[1912] Radical Self-Compassion[3] PLC3 Confirmed [Tara Brach]

Part 1

Feelings of Unworthiness

Part 1

Feelings of Unworthiness

Part 2

Silence Self-Judgment

Part 2

Silence Self-Judgment

Part 3

Shift Out of Blame

Part 4

Radical Self-Compassion

Part 4

Radical Self-Compassion

Shift Out of Blame and Into Compassion

Who would you be if you let go of judgment and chronic blame?

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Nancy S, Other, Boston, MA, USA says

If I could let go of judgement and blame I would be filled with lightness and space. Space to live my life more fully, with more appreciation, love and peace. I would be a better sister, wife, aunt and friend.
Thank you Tara.

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S P, Osteopathy, Sarasota , FL, USA says

My life would transform into a warm and safe space, and I could finally, truly step into my role of living my own life authentically and fully.

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Louise Sa, Another Field, AU says

Happy

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Dirkje Leg, USA says

Using this wisdom I would be a better human with a greater capacity to love

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Usha Benja, Medicine, GB says

It couldn’t have come at a better time for me. I had a bad experience of almost walking out of my marriage. Under the influence of alcohol my husband verbally reduced me to a crumb. I forgot who I actually am and after several hours of tolerating I lost it.
I can’t thank you for this insight into self compassion. I will strive to get the balance right.I was so distraught that I was blind at that time. I am working towards a happy medium.
Once again appreciate Been following you for a decade.
Usha
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Wendy Parker-Forsyth, Other, ZA says

The hard part is getting out of my own way … whew!

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Chris O, Teacher, Hainesport , NJ, USA says

If I could let go of the blame and hurt, I would be a more confident person able to live without judgements.

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Archer lossing, Exercise Physiology, Napa, CA, USA says

I would be Relaxed happy and loving

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Ana D, Other, Chester, MD, USA says

I would be free to love again.

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Keiko Nakamura, GB says

Thank you very much for great videos.

I do feel that my own feeling of unworthiness affects myself and people around me. The habit of feeling and thinking is very strong but I hope I can change slowly.

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N C, Other, DE says

A better parent and more accepting towards myself.

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Diane Alexander, Teacher, GB says

If I could let go of judgement and blame …… I’d be afraid of losing that protective shell. I’d be vulnerable …. but maybe I’d feel more calm and more content. Maybe I’d be the me I used to be. Maybe.

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Wynne Dimock, Counseling, USA says

Have just started working with felons in Alabama who are treated so badly by Parole Board that the feds have once again had to come into the state to insist they address the issue. It is a restore the vote program with League of Women Voters. Did not occur to me at the time but the LWV women treat these people with such compassion that it is a lesson for myself as well in trying to forgive myself. So an opportunity for redemption as well.

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Elisabeth Hallgren, Other, SE says

From my current position I’d say a Superhuman or perhaps the new Buddha.

That being said, I will continue to practise and hope that your approach spreads to the rest of the world

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Filo A, New , NY, USA says

I would be moving towards my true self with an open heart space.

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Alex Murdoch, Teacher, GB says

Free from endless going over the Past. Something I know can’t be changed.

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Anonymous says

I would be warmer and feel better on myself

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Dee Raff, Social Work, IE says

I would be a warmer, Loving and gentler person to myself and others

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Coby Macaulay, Student, GB says

I would be wise patient and free from the fear of allowing someone to take advantage of me

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Adrienne Noonan, Other, IE says

Wonderfu really helpful thank you

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T B, Nursing, AU says

I would be a free woman. I would be a person who could move through my day without being frustrated and exhausted by the almost constant rumination.

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Susan Jannese, Counseling, AU says

A more positive happier human.

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Gabi Lowe, Coach, ZA says

A free version of myself

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Isabelle Leturcq, Coach, LU says

I would be a lighter and more open hearted being

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Y T, GB says

Calmer more accepting lighter human. In a happier relationship with myself and those around me…
My colours would be brighter… not holding guilt and self righteousness.

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Angela Wilson, Medicine, GB says

More open loving and effective member of society

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riikka V, Teacher, FI says

Thank you so much for sharing these steps for healing anger and unworthiness. I didn’t know how self righeous and controlling I have been. This is going to help bring more colpassion and love and harmony into my life and for my family. It’s frightening how much gets bottled up inside and we are not aware and we go on hurting others and ourselves unnecessarily. Together we can make a difference in the consciousness of this planet.

