So revealing that I could soften to a neighbor I’ve never met or seen in my apt. bldg. who has loud scary parties, and is someone I’ve come to really dislike. Maybe her leg “is caught in a trap”. Ty. Tara.?
My authentic human self, listening to others, responding to their feelings
looking underneath a fascade. Their aggression will be a challenge if it is there,
but I will try to think of their suffering.
I would be a gentler, more softer person that I often pray to be. I would more self accepting of myself and others. I would be at ease, more confident and feeling safe to be around others. I would be free of my self criticism and more accepting of myself.
I am looking of ways to find peace in my self ,compassion, awareness.
To be able to shift out of blame of my self and others,to more compaction. Thank you .Blessings with love.
So soothing as always listening to you Tara. I really would love to develop a practice to develop more self love, open heartedness and compassion. It what I need, my family need and the greater world and humanity needs right now. Thank you.
Melissa Gonzales, Another Field, Albuquerque , NM, USAsays
I’ve been meditating and after the process of being in the present anchor me in the present, I’ve been sitting with my feelings and not sure what to do next. Thank you for these new set of tools and processes. As I experienced waves of hope along with waves of anxiety today, I could accept both as belonging to my ocean.
This provided some perspective into my own feelings, moving out of myself on to trying to understand the “trapped foot” of the person who hurt me. Hope it will smoothen the long and bumpy road to let go of blame and anger.
Thank you Tara, this is an interesting perspective to take and while will take practice, I can see how significant benefits can flow from this for the self and others. i look forward to hearing more about this.
A truly loving survivor, having come to this set of processes after being declared dead, actually, and having belongings stripped & all I.D destroyed during a long hospitalization with COVID19. These tapes provide ways for me to continue to guide myself into seeing self and others with true compassion.
This is a different perspective. Forgiveness would change ones approach to the offence. I can see how that could change the response of the other person.
For a few moments I could see the vulnerability or the wounded ness of the person against whom I bear resentment ; I could identify my hurt , anger, fear and feel some compassion.
Honestly, I think I will
Have to take complete responsibility of my life and myself if I let go of judgment and blame.
I felt a glimmer of hopeful possibility that I could reach a deeper more reflective compasssion for myself and those around me. Need time and practice to work with the tools you are outlining
Allie Passman, Another Field, Chicago, IL, USAsays
Thanks for this. I feel liked I need to practice a lot to get the hang of it. The blame and judgment is so strong but I felt like there was a way out and released some feelings following your guidance.
I needed the self compassion for the hurt and fear and grief of having to leave an abusive relationship over 20 years ago. I already forgave the abuser and understood that their abusive behaviour was coming from their own securities but I have never yet been able to give my self compassion for what I went through.
I have experienced transformational insights with letting go of toxic self judgment and blame. I will say that this process has changed distorted self perceptions about myself and others. I have developed a clearer understanding of who I am, as well as my strengths and weaknesses. I have gained an appreciation of how self judgment and blame creates self-imposed limitations. An underlying problem with self-blame is that it generates and feeds negative perception about the self and self-worth. Mindfulness and releasing harmful self-judgment and managing moments of self-blame is liberating. I have felt more empowered to make mindful corrections to my thought patterns and behavior. I see myself with compassionate eyes and this in turn allows my self-love to grow. It is a life changing process.
Thank you for these videos, so insightful. I honestly don’t know who I would be if I were to let go of judgment, but I know that I would feel liberated, free and happy.
Thank you Tara. It’s easier to blame than to recognize our wounds and our shame. Your gentleness is soothing and transmits acceptance. It make me feel free of judgment.
So revealing that I could soften to a neighbor I’ve never met or seen in my apt. bldg. who has loud scary parties, and is someone I’ve come to really dislike. Maybe her leg “is caught in a trap”. Ty. Tara.?
My authentic human self, listening to others, responding to their feelings
looking underneath a fascade. Their aggression will be a challenge if it is there,
but I will try to think of their suffering.
A much happier person, as almost all of the judgment and blame I find myself trapped in is directed toward myself.
Thank you for your continued with on self-compassion. The more I work with clients the more I realize the importance of this!
Thank you Tara. Without judgment and blame I would be more fully alive and accepting of myself.
Thank you
I would be a gentler, more softer person that I often pray to be. I would more self accepting of myself and others. I would be at ease, more confident and feeling safe to be around others. I would be free of my self criticism and more accepting of myself.
I am looking of ways to find peace in my self ,compassion, awareness.
To be able to shift out of blame of my self and others,to more compaction. Thank you .Blessings with love.
