Perfect 🥰 and my meditation this morning so this process allows more tears of compassion and empathy to flow and heart expansion to occur. Thank you 🙏💜💚💜🙏
I would feel joy, happiness, deep connection with others, the ease of being with others and hopefully the ability to make deep and lasting relationships.
absolutely loved this module. I will use it in my work with my patients of course, more importantly it felt healing in the moment to go through the visualization exercise and the concrete techniques while focussed on my own anger blame and judgement within my personal life and relationships.
These are difficult processes and will take time to bear fruit. forgiveness and self compassion are so difficulty when one is tightly wrapped in layers of righteous indignation, shame and hurt.
I find it helpful to offer these concepts of self compassion and forgiveness beyond just processing of pain in my therapeutic work and personal life.
This is of tremendous and ongoing value , please continue with your offerings, much needed!!
Warmly and with gratitude to you Tara for your knowledge and wisdom and Ruth for presenting it perfectly.
Om Shanti !
Hira,
P.S.
I loved the lavender blue eye highlight as I watched. It works beautifully. what is it ?
Rachel Cooper, Social Work, Springville , UT, USAsays
This video was very impactful for me to use the analogy of the trapped dog and apply that to the person who hurt me. In many years… this is the first analogy that hit me since I love dogs and can feel that compassion for animals very easy. I tried to apply it to a person and I noticed a shift… thank you!
Rachel Cooper, Hope and Healing Counseling Services
I agree it takes repeated practice to do the U turn on the same life experience. Yet with time I’m able to recognize when I trigger the wound, allow vulnerability and compassion for self and other.
U-turn to self compassion and understanding and visualization of the person who hurt you as “a dog with one leg in the trap”is helpful. hurt people hurt people.
I can’t get my head around this. Too much trauma. Feeling so broken. And dissociated. Pure O driving me nuts. Full of fear, anger & hatred. I don’t know what else to do. Most of my friendships have broken down & relationships are out of the question. I hate life, myself & people in general. My mind makes my life unbearable. Constant Ruminations of trauma. I feel like a lost cause. I would end my life if i only had the bollocks to do it.
Please don’t give up. Do everything to heal calm and get down into your senses, your body, a clear moment…..Your peace is in the present, the moment. You recognize your mind is making your life unbearable.I know this place. It is living in hell. When you find yourself in this state, your mind is unwell, off balance chemically. It is ( was for me) impossible to use positive thinking, etc. to help myself. Antidepressant helped tremendously. So I finally got to recognize I had a good thought, and a good feeling after so long without….After a time I went off the medication. And I continue to learn and use other methods to live more peacefully in the peace and joy of Now, understanding that I do not have to live in the hell of an unaware, random mind.
There are many people around you who know this struggle you are in, walking a similar path. There are many who are healing with teaching and compassion to share.
Please don’t give up. Keep asking for help. Keep reaching out. “ The greater the struggle, the greater the possible destiny that awaits”. I saw this sign yesterday, and I know it to be true for me. I am very thankful for the place I am living in today and the path and people that helped me along the way.💝
This two practices are awesome, really easy to understand, I am a psicotherapist but a human being before that and when I practice the u turn practice I see that when I look deep down my self I can put my hand on my heart and say “it is OK to feel this”. Incredible healing
I would be free and brave to offer compassion, care and love to everyone in my life. Rejoicing that my woundedness brought me here. No shame, no fear, no anxiety, no anger. Full of light and life
I noticed a real shift as I practiced the U-turn. A sense of relief and opening as I faced my own feelings, and a letting go of the judgement which has occupied so much of my energy.
Thank you Tara,
Although my mother died as a result of her alcoholism, she was able to teach me one of life’s most valuable lessons…to forgive. However, I absolutely see the value of this program because I have been close to a few important people in my life who are unable to forgive important people in their lives. I feel certain that your program could help them. Your work is so important and I thank you from my heart for all of your efforts toward healing our world. Bless you.
There are two people I am angry towards. When I try to make that u-turn it is as though I am in a trance that if I stop resenting them I will not be able to punish them & pay the back for the hurt they have caused. I am trying to push through to focus on my feelings of loneliness , regret, inadequacy and fear of the future. If I continue to work on this, I would be freer to enjoy life, to love rather than thinking I can bring about change in someone else by my attitude towards them. I would be more comfortable with my progress not perfection.
Thank you Tara! How I wish this were taught in every school across the country to enable young people to grow up with inner strength to treat themselves and each other with compassion.
A new, fresh reflection of what’s my responsibility and can gather the inner resolve and allow the recognition to really dawn on me that holding on is actually harming me and those I relate ‘blame stories’ to. I have seen the freeing outcome in others, as they let go and down the fighting-gloves, how transformative that can be .. affecting the ‘blamed’ person , to free-up. Thx
I would love to0 do this u-turn practice again and again, it really did make me feel more spacious, towards myself and also for the person who has triggered my pain, recently.
Thank you very much for this, my heart is open. I feel sad, but also soft.
