Counteract doing movement, stretching, even seeing a chiropractic for some body work , showing love to self and others to alleviate mood and self images
I thought of how guilty I feel for not being connected to too many people as I have had to set boundaries for self healing, which has been difficult as I deeply care for these people but I just can’t seem to reach out, yet. I feel selfish. That was head. In my heart, I felt a painful squeezing there and my arms and chest, a cold feeling in my blood and then I realized my jaw was also clenched. I wrapped my arms around myself tightly, opened my heart space, said ‘I love you’ and felt warm and almost giddy with a release and relief. Thank you 🙏
In listening to this video and completing the exercise, I connected with my inner-self, and felt open heart compassion for the way I continue the journey to get myself afloat and ride the waves of life…
I had some trouble with this one! Obviously some resistance to explore here! A mentor once said I intellectualize more than feel. Some work to do here!
Hand on my heart flooded feelings of compassion and understanding that I more readily share with other. Always harsh and critical of myself …a new understanding that self compassion does not impede working towards a better version instead it allows healing. It will take repetition to undo the ingrained behaviours of “ never good enough”
I felt a lot of contraction and tension as I experienced feelings of not being loved and used by men which I blame myself for. Shame, regret, fear and then when I treated these feelings with kindness, I immediately felt a sense of calm and compassion. Thank you.
Thank you for all that you share.
During this practice I am aware of my procrastination and not making decisions but wanting it to be right decision for me all the time. Is it a case of it not being good enough?
I have to live with myself, there is no other choice.
So I better start to get along with myself, step by step saying yes
I love you, I love you, I love you…..
This was hard! Facing my fears of failure and letting down other people, especially those I love was a real challenge – the thoughts around this are so wrapped up in long-standing feelings of shame, blame, guilt and regret and the hard pain in my chest and throat became intense. The warmth and firm but gentle pressure of my hands on my heart felt supportive & reassuring and I tried to meet these emotions with kindness and words I know to be true – that I have done the best I could with what I had at any time. But this still feels like an excuse, in my head at least – I can almost see a sceptical expression in my minds eye and hear another voice that tells me that it just wasn’t good enough. I can see a glimmer of hope though & perhaps with time and repetition I’ll be able to believe this and let go of the thoughts of blame, shame & regret. I hope so. Thank you Tara for illuminating the path for me.
Do it. Forgive yourself and love yourself, the person you are – the imperfect human. But you are good enough for the time being. When you love yourself unconditionally, you will love others too. You will make mistakes again to learn from them and to learn how to forgive again, and again. Forgive yourself and others too. It is a process that doesn’t end.
I accepted myself as a complete human being who does not have to become angry at myself for not being able to complete a task , for example, on the computer.
Compassion made me aware that I don’t have to become frustrated about anything I don’t understand or can’t do.
There’s a lot here. A lot to process. It’s good. I’ve been trying to analyze, to be more self aware, what am I doing, she’s so comfortable with tenderness. I’m not. I’ve been in rebellion against my life. I have wanted not to be here. I have refused to interact with others. I have stubbornly refused to trust others, disallowing people to help me, because of pride. [mis]judging/accusing in my heart that people aren’t interested [in me]. This is a lie. Am I afraid to live? What am I expecting? From myself/others? Are they realistic? I was told in the past to stop comparing myself to others. Inadequate I judge myself. How to be adequate? Stop attacking myself. Give myself permission to do something I want to do. My lineage/bloodlines/ancestry has warring and fighting, controlling, dominance, belligerence in it. Combatting that, how to combat that? I’ve been told I’m headstrong. I have large bones. Germanic and Norse. I fight G-d, too. I know I need deliverance. I feel overwhelming for people. As a baby I squirmed to get out of my mother’s arms, then would rock myself to sleep. Strange behavior. I did it all through school. I still do. Too independent? I was told I rebelled against my mother. Maybe so. I’ve always felt different from my mother. Like my personality was too big. I want to be vivacious, enthusiastic, excited about everybody. As a child, a lot of times if I had a lot of excitement in my heart, I would wave my arms. But this felt like it was strange behavior. Maybe I didn’t know what to do with the energy? But I’m very tired now from all the trying to not be myself. My brain is tired, my emotions are tired. These are tools Dr. Brach is providing so I can become compassionate towards my own self and stop being so hard, critical, hateful, abusive towards myself. Thank you.
Began listening to lesson one yesterday and lesson two today. It’s a lot. Too much for me to take in in a short space of time. Will try to sit with the teachings and revisit videos 1 & 2 again tomorrow.
Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and compassion with me and the world.