So soothing as always listening to you Tara. I really would love to develop a practice to develop more self love, open heartedness and compassion. It what I need, my family need and the greater world and humanity needs right now. Thank you.
Thank you, Tara. Wonderful to work on opening in my heart, both towards myself and others.
Thanks for offering this moment of compassion and kindness.
I’ve been meditating and after the process of being in the present anchor me in the present, I’ve been sitting with my feelings and not sure what to do next. Thank you for these new set of tools and processes. As I experienced waves of hope along with waves of anxiety today, I could accept both as belonging to my ocean.
This was very helpful. I have a client
With tremendous anger toward her
Husband.
I’d feel less vulnerable to the actions or motivations of others.
I would be happy, joyous and free.
This provided some perspective into my own feelings, moving out of myself on to trying to understand the “trapped foot” of the person who hurt me. Hope it will smoothen the long and bumpy road to let go of blame and anger.
Thank you, you offered some good pointers for self compassion and kindness.
I wish I’d listened to this sooner and could have written it down….
When I can forgive as I’ve been forgiven I will be at peace. It is a repetitive process.
Thank you Tara, this is an interesting perspective to take and while will take practice, I can see how significant benefits can flow from this for the self and others. i look forward to hearing more about this.
so many judgments, so ingrained as I have held them for so long. freeing to think that I can release myself from that trap.
Someone more open to self and others, living in the present, and feeling better in my own skin.
I recognize blame in my thoughts and would like to shift out of it toward forgiveness . Thank you for your insights
A truly loving survivor, having come to this set of processes after being declared dead, actually, and having belongings stripped & all I.D destroyed during a long hospitalization with COVID19. These tapes provide ways for me to continue to guide myself into seeing self and others with true compassion.
I would be at peace
I know I would feel much better if I could let go of self-judgment and blame. Thanks for your wise words, Tara.
This is a different perspective. Forgiveness would change ones approach to the offence. I can see how that could change the response of the other person.
Interesting perspective to take.
For a few moments I could see the vulnerability or the wounded ness of the person against whom I bear resentment ; I could identify my hurt , anger, fear and feel some compassion.
Honestly, I think I will
Have to take complete responsibility of my life and myself if I let go of judgment and blame.
I would live peacefully
Self acceptance is a foreign concept to me. I am just beginning to learn. I don’t know who I would be?
I felt a glimmer of hopeful possibility that I could reach a deeper more reflective compasssion for myself and those around me. Need time and practice to work with the tools you are outlining
really lovely practice thank you
Thanks for this. I feel liked I need to practice a lot to get the hang of it. The blame and judgment is so strong but I felt like there was a way out and released some feelings following your guidance.
A better friend, more creative, less judgemental of my self and others, happier, more free
I needed the self compassion for the hurt and fear and grief of having to leave an abusive relationship over 20 years ago. I already forgave the abuser and understood that their abusive behaviour was coming from their own securities but I have never yet been able to give my self compassion for what I went through.
I have experienced transformational insights with letting go of toxic self judgment and blame. I will say that this process has changed distorted self perceptions about myself and others. I have developed a clearer understanding of who I am, as well as my strengths and weaknesses. I have gained an appreciation of how self judgment and blame creates self-imposed limitations. An underlying problem with self-blame is that it generates and feeds negative perception about the self and self-worth. Mindfulness and releasing harmful self-judgment and managing moments of self-blame is liberating. I have felt more empowered to make mindful corrections to my thought patterns and behavior. I see myself with compassionate eyes and this in turn allows my self-love to grow. It is a life changing process.
Would feel less anxious and fearful all of the time
There is so much to learn about practicing self compassion. This is challenging work to stop judging.
This was extremely helpful session 2 out of self judgment head, heart, to heart space is such a helpful tool.
Very, very interesting and thought provoking. I will be interested in more information.
These were so well done! It definitely gave me some very specific tools. I would love to know more about your course.
Thank you for these videos, so insightful. I honestly don’t know who I would be if I were to let go of judgment, but I know that I would feel liberated, free and happy.
I could just be me, without struggling against that sense of deficiency. It would be fun to see what that is like.
Seeing the pain of others, is not a simple step, but surely it gives a great releasing chance. Thank you for being present in the effort!
Thank you and oh my goodness the uturn is quite hard to focus in on. I’ll need so much more practice.
Great series!
Thank you Tara. It’s easier to blame than to recognize our wounds and our shame. Your gentleness is soothing and transmits acceptance. It make me feel free of judgment.
Blessings
I would be more compassionate, open and find greater peace. It’s going to take some work. Thank you.
This is such beautiful, difficult, and necessary work at this time in our world. Thank you for your offering.