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Gidget Wong, Counseling, GB says

There is a sense of release in my body, relaxed and kinder to myself. Also, more rational and compassionate about the situation.

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Carol Tinkham, Student, Bourne , MA, USA says

I would be able to love others freely.

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Tom Howard, Student, GB says

Sitting with the judgement and blame, and understanding where it comes from, then allows me to let it go. My heart feels softened, and I can feel forgiveness for myself, and the person who brought the judgement up in me.

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Dina Saikali, Teacher, CA says

At peace, true to myself, and joyful more often.

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Pauline Macey, Counseling, IE says

I’d be more aware of my own vulnerability and others at more subtle levels and in challenging situations
This awareness might support me in being more cautious and discerning around when and with whom it is safe to share the deeper levels of my own experience. When others are caught up in their own pain they are not available – lots of people are caught in a trap and I get hurt if I am blind to their traps

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Michele Murray, Another Field, GB says

A happy joyous being

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Sara Kole, Health Education, CA, USA says

Freedom

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Leyla Hamlin, Nutrition, GB says

If I let go of blame and anger,I become much more creative to my solutions.
Extreme pressure and heat can be a birth for a diamond.Keep the space open and clear.

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Lizzie Sawy, FR says

A friend of twenty five years hurt me very much when she wrote to me telling me about all the things I had done or said going back years that she couldn’t accept. The shock is so profound that I haven’t been able to even think about how I deal with it, save parking it and pretending it never happened. The shame has been immense and I feel embarrassed too.. However listening to your talk has made me see a glimmer of compassion for her.. it’s a very powerful image, seeing the leg trapped and the pain it must be… so Thankyou, also accepting and feeling compassion for me and gently accepting my shame and fear around her words..

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Grazia Elsehimy, GB says

I would be a much happier and more at peace. With no expectation of what anyone else must do or change in order for me to be happy or not feel upset/frustrated or angry.

I would be filled with compassion and love for the challenges all of us face each and everyday to balance our needs against that of the family, community etc.

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Catherine Murray, Another Field, IE says

lighter, and clearer in my mind.

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Lisa Ortg, Another Field, DE says

Thank you so much dear Tara and : yes! The whole world could make a U Turn – and I try to start right from my point.
If only the others…..I struggle with the judgement and anger of my ex. I was able to let go (more or less) the past, but I’ m regularly confronted with his. I would love to live in freedom with him – Forchheim sake if our two kids. Any ideas? You can probably not answer to every question, it helps already a little to leave ist here. Thanks so much for your work! Greetings from Hamburg, Germany

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Gidget Wong, Counseling, GB says

I feel calmer, kinder to myself and less reactive. I know it takes practice and time to make it more effective. I believe it is a lifetime tool.

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Hannah Rio Kindbom, Coach, SE says

Thank you, this was interesting and important <3

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J H, Health Education, GB says

I would feel free and alive if I let go of blame

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Linda D, Nursing, Chapel Hill, NC, USA says

If I stopped judging and blaming myself and others, I would be a person with time to see and experience the joys of life.

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Pat Daunt, Other, GB says

Tears came as I realised my underlying sadness

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Anne Hanrahan, Health Education, Waldwick, NJ, USA says

Thank you Tara
More aware of the healing that is involved in compassion and non judgement.

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Marie Preisler, Psychotherapy, DK says

I would be lighter and yet more solid, more at ease with myself and others. Thank you for that insight and your way of explaining and kindly motivate!

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Leonie Soy, Coach, NL says

loving kindness

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J B, Other, GB says

Less inner monologue-torment. I would hope to build resilience to stay in the light. Remain firmly outside of the dark thoughts, the strange gripping cloud of loathing and fear that hovers when I neglect self care.

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Linda Smibert, Exercise Physiology, CA says

I would be a glowing attraction for the suffering . that sounds arrogant but I have experienced it and can see rgedufferenxe between my ego and the essence..this practice you shared enabled me to recognize more clearly the ways in which I transmit blame for my defensive mechanisms which keeps me from recognizing the vulnerability in the person I’m fighting back at. it is relieving.

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Eileen Hopkins, Counseling, IE says

Free

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