James Sullivan, Another Field, Ventura, CA, USAsays
I have hated/loved my father for decades. Your remarks in the video help me to feel differently about him because of some problems he faced and which I have been aware of for some time. I have been unwilling to accept that change could come about how I feel about my father because in my mind he hurt me before I was old and wise enough to understand and forgive him. I still resent him tremendously but hopefully your class will help me change that.
Jim Sullivan, Ventura, CA
In letting go of the anger veiled as judgement based on my discomfort for having these feelings, the compassion for myself and others was clearly present. I could feel a softening, which gives me space for my discomfort while making room for an alternative framework of care and compassion.
During the U-turn I could feel the hurt and perceived abandonment under the anger. In seeking to see vulnerability in the other person, I understood their need to take flight, to space out.
I would be a happier more joyful person with fewer episodes of being down on my self and feeling shameful, low energy, disoriented and disconnected from my life forces. I also would be a lot LOT lighter and centered so other peoples barking with their leg in the trap would NOT be something I take personally as an insult or painful experience, but would be more like an observation with compassion behind it instead of feeling attacked. This will be a fundamental shift for me and all the people I connect with.
Seeing the others wounds as I looked Into the U turn helped me to have more compassion for them, we are all wounded, letting go of my judgment helped me feel like I was carrying less of a load.
Who I no but I’m looking to work with my kids on this and wonder if there is any insight for incrementally adjusting that aligns with all the developmental hurdles coinciding with a divorce.
BRIAN P STEPPACHER, Student, SOUTH PORTLAND, ME, USAsays
I might live a little longer. I get consumed with road rage. My physical, life giving and compassionate heart hurts… that’s what is suffering and that’s what I have to lose. (!!)
Leave earlier. Slow down. Enjoy the ride. Arrive whole… not as a wreck.
I had to learn to blame others because I always blamed myself. A counseller kept pressing me to do that and in a way it was the right thing to do. I don’t want to go back to blaming myself but blaming others hasn’t helped me in many ways. I don’t want to condone abuse, but I want to get away from blame as my only way of coping.
Eileen McIltrot, Psychotherapy, Fort Myers, FL, USAsays
I would be less entangled and embroiled in feelings that don’t serve me well and that limit my potential for authentic transformation and connecction to others, which leads me to further blame and judgment of another. I would be iberated from this vicious cycle. I liked the U-turn practice!
Thank you Tara!
I would be less entangled and embroiled in feelings that don’t serve me well and that limit my potential for authentic transformation and connecction to others, which leads me to further blame and judgment of another. I would be iberated from this vicious cycle. I liked the U-turn practice!
Thank you Tara!
I would see clearer, there would not be all the confusion, and I would be a lot less reactive.
I wish everyone could hear this message and practice. Thank you.
I have hated/loved my father for decades. Your remarks in the video help me to feel differently about him because of some problems he faced and which I have been aware of for some time. I have been unwilling to accept that change could come about how I feel about my father because in my mind he hurt me before I was old and wise enough to understand and forgive him. I still resent him tremendously but hopefully your class will help me change that.
Jim Sullivan, Ventura, CA
Much happier for sure…greater compassion for self and others
In letting go of the anger veiled as judgement based on my discomfort for having these feelings, the compassion for myself and others was clearly present. I could feel a softening, which gives me space for my discomfort while making room for an alternative framework of care and compassion.
A More loving human being
If I let go of judgment and chronic blame, I’d be more in touch with living in accordance with my values and principles.
During the U-turn I could feel the hurt and perceived abandonment under the anger. In seeking to see vulnerability in the other person, I understood their need to take flight, to space out.
Someone with more curiosity, more understanding; allowing space between typical habitual stressors and a response more aligned with my values.
I would be a happier more joyful person with fewer episodes of being down on my self and feeling shameful, low energy, disoriented and disconnected from my life forces. I also would be a lot LOT lighter and centered so other peoples barking with their leg in the trap would NOT be something I take personally as an insult or painful experience, but would be more like an observation with compassion behind it instead of feeling attacked. This will be a fundamental shift for me and all the people I connect with.
A more peaceful person with less pain and less self-reproach.
Myself
Be more at at ease
Free and more at ease with self. Definitely happier.
I would be freer.
And lighter.
And I sense my nervous system would be softer,
with more felt spaciousness in my heart.
I would feel more calm and loving inside
Confidence and free
Free to manifest my truest self
Free
Kind, patient and joyful
i would just be a better version of myself
I would simply be free.
This is a wonderfully done presentation, thank you! I would love to share with clients and students.
Peaceful, joyful and serene 😊
Myself
This is a wonderfully done presentation, thank you! I would love to share with clients and students.
A better me
More responsible
Less afraid and more alive
Happier !
More peace
Seeing the others wounds as I looked Into the U turn helped me to have more compassion for them, we are all wounded, letting go of my judgment helped me feel like I was carrying less of a load.
Free, less judgmental of myself, Trust people more.
Someone else, someone more free
Courageous
A more serene person
I think I would feel less anger.
Free, joyous, enjoying life!
Who I no but I’m looking to work with my kids on this and wonder if there is any insight for incrementally adjusting that aligns with all the developmental hurdles coinciding with a divorce.
I could be open to more opportunities free to let go
A better friend and mother
I might live a little longer. I get consumed with road rage. My physical, life giving and compassionate heart hurts… that’s what is suffering and that’s what I have to lose. (!!)
Leave earlier. Slow down. Enjoy the ride. Arrive whole… not as a wreck.
In a better place
I had to learn to blame others because I always blamed myself. A counseller kept pressing me to do that and in a way it was the right thing to do. I don’t want to go back to blaming myself but blaming others hasn’t helped me in many ways. I don’t want to condone abuse, but I want to get away from blame as my only way of coping.
Myself
Even more resilient and empathetic.
Myself
I would be less entangled and embroiled in feelings that don’t serve me well and that limit my potential for authentic transformation and connecction to others, which leads me to further blame and judgment of another. I would be iberated from this vicious cycle. I liked the U-turn practice!
Thank you Tara!
Eileen
I would be my genuine self.
I would be less entangled and embroiled in feelings that don’t serve me well and that limit my potential for authentic transformation and connecction to others, which leads me to further blame and judgment of another. I would be iberated from this vicious cycle. I liked the U-turn practice!
Thank you Tara!
Eileen