A happier person, and kinder. The u-turn is a good way to look at it. It feels good to give myself that compassion. I have to admit that I have more trouble seeing the way the other person who has hurt me is deserving of compassion. My mind keeps going back to the loop of “but WHY did they do that/say that hurtful thing”
I have had a lot of childhood trauma and hurt from my parents. I am able to see that they themselves also suffered from a lot of hurt and even trauma. So it is difficult for me not to blame them but to offer compassion yet at this point but I hope to grow in that. Thank you.
I would be the real me I am longing to be . Without fear or anxiety and the feeling of trying to control the uncontrollable.
I would be more understanding and compassionate towards myself / others and allow myself to be vulnerable and true instead of guarded .
This was such a beautiful practice. It helped me shift me anger at a friends response to the hurt & grief I’m experiencing. Holding & making space in my heart for myself so that this can flow thru with ease. Thank you 🙏
I would be a better, happier and lighter person. I had lost all Trust ( that I did have for most of my life). this was due to a series not one event. Life is completely different through the eyes of lost trust, I would have had no idea if I hadn’t lost it. it’s taken me a couple of years making a U Turn and ridding myself of the lack of respect, care, interest in the wellbeing of others, in fact I would grow to hate the human race for their failures with this planet, wildlife, cruelty of sentient beings other than themselves and the so obvious self centredness and selfish motives. slowly, it’s passing, but very slowly, I’ve at least reached the stage of no hate but selective intolerance and again slowly , after going it alone, I realise I do actually need people. So I’m coming to terms that I’m going to have to rid myself of this unhelpful pride and stop digging my heels in like a little girl and I suppose grow up enough to initiate contact with people that I feel I would and need to have around and be brave enough and realistic enough to know that not everybody will like to be with me !
Thankyou Tara, for your constant presence giving hope and grounding and peace ,particularly during these past few years. Your courage when things were unbearably insecure helped me and I’m sure hundreds/thousands get through it still standing and trying their best to keep a loving heart throughout even though at times it was so, so difficult.
With Respect and Love, Julia.
Susan Thomas, Another Field, Greenville, SC, USAsays
I’m grateful for the various emphases from these modules offered by Tara that match experiences I have (arrows to the heart), open awareness (being the ocean, waves, and turbulence), and share something kin to the most empowering expression and experience I’ve learned from Buddhism (especially from Thich Nhat Hahn) — that of co-arising.
My cognition orients to connection, interconnection, relationship and more. Remembering, and orienting to co-arising allows breath, vision, perspective, lightness of being and mind, that undo the judgmental et al of cognitive energies.
Tara’s focus is a liberating re-minding process of and from co-arising for which I’m very grateful.
Thank you. A great reminder that “hurt people, hurt people” and that we can stop the dominos effect from continuing on. We each have the ability to change radically. Always peace.
I would be braver, I would live more from a place of strength and centredness. I see myself being able to connect and reach out and embrace life, people, experiences, rather than feel threatened, unsure, judged and not good enough.
I have already been doing a similar practice with situations that are triggered, which are currently not so hard. There are certain old relationships that are not valid today but that have marked me, I know that they are the reason for certain reactions that are being moderated thanks to my practice of mindfulness and self-compassion. There is a long way to go.
I’d be me! Who I was meant to be. Free. Authentic. Kinder. More understanding and more connected. Less afraid. Less guarded. Less angry, isolated and alone.
If I let go of judgement and chronic blame, I would be free of my past self loathing and blame towards my mother who is no longer alive. I would be free to have a loving and compassionate relationship with my husband and children.
With the U-turn, I worry that I will create a false story about the origins of the other person’s hurt, which could be harmful. How do we avoid this? (I’m sensitive to this in part because I’m a member of a marginalized group and am often subject to a set of false assumptions about my experience. When I come up against that, it’s very alienating and gets in the way of closeness. I would hate to do that to someone else.)
I would gain freedom to be who I am and I can see the importance of looking at other persons feelings/wounds as their experience just as many as I do! This would also allow me to accept myself and others with our imperfections! Thank you Tara
The image of the dog’s leg caught in the trap is such a powerful metaphor that softens me and propels me toward compassion for self and others. Thank you, Tara!
The first 45 seconds of the video perfectly describes my only defense toward my husband. He repeatedly refused over the years to change his many forms of extremely inappropriate and harmful behavior toward my son and me. So I found myself relieved in a way when Tara said to use this practice on moderate situations, not trauma, etc. I can see “the trap,” however, his years of out of control rages have taken such a horrific toll, which he still refuses to acknowledge, that I struggle just to be civil toward him on a daily basis.
After scanning some comments, I see another woman in a similar situation with a shallow uncaring partner who doesn’t see any need to alter his insensitive behavior, so I’m hoping Tara and nicabm might consider sharing how to help those of us who have partners who aren’t willing to grow or reflect or change in any way, shape, or form, please?