When I move to heart I notice how my body legs go and relaxes. My shoulders drop and my breathing slows. I feel the acceptance. As I consider this acceptance I feel a lightness in my body that feels freeing.
Self-judgment, perfectionism and self-blame have kept me ‘stuck’ in a freeze state for quite some time. Moving from head to heart to heart space, accepting my heart as the ocean with waves was challenging. Yet, I welcome these exercises as a necessary part of my healing journey. Thank you so much for these exercises. Insightful.
i was moved to put my hand to my throat and tell myself, “it’s okay to speak. it’s okay to say what you need,” and felt a warm surge from my belly to my face while a few tears fell. my muscles feel more relaxed, and i’m a bit sad.
Something I have done and shown great results in feeling freeing and relief, released of tension and at last at home with myself. Will do more practice on those lessons. Thanks for all you do
I make a tight fist and place it pointed backward just to the right of my head. In tandem, I say a short prayer “Jesus, hold onto me,” as I grip his hand tighter.
other than the first video, which I also watched today and felt very good all the way through, this time some soft, vulnerable and slightly painful got touched, not particularly clear what it was, maybe some kind of a longing of being closer and more connected with other people.
later on today it mixed up with enjoying the beauty of the nature ( I live on a greek island) and it could be there at the same time.
I see the pattern in myself over and over again …reflecting the story of the 1st, then 2nd arrow of blame. I am becoming aware sooner of the pattern. I am able to locate the feeling in my belly … when the 2nd arrow is fired. I’m bringing the stories that I tell myself about the world that I am swimming in … the unjust, inequitable, uncompassionate world… closer to home. I’m more forgiving of myself and therefore less in the grip of suffering. It is so helpful to be reminded again and again about these kinds of simple practices. Many thanks!
I got into a very emotional space, where I got in touch with a vulnerable part of myself, that I blamed for not being able to cope with a difficult situation some years ago. I felt that I had finally opened the door to some healing.
I have already been doing a similar practice with situations that are triggered, which are currently not so hard. There are certain old relationships that are not valid today but that have marked me, I know that they are the reason for certain reactions that are being moderated thanks to my practice of mindfulness and self-compassion. There is a long way to go.
At first I felt down and depressed. After putting my hand on my heart and reassuring myself, these emotions lessened. A slight smile came to my face and my heart.
I was able to identify exactly what and where I was feeling, and allow the voice of my inner critic to subside. Then a sense of a bright sunshine kind of lightness arose and the heaviness in my heart and gut lifted. What a precious gift this is! Thank you, Tara. Namaste
Being kind to myself, the hardest part. Too much practice trying to figure out why I don’t belong, why I am to blame for everything. Maybe it’s time to give trying to be general manager of the universe…. and failing.
The feelings at first were unpleasant, gut churning, sadness. I wanted to cry. but placing my hand on my heart helped them ease a bit and begin to subside.
Yes, I agree with the video, self-judgement keeps us stuck. The challenge for me was to realize that was the mechanism which held me immobile and silenced.
Thanks for sharing the three movement of from head to heart to heart space. I can intensify my efforts by learning self care and self compassion. Thank you for the helpful video.
I feel more peace. I can see how the arrows have kept me from what I really want which is connection with others. The arrows have really restricted me…..for years. May I become more and more aware of when this happens, may I learn. Thank you Tara for your teachings. They have made a difference to me.
Even just fleetingly shifting from head to heart to heart space in the face of what I found I have been judging myself for and then comforting myself and encouraging myself that the pain I have been carrying for believing I had failed an important task gave me to feel a sense of release and possibility.
I realize how my own self judgement has also impacted those I love. This is a challenging practice but one I’m ready for. HEAD TO HEART really resonates. While I have known in my head it has been difficult to move to my heart and allow for these feelings. This is my time to heal. Thank you!
Counteract doing movement, stretching, even seeing a chiropractic for some body work , showing love to self and others to alleviate mood and self images
I was able to sit with my feelings of doubt and inadequacy and abandonment and the hand on my heart helped offer some solace
I felt larger
I thought of how guilty I feel for not being connected to too many people as I have had to set boundaries for self healing, which has been difficult as I deeply care for these people but I just can’t seem to reach out, yet. I feel selfish. That was head. In my heart, I felt a painful squeezing there and my arms and chest, a cold feeling in my blood and then I realized my jaw was also clenched. I wrapped my arms around myself tightly, opened my heart space, said ‘I love you’ and felt warm and almost giddy with a release and relief. Thank you 🙏
In listening to this video and completing the exercise, I connected with my inner-self, and felt open heart compassion for the way I continue the journey to get myself afloat and ride the waves of life…
I had some trouble with this one! Obviously some resistance to explore here! A mentor once said I intellectualize more than feel. Some work to do here!
