Thank you Tara for your gift of insight and clear thoughtful concepts. I found a new sense of freedom when I let go of blame which allowed me to reflect on the past hurt with renewed compassion.
Such kind and wise words. I managed to show myself compassion and was able to feel some peace. This is how I would like to be and will continue to practice. 54 years of practicing a behaviour that I have never liked.,Thank you.
Thank you for these videos – they have really helped me. It was too difficult to open up to the U-turn and I need a lot of support before I can do that but it gives me hope that I may someday find the peaceful, happy, person I used to be (many moons ago).Thank you to everyone involved in providing these videos.
if i let go of judgement and chronic blame i would be able to love much more deeply and serve with less restrictions. and oh – my shoulders would drop and be less painful, and i might laugh right from my belly.
A beautiful message and such a lovely way to remind ourselves how to come back to compassion, with ourselves and extended towards others. Thank you so much, Tara. I enjoyed this series!
I would find the joy of my body and all that it is and isn’t. I would stop being so obsessed with trying to be thin and just love my body as it is and celebrate all that it does for me every day.
I would be able to see ,really see the experiences of others that have formed their life and reactions to situations that I would react differently to. I would be able to more readily accept that when I have a response to a stimulus it’s not going to be the same response others will have and not judge them for the difference.
Beth Mitchner, Psychotherapy, San Francisco, CA, USAsays
Thank you so much. I love how Tara describes the concepts so thoughtfully and clearly AND provides explicit practices for addressing them. So helpful for ourselves and clients!
Who would I be without all my judgements (self and others) and continual comparing myself to others? A storehouse of energy waiting to be freed!
Creativity would have space to soar. Wow…..imagine that (instead of where my mind so often goes. Revolutionary!
Thank your Tara for your gift of these three exercises.
I found freedom from judgement and blame when I focused my energy on self compassion. A wonderful positive use of my energy vs stewing in the negative.
I’d be lighter and free of the negative spiral of rumination. There’s something liberating in knowing that whilst you can’t change someone else’s behaviour, changing your own can be just as transformative.
I would be some who whose thoughts and feelings and interests and joys are important to my loved ones. I could live without the defense between myself and the people I love.
So relevant to what I was going through today. An older man had his leg in a trap due to the fear of Covid. Gave me compassion to what he was going through. thank you for helping me make a U-turn
I’m sometimes stuck in such self criticism that I go into the loop of looking for the others leg caught in the trap before I even give space for my own…..it’s like a double blame……(something to do with feeling I have no right to feel unhappy / angry as I live a life of comparative privilege) ……I felt a minor shift when I gave myself space to own my hurt/self doubt through the U turn and seeing my own vulnerability .
I enjoyed this workshop immensely Bc I can see I was not cultivating my potential to see other people with the compassion that allows all of us create warm and creative discussions. Thank you for embarking all of us on this precious journey!
In a word, if I let go of judgement and chronic blame, I would be free. Free to live life on life’s terms, in a place of love and peace. Thank you for your videos Tara – they have been really helpful
Who would I be? I would be exactly who I’m supposed to be, and that is powerful and unique. We were all born as individuals and have our own specific gifts to nurture. I don’t have to change the world – I simply must be the best self I can, and that would bring happiness
I like the analogy of the dog with a trapped leg as well. Often I’m so focused on my own trapped leg, I cannot see how others are also trapped too. And strangely, the closer they are to me, the harder it is for me to see their traps. Hence, I’d like to work on compassion toward myself, so I can have more compassion for others.
Thank u.
I came home from a miserable day with my mother whom I often forget that she has her leg in a trap,
I just feel overwhelmed and consumed by her shortcomings,
I needed an upper and there you were in my email, offering up techniques to subvert anxiety and depression
I know if I let go of blame
I would be soooooo
much kinder, lighter, more likable to others and to myself!!
I feel I usually come around and see other peoples situations that I have been hurt by but because of my sensitivities it takes a while. Perhaps this self nurturing couild help to speed up the process in making the U turn. : )
I really enjoyed your course and thank you that you shared your wisdom. It gave me a new sense of compassion for myself, and a deeper reflection of what could be going on behind the words of others. It gave me a deeper understanding of a situation I have been sitting with for years, and gave me some answers to what may have been going on for a relationship in my life that completely broke down nearly 4 years ago and which has been taking a long time to heal. These reflections helped me to step into that person’s shoes with deep compassion and understanding of how that situation led to breaking down.
Thank you so much Tara for these videos. These are very helpful. Thank you for reminding me the things I tend to forget easily especially understanding that we all have our feet in the trap. I believe, I will be a better person if I could become more conscious of the struggles others are going through when I blame them for my problems. These are videos are very restorative.
More at peace ?
Thank you Tara for your gift of insight and clear thoughtful concepts. I found a new sense of freedom when I let go of blame which allowed me to reflect on the past hurt with renewed compassion.
Such kind and wise words. I managed to show myself compassion and was able to feel some peace. This is how I would like to be and will continue to practice. 54 years of practicing a behaviour that I have never liked.,Thank you.
Love what I’ve briefly been able to watch so far & hoping to access the 3 free short videos later.
Will be interested in others free or not.
Thank you for these videos – they have really helped me. It was too difficult to open up to the U-turn and I need a lot of support before I can do that but it gives me hope that I may someday find the peaceful, happy, person I used to be (many moons ago).Thank you to everyone involved in providing these videos.
if i let go of judgement and chronic blame i would be able to love much more deeply and serve with less restrictions. and oh – my shoulders would drop and be less painful, and i might laugh right from my belly.
