Thank you very much for these really inspiring videos. I really love the tools, find them very effective. One question to the last video I have, need to find an answer tonthis, abd that is how to decide if you need more stabilization beforehand and stay with blame and anger for a while instead of trying to resolve it, or if it’s ok to really go into the feeling. If you are strong enough and the trauma small enough so to say.
Tara, I found the three videos powerful with practices that require thought and attention. I would like further information of the course.
Kind Regards
Betty
Teresa Massey, Another Field, COOKEVILLE, TN, USAsays
I would be a better friend to myself and others. My life would be easier and more peaceful. You have opened my eyes & heart to my belief that I thought judging others and myself would cause the change to occur but it stops the growth. Thank you for the cleansing practices and time from these 3 videos. I am lighter and feel more compassion for myself and others. I will be practicing these techniques again and again and again. With love, Gracias
First, I want to thank you for the videos. Unfortunately, I wasn’t able to access any more softness from the U-turn. I wish that I could, but the compassion I’m offering myself seems like mimicry not actual self love.
Thank you so much Tara!
It has been so enlightening to learn the path from judging to my own peace, healing and life in my heart- and others, thank you so much
Patricia Zaretzky, Counseling, Wheeling, IL, USAsays
Thank you for offering these steps to finding self-compassion and compassion for others in our lives. I was able to get to the U-Turn … but it was still difficult to see the vulnerability of a friend who had betrayed and deliberately chose to hurt me. I will have to work on this more.
I was still caught up with my relationship with a loved one who had passed, and it was mainly because of my judgmental thoughts on what went on in our relationship. Now, without having my loved one in this world, I no longer able to ask her what was in her mind at the time, or were my impressions from her behaviors correct or wrong. Can I change “our relationship” by working on my judgmental thoughts alone? I began to believe so, as I observed slight shifts in emotion by doing these practices.
I judged myself for the way I listened as it is often the case that I am doing more than one thing at a time so how can my full attention be given? I do believe it is a coping mechanism, an as I am aware, I will attempt to not activate the second arrow and being kindness and compassion to myself as I must need to do it this way, for now.
Marta Induni, Marriage/Family Therapy, Sacramento, CA, USAsays
I liked the analogy of the dog with a trapped leg, that animal represents all of us and it’s a powerful image that I will use. For some it would be easier to feel compassion toward an animal than toward the human who wronged them, a good starting point.
Laura Malin, Another Field, East Hartford, CT, USAsays
This has helped me learn to be better able to open up & see what’s going on inside myself & others. I really enjoyed learning more about these techniques. I’ve had some “ah-ha” moments as well. Thanks so much for sharing these with everyone.
Tara, I’m excited about this program! I’m recovering from the betrayal of an affair my husband was involved in for over a year. I can see that his leg was caught in a trap, but I feel so hurt by his deception and unsure if he is trustworthy now. Please send me the 3-part process. We have both been working together to heal and I believe this can be helpful to us. Thank you for this and your other work. Your gentle manner calms me! Sending much love ?
So many shifts over the past year! Find it difficult to remain grounded with an unhealthy attachment to isolation. As an empath, I short circuited with all the anger, aggression and polarizing surrounding our world today.
Thank you for reminding me of our ability to treat ourselves kindly. Appreciate the support.
d
I was able to find forgiveness and compassion within myself and also for my parent to which i held resentment when I let go of the story and focus on the feelings of vulnerability. It is also helpful to ask the question of what might that other person have experienced that trapped them and offer compassion for them. This was helpful. Thank you Tara.
Thank you so much, Tara. The tools that you have given us to address our own suffering as well as the suffering of others will help us not only on an individual level but on a collective level as well.
Thanks so much for these videos Tara. I’ve long known the value of compassion for those who have hurt us. But the U-Turn is new and makes the process of compassion and forgiveness so much smoother. Now I can see how compassion for oneself is essential to feeling compassion for those who have hurt us.
If I could let go of judgment and chronic blame, I’d be a much kinder, more compassionate person. I would have more joy in my life and not be so sensitive to others’ opinions of me. I’d feel free and like I had been released from the trap.
Thank you for this lesson, Tara, and for explaining so well how to go about freeing myself. It’s going to be hard because I have so many years of being caught in it, but it will be worth working on it because of how it will improve my life.
Thank you for sharing your teaching. By letting go of judgement and blame, we become a better person to ourselves and to others. Our world will become more calm, peaceful and full of love. Love your videos.