Hand on my heart flooded feelings of compassion and understanding that I more readily share with other. Always harsh and critical of myself …a new understanding that self compassion does not impede working towards a better version instead it allows healing. It will take repetition to undo the ingrained behaviours of “ never good enough”
just putting my hand on my heart brings peace and puts an end to thoughts
Certainly saw an avenue of hope here. Will take a few rounds 😊
I am so Jenifer. Moving to heart space is difficult.
I felt a lot of contraction and tension as I experienced feelings of not being loved and used by men which I blame myself for. Shame, regret, fear and then when I treated these feelings with kindness, I immediately felt a sense of calm and compassion. Thank you.
Sandra. Yoga teacher UK
Thank you for all that you share.
During this practice I am aware of my procrastination and not making decisions but wanting it to be right decision for me all the time. Is it a case of it not being good enough?
I am unwilling to feel that I’m stupid and dumb or naive to this world .
I am unwilling to feel fearful or anxious
It’s okay Maina, I’m here for you and you are blessed beyond measure by Almighty .
Something to share with my daughter.
I have to live with myself, there is no other choice.
So I better start to get along with myself, step by step saying yes
I love you, I love you, I love you…..
This was hard! Facing my fears of failure and letting down other people, especially those I love was a real challenge – the thoughts around this are so wrapped up in long-standing feelings of shame, blame, guilt and regret and the hard pain in my chest and throat became intense. The warmth and firm but gentle pressure of my hands on my heart felt supportive & reassuring and I tried to meet these emotions with kindness and words I know to be true – that I have done the best I could with what I had at any time. But this still feels like an excuse, in my head at least – I can almost see a sceptical expression in my minds eye and hear another voice that tells me that it just wasn’t good enough. I can see a glimmer of hope though & perhaps with time and repetition I’ll be able to believe this and let go of the thoughts of blame, shame & regret. I hope so. Thank you Tara for illuminating the path for me.
Do it. Forgive yourself and love yourself, the person you are – the imperfect human. But you are good enough for the time being. When you love yourself unconditionally, you will love others too. You will make mistakes again to learn from them and to learn how to forgive again, and again. Forgive yourself and others too. It is a process that doesn’t end.
I accepted myself as a complete human being who does not have to become angry at myself for not being able to complete a task , for example, on the computer.
Compassion made me aware that I don’t have to become frustrated about anything I don’t understand or can’t do.
I felt a release of tension in my chest and the tears that threatened behind my closed eyes reversed themselves
There’s a lot here. A lot to process. It’s good. I’ve been trying to analyze, to be more self aware, what am I doing, she’s so comfortable with tenderness. I’m not. I’ve been in rebellion against my life. I have wanted not to be here. I have refused to interact with others. I have stubbornly refused to trust others, disallowing people to help me, because of pride. [mis]judging/accusing in my heart that people aren’t interested [in me]. This is a lie. Am I afraid to live? What am I expecting? From myself/others? Are they realistic? I was told in the past to stop comparing myself to others. Inadequate I judge myself. How to be adequate? Stop attacking myself. Give myself permission to do something I want to do. My lineage/bloodlines/ancestry has warring and fighting, controlling, dominance, belligerence in it. Combatting that, how to combat that? I’ve been told I’m headstrong. I have large bones. Germanic and Norse. I fight G-d, too. I know I need deliverance. I feel overwhelming for people. As a baby I squirmed to get out of my mother’s arms, then would rock myself to sleep. Strange behavior. I did it all through school. I still do. Too independent? I was told I rebelled against my mother. Maybe so. I’ve always felt different from my mother. Like my personality was too big. I want to be vivacious, enthusiastic, excited about everybody. As a child, a lot of times if I had a lot of excitement in my heart, I would wave my arms. But this felt like it was strange behavior. Maybe I didn’t know what to do with the energy? But I’m very tired now from all the trying to not be myself. My brain is tired, my emotions are tired. These are tools Dr. Brach is providing so I can become compassionate towards my own self and stop being so hard, critical, hateful, abusive towards myself. Thank you.
The ocean and wave metaphor really worked for me. It’s helpful to think that my experiences make sense somehow.
Began listening to lesson one yesterday and lesson two today. It’s a lot. Too much for me to take in in a short space of time. Will try to sit with the teachings and revisit videos 1 & 2 again tomorrow.
Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and compassion with me and the world.
