Hello there. Paul here. I tried to allow my depressed emotions to be visited by kindness. It didn’t work for me. Maybe I didn’t try hard enough to allow that. Thank you.
Tara,
I am grateful to you for sharing this story of your self at the beginning of your journey. I identify with the feelings you shared as I too lived in the trance of unworthiness for many years. And I too have found that I can move through the pain I habitually experienced by bringing the core feeling of unworthiness and self judgement to my consciousness. I have sought help and found healing but not until I realized that “the problem” was within me. And the solution was within me too. I needed to love myself. As I looked deeper I could see that my need for love had been unmet for most of my life. I blamed myself for the wounding I felt, as though I deserved to be punished. It has been many years since I found the path of my recovery and I am on that path every day and night 24/7.
I walk the path of belonging, of safety,
of loving kindness every day.
I especially love your image of the two wings of mindfulness and compassion.
Thank you for this offering.
Mimi A
I relaxed into knowing how exhausted my body is & can see how the rest of the nights activities, brushing my teeth, getting ready for bed etc can be done with love & care, one thing at a time, rather than through gritted teeth & feeling it’s a chore…thank you. Heather (Australia)
I just regret not having these teachings at an earlier stage in my life and career. But I’ve also learned in this video, regretting will keep me stuck. Instead, I need to accept the imperfect me, nurture and love myself for whom I am.
My inner wisdom and healer says thank you so much because I needed this right now and it allowed me to catch myself and turn towards a kinder self dialogue and tolerance for imperfections of our human condition and how beautiful it is to feel and think with heart open and knowing pain and suffering and joy or on a spectrum and I can feel them all because it’s human. And I can live with this and be flawed and not need to let go of the second arrow.
I’ve really been working on reparenting the past few years. My inner child does feel safer but she does still struggle. She resisted the kindness, initially, but did open to it a bit and I did start crying. Will keep working through these challenges.
I have been working on self compassion for a while now and was pleased that I was able to welcome my anxiety wave (always anxiety in the first instance) with the words ‘of course I can be with you’. I smiled and had a sigh of relief… but I really need to stay with that feeling. as soon as i divert my attention away, the anxiety stays but not in such a welcome way
Hi everyone! Ruth asked me to share how I will use this content. I am joining the Mindfulness Meditation Teacher Certification Program in Feb 23. While I am more or less at peace with myself by now, I have a dear friend who is struggeling quite a lot with her self relation. I will try to connect her as soon as my time and her availability allows it. This is going to be a primer for use in my own teaching, which will address people who are most likely to have similar issues. Thank you.
❤ deep sadness and loving and gratefulness. Thank you Tara sharing and these free courses qnd videos. They are very impirtant and useful for us who can’t afford.
I honestly felt worse. My husband has beginning stage alz and I am so
stuck in feeling angry at him and then pity for me. And of course then I feel shame and a sense of great disappointment myself.
I have listen to many talks by you, and Jack Kornfield , Pema Chodron. Anyway you get what I am saying.
From a stranger…recovery is non linear. By being here and reflecting on your journey, you are already more self aware. The more you know about what helps and how to achieve it, the readier you become and there’s a tipping point.
Your ahaa lightbulb moment. Try focus on a littler issue than the Alzheimers. Start small. Keep trying to u turn on something til it eases your heart.
Well I hope your journey to grow continues and you open your heart to somebody including yourself – to have a partner in your journey that brings you strength and safety.
I recall, almost obsessively, lately how i am unhappy with how i spoke, or more accurately didnt speak enough to explain why i needed to end a recently begun relationship. I can regard my ineptitude, my withdrawl into fear and tongue-tied inarticulate brevity with forgiveness for the moments i am practicing mindfulness. But in short order, often in response to the sadness that accompanies this decision, i again find thoughts of critical self-judgement surfacing in my inner dialogue. I think i need a bunch more of “wash, rinse, and repeat” in my intimate relationship with Me. 😘
Hello there. Paul here. I tried to allow my depressed emotions to be visited by kindness. It didn’t work for me. Maybe I didn’t try hard enough to allow that. Thank you.