In a time of deep reflection on who I have been throughout my life, what I have contributed towards what others feel about themselves (specially my children) and how they tackle problems, your guidance and examples in these three videos have been a blessing. To accept feelings and not shoot a second arrow, to make a U-turn to connect to one’s own feelings, and to acknowledge that others carry their own hurts and insecurities opens a gentler and more understanding way into what lies ahead.
Thank you, Tara, for being who you are and sharing your wisdom.
I am challenged with so much resistance as I sometimes believe and have been told I have offered too much i to those who hurt me deeply . The U turn, however. is where I often find self love and longing. Will be wonderful to challenge some of my own resistance in the class.
My sister has been a difficult person in my life-seeming to always be eager to point out my flaws and her superiority. When I tried to u-turn, I can see her as needing attention and kindness and realize that she is operating from a base of self condemnation from the failure of two marriages and the feeling that she abandoned her only child. I believe I can work with these understandings to help heal our relationship through offering her more compassion and less judgment. Thank you.
I really appreciate the visual of the dog with a trap on its leg. Thinking about someone with a trap on their leg helps with the resentment I may feel towards the person that harmed me. I love the u-turn and the focus of noticing my pain instead of obsessing about the situation. I use the word notice because when I notice what I am feeling it helps me not to ‘attach’ to the situation and hit the rewind button in my head to play it over and over. I can use sentences like, “that is what embarrassment looks like” or “that is what humiliation looks like” etc. I can even say, “feelings of not being good enough are present.” Taking the “I” out is important for moving on.
I am currently reading Tara’s book, Radical Acceptance so this series has been an extra blessing to me. Additionally, I am working through some personal health issues, the recent death of my mother, and dealing with my father’s dementia; it has been quite a journey. Having struggled with chronic blame and self-judgment it has been difficult to shift but I am trying day by day. Meditation helps though there is so much more for me to learn.
Thank you, Tara, for these blessings, and may you be blessed by the knowledge that you are touching people where they need it most.
So clearly presented. Thank you Tara. I have shared your words with several folks already.
You would be dead. Judgment is necessary to judge if a situation or person is safe. Chronic blame isn’t necessary but judgement sure is.
Perfect 🥰 and my meditation this morning so this process allows more tears of compassion and empathy to flow and heart expansion to occur. Thank you 🙏💜💚💜🙏
I would feel joy, happiness, deep connection with others, the ease of being with others and hopefully the ability to make deep and lasting relationships.
absolutely loved this module. I will use it in my work with my patients of course, more importantly it felt healing in the moment to go through the visualization exercise and the concrete techniques while focussed on my own anger blame and judgement within my personal life and relationships.
These are difficult processes and will take time to bear fruit. forgiveness and self compassion are so difficulty when one is tightly wrapped in layers of righteous indignation, shame and hurt.
I find it helpful to offer these concepts of self compassion and forgiveness beyond just processing of pain in my therapeutic work and personal life.
This is of tremendous and ongoing value , please continue with your offerings, much needed!!
Warmly and with gratitude to you Tara for your knowledge and wisdom and Ruth for presenting it perfectly.
Om Shanti !
Hira,
P.S.
I loved the lavender blue eye highlight as I watched. It works beautifully. what is it ?
This video was very impactful for me to use the analogy of the trapped dog and apply that to the person who hurt me. In many years… this is the first analogy that hit me since I love dogs and can feel that compassion for animals very easy. I tried to apply it to a person and I noticed a shift… thank you!
Rachel Cooper, Hope and Healing Counseling Services
Peaceful
I agree it takes repeated practice to do the U turn on the same life experience. Yet with time I’m able to recognize when I trigger the wound, allow vulnerability and compassion for self and other.
If I could drop this I Would be able to drop such a heavy weight
Having been through so much abused and trauma it’s very difficult to just let go of what others have done to you
I believe I would be a happier, less anxious person who was more trusting and loving. Thank you for this.
I would experience life with more confidence. I would be more spontaneous.
I would be a calmer and happier person, free to enjoy life at the fullest
Someone with more compassion and love for self and for others.
I would be someone with more peace in my heart and a renewed energy for the present day.
U-turn to self compassion and understanding and visualization of the person who hurt you as “a dog with one leg in the trap”is helpful. hurt people hurt people.
I can’t get my head around this. Too much trauma. Feeling so broken. And dissociated. Pure O driving me nuts. Full of fear, anger & hatred. I don’t know what else to do. Most of my friendships have broken down & relationships are out of the question. I hate life, myself & people in general. My mind makes my life unbearable. Constant Ruminations of trauma. I feel like a lost cause. I would end my life if i only had the bollocks to do it.
Please don’t give up. Do everything to heal calm and get down into your senses, your body, a clear moment…..Your peace is in the present, the moment. You recognize your mind is making your life unbearable.I know this place. It is living in hell. When you find yourself in this state, your mind is unwell, off balance chemically. It is ( was for me) impossible to use positive thinking, etc. to help myself. Antidepressant helped tremendously. So I finally got to recognize I had a good thought, and a good feeling after so long without….After a time I went off the medication. And I continue to learn and use other methods to live more peacefully in the peace and joy of Now, understanding that I do not have to live in the hell of an unaware, random mind.
