Silence the Harsh Voice of Self-Judgment

What happened for you during the Head to Heart to Heartspace exercise?

1,123 Comments

louyse vallieres, Other, CA says

So hard to do when suffering with self-judgment. But so profoundly helpful when persevering !
Thank you so much Tara!!

Doyle Reimer, Student, Fort Worth, TX, USA says

I felt a tear and an easiness come with my judgement of myself with that exercise.

Sherry, CO, USA says

I find myself in a more compassionate and will be kinder for doing just enough time . I will unlearn and catch myself being a harsh critic to my self .

Anu Sarda, Another Field, Chicago, IL, USA says

sense of relief. I am ok. I am worthy.

Boris, Other, DK says

I felt a relief and less tense .

Averly, Psychotherapy, SG says

Wow, that question about “What am I unwilling to feel?” is really helpful. Many times clients share that they do not feel anything. Interesting question!

Anonymous says

Thank you so much Beautiful Tara Brach

xx

Mary Hall, AU says

I fell asleep

Susanne Brettl, Medicine, DE says

I felt a big relief when I questioned the self blame of my second arrow and I realised that it is only a creation by my mind. When I shifted from head to heartspace, I had the opportunity to evaluate my self blame on a deeper level of truth (on the level of my heart) and it turned out to be simply not true.

Begüm Soylu, Another Field, TR says

I found it a bit challenging to go from the mind to the heart area (too much thinking) and then concentrated on the image of the waves. Overall it was releiving. I feel that it will work better as I practice more of it…

Angela Mackenzie, Other, CA says

I really connected to how I use negative self talk and judgement instead of being with my feelings of pain, anger and jealousy. The second arrow hurts me the most.

Mimi McFaul, Psychology, CO, USA says

I felt expanded physically and in my headspace. I felt more capacity and less “squeezed.”

Anonymous says

Very insitefull

Christine Mackinnon, CA says

I was immediately aware of the things that I am feeling in terms of shame,
judgment, frustration and worry about my future. I then zeroed in how I felt… where was this tension centred in my body? Mostly my throat and back of my neck… then Tara requested I move from my head to my heart and give myself the self compassion I really needed and the understanding and love I really needed. I immediately felt a growing awareness and expansiveness in my whole being. “This” she said is “the heart space.”

gilligan, Counseling, NEWTOWN, PA, USA says

Does meditation cultivate the Heart space with compassion for others and ourselves?

Robbie Byrne, Counseling, IE says

I felt I could see a way to make changes.

Anonymous says

Felt calm

Marie D.M., Teacher, DK says

I feel more accepting of my insecurities. The question ‘what am I unwilling to feel’ is a powerful Way to get out of fixing mode and into kindness

Marie D.M., Teacher, DK says

Relief, letting go, feeling held

Tony Ah-Vee, Other, MU says

I felt more compassionate and non-judgmental in respect of my feelings.

Betty Severs, Nursing, CA says

It felt calming, soothing, as if there was a bigger loving presence with me.

Solange Huang, Other, MU says

i feel more relaxed…more present to my body…breathing more naturally…

Daryll, Nursing, GB says

I felt calmer

Debta, Another Field, CA, USA says

To be honest, I didn’t feel anything. The video went by quickly, and I think I blocked my feelings.

Susan-Mary Pryor, Other, NZ says

I smiled … a smile that was barely there at first then grew … as I released into the depths of softening the kindness I showed myself gifted me. Blessings

Anonymous says

The self care is the hardest part for me

Michele McBrayer, Nursing, USA says

I have much shame over my angry outbursts. I am aware of what brings them on and chastise myself for not being able to control them. I told my child inside that she belongs and then hugged a teddy bear. I offered myself compassion by realizing that any progress is acceptable I am doing my best and my best is good enough

David, Coach, AU says

Firstly, as I took a deep breath, I felt shivers all through my head and neck. Then I felt further tightness or pressure in the heart, and then a sense of release, easing of pressure throughout my body.

Karen Goranson, Bellingham, MA, USA says

I’m 75 years old and for the first time I was able to separate the thoughts from the feelings. The thoughts are actually in my mind. It was always one space-condemning thoughts and self-hating feelings in my heart. I always felt them as one thing. When they are separate, I see that I can deal with them in different ways and not just feel them as one. That makes it able to be healed. I’m sure it was my time to be able to hear this. Thank you so much Tara for saying it. It’s been so long and I can now see a way. Grateful.

Lois Millar, Counseling, NZ says

I felt the expansion and compassion for self when i could let go and make space for those to increase and the awareness of the head and how self destructive I can be.

Jess Lemon, Teacher, CA says

I felt a sense of expansion and was able to identify as the ocean and not the waves. It felt warm, soft and deeply healing/nurturing. Whispering ‘This belongs’ was powerful. Thank you.

renee h, Another Field, NL says

more open