The uturn process is both gentle and healing; seeking compassion for the self is an enormous quest, one that has not always been talked about. Thank you Tara
I dont know I can let go of self judgment I think there are opportunities for greater self compassion I would hope there are hands on practices I can use
Very meaningful words of guidance and encouragement .Thank you for the practices in all three videos. I need to practice AND I recognize that I may not remember everything presented by way of instruction. The tone of your voice Tara, has become compassion and caring itself. May you be well.
Marilyn Brende, Occupational Therapy, UKIAH, CA, USAsays
I would live in the present time with no wasted time spent of harboring resentment for lengthy periods. I would also experience a “knowing” on how to compassionately free myself from the petty tyrants in my life by gently asserting myself and using my meditative time to open to guidance on how I can effectively bring resolution to their issues of control and anger; some of which I brought on myself.
I would be more content and at peace. I would be able to be more creative and daring at work. I could enjoy my time off more, rather than overthinking how I’ve fallen short.
Thank you for these wonderful videos, I think you’re absolutely right that this is what we need more of in the world at this time.
Wayne Realini, Counseling, Princess Anne, MD, USAsays
My mother and I don’t have a relationship anymore. I had to pull away for a number of reasons. I was able to see her as vulnerable, the victim of poverty, alcoholism, trauma, anger, and low self-esteem. I inherited many of these traits.
Working, through mindfulness, to become more whole, kinder to myself. There was a small catharsis here, need to practice more!
Thank you for giving your time to support us mental health workers to receive the gift of self compassion, so that we may help ourselves and others. This is a real movement that is necessary.
I found it took some time for me to decide who I wanted to select for the u-turn activity. When I stayed with the hurtful texts my relative sent to me as she grieved for the loss of one who loved us both and who we loved back in different complex ways, I felt compassion to my relative and to myself for making the best choices at the time the specific choices were necessary for each of us. This brings me ease to continue contacting this relative as she goes through her grieving processes.
Over the years I have found compassion for my mother who could not be what
I needed from her but to find compassion for myself was not there.
The second arrow went deep.
Wit;h my clients, yes, I could help them to find it but really didn’t feel I deserved this.
Thank you Tara for giving me permission to really feel compassion for myself.
Louise
The u-turn practice helps reveal what is really sitting underneath my emotions, creating a deeper self-awareness and thus allowing for kind compassion and grace towards myself and my experiences.
It is hard to see the places of vulnerability and wounds in the person that verbally attacked me. He seems to have it all together. I’ll have to look deeper and listen more carefully. Very helpful video
So beautiful. I have experienced such beauty and love, having forgiven. Blame has no place anymore and then so much expressed love, as with the fellow you mention and his dear father, who is dying. Made my heart smile and cry all at once. Much the same for myself, with my very elderly parents, who passed a few years ago…and others.
The leg in a trap, very poignant.
Also, i like the exercise very much. With a friend , so much hurt. I could imagine both of us, with our legs in traps 😉
I would be able to love my partner for who they are now, not the potential or shortcomings I see. I would be more open, calm and compassionate with them and with myself. I would be able to let go of the rumination and fear based thoughts that have been plaguing me, and instead feel freedom and possibility.
Patricia Nicholson, Another Field, Cocoa, FL, USAsays
Patricia N., MindBody Practitioner, FL
I would be an internally peaceful parent while listening to two of my adult children whenever they are criticizing or blaming each other for misunderstandings that began when they were teenagers. My heart is already feeling more restful after participating in these three beautiful videos. I have been blaming and criticizing myself for being unable to “fix” their sad problem. Thank you for helping me. With these tools for myself, I will be able to stay in my present moment even during their most trying times. I am so grateful for the audio tapes. Thank you again. May God bless you and keep you safe.
As I listened to your caring voice, I touched my heart & felt a softness and compassion for my self, then my heart began to let go of the anger towards the other person. Thank you!
Thank you for this description of wounds, vulnerabilities, and ways to work on recovery and release of blame and judgment.
As a family mediator, I often see how the inability to move past blame, anger, and grief makes it difficult to resolve issues that you need to address in order to move forward as separated parents or former spouses.
