This practice helped me see my pain in a different perspective. To see how the one that hurt me was hurting too. I think I can move on to forgive myself as I often blamed myself for what happened. it will not be easy but using your three step practice opened my eyes to a different light. Thank you for that.
I felt the hurt and resentment and in the u-turn realized it was sadness over not being loved and being treated different and unworthy. But this shifted to- I could be my own wise parent and give those things to myself.
I see the dog with its leg in the trap. It brings compassion and allows space to complete the u turn to have compassion for myself. There is release, letting go of judgment
I would be so much happier and kinder to myself!
Had glimmers of compassion for abuse, more from my head than my heart
Had a little more compassion when I accepted how unconscious he was
I have been deeply wounded by betrayal and I blame myself in my heart even though in my head I know it was not my fault. I’m starting to come around and this helps. Thank you.
I felt calmer and more spacious, open when I made the u-turn from external blame and anger to the pain of internal feelings of rejection and abandonment. After offering myself compassion, I was able to clarify the vulnerability and feelings of failure in the other person, which shifted the intensity and stuckness of what I had been caught up in , what I had been believing. Thank you.
I would be tall and strong and gentle. I would be less effected by outward events and situations. I would create by own boundaries without being defensive or feeling guilty. I would worry less about the future and feel less sad and guilty about the past.
Who would I be if I let go of blame and judgement? I would be Happy! There’s nothing more important then for me, to clear the way for the Happiness that is already there. Much work to do here for me as the trap has been ingrained since childhood and continues to this day with familial relationships. Practice practice practice, and now there’s a pathway to loosening the hold that the trap has on me. Like the Tin Man here’s the “oil can” of self-compassion, today feeling the possibility of Freedom!
I think I would be quicker to move forward with good ideas and take less time to worry and consider all the things that might go wrong – all the dangers – all the ways I might fail to succeed or follow through.
Don’t know who I am, understand its called ‘survival mode. Yes, too much trauma background, with impenetrable walls encasing my heart for decades. I’m alone. In am armpit city, poverty, violence, No Access, etc… Didn’t/don’t remember the first 25years of being on this planet. Trying to tell myself, I’m doing the best I can for where I’m at… You said the word Trust, poked out at me- was assaulted again in 2018, No help with healing, So, yes, am/been shut down. So trust? Not today.
Kasandra Link-Charles, Social Work, San Antonio, TX, USAsays
Allowing me to release myself and others from the pain I experienced……..it is truly the past. Engaging in the release of shame from having to experience such hardship allows me to not operate out of fear but compassion from understanding the person’s past experience and mine that created such behaviors. Then allow true forgiveness to move forward.
Mmmm interesting question I’m still not sure but on reflection I would be freer and be able to let go of the pain and grief I carry have carried but it’s going to take me time…….
I look forward to receiving the information so as I can continue with this practice 🙏
Without judgement/blame I would be with me and my feelings, the burn that I feel in the moment. I would have a choice because I did not just react out of my trance. I would cry if I have to. Release and see whats behind. Maybe that is healing.
Without judgement or blame, I would be free to enjoy the present moment and feel a sense of freedom and acceptance that I didn’t in my younger years. Accepting I am a sentient being.
I felt the compassion briefly. The U-turn. Talking about the grief of never having the father that he wanted, that resonates with me. To allow the grief. I am sure it is still challenging but that’s an opening. Something to practice.
GEORGE JACOBS, Counseling, Kerhonkson, NY, USAsays
I’m 79 and this is probably the 79th slide into depression that I have experienced. The psychic pain and physical suffering is like being under a dark suffocating blanket. I rarely miss a morning of spiritual practice, a practice that can sustain months of relative tranquility and yet have little effect when in this trance.
Who would I be if I wasn’t steeped in self blame? I would be the kind, loving, compassionate, affectionate and appreciative person I really am, and who I am, when not in the trance of unworthiness. So I blame myself, once again, for falling back into this abyss.
