meg chrisler, Another Field, Lynchburg , VA, USAsays
This has really helped me let go of some fear. Not all, but some. And to feel much more compassion towards others including family members. Much gratitude to you, Tara, for truly helping others!
So interesting that you mentioned putting your hand over your heart for self-compassion.
Last night, I was dealing with some issues, and I found myself putting my hand over my heart, and I experienced the comfort of that gesture settling into my soul.
Thank you so much for creating these videos and sharing them! So freeing!
Self-compassion is incredibly powerful. It provides a place that is safe for healing to take place.
Thank you always, Tara. Your wisdom has empowered me to grow and become me. (I hope someday, somewhere, you can answer my question about the tsunami. I sent it in the email.)
While I grieve and regret decisions I have made in the past, I do not feel blame. I know I could only have done what I did and that is the past and done and must be accepted. I forgive myself, but am afraid that given options in the future, I may make the same limiting decisions again. I give myself compassion for that but wonder how to change that. As far as forgiving others, I find that I see some individuals who truly are self centered, with no compassion, other than superficially, whose compassion for others is not found in their actions, and they continue to hurt others while feeling totally justified. My inclination is to remove myself from them as I do not feel they will change. And it is not up to me to change them. How do you forgive those who continue to hurt others? You speak of their having their foot in a trap, but sometimes it appears people just can’t empathize and prioritize others’ pain. Hard to be with that.
If I let go of judgements of others I would be free to let things in my life unfold as they would more naturally, without trying to make my judgements be “right”. A person is always capable of change. If I can allow my perception of them the freedom to change I can view them in a new light. I know I am always changing, searching and trying to understand myself better. I realize that some people are not interested in self introspection. If I step back and view their behavior towards me as information only and not as a personal insult or hurt, I can begin to understand them a bit and have compassion for them. We don’t know what another person experiences/feels inside.
Hi Tara,
These series of videos have given me lots of food for thought and how self blame can limit our view of life and the energy it consumes. I am grateful for the experiences that I can practice towards myself and share with clients, and family as well.
Heart felt thanks
Alice, psychotherapist,
Ireland
So full of gratefulness for your generous gift! To identify those resentments without blame was key for me this morning. I was fooled into thinking I should be able to do this on my own “this” time, which really was a severe self evaluation, judgement really.
Thank you again and again.Since I first “met” you in 2018, my financial means have really declined and so I cannot participate in a while program on any platform. Happy continuation.
Tara’s compassionate heart and powerful wisdom and care makes direct contact with my own feelings of compassion and care for myself.
The young man, who’s father told him ” I’m afraid you never knew how much I loved you” was given that gift as a result of finding forgiveness for his father.
It’s the most precious gift one could both give and receive. Thank you so much !
As I practiced these mini sessions Tara has shared I could feel my shoulders drop creating space, heart space. I love that you could drop into these moments of creating self compassion at any time with practice. This is something that I will begin to practice and to share with clients in the future. Looking forward to more! Thank you Tara.
I would be free to be creative and productive in my life, not paralysed by fear, shame and anxiety. I know judgement and blame are expressions of my own feelings of unworthiness, and I have been judging and blaming myself more than anyone else.
Some concerns about this video for people struggling with trauma of chronic childhood sexual emotional and physical abuse. I believe it is important to emphasize the part you describe of taking the time and offering compassion to yourself as the journey may be hard. Everyone must work with their own story. Not everyone has a father who will offer love. We must love ourselves.
Thank you very much for this program, I watched all 3 videos and I think this as a high value for me! It helps a lot to cultivate acceptance of all feelings and self-compassion and compassion for others. And I appreaciate the metaphors and pictures you offer.
Very soothing voice! I find the images distracting and too commercial like. Thanks for introducing this method. I liked the metaphors, the personal story, and the clarity.
I recognize how much I abandon myself when I ruminate on how hurtful my husband has been. Blame is a place I go that avoids both action and truly sitting with my own being. No one is with the scared and wounded me because my resources are all on the front lines facing the “threat” and no one is tending to the wounded. Maybe being with my own fear feels too scary. But in these practices when I turned to my fear and aloneness, I felt such softening and young hurt. It felt so validated and cared for, so finally not alone. I really hope I can return to that place where am I alone is isn’t alone anymore because I’m not just standing guard at the edge of the cave, but I’m also sitting with the raw and tender parts of myself but I’m guarding let so long for my presence with them. They don’t have to be alone. I don’t have to be alone. Thank you…
If I let go of judgment and chronic blame, I would be a women at peace with myself, all beings and the world.
