Thank You very much for your words, for the wise advices.
When I could let go of judgment and blame, I can feel more soft, light and calm. Inside and outside of me. Heart and mind more clear.
When I look around me, nature, people in these moments, I can feel more connected, no separateness between us.
Compassion flows spontanously and gratitude, and some joy from very inside.
I can see in other people beauty and vulnerability that remember mine. Love to them is more easy then feel it for me.
Big hug, and big Love,
Mònica
How did I not know about your work before? So necessary to work through these issues. Thank you for your thoughtfulness in offering these segments for free to everyone.
I would be more peaceful inside and hopefully more open with others on the outside. I want to move in that direction. Does letting go of judgment and blame towards someone result in miminimizing or condoning their offensive behavior?
Gwyn Zmolek, Psychotherapy, south elgin, IL, USAsays
This meditation helped me connect once again to my true self…When I step in to this space, it is as if I have been off traveling away from home and finally returned to find a fire still burning for me.
This messages/practices came in such synchronized timing: just lost a friend/ex boyfriend to cancer w complications in his lungs (pneumonia)… I have been blaming myself, lots of shame for not being there to help during the chemotherapy time… now I have learned a new way to deal with the blame/anger and doing a U turn looking inside, meditation in what gets triggered and extending self compassion to the little one on me who suffered much abuse & neglect
Realizing that I was neglected in that relationship & taking responsibility for my part in the relationship yet without self blame
I would be a kinder, less judgemental person. I would not be so sensitive to criticism and hopefully see it as an opportunity to become a “better” person. Reduced anxiety. Reduced tension. More acceptance. More Joy.
Thank you Tara, your insights are very inspiring and helpful. I blamed myself a lot for a decision I made during covid. Being trapped and not seeing a way out, I kept on blaming myself more and more and this put me in the role of the wounded little dog.
I realize that the difficult relationship with my Mother at the end of her life could have been less sad and deeply wounding if I had been able to U-turn and see the vulnerability beneath that drove her hurtful statements and behavior
“I used the question “What would happen if you let go of blame?”. This resulted in a very insightful discussion that I would not have guessed. Thank you
Wow how insightful and helpful! Thank you – amazing steps towards self healing right there.
I find the anecdote about palliative comments really enlightening!
Your love and compassion shone through!
Gill
When I did this exercise I realised my loved one did the things she did to get the attention she needed and never got. What an eye-opening experience! Thank you Tara 🙂
I have had glimpses of that person. She reminds herself to focus inside, accept the feelings and think of an approach to the other that works toward unity rather than blame.
There is something I have been working on for a while now – with Tara and Jack’s help – and something has shifted again towards freedom. Thank you both.
Thank you Tara for your insights & guidance. They are pointing me in the direction I need to follow. I’m finding it difficult to pinpoint exactly what has caused my feelings of resentment & anger…I need to do more work on this. I feel a generalised resentment caused feelings of being overwhelmed & too much demanded of me, but specific people & events elude me at present. I recognise that the resentment I carry negatively affects my relationship with myself & others.
I feel like there’s this ferocious struggle between my mind and my heart. Unless I quiet my mind (and sometimes I must do it almost mechanically, making myself think about absolutely nothing), do I feel that I’m going to go crazy, chewing over situations, having all the conversations with the ones who hurt me. Always defensive, building walls that I fell I will be destroyed if they’re not there.
Thank you for your time and wisdom. These are valuable tools I am going to develop further to help me grow. If I could release myself from judgment I could live in peace with myself and bring more joy to others
I would be a more approachable and softer person to others and towards myself. I wold be able to really express kindness and gentleness; be genuine in expressing emotions; to really love.
Michelle Barclay, Health Education, Minneapolis, MN, USAsays
I recently experienced the full power of the U-Turn and offering myself compassion in my most recent visit with my mother, who is painfully trapped in a familial cycle of self-focused communication. By practicing these skills, I was able to fully open to the pain and heartbreak of this primary relationship and have deep compassion for both my childhood and current selves. These videos reinforced for me the power of these practices for ourselves and those we serve. Thank you, Tara.
I became aware of how I have held on to blaming my brother and how that has led to a distance and lack of intimacy in our relationship. As I turned inward I realised how alone, unseen and unloved I felt, when I was looking after my mother. I would like to heal this and create anew my relationship with my brother.
thank you. I am grateful for your videos. I am using this process with my alanon work, and in a current situation … with unfamiliar people in a new work context.
thank you .. keeps deepening wish to live from this place in all my affairs.
If/when I can/will be able to truly see myself as a worthy human being, if/when I find the compassion for myself /others, I will be a strong and capable person with so much love and appreciation for myself and others. I will feel and experience an inner peace and acceptance that I long for.
A more compassionate being, open to myself and others. Thank you very much!
Thank You very much for your words, for the wise advices.
When I could let go of judgment and blame, I can feel more soft, light and calm. Inside and outside of me. Heart and mind more clear.
When I look around me, nature, people in these moments, I can feel more connected, no separateness between us.
Compassion flows spontanously and gratitude, and some joy from very inside.
I can see in other people beauty and vulnerability that remember mine. Love to them is more easy then feel it for me.
Big hug, and big Love,
Mònica
How did I not know about your work before? So necessary to work through these issues. Thank you for your thoughtfulness in offering these segments for free to everyone.
I would be more peaceful inside and hopefully more open with others on the outside. I want to move in that direction. Does letting go of judgment and blame towards someone result in miminimizing or condoning their offensive behavior?
I could definitely feel a softening when staying with the u turn and turning away from the blaming the other …
I could also feel the healing permissions in the compassionate words to self ..