Seems like I enter the compassionate heart space for just a flash and then the speck of light is gone.
I need to work on compassion for myself and for the person who is hurting me. It is a new way for me to see this problem.
Thank you so much for these videos.
Thank G-d, I was able to do u turn. Practiced driving. Sorry couldn’t resist. Well not really sorry. Now that’s much more authentic
I loved the way Tara is clear and methodical as she taught us a doable process I agree that deep compassion is necessary for healing I’ve experienced that personally Thank you Tara. I want to bless you with a long healthy and joyful life
I connected with being compassionate and forgiving of myself – however, felt unsure of how to recognize the and understand the struggle of the person to whom I have felt unease with. I would have a more peaceful feeling of self and others if I could learn to let go
Possibly I could become less angry and not so reactive to small things that easily trigger my anger and self blame. With practice I feel I could soften into being kinder to myself and others.
Why does it take such an effort to be kind to myself where I would never treat others as I sometimes treat myself.
I need these reminders!
Thank you Tara.
You first introduced me to meditating.
“I already knew your reasoning and flaws, and I was willing to go down with you. It hurts to still be so far apart.”
Now it’s time for me to live for myself and have fun.
“I already knew your reasoning and flaws, and I was willing to go down with you. It hurts to still be so far apart.”
Now it’s time for me to live for myself and have fun.
Thank you Tara. I realized the depth of my wound of abandonment.
I’d be a less depressed and much happier, confident person
This practice helped me see my pain in a different perspective. To see how the one that hurt me was hurting too. I think I can move on to forgive myself as I often blamed myself for what happened. it will not be easy but using your three step practice opened my eyes to a different light. Thank you for that.
I would be calmer and clearer about my choices and boundaries if I let go of blame and judgement.
I felt the hurt and resentment and in the u-turn realized it was sadness over not being loved and being treated different and unworthy. But this shifted to- I could be my own wise parent and give those things to myself.
oh I could be so helpful..
well I am already. thank you. it hurts less when I open to my ownwoundedness merci namaste
I see the dog with its leg in the trap. It brings compassion and allows space to complete the u turn to have compassion for myself. There is release, letting go of judgment
I would be so much happier and kinder to myself!
Had glimmers of compassion for abuse, more from my head than my heart
Had a little more compassion when I accepted how unconscious he was
I like the U-turn.
When I stop blaming others I feel my pain and my needs. And then I can start to take care of myselve.
I would be holding me emotionally, more caring and compassionate for myself
I have been deeply wounded by betrayal and I blame myself in my heart even though in my head I know it was not my fault. I’m starting to come around and this helps. Thank you.
I felt calmer and more spacious, open when I made the u-turn from external blame and anger to the pain of internal feelings of rejection and abandonment. After offering myself compassion, I was able to clarify the vulnerability and feelings of failure in the other person, which shifted the intensity and stuckness of what I had been caught up in , what I had been believing. Thank you.
I would be tall and strong and gentle. I would be less effected by outward events and situations. I would create by own boundaries without being defensive or feeling guilty. I would worry less about the future and feel less sad and guilty about the past.
probably free and happier!
I don’t know yet
Who would I be if I let go of blame and judgement? I would be Happy! There’s nothing more important then for me, to clear the way for the Happiness that is already there. Much work to do here for me as the trap has been ingrained since childhood and continues to this day with familial relationships. Practice practice practice, and now there’s a pathway to loosening the hold that the trap has on me. Like the Tin Man here’s the “oil can” of self-compassion, today feeling the possibility of Freedom!
Free…
I think I would be quicker to move forward with good ideas and take less time to worry and consider all the things that might go wrong – all the dangers – all the ways I might fail to succeed or follow through.
its unbelievable that just by changing ones mindset, relationships can change.