Personally, it is difficult to arrive at self-compassion that allows you to see the wound in the other and to release the armour. However, it is the goal that allows both you and others to feel relatively safe, think reasonably and make good choices about your future.
Letting go of judgement and blame is a theme felt by myself and 2021 seemed to increase these feelings as we all were isolated by Covid The isolation triggered my experience of growing up in a family with a mentally ill father and never having extended family in
our home. Always looking outward at others living a more free life reinforced my anger at my father and during 2021 I experienced those feelings returning. Very helpful presentation and stories today. Thank you.
This is definitely something I will be able to utilize in my practice and personal life as well. I had long ago began this journey for myself but needed to implement the self compassion at a deeper , more intention way. Thank-you for these teachings. I look forward to receiving your free audio tapes as well. I will continue to pay this emotional freedom of radical compassion forward. Blessings~
Linda Koster, Occupational Therapy, Shawnee, KS, USAsays
I had felt an immense hurt from my father, but had never connected his personal flaws with the possible reasons that he betrayed me. Thinking of his vulnerabilities allowed me to realize why he acted as he did. This realization allowed me to move toward forgiveness, because we all have flaws and have hurt people, which helped me to be free to remember my father in a more positive light. It is freeing to be able to let go of some of my anger toward him; no one wants to be angry at their father forever. Thank you so much for helping me with this.
The uturn process is both gentle and healing; seeking compassion for the self is an enormous quest, one that has not always been talked about. Thank you Tara
Mary
I dont know I can let go of self judgment I think there are opportunities for greater self compassion I would hope there are hands on practices I can use
Very meaningful words of guidance and encouragement .Thank you for the practices in all three videos. I need to practice AND I recognize that I may not remember everything presented by way of instruction. The tone of your voice Tara, has become compassion and caring itself. May you be well.
Tara I appreciate the opportunity you provided to practice self compassion and spread it in this hungry world.
Someone who sees themself more clearly.
I would live in the present time with no wasted time spent of harboring resentment for lengthy periods. I would also experience a “knowing” on how to compassionately free myself from the petty tyrants in my life by gently asserting myself and using my meditative time to open to guidance on how I can effectively bring resolution to their issues of control and anger; some of which I brought on myself.
If I had less self-doubt, I’d take more chances
I would be free to be me, to be caring and compassionate rather than holding onto blame, resentment, and judgment. Thank you in advance for the audio.
Very practical steps. They are most helpful. This sounds like a great program
thank you for the reminder of the power of compassion
Thank you, Tara, as a therapist, this has been valuable for methods I can use for helping my clients as well as for my own life. much love mary
I would be more content and at peace. I would be able to be more creative and daring at work. I could enjoy my time off more, rather than overthinking how I’ve fallen short.
Thank you for these wonderful videos, I think you’re absolutely right that this is what we need more of in the world at this time.
My mother and I don’t have a relationship anymore. I had to pull away for a number of reasons. I was able to see her as vulnerable, the victim of poverty, alcoholism, trauma, anger, and low self-esteem. I inherited many of these traits.
Working, through mindfulness, to become more whole, kinder to myself. There was a small catharsis here, need to practice more!
Thank you for giving your time to support us mental health workers to receive the gift of self compassion, so that we may help ourselves and others. This is a real movement that is necessary.
Thank you Tara for your kindness and insight around inner pain and blame. It has been so lovely to be part of this.
I’d be a much happier person
I found it very helpful to shift out of the anger into an exploration of my feelings. The U-turn. Anger has never served me.
I found it took some time for me to decide who I wanted to select for the u-turn activity. When I stayed with the hurtful texts my relative sent to me as she grieved for the loss of one who loved us both and who we loved back in different complex ways, I felt compassion to my relative and to myself for making the best choices at the time the specific choices were necessary for each of us. This brings me ease to continue contacting this relative as she goes through her grieving processes.
Over the years I have found compassion for my mother who could not be what
I needed from her but to find compassion for myself was not there.
The second arrow went deep.
Wit;h my clients, yes, I could help them to find it but really didn’t feel I deserved this.
Thank you Tara for giving me permission to really feel compassion for myself.
Louise
Thank you so much. This work is so needed
I cried when I thought of my teenage self and gave her comfort.