This helped me release the challenges I am having in a friendship. I realized that the snare my friend is in may look very differently from the snare I am in – even though they are the same story. And, the friendship may not change, time will tell. But I do not need to hold on to how I have hurt this person (because they are but a witness to interactions I had with another person). I did not hurt this person, and in the end do not believe I am responsible for what I was accused of by the third party. It gets messy, doesn’t it?
I’d be warm and living. My heart would be open. The chains that keep my heart closed would be loosened and I wouldn’t worry so much about being hurt or unloved.
lisa Desmond, Other, West Stockbridge, MA, USAsays
My adult son passed by suicide almost six years ago. It has been a journey for me and my trauma brought up severe self doubt,blame and unworthiness. Societal stigma’s around grief and mental illness only added to my pain. One statement popped up constantly” I am not the same and I will never be accepted” I knew I could not live life as before so I began to let go of people,places,events as my boundary mechanism until I could find my path of self love. I am experiencing radical change every day but death opened a door for me to accept myself with deep compassion and equanimity. I accepted that some friends ,events and places may not return to me and that is ok. I am journeying my authentic life and I am becoming my own best friend.
My adult son passed by suicide almost six years ago. It has been a journey for me and my trauma brought up severe self doubt,blame and unworthiness. Societal stigma’s around grief and mental illness only added to my pain. One statement popped up constantly” I am not the same and I will never be accepted” I knew I could not live life as before so I began to let go of people,places,events as my boundary mechanism until I could find my path of self love. I am experiencing radical change every day but death opened a door for me to accept myself with deep compassion and equanimity. I accepted that some friends ,events and places may not return to me and that is ok. I am journeying my authentic life and I am becoming my own best friend.
Corinne Johnson, Social Work, Salt Lake City, UT, USAsays
I found myself able to access a place of softness within myself. A compassion for myself and a greater understanding that I have been doing my best to cope with difficult circumstances.
Thank you very much for these really inspiring videos. I really love the tools, find them very effective. One question to the last video I have, need to find an answer tonthis, abd that is how to decide if you need more stabilization beforehand and stay with blame and anger for a while instead of trying to resolve it, or if it’s ok to really go into the feeling. If you are strong enough and the trauma small enough so to say.
Tara, I found the three videos powerful with practices that require thought and attention. I would like further information of the course.
Kind Regards
Betty
Well I would have to make significant changes!
Thank you.
I would be a person who decided to love life unconditionally.
A liberated person, able to live my own life as I see it to be lived.
Very wonderful
I would be a better friend to myself and others. My life would be easier and more peaceful. You have opened my eyes & heart to my belief that I thought judging others and myself would cause the change to occur but it stops the growth. Thank you for the cleansing practices and time from these 3 videos. I am lighter and feel more compassion for myself and others. I will be practicing these techniques again and again and again. With love, Gracias
Felt an ease come over me. And a deep release of resentment ❤️
Happier and connect more to others
Compassion is such a healing shift
This was so wonderful. Such healing moments. In tears of loving kindness and thanksgiving.
First, I want to thank you for the videos. Unfortunately, I wasn’t able to access any more softness from the U-turn. I wish that I could, but the compassion I’m offering myself seems like mimicry not actual self love.
Very powerful Tara, Well done!!
Thank you so much Tara!
It has been so enlightening to learn the path from judging to my own peace, healing and life in my heart- and others, thank you so much
I got mixed up between the reason I blame someone and the reason I judge myself
A more compassionate person! Both towards myself and other’s. Thank you for sharing your compassionate wisdom!
Thank you for offering these steps to finding self-compassion and compassion for others in our lives. I was able to get to the U-Turn … but it was still difficult to see the vulnerability of a friend who had betrayed and deliberately chose to hurt me. I will have to work on this more.
Beautiful
I was still caught up with my relationship with a loved one who had passed, and it was mainly because of my judgmental thoughts on what went on in our relationship. Now, without having my loved one in this world, I no longer able to ask her what was in her mind at the time, or were my impressions from her behaviors correct or wrong. Can I change “our relationship” by working on my judgmental thoughts alone? I began to believe so, as I observed slight shifts in emotion by doing these practices.
Wonderful teaching! I saw where sometimes I want my husband to take care of my needs instead of being responsible to take care of them myself.
I would need to work on how to do that while also keeping the boundaries I have set that allow me to do this work.
I judged myself for the way I listened as it is often the case that I am doing more than one thing at a time so how can my full attention be given? I do believe it is a coping mechanism, an as I am aware, I will attempt to not activate the second arrow and being kindness and compassion to myself as I must need to do it this way, for now.
I liked the analogy of the dog with a trapped leg, that animal represents all of us and it’s a powerful image that I will use. For some it would be easier to feel compassion toward an animal than toward the human who wronged them, a good starting point.