A beautiful message and such a lovely way to remind ourselves how to come back to compassion, with ourselves and extended towards others. Thank you so much, Tara. I enjoyed this series!
As someone who has personally struggled in letting past hurts and resentments go, this is truly wonderful advice, thank you x
So helpful – we all need this!
I would find the joy of my body and all that it is and isn’t. I would stop being so obsessed with trying to be thin and just love my body as it is and celebrate all that it does for me every day.
I appreciate the process, I can see how effective it can be. I look forward to practicing it more and more.
Thank you Tara – as always, your words are delivered with such kindness, warmth and wisdom.
I would be a peaceful person.
I would be a more free human being, open, compassionate, loving, understanding if i could let go of judgement and chronic blame.
I would be happier.
Thank you!
thank you!
I would be able to see ,really see the experiences of others that have formed their life and reactions to situations that I would react differently to. I would be able to more readily accept that when I have a response to a stimulus it’s not going to be the same response others will have and not judge them for the difference.
Thank you so much. I love how Tara describes the concepts so thoughtfully and clearly AND provides explicit practices for addressing them. So helpful for ourselves and clients!
I could be someone with a voice to support change where I see injustice and I could be a supporter of others in their suffering.
I would find love?
Who would I be without all my judgements (self and others) and continual comparing myself to others? A storehouse of energy waiting to be freed!
Creativity would have space to soar. Wow…..imagine that (instead of where my mind so often goes. Revolutionary!
Thank your Tara for your gift of these three exercises.
I found freedom from judgement and blame when I focused my energy on self compassion. A wonderful positive use of my energy vs stewing in the negative.
Free
I’d be lighter and free of the negative spiral of rumination. There’s something liberating in knowing that whilst you can’t change someone else’s behaviour, changing your own can be just as transformative.
I’d be at peace – I’d let go of my anxiety about never being good enough and I would have much better self esteem.
This was really interesting. Food for thought.
Free, less anxious, back to who I used to be…and more
Id be and feel free
Very moving. Thank you Tara
I would be some who whose thoughts and feelings and interests and joys are important to my loved ones. I could live without the defense between myself and the people I love.
So relevant to what I was going through today. An older man had his leg in a trap due to the fear of Covid. Gave me compassion to what he was going through. thank you for helping me make a U-turn
I’m sometimes stuck in such self criticism that I go into the loop of looking for the others leg caught in the trap before I even give space for my own…..it’s like a double blame……(something to do with feeling I have no right to feel unhappy / angry as I live a life of comparative privilege) ……I felt a minor shift when I gave myself space to own my hurt/self doubt through the U turn and seeing my own vulnerability .
I would feel like a bird. Thank you.
Successful.
I enjoyed this workshop immensely Bc I can see I was not cultivating my potential to see other people with the compassion that allows all of us create warm and creative discussions. Thank you for embarking all of us on this precious journey!
Thank you!!! This was exactly what I needed! To stop the blaming and move into forgiveness.
In a word, if I let go of judgement and chronic blame, I would be free. Free to live life on life’s terms, in a place of love and peace. Thank you for your videos Tara – they have been really helpful
I’d be me – light-hearted, warm, full of wonder – the person, I am in flickering moments when my inner grudge-munsters are taking a coffee break.
The U-Turn helped me acknowledge and name a lack belief that’d been unconsciously screening in my inner-film-theatre throughout the day.
Who would I be? I would be exactly who I’m supposed to be, and that is powerful and unique. We were all born as individuals and have our own specific gifts to nurture. I don’t have to change the world – I simply must be the best self I can, and that would bring happiness
I felt a flow of energy a cooling happen into my heartspace and it allowed me to be able to see the potential of vulnerability of the other person.
I like the analogy of the dog with a trapped leg as well. Often I’m so focused on my own trapped leg, I cannot see how others are also trapped too. And strangely, the closer they are to me, the harder it is for me to see their traps. Hence, I’d like to work on compassion toward myself, so I can have more compassion for others.
If I let go of of these things I would be able to live a more free, fulfilling & peaceful life xx
Thank u.
I came home from a miserable day with my mother whom I often forget that she has her leg in a trap,
I just feel overwhelmed and consumed by her shortcomings,
I needed an upper and there you were in my email, offering up techniques to subvert anxiety and depression
I know if I let go of blame
I would be soooooo
much kinder, lighter, more likable to others and to myself!!
Who indeed! Maybe I would allow myself to “keep” friends.
I would be someone in peace with myself and with others
I feel I usually come around and see other peoples situations that I have been hurt by but because of my sensitivities it takes a while. Perhaps this self nurturing couild help to speed up the process in making the U turn. : )
I really enjoyed your course and thank you that you shared your wisdom. It gave me a new sense of compassion for myself, and a deeper reflection of what could be going on behind the words of others. It gave me a deeper understanding of a situation I have been sitting with for years, and gave me some answers to what may have been going on for a relationship in my life that completely broke down nearly 4 years ago and which has been taking a long time to heal. These reflections helped me to step into that person’s shoes with deep compassion and understanding of how that situation led to breaking down.
A better mother, mother-in-law, friend, wife, and grandparent
I would be much more at ease and much happier in my marriage. I will practice this more. Thank you Tara
This helped me to love myself.
Thank you so much Tara for these videos. These are very helpful. Thank you for reminding me the things I tend to forget easily especially understanding that we all have our feet in the trap. I believe, I will be a better person if I could become more conscious of the struggles others are going through when I blame them for my problems. These are videos are very restorative.