The u-turn practice helps reveal what is really sitting underneath my emotions, creating a deeper self-awareness and thus allowing for kind compassion and grace towards myself and my experiences.
I really like the Shift out of Blame techniques
This is reminder of what we need to be…….. and how to get there.
Thankyou
It is hard to see the places of vulnerability and wounds in the person that verbally attacked me. He seems to have it all together. I’ll have to look deeper and listen more carefully. Very helpful video
The videos were helpful. The last video on Shift from Blame was especially powerful
Thanks
thank you so much
Thank you for these videos. Truly grateful!
I have trouble imagining that… I have so far to go, with myself and with others!!
I would be free
So beautiful. I have experienced such beauty and love, having forgiven. Blame has no place anymore and then so much expressed love, as with the fellow you mention and his dear father, who is dying. Made my heart smile and cry all at once. Much the same for myself, with my very elderly parents, who passed a few years ago…and others.
The leg in a trap, very poignant.
Also, i like the exercise very much. With a friend , so much hurt. I could imagine both of us, with our legs in traps 😉
I would be able to love my partner for who they are now, not the potential or shortcomings I see. I would be more open, calm and compassionate with them and with myself. I would be able to let go of the rumination and fear based thoughts that have been plaguing me, and instead feel freedom and possibility.
Thank you
Patricia N., MindBody Practitioner, FL
I would be an internally peaceful parent while listening to two of my adult children whenever they are criticizing or blaming each other for misunderstandings that began when they were teenagers. My heart is already feeling more restful after participating in these three beautiful videos. I have been blaming and criticizing myself for being unable to “fix” their sad problem. Thank you for helping me. With these tools for myself, I will be able to stay in my present moment even during their most trying times. I am so grateful for the audio tapes. Thank you again. May God bless you and keep you safe.
As I listened to your caring voice, I touched my heart & felt a softness and compassion for my self, then my heart began to let go of the anger towards the other person. Thank you!
Watched all 3. I can see this as very useful to clients and learned some things for myself as well.
Thank you for this description of wounds, vulnerabilities, and ways to work on recovery and release of blame and judgment.
As a family mediator, I often see how the inability to move past blame, anger, and grief makes it difficult to resolve issues that you need to address in order to move forward as separated parents or former spouses.
Personally, it is difficult to arrive at self-compassion that allows you to see the wound in the other and to release the armour. However, it is the goal that allows both you and others to feel relatively safe, think reasonably and make good choices about your future.
I always appreciate the quality of Tara’s gentle and compassion guidance!
Sounds like a path to feeling freer, having more energy, and developing deeper relationships.
Very compassionate process allowing client to progress at his/her comfort level.
I’d be a kinder, more ‘me’ version of myself! Thanks for sharing this wonderful workshop 🙂
recognizing compassion for others is compassion for ourselves
I would be happier, lighter and not so much consumed, with the blaming. I do not enjoyed the way I talk about the person that hurt me.
This was beautiful! Thank you.
Letting go of judgement and blame is a theme felt by myself and 2021 seemed to increase these feelings as we all were isolated by Covid The isolation triggered my experience of growing up in a family with a mentally ill father and never having extended family in
our home. Always looking outward at others living a more free life reinforced my anger at my father and during 2021 I experienced those feelings returning. Very helpful presentation and stories today. Thank you.
Excellent videos. Really spoke to me.
This is definitely something I will be able to utilize in my practice and personal life as well. I had long ago began this journey for myself but needed to implement the self compassion at a deeper , more intention way. Thank-you for these teachings. I look forward to receiving your free audio tapes as well. I will continue to pay this emotional freedom of radical compassion forward. Blessings~
I felt how I’ve also let myself down when blaming others, how this mindset hurts us all – and keep us in a bind.
Big difference when I started seeing my partner as the dog with his leg in trap and tried to accept him just as he was – without blame.
I had felt an immense hurt from my father, but had never connected his personal flaws with the possible reasons that he betrayed me. Thinking of his vulnerabilities allowed me to realize why he acted as he did. This realization allowed me to move toward forgiveness, because we all have flaws and have hurt people, which helped me to be free to remember my father in a more positive light. It is freeing to be able to let go of some of my anger toward him; no one wants to be angry at their father forever. Thank you so much for helping me with this.