This has helped me learn to be better able to open up & see what’s going on inside myself & others. I really enjoyed learning more about these techniques. I’ve had some “ah-ha” moments as well. Thanks so much for sharing these with everyone.
Beautiful….and so true.
Tara, I’m excited about this program! I’m recovering from the betrayal of an affair my husband was involved in for over a year. I can see that his leg was caught in a trap, but I feel so hurt by his deception and unsure if he is trustworthy now. Please send me the 3-part process. We have both been working together to heal and I believe this can be helpful to us. Thank you for this and your other work. Your gentle manner calms me! Sending much love ?
So many shifts over the past year! Find it difficult to remain grounded with an unhealthy attachment to isolation. As an empath, I short circuited with all the anger, aggression and polarizing surrounding our world today.
Thank you for reminding me of our ability to treat ourselves kindly. Appreciate the support.
d
Lighter and brighter. Freedom from the ties of Guilt, Blame and Shame. Closer to Loving Self and others.
I would be free
Happy and free 🙂
I was able to find forgiveness and compassion within myself and also for my parent to which i held resentment when I let go of the story and focus on the feelings of vulnerability. It is also helpful to ask the question of what might that other person have experienced that trapped them and offer compassion for them. This was helpful. Thank you Tara.
Thank you so much, Tara. The tools that you have given us to address our own suffering as well as the suffering of others will help us not only on an individual level but on a collective level as well.
Thanks so much for these videos Tara. I’ve long known the value of compassion for those who have hurt us. But the U-Turn is new and makes the process of compassion and forgiveness so much smoother. Now I can see how compassion for oneself is essential to feeling compassion for those who have hurt us.
I would be much lighter and my life would be much lighter.
I would imagine I would be a more compassionate person towards myself which would ripple out into all relationships.
Thank you Tara. It is very helpful. The exercises you talk about are great for clients who need to practice self compassion.
The U turn has been very helpful, thank you
If I could let go of judgment and chronic blame, I’d be a much kinder, more compassionate person. I would have more joy in my life and not be so sensitive to others’ opinions of me. I’d feel free and like I had been released from the trap.
Thank you for this lesson, Tara, and for explaining so well how to go about freeing myself. It’s going to be hard because I have so many years of being caught in it, but it will be worth working on it because of how it will improve my life.
I would be more connected and trully feel compassionate and loving to myself and others.
Thank you for sharing your teaching. By letting go of judgement and blame, we become a better person to ourselves and to others. Our world will become more calm, peaceful and full of love. Love your videos.
Thank you. It’s beneficial to look at things from the other’s perspective.
This helped me release the challenges I am having in a friendship. I realized that the snare my friend is in may look very differently from the snare I am in – even though they are the same story. And, the friendship may not change, time will tell. But I do not need to hold on to how I have hurt this person (because they are but a witness to interactions I had with another person). I did not hurt this person, and in the end do not believe I am responsible for what I was accused of by the third party. It gets messy, doesn’t it?
I’d be warm and living. My heart would be open. The chains that keep my heart closed would be loosened and I wouldn’t worry so much about being hurt or unloved.
I am really grateful for this workshop, especially for the techniques. I am going to start practicing them right away.
Lovely – gentle and compassionate. Made me think and re-evaluate; to make a U turn towards freedom from judgment
My adult son passed by suicide almost six years ago. It has been a journey for me and my trauma brought up severe self doubt,blame and unworthiness. Societal stigma’s around grief and mental illness only added to my pain. One statement popped up constantly” I am not the same and I will never be accepted” I knew I could not live life as before so I began to let go of people,places,events as my boundary mechanism until I could find my path of self love. I am experiencing radical change every day but death opened a door for me to accept myself with deep compassion and equanimity. I accepted that some friends ,events and places may not return to me and that is ok. I am journeying my authentic life and I am becoming my own best friend.
My adult son passed by suicide almost six years ago. It has been a journey for me and my trauma brought up severe self doubt,blame and unworthiness. Societal stigma’s around grief and mental illness only added to my pain. One statement popped up constantly” I am not the same and I will never be accepted” I knew I could not live life as before so I began to let go of people,places,events as my boundary mechanism until I could find my path of self love. I am experiencing radical change every day but death opened a door for me to accept myself with deep compassion and equanimity. I accepted that some friends ,events and places may not return to me and that is ok. I am journeying my authentic life and I am becoming my own best friend.
I found myself able to access a place of softness within myself. A compassion for myself and a greater understanding that I have been doing my best to cope with difficult circumstances.
The SELF