When I move to heart I notice how my body legs go and relaxes. My shoulders drop and my breathing slows. I feel the acceptance. As I consider this acceptance I feel a lightness in my body that feels freeing.
i felt kinder to myself. Think I’m getting it…
Self-judgment, perfectionism and self-blame have kept me ‘stuck’ in a freeze state for quite some time. Moving from head to heart to heart space, accepting my heart as the ocean with waves was challenging. Yet, I welcome these exercises as a necessary part of my healing journey. Thank you so much for these exercises. Insightful.
i was moved to put my hand to my throat and tell myself, “it’s okay to speak. it’s okay to say what you need,” and felt a warm surge from my belly to my face while a few tears fell. my muscles feel more relaxed, and i’m a bit sad.
I am trying to remember to say I love you out loud to myself. It can give you chills, and a big smile.
Something I have done and shown great results in feeling freeing and relief, released of tension and at last at home with myself. Will do more practice on those lessons. Thanks for all you do
I make a tight fist and place it pointed backward just to the right of my head. In tandem, I say a short prayer “Jesus, hold onto me,” as I grip his hand tighter.
He shows up every time.
Thanks so much
I noticed nothing only a longing to keep practicing
I realized this vulnerable part of me, with enough self care, is a gift I can use to have more compassion for others and to help others.
Thank you! This is the peaceful place I find during/after yoga and meditation. Very easy way to bring me back. I appreciate the insight. Peace
other than the first video, which I also watched today and felt very good all the way through, this time some soft, vulnerable and slightly painful got touched, not particularly clear what it was, maybe some kind of a longing of being closer and more connected with other people.
later on today it mixed up with enjoying the beauty of the nature ( I live on a greek island) and it could be there at the same time.
I see the pattern in myself over and over again …reflecting the story of the 1st, then 2nd arrow of blame. I am becoming aware sooner of the pattern. I am able to locate the feeling in my belly … when the 2nd arrow is fired. I’m bringing the stories that I tell myself about the world that I am swimming in … the unjust, inequitable, uncompassionate world… closer to home. I’m more forgiving of myself and therefore less in the grip of suffering. It is so helpful to be reminded again and again about these kinds of simple practices. Many thanks!
I got into a very emotional space, where I got in touch with a vulnerable part of myself, that I blamed for not being able to cope with a difficult situation some years ago. I felt that I had finally opened the door to some healing.
I have already been doing a similar practice with situations that are triggered, which are currently not so hard. There are certain old relationships that are not valid today but that have marked me, I know that they are the reason for certain reactions that are being moderated thanks to my practice of mindfulness and self-compassion. There is a long way to go.
At first I felt down and depressed. After putting my hand on my heart and reassuring myself, these emotions lessened. A slight smile came to my face and my heart.
I cried. I need to be kind to myself.
Some scary for a moment. Maybe getting in touch with some feelings is not easy for me, it is a training.
I felt scared and yet hopeful
I was able to identify exactly what and where I was feeling, and allow the voice of my inner critic to subside. Then a sense of a bright sunshine kind of lightness arose and the heaviness in my heart and gut lifted. What a precious gift this is! Thank you, Tara. Namaste
I need to be my best friend
Being kind to myself, the hardest part. Too much practice trying to figure out why I don’t belong, why I am to blame for everything. Maybe it’s time to give trying to be general manager of the universe…. and failing.
Love that ! I will have to train this. It’s not easy to listen and connect directly inside
The feelings at first were unpleasant, gut churning, sadness. I wanted to cry. but placing my hand on my heart helped them ease a bit and begin to subside.
helpful
recognised the additional hurt I cause myself, ouch
Yes, I agree with the video, self-judgement keeps us stuck. The challenge for me was to realize that was the mechanism which held me immobile and silenced.
Thanks for sharing the three movement of from head to heart to heart space. I can intensify my efforts by learning self care and self compassion. Thank you for the helpful video.
I feel more peace. I can see how the arrows have kept me from what I really want which is connection with others. The arrows have really restricted me…..for years. May I become more and more aware of when this happens, may I learn. Thank you Tara for your teachings. They have made a difference to me.
Even just fleetingly shifting from head to heart to heart space in the face of what I found I have been judging myself for and then comforting myself and encouraging myself that the pain I have been carrying for believing I had failed an important task gave me to feel a sense of release and possibility.
I realize how my own self judgement has also impacted those I love. This is a challenging practice but one I’m ready for. HEAD TO HEART really resonates. While I have known in my head it has been difficult to move to my heart and allow for these feelings. This is my time to heal. Thank you!
Dear Tara, Thank you so much for leading us to more joy and freedom , peace of ming and compassion ! So empowering!
Thankyou so much.