These teachings are helping me to realize my basic goodness,
Thank you.
Tara,
Thank you so much for your sharing this message.
I have needed this u-turn for a long time.
What a precious gift I have received.
Mike, Chaplain, Indiana.
Something in Tara Brach’s manner is remarkably engaging. The 3 videos were very helpful. I appreciated how much they gave in such a short time. I shared them with colleagues and received thanks for sharing them and positive feedback (a first for the feedback). This is as Tara acknowledged such a difficult time. Thank you for putting these out.
Thank you for this. I would be the leader I am meant to be. To help people – especially women – to realize their own power for goodness in our world. Blessings be with all of you.
Hi Tara for over 50 years,judgement and blame have led me to repeated episodes of depression and self destructive behaviour;rightly you say that letting go does not nor cannot take place overnight. Grateful thanks for helping shift consciousness, fostering loving awareness and compassion in place of resentment, anger and bitterness.
Jim Caster, Another Field, vero beach, FL, USAsays
Thank you…as intended, it opened an awareness that seem so logical that
thinking about that self judgement before the series would never have crossed
my mind…..I have done the “I am enough” program with Marisa Peer and this
suggested it would pretty cool to hear more. It seems an open curiosity to
the “better life” is a road that is filled with promise
These were so profoundly helpful. I have struggled all my adult life with perfectionism, and the resulting struggle with self blame, self judgement and self forgiveness. Since the death of my oldest son 20 months ago, forgiving myself (and life’s sometimes seeming unfairness) has brought in focus the invitation to learning to offer deep compassion to myself. These tools makes so much sense in helping me continue to heal and open my heart. Something I can always turn to. Thank you.
Thank you Tara! Have been feeling stuck for sometime now & today while coming home to my own feelings & meeting myself with compassion feel a sense of release. It will take practice to develop this skill & am looking forward to the results?❤️
When judgement and chronic blame vanish and vanquish from my habit pool, I will be more even, fair and peaceful connecting with others with harmony rather than discord. From past experience, when I have let go of judgement and chronic blame, I have been able to be more present, value the now, and enjoy others and feel lighter, more joy. Thank you for steady guidance and grounding support!
Karen Conway, Another Field, Colorado Springs, CO, USAsays
Thank you for this series. It was helpful to share the first video with my husband to help him understand what I am feeling, due to personal experiences but also the deep sadness I have over society’s divisiveness.
As always, Tara explains ways to help us and others to become more compassionate and to open to our own experience and that of others in such a beautiful way. The three videos were a lovely way of explaining ways to work with self- blame and judgments. Very succinct and very helpful.
A woman who is more forgiving of herself and others To have loving-kindness towards herself and others. To accept herself as being human and to allow that same acceptance for others.
Kristine Wilsusen, Health Education, Wharton, NJ, USAsays
Thank you. I felt compassion for myself and my mother, who I hold resentment for my shame for her behaviors. Seeing her face and realizing this is her journey and if I continue to send love to her our relationship will ultimately change.
Thank you!
Kristine
I can really relate to self blame, I call it “critical voice” inside my head. I am trying to work on hearing “benevolent voice”, but it is not easy. Thank you for your wisdom.
It is very helpful to have all these steps explained. I also liked that you stressed the difference it makes for traumatized people – that is an important point. These steps are surely very helpful with depressed clients although they might also need some medication. Thank you!!
This has really helped me let go of some fear. Not all, but some. And to feel much more compassion towards others including family members. Much gratitude to you, Tara, for truly helping others!
So interesting that you mentioned putting your hand over your heart for self-compassion.
Last night, I was dealing with some issues, and I found myself putting my hand over my heart, and I experienced the comfort of that gesture settling into my soul.
Thank you so much for creating these videos and sharing them! So freeing!
A more effective and compassionate therapist!
I would still be me – but softer. And I might be perceived as less intimidating to vulnerable people around me.
Self-compassion is incredibly powerful. It provides a place that is safe for healing to take place.