Don’t know who I am, understand its called ‘survival mode. Yes, too much trauma background, with impenetrable walls encasing my heart for decades. I’m alone. In am armpit city, poverty, violence, No Access, etc… Didn’t/don’t remember the first 25years of being on this planet. Trying to tell myself, I’m doing the best I can for where I’m at… You said the word Trust, poked out at me- was assaulted again in 2018, No help with healing, So, yes, am/been shut down. So trust? Not today.
This resonates. I am sorry for us both. I don’t know what to do about it, so I’ve nothing concrete to offer. You are not alone in this.
More balanced; confident; loving and responsive to the moment.
I would be lighter
Allowing me to release myself and others from the pain I experienced……..it is truly the past. Engaging in the release of shame from having to experience such hardship allows me to not operate out of fear but compassion from understanding the person’s past experience and mine that created such behaviors. Then allow true forgiveness to move forward.
I would be gentler.
I would be kinder to myself. Allow myself to feel…
Mmmm interesting question I’m still not sure but on reflection I would be freer and be able to let go of the pain and grief I carry have carried but it’s going to take me time…….
I look forward to receiving the information so as I can continue with this practice 🙏
Without judgement or blame: I would be free of sadness and loneliness and more in my own power. Back on the wheel.
Without judgement/blame I would be with me and my feelings, the burn that I feel in the moment. I would have a choice because I did not just react out of my trance. I would cry if I have to. Release and see whats behind. Maybe that is healing.
Be really me – the Gold under the clay❤️
I would be kinder, calmer more peaceful and less lonely.
These practices come back to the same point, not to bypass my own feelings in the very moment, but to accept them. And we can do it again and again.
It was challenging, but slowly softening
Felt much calmer.
I would be empty.
Thank you. Like stepping out of my cage.
Without judgement or blame, I would be free to enjoy the present moment and feel a sense of freedom and acceptance that I didn’t in my younger years. Accepting I am a sentient being.
I felt the compassion briefly. The U-turn. Talking about the grief of never having the father that he wanted, that resonates with me. To allow the grief. I am sure it is still challenging but that’s an opening. Something to practice.
I’m 79 and this is probably the 79th slide into depression that I have experienced. The psychic pain and physical suffering is like being under a dark suffocating blanket. I rarely miss a morning of spiritual practice, a practice that can sustain months of relative tranquility and yet have little effect when in this trance.
Who would I be if I wasn’t steeped in self blame? I would be the kind, loving, compassionate, affectionate and appreciative person I really am, and who I am, when not in the trance of unworthiness. So I blame myself, once again, for falling back into this abyss.
Seems like I enter the compassionate heart space for just a flash and then the speck of light is gone.
I need to work on compassion for myself and for the person who is hurting me. It is a new way for me to see this problem.
Thank you so much for these videos.
Thank G-d, I was able to do u turn. Practiced driving. Sorry couldn’t resist. Well not really sorry. Now that’s much more authentic
I loved the way Tara is clear and methodical as she taught us a doable process I agree that deep compassion is necessary for healing I’ve experienced that personally Thank you Tara. I want to bless you with a long healthy and joyful life
I recognize I block my compassion for others by not having compassion for myself. This is what I need to work on.
Able to access and offer selfkindness and acceptance while being open to loving myself and others
I’d be more like the person I know I really am deep down… loving and kind.
It opened me up to a long standing conflict with my family and I could see the trap they are caught in as well as my own.
Bob D.
I connected with being compassionate and forgiving of myself – however, felt unsure of how to recognize the and understand the struggle of the person to whom I have felt unease with. I would have a more peaceful feeling of self and others if I could learn to let go
Possibly I could become less angry and not so reactive to small things that easily trigger my anger and self blame. With practice I feel I could soften into being kinder to myself and others.
Why does it take such an effort to be kind to myself where I would never treat others as I sometimes treat myself.
I need these reminders!
Thank you Tara.
You first introduced me to meditating.
I could be a more compassionate, loving being living true to myself.