Tara,
I am grateful to you for sharing this story of your self at the beginning of your journey. I identify with the feelings you shared as I too lived in the trance of unworthiness for many years. And I too have found that I can move through the pain I habitually experienced by bringing the core feeling of unworthiness and self judgement to my consciousness. I have sought help and found healing but not until I realized that “the problem” was within me. And the solution was within me too. I needed to love myself. As I looked deeper I could see that my need for love had been unmet for most of my life. I blamed myself for the wounding I felt, as though I deserved to be punished. It has been many years since I found the path of my recovery and I am on that path every day and night 24/7.
I walk the path of belonging, of safety,
of loving kindness every day.
I especially love your image of the two wings of mindfulness and compassion.
Thank you for this offering.
Mimi A
I relaxed into knowing how exhausted my body is & can see how the rest of the nights activities, brushing my teeth, getting ready for bed etc can be done with love & care, one thing at a time, rather than through gritted teeth & feeling it’s a chore…thank you. Heather (Australia)
“happiness hopeful healed “
I feel a sense of care, love and grounding wash over me as I bring compassion to myself.
I just regret not having these teachings at an earlier stage in my life and career. But I’ve also learned in this video, regretting will keep me stuck. Instead, I need to accept the imperfect me, nurture and love myself for whom I am.
I dont like that different opinions are being met with hatred and anger. Thank you for your help to the world
I felt more grounded
I felt a sense of reassurance
the container within me widened and became lighter.
My inner wisdom and healer says thank you so much because I needed this right now and it allowed me to catch myself and turn towards a kinder self dialogue and tolerance for imperfections of our human condition and how beautiful it is to feel and think with heart open and knowing pain and suffering and joy or on a spectrum and I can feel them all because it’s human. And I can live with this and be flawed and not need to let go of the second arrow.
Namaste
I’ve really been working on reparenting the past few years. My inner child does feel safer but she does still struggle. She resisted the kindness, initially, but did open to it a bit and I did start crying. Will keep working through these challenges.
I have been working on self compassion for a while now and was pleased that I was able to welcome my anxiety wave (always anxiety in the first instance) with the words ‘of course I can be with you’. I smiled and had a sigh of relief… but I really need to stay with that feeling. as soon as i divert my attention away, the anxiety stays but not in such a welcome way
Such a great result. Thanks for sharing. Wish you well on this journey of healing. OOXO
My mind kept skittering away….
Hi everyone! Ruth asked me to share how I will use this content. I am joining the Mindfulness Meditation Teacher Certification Program in Feb 23. While I am more or less at peace with myself by now, I have a dear friend who is struggeling quite a lot with her self relation. I will try to connect her as soon as my time and her availability allows it. This is going to be a primer for use in my own teaching, which will address people who are most likely to have similar issues. Thank you.
❤ deep sadness and loving and gratefulness. Thank you Tara sharing and these free courses qnd videos. They are very impirtant and useful for us who can’t afford.
I felt the tightness in my chest lift and release.
Noticed less tension in my body. Gave myself a sense of opportunity to continue with my day. I felt love.
thank you for helping me to wake up
I honestly felt worse. My husband has beginning stage alz and I am so
stuck in feeling angry at him and then pity for me. And of course then I feel shame and a sense of great disappointment myself.
I have listen to many talks by you, and Jack Kornfield , Pema Chodron. Anyway you get what I am saying.
I am Not doing the work.
Lynn Frazer
Hi Lyn
From a stranger…recovery is non linear. By being here and reflecting on your journey, you are already more self aware. The more you know about what helps and how to achieve it, the readier you become and there’s a tipping point.
Your ahaa lightbulb moment. Try focus on a littler issue than the Alzheimers. Start small. Keep trying to u turn on something til it eases your heart.
Well I hope your journey to grow continues and you open your heart to somebody including yourself – to have a partner in your journey that brings you strength and safety.
I recall, almost obsessively, lately how i am unhappy with how i spoke, or more accurately didnt speak enough to explain why i needed to end a recently begun relationship. I can regard my ineptitude, my withdrawl into fear and tongue-tied inarticulate brevity with forgiveness for the moments i am practicing mindfulness. But in short order, often in response to the sadness that accompanies this decision, i again find thoughts of critical self-judgement surfacing in my inner dialogue. I think i need a bunch more of “wash, rinse, and repeat” in my intimate relationship with Me. 😘
Wash rinse and repeat. Got it!
😁me too