Thank you always, Tara. Your wisdom has empowered me to grow and become me. (I hope someday, somewhere, you can answer my question about the tsunami. I sent it in the email.)
A softening within.
While I grieve and regret decisions I have made in the past, I do not feel blame. I know I could only have done what I did and that is the past and done and must be accepted. I forgive myself, but am afraid that given options in the future, I may make the same limiting decisions again. I give myself compassion for that but wonder how to change that. As far as forgiving others, I find that I see some individuals who truly are self centered, with no compassion, other than superficially, whose compassion for others is not found in their actions, and they continue to hurt others while feeling totally justified. My inclination is to remove myself from them as I do not feel they will change. And it is not up to me to change them. How do you forgive those who continue to hurt others? You speak of their having their foot in a trap, but sometimes it appears people just can’t empathize and prioritize others’ pain. Hard to be with that.
Excellent wisdom. Beautifully , powerfully and succinctly put. I’m very grateful.
If I let go of judgements of others I would be free to let things in my life unfold as they would more naturally, without trying to make my judgements be “right”. A person is always capable of change. If I can allow my perception of them the freedom to change I can view them in a new light. I know I am always changing, searching and trying to understand myself better. I realize that some people are not interested in self introspection. If I step back and view their behavior towards me as information only and not as a personal insult or hurt, I can begin to understand them a bit and have compassion for them. We don’t know what another person experiences/feels inside.
Hi Tara,
These series of videos have given me lots of food for thought and how self blame can limit our view of life and the energy it consumes. I am grateful for the experiences that I can practice towards myself and share with clients, and family as well.
Heart felt thanks
Alice, psychotherapist,
Ireland
I’d be a healthier me. I’d be a better partner, friend, daughter, sister, co-worker. I’d be bringing more peace and love into the world.
So full of gratefulness for your generous gift! To identify those resentments without blame was key for me this morning. I was fooled into thinking I should be able to do this on my own “this” time, which really was a severe self evaluation, judgement really.
Thank you again and again.Since I first “met” you in 2018, my financial means have really declined and so I cannot participate in a while program on any platform. Happy continuation.
The instant I could see the other as a wounded one, I sensed a softening, a tenderness in myself, both toward them and toward myself.
So powerful… will write “u-turn” on a post-it and hang somewhere where I can see it …thank you…
Was very powerful for me. Dealing with some issues from my past and a family member who is dealing with something in her past.
Tara’s compassionate heart and powerful wisdom and care makes direct contact with my own feelings of compassion and care for myself.
The young man, who’s father told him ” I’m afraid you never knew how much I loved you” was given that gift as a result of finding forgiveness for his father.
It’s the most precious gift one could both give and receive. Thank you so much !
I would be an agent of radical and lasting change through loving acceptance in my own personal relationships, and in my professional life too.
As I practiced these mini sessions Tara has shared I could feel my shoulders drop creating space, heart space. I love that you could drop into these moments of creating self compassion at any time with practice. This is something that I will begin to practice and to share with clients in the future. Looking forward to more! Thank you Tara.
I would be free to be creative and productive in my life, not paralysed by fear, shame and anxiety. I know judgement and blame are expressions of my own feelings of unworthiness, and I have been judging and blaming myself more than anyone else.
Some concerns about this video for people struggling with trauma of chronic childhood sexual emotional and physical abuse. I believe it is important to emphasize the part you describe of taking the time and offering compassion to yourself as the journey may be hard. Everyone must work with their own story. Not everyone has a father who will offer love. We must love ourselves.
Thank you very much for this program, I watched all 3 videos and I think this as a high value for me! It helps a lot to cultivate acceptance of all feelings and self-compassion and compassion for others. And I appreaciate the metaphors and pictures you offer.
Very soothing voice! I find the images distracting and too commercial like. Thanks for introducing this method. I liked the metaphors, the personal story, and the clarity.
I would be funny, lighthearted, loving and wise.
I recognize how much I abandon myself when I ruminate on how hurtful my husband has been. Blame is a place I go that avoids both action and truly sitting with my own being. No one is with the scared and wounded me because my resources are all on the front lines facing the “threat” and no one is tending to the wounded. Maybe being with my own fear feels too scary. But in these practices when I turned to my fear and aloneness, I felt such softening and young hurt. It felt so validated and cared for, so finally not alone. I really hope I can return to that place where am I alone is isn’t alone anymore because I’m not just standing guard at the edge of the cave, but I’m also sitting with the raw and tender parts of myself but I’m guarding let so long for my presence with them. They don’t have to be alone. I don’t have to be alone. Thank you…
If I let go of judgment and chronic blame, I would be a women at peace with myself, all beings and the world.
