hurt but realizing the whys of the behaviors of others. I have set boundaries with some and removed others due to behaviors still existing. Being in control of that is so freeing ??
Hi Tara,
I was first introduced to your work in the Awake Network / the Center for Mindful Self Compassion Summit.
I immediately went to work on using your RAIN process. The release and relief I experienced was astounding. Thank you so much for sharing. I gave another therapist your information, and I sent your book to a dear friend who missed the summit!
The process presented here has erased resentment I have carried toward someone I have deeply cared for with great effort over many years, only to have this person take a hard turn and ‘cancel’ me a year ago. With that, I let go, too. There has been improvements and now, today I can release the past with understanding. To answer your question: lighter, much lighter. 🙂
Thank you again for sharing!
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Tara, Thank you for your very needed reminder about self compassion and self acceptance. I agree that to the degree that I accept myself and am compassionate with myself, to the same degree I become accepting and loving towards the others.
Your calm and gentle voice uplifts the soul and creates and environment of peace and compassion.
I look forward to your future lessons for life!
Dear Tara,
You words are so encouraging and warm and spoken from experience. You fill me with hope that I can stop being so critical and uncaring for myself and do that U-turn and be more kind and compassionate to myself and then also, as a result, to others. Compassion and tolerance are desperately needed in our world today, more than ever.
Thank you for being there and helping us and for your leadership and support.
God bless you…caroline
A more tranquil person. Lighter and more content
A loving wife, instead of a guarded one
I found this very helpful and of course very difficult
I am fortunate to have experienced an open heart as a child, and I know what it feels like to love and be loved without judgement. I just realized that when others judge me, I accept their judgement. I now see that my leg is not caught in the trap anymore. People that are mean to me are afraid of me, and they are barking and biting at me to let me know they are afraid. I will try to help people out of their traps one at a time to join me rolling around in fields of flowers, and swimming in the perfect temperature waves. I feel like I can love the barking, biting dogs again. I was afraid to love them because every time I did they bit me.
This is a painful process that brings up extreme feelings of grief and loss, but I choose to have the courage to feel.
I found the resentment I was feeling was very deep and closely held. And, that it was my holding it that has put a wall around me. I wasn’t able to make a complete U turn, but I will continue to work on this resentment in this way as I think it’ll work. Thank you.
I would be at peace and find more joy in my life.
Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom. I have begun to awaken to my self/blaming, anger and blaming others. I discovered your book on Radical Acceptance, began regular mindful meditations and just found these three videos. I am trying to learn to embrace kindness and look forward to more growth.
Warm thoughts, lots of gratitude and wishing you well.
Thank you so much. It is so helpful and relieving.
I have not been able to sleep well .
I feel comfort within me.
I’ve spent my life understanding where others come from. My issue has been the lack of self-compassion, understanding my own pain. Thank you for helping me to learn that I am enough as I am and am of value.
Wow! I can really relate and appreciate not only the description of what happens when we blame and hold resentment but the tool to help us become more aware and investigate our own feelings. I’m finding that in this covid environment of Zoom and distance contact, it’s so easy to write people off in a way that I would not if my interaction with them was in person. Thanks for sharing, Tara.
Erica
I’m a big fan of Tara Brach’s work and these videos were lovely. We can’t hear the message of the need for compassion for ourselves and others too often, especially in these times. Thank you.
Always inspiring to listen to your heartfelt and wise words Tara. Thank you for your calm and thoughtful presence.
A much better version of me
Sudenly I have a different view when I look at by making a Uturn. Thank you
Thank you the exercises are easy to practice and simple while being very effective. I especially like the dog being trapped as it is so visual.
More connected to my family
I’d feel more blessed.
Very useful
Thank you.
More connected to my family
My husband would be a different person.
So grateful for your wise words. I have been practising self-compassion for a while now using RAIN. Tara’s words are saving my heart!
Thank you that was lovely
I would be much freer, able to more fully enjoy life … to be present and giving to myself and others.
With one u-turn begun I feel more alive and curious.
I feel my judgemental ways which lead to trying to control others stems from self-judgment.
I would be more compassionate and more connected to others.
Happy, joyful, more balanced.
This 3-part series has been so helpful to hear, even though I have read many of your books and listened to many of your online blogs and YouTube videos. They are always relevant, always fresh and enlightening, and always welcome.
I learned it from my family, and they learned it from theirs. Finding a new way to look at things would be like setting down a big bag of old rocks.
This was really well done; I appreciated the subtle music in the background. I’m having a hard time right now & this made me cry.
Courageous approach to healing.
Relaxed joyful happy
Great workshop!
at ease, contented, loving
There is really no blame, just self protection, protection from abuse. They have their feet trapped by perpetual legacy of pain but I cannot play along. Opening my heart is only for me. I deserve love and compassion. Let others answer for their actions. Loving self acceptance is my goal.
What a amazing workshop! Thank you!!!
I would be happier, more joyful and loving.
I have trigeminal neuralgia, it is so scary but it is linked to being repeatedly abused by people in my life with no warning. Random assaults, psychotic people around my house and landlords. I have been trying to get away from it but I feels like a curse for my entire life. Who would I be without this anger and resentment? I’m actually scared to find out because I would be so powerful. I don’t have a lot of safe emotions left but I feel like someone who has been pushed and punched and pushed down over and over and over and over again well I must be made of steel. I certainly don’t feel like I am though.
I’ve been practicing this, honoring my hurt but realizing the whys of the behaviors of others. I have set boundaries with some and removed others due to behaviors still existing. Being in control of that is so freeing ??
A more loving being.
Hi Tara,
I was first introduced to your work in the Awake Network / the Center for Mindful Self Compassion Summit.
I immediately went to work on using your RAIN process. The release and relief I experienced was astounding. Thank you so much for sharing. I gave another therapist your information, and I sent your book to a dear friend who missed the summit!
The process presented here has erased resentment I have carried toward someone I have deeply cared for with great effort over many years, only to have this person take a hard turn and ‘cancel’ me a year ago. With that, I let go, too. There has been improvements and now, today I can release the past with understanding. To answer your question: lighter, much lighter. 🙂
Thank you again for sharing!
I would be more kind, compassionate and less judgmental…as I tried to walk in the other’s shoes.
Who would I be? I would be real, connected with others in a meaningful way. I would be present and vulnerable and not numb. I would see God in others.
Thank you Tara. Very useful the tools you provided in all the videos
I would be more calm, productive and less self -focused.