There are many people around you who know this struggle you are in, walking a similar path. There are many who are healing with teaching and compassion to share.
Please don’t give up. Keep asking for help. Keep reaching out. “ The greater the struggle, the greater the possible destiny that awaits”. I saw this sign yesterday, and I know it to be true for me. I am very thankful for the place I am living in today and the path and people that helped me along the way.💝
This two practices are awesome, really easy to understand, I am a psicotherapist but a human being before that and when I practice the u turn practice I see that when I look deep down my self I can put my hand on my heart and say “it is OK to feel this”. Incredible healing
I would be joyous and be able to dance and feel free inside. My vibration would rise and I would have ideas of what to do
A person able to move forward.
I would be free and brave to offer compassion, care and love to everyone in my life. Rejoicing that my woundedness brought me here. No shame, no fear, no anxiety, no anger. Full of light and life
Thanks for this.
I noticed a real shift as I practiced the U-turn. A sense of relief and opening as I faced my own feelings, and a letting go of the judgement which has occupied so much of my energy.
Thank you Tara,
Although my mother died as a result of her alcoholism, she was able to teach me one of life’s most valuable lessons…to forgive. However, I absolutely see the value of this program because I have been close to a few important people in my life who are unable to forgive important people in their lives. I feel certain that your program could help them. Your work is so important and I thank you from my heart for all of your efforts toward healing our world. Bless you.
There are two people I am angry towards. When I try to make that u-turn it is as though I am in a trance that if I stop resenting them I will not be able to punish them & pay the back for the hurt they have caused. I am trying to push through to focus on my feelings of loneliness , regret, inadequacy and fear of the future. If I continue to work on this, I would be freer to enjoy life, to love rather than thinking I can bring about change in someone else by my attitude towards them. I would be more comfortable with my progress not perfection.
Will be free
I would be better company.
A person free of beeing authentic
I would be free person and more compassionate toward myself and others. Thank you for such powerful video.
Free
Thank you Tara! How I wish this were taught in every school across the country to enable young people to grow up with inner strength to treat themselves and each other with compassion.
I would be an open hearted person who was a peace
I would be amore compassionate, wiser and less reactive person.
A new, fresh reflection of what’s my responsibility and can gather the inner resolve and allow the recognition to really dawn on me that holding on is actually harming me and those I relate ‘blame stories’ to. I have seen the freeing outcome in others, as they let go and down the fighting-gloves, how transformative that can be .. affecting the ‘blamed’ person , to free-up. Thx
someone who is owned hearted more capable of compassion living with less hurt and anger.
Thank you so much for this.
I would be kinder and gentler towards myself and to everyone else. And there would be far more joy.
I would love to0 do this u-turn practice again and again, it really did make me feel more spacious, towards myself and also for the person who has triggered my pain, recently.
Thank you very much for this, my heart is open. I feel sad, but also soft.
In a time of deep reflection on who I have been throughout my life, what I have contributed towards what others feel about themselves (specially my children) and how they tackle problems, your guidance and examples in these three videos have been a blessing. To accept feelings and not shoot a second arrow, to make a U-turn to connect to one’s own feelings, and to acknowledge that others carry their own hurts and insecurities opens a gentler and more understanding way into what lies ahead.
Thank you, Tara, for being who you are and sharing your wisdom.
The person I dreamt of being.
What a powerful video. I know it’ll help many of my betrayed partner!
I am challenged with so much resistance as I sometimes believe and have been told I have offered too much i to those who hurt me deeply . The U turn, however. is where I often find self love and longing. Will be wonderful to challenge some of my own resistance in the class.
I’d be more relaxed and more trusting
I would be at ease and free to live, enjoy and fulfill my purpose in life.
Thank you. I hope this is a fresh start.
My sister has been a difficult person in my life-seeming to always be eager to point out my flaws and her superiority. When I tried to u-turn, I can see her as needing attention and kindness and realize that she is operating from a base of self condemnation from the failure of two marriages and the feeling that she abandoned her only child. I believe I can work with these understandings to help heal our relationship through offering her more compassion and less judgment. Thank you.
A more peaceful mother
I would be at peace
I really appreciate the visual of the dog with a trap on its leg. Thinking about someone with a trap on their leg helps with the resentment I may feel towards the person that harmed me. I love the u-turn and the focus of noticing my pain instead of obsessing about the situation. I use the word notice because when I notice what I am feeling it helps me not to ‘attach’ to the situation and hit the rewind button in my head to play it over and over. I can use sentences like, “that is what embarrassment looks like” or “that is what humiliation looks like” etc. I can even say, “feelings of not being good enough are present.” Taking the “I” out is important for moving on.
I am currently reading Tara’s book, Radical Acceptance so this series has been an extra blessing to me. Additionally, I am working through some personal health issues, the recent death of my mother, and dealing with my father’s dementia; it has been quite a journey. Having struggled with chronic blame and self-judgment it has been difficult to shift but I am trying day by day. Meditation helps though there is so much more for me to learn.
Thank you, Tara, for these blessings, and may you be blessed by the knowledge that you are touching people where they need it most.
I’ll be a better me