These teachings are helping me to realize my basic goodness,
Thank you.
Tara,
Thank you so much for your sharing this message.
I have needed this u-turn for a long time.
What a precious gift I have received.
Mike, Chaplain, Indiana.
Something in Tara Brach’s manner is remarkably engaging. The 3 videos were very helpful. I appreciated how much they gave in such a short time. I shared them with colleagues and received thanks for sharing them and positive feedback (a first for the feedback). This is as Tara acknowledged such a difficult time. Thank you for putting these out.
Great message. I have a great need to implement the U-turn in my life
I would be able to actually experience and enjoy my life.
Thank you for this. I would be the leader I am meant to be. To help people – especially women – to realize their own power for goodness in our world. Blessings be with all of you.
Hi Tara for over 50 years,judgement and blame have led me to repeated episodes of depression and self destructive behaviour;rightly you say that letting go does not nor cannot take place overnight. Grateful thanks for helping shift consciousness, fostering loving awareness and compassion in place of resentment, anger and bitterness.
Thank you…as intended, it opened an awareness that seem so logical that
thinking about that self judgement before the series would never have crossed
my mind…..I have done the “I am enough” program with Marisa Peer and this
suggested it would pretty cool to hear more. It seems an open curiosity to
the “better life” is a road that is filled with promise
Thank you. I would be free. I am feeling a sense of self nurture of warmth and connectedness. A feeling of open vulnerability of new possibility.
These were so profoundly helpful. I have struggled all my adult life with perfectionism, and the resulting struggle with self blame, self judgement and self forgiveness. Since the death of my oldest son 20 months ago, forgiving myself (and life’s sometimes seeming unfairness) has brought in focus the invitation to learning to offer deep compassion to myself. These tools makes so much sense in helping me continue to heal and open my heart. Something I can always turn to. Thank you.
Thank you
Thank you Tara! Have been feeling stuck for sometime now & today while coming home to my own feelings & meeting myself with compassion feel a sense of release. It will take practice to develop this skill & am looking forward to the results?❤️
When judgement and chronic blame vanish and vanquish from my habit pool, I will be more even, fair and peaceful connecting with others with harmony rather than discord. From past experience, when I have let go of judgement and chronic blame, I have been able to be more present, value the now, and enjoy others and feel lighter, more joy. Thank you for steady guidance and grounding support!
I would be less scared and worried
Thank you for this series. It was helpful to share the first video with my husband to help him understand what I am feeling, due to personal experiences but also the deep sadness I have over society’s divisiveness.
Very much enjoyed your presentation! Maybe after 79 years I can learn to meditate!
Very helpful concepts and practices
Thanks
Great practice! You’re right, we must have inner healing to have the ability to offer compassion to others.
As always, Tara explains ways to help us and others to become more compassionate and to open to our own experience and that of others in such a beautiful way. The three videos were a lovely way of explaining ways to work with self- blame and judgments. Very succinct and very helpful.
A woman who is more forgiving of herself and others To have loving-kindness towards herself and others. To accept herself as being human and to allow that same acceptance for others.
Thank you. I felt compassion for myself and my mother, who I hold resentment for my shame for her behaviors. Seeing her face and realizing this is her journey and if I continue to send love to her our relationship will ultimately change.
Thank you!
Kristine
I can really relate to self blame, I call it “critical voice” inside my head. I am trying to work on hearing “benevolent voice”, but it is not easy. Thank you for your wisdom.
It is very helpful to have all these steps explained. I also liked that you stressed the difference it makes for traumatized people – that is an important point. These steps are surely very helpful with depressed clients although they might also need some medication. Thank you!!
Thank you!
Thank you so very much for this
.. These talks broaden my awareness and also motivate me to create some small manageable changes …
Thank you again ♡
This is very helpful in managing the challenges and traumas that life has brought to me and my family. Thank you ❤️
Loved the analogy of the dog with its leg in a trap.