Thank you Tara x
Thank you Tara 🙂
Very well explained, in combination to your soothing and calming voice.
Thank you. I’ll put into practice your suggestions.
This meditation helped me connect once again to my true self…When I step in to this space, it is as if I have been off traveling away from home and finally returned to find a fire still burning for me.
This messages/practices came in such synchronized timing: just lost a friend/ex boyfriend to cancer w complications in his lungs (pneumonia)… I have been blaming myself, lots of shame for not being there to help during the chemotherapy time… now I have learned a new way to deal with the blame/anger and doing a U turn looking inside, meditation in what gets triggered and extending self compassion to the little one on me who suffered much abuse & neglect
Realizing that I was neglected in that relationship & taking responsibility for my part in the relationship yet without self blame
I would be a kinder, less judgemental person. I would not be so sensitive to criticism and hopefully see it as an opportunity to become a “better” person. Reduced anxiety. Reduced tension. More acceptance. More Joy.
I would be much more forgiving to myself
Thank you for providing guidance to self compassion. Thank you, thank you,
Thank you Tara, your insights are very inspiring and helpful. I blamed myself a lot for a decision I made during covid. Being trapped and not seeing a way out, I kept on blaming myself more and more and this put me in the role of the wounded little dog.
I would be more compassionate with myself and others.
thank you!
I realize that the difficult relationship with my Mother at the end of her life could have been less sad and deeply wounding if I had been able to U-turn and see the vulnerability beneath that drove her hurtful statements and behavior
Thank you for these videos, they are very useful.
“I used the question “What would happen if you let go of blame?”. This resulted in a very insightful discussion that I would not have guessed. Thank you
Thank you for the exercises. I want to remove the fear and insecurities that I have that have made me unable to achieve my full potential.
Wow how insightful and helpful! Thank you – amazing steps towards self healing right there.
I find the anecdote about palliative comments really enlightening!
Your love and compassion shone through!
Gill
When I did this exercise I realised my loved one did the things she did to get the attention she needed and never got. What an eye-opening experience! Thank you Tara 🙂
I would be lighter, struggle less. I imagine I would have greater access to my creative side. When I can indulge in my creativity I feel more whole.
I have had glimpses of that person. She reminds herself to focus inside, accept the feelings and think of an approach to the other that works toward unity rather than blame.
Tara, thank you.
More open to feeling and less defensive towards others
Free to love
There is something I have been working on for a while now – with Tara and Jack’s help – and something has shifted again towards freedom. Thank you both.
I’d me me, softer, with more ease and kindness in my life. What a lovely thought/feeling.
Thank you Tara.
Thank you Tara for your insights & guidance. They are pointing me in the direction I need to follow. I’m finding it difficult to pinpoint exactly what has caused my feelings of resentment & anger…I need to do more work on this. I feel a generalised resentment caused feelings of being overwhelmed & too much demanded of me, but specific people & events elude me at present. I recognise that the resentment I carry negatively affects my relationship with myself & others.
p. wolf
the way you explain chronic blame and judgment, in such an easy and understandable way is just amazing. thank you
I feel like there’s this ferocious struggle between my mind and my heart. Unless I quiet my mind (and sometimes I must do it almost mechanically, making myself think about absolutely nothing), do I feel that I’m going to go crazy, chewing over situations, having all the conversations with the ones who hurt me. Always defensive, building walls that I fell I will be destroyed if they’re not there.
It works. Felt my feelings releasing. Thank you!
I would be free and allow others to be free we could just be who we are
I would be the best version of the person I am meant to be.
Your teachings are always so inspiring. When I can let go of judgment and blame I become a gentler and kinder person.
Thank you for your time and wisdom. These are valuable tools I am going to develop further to help me grow. If I could release myself from judgment I could live in peace with myself and bring more joy to others
I would be free to enjoy learning and growing into my best self.
I would be able to feel again.
I would be a more approachable and softer person to others and towards myself. I wold be able to really express kindness and gentleness; be genuine in expressing emotions; to really love.
Loved your lessons and the story about the dog caught in trap.
I’d be doing well, the things I love the most, and stay in touch with my relatives.
I’d be happier, less frightened, more secure… more accepting and loving of myself and others.
Thank you for always trying to help people. Truly remarkable and admirable. I will need lots of reminding to implement your suggestions.
I would be a happier and more satisfied human being. Thank you for the work you do for the world!
I recently experienced the full power of the U-Turn and offering myself compassion in my most recent visit with my mother, who is painfully trapped in a familial cycle of self-focused communication. By practicing these skills, I was able to fully open to the pain and heartbreak of this primary relationship and have deep compassion for both my childhood and current selves. These videos reinforced for me the power of these practices for ourselves and those we serve. Thank you, Tara.
More in touch with my feelings and more forgiving of others
Free, able to feel joy and love and laughter. To not feel consumed every minute of every day. To be free to let love and light to enter my life again
I became aware of how I have held on to blaming my brother and how that has led to a distance and lack of intimacy in our relationship. As I turned inward I realised how alone, unseen and unloved I felt, when I was looking after my mother. I would like to heal this and create anew my relationship with my brother.
Thank you for insight and kindness, Tara.
thank you. I am grateful for your videos. I am using this process with my alanon work, and in a current situation … with unfamiliar people in a new work context.
thank you .. keeps deepening wish to live from this place in all my affairs.
If/when I can/will be able to truly see myself as a worthy human being, if/when I find the compassion for myself /others, I will be a strong and capable person with so much love and appreciation for myself and others. I will feel and experience an inner peace and acceptance that I long for.