In the meantime, I think this video helped me realize I shut out others when I perceive they are hurting me with almost as huge a wall for self protection as I have for my husband, even though the situations with others are usually mild or moderate in comparison. So I was able to use Tara’s guidance in the video to try to keep the pain of a moderate situation from growing to the proportions of the pain from the marital situation, which I think has become my default for blocking any and all potential pain out completely. There was a glimmer of hope with this activity today, thankfully, and I can see why Tara says it can take a little practice. Thank you, Tara and nicabm, for helping to shift the focus to a healthier and loving place to enjoy a calmer and freer flowing existence.
Thank you for providing us with this wonderful experience of self-compassion. The U-turn and the image of the dog in the woods was incredible plus the exercise that helps to transform a negative experience into a compassionate and caring one.
To take time , to see myself where I am in the relation and having compassion for myself , help to see the other one and having a different view of them. It’s helpful to stay present and not with the resentment of the past. Thank you
Thank you so much for your loving guidance! You give me a feeling of safty, your soothing voice sounds like music in my mind. I feel blessed to be able to join your community.
A happier person, and kinder. The u-turn is a good way to look at it. It feels good to give myself that compassion. I have to admit that I have more trouble seeing the way the other person who has hurt me is deserving of compassion. My mind keeps going back to the loop of “but WHY did they do that/say that hurtful thing”
I have had a lot of childhood trauma and hurt from my parents. I am able to see that they themselves also suffered from a lot of hurt and even trauma. So it is difficult for me not to blame them but to offer compassion yet at this point but I hope to grow in that. Thank you.
I would be the real me I am longing to be . Without fear or anxiety and the feeling of trying to control the uncontrollable.
I would be more understanding and compassionate towards myself / others and allow myself to be vulnerable and true instead of guarded .
This was such a beautiful practice. It helped me shift me anger at a friends response to the hurt & grief I’m experiencing. Holding & making space in my heart for myself so that this can flow thru with ease. Thank you 🙏
I would be a better, happier and lighter person. I had lost all Trust ( that I did have for most of my life). this was due to a series not one event. Life is completely different through the eyes of lost trust, I would have had no idea if I hadn’t lost it. it’s taken me a couple of years making a U Turn and ridding myself of the lack of respect, care, interest in the wellbeing of others, in fact I would grow to hate the human race for their failures with this planet, wildlife, cruelty of sentient beings other than themselves and the so obvious self centredness and selfish motives. slowly, it’s passing, but very slowly, I’ve at least reached the stage of no hate but selective intolerance and again slowly , after going it alone, I realise I do actually need people. So I’m coming to terms that I’m going to have to rid myself of this unhelpful pride and stop digging my heels in like a little girl and I suppose grow up enough to initiate contact with people that I feel I would and need to have around and be brave enough and realistic enough to know that not everybody will like to be with me !
Thankyou Tara, for your constant presence giving hope and grounding and peace ,particularly during these past few years. Your courage when things were unbearably insecure helped me and I’m sure hundreds/thousands get through it still standing and trying their best to keep a loving heart throughout even though at times it was so, so difficult.
With Respect and Love, Julia.
I would be free of insanity
I would be who I truly am…pure love! I have let go of all blame by continual loving kindness meditations like you speak of…what Grace!
This felt like a release
Thank you for wonderful videos, I am healing slowly and I wouldn’t be able to do it without you ❤
I am in my 80s I’m have struggled with these issues my whole life. These teachings really speak to me.
In doing a you turn (uturn) i will find more space in me for accepting and kindness,
I’d be a more compassionate person.
I’m grateful for the various emphases from these modules offered by Tara that match experiences I have (arrows to the heart), open awareness (being the ocean, waves, and turbulence), and share something kin to the most empowering expression and experience I’ve learned from Buddhism (especially from Thich Nhat Hahn) — that of co-arising.
My cognition orients to connection, interconnection, relationship and more. Remembering, and orienting to co-arising allows breath, vision, perspective, lightness of being and mind, that undo the judgmental et al of cognitive energies.
Tara’s focus is a liberating re-minding process of and from co-arising for which I’m very grateful.
Thank you. A great reminder that “hurt people, hurt people” and that we can stop the dominos effect from continuing on. We each have the ability to change radically. Always peace.
Very helpful and nurturing…insightful. I notice I have a hard time with vulnerability
Who would I be? I’d be a more positive person and less afraid.
I would be freedom! I would be Love!
Thank you Tara for your gift of Wisdom and Guidance
Love
I would love myself more and forgive myself more readily.
I would be braver, I would live more from a place of strength and centredness. I see myself being able to connect and reach out and embrace life, people, experiences, rather than feel threatened, unsure, judged and not good enough.
I would be true to myself and have a sense of being at home in my own skin.
I would be true to myself and have a sense of being at home in my own skin.
A more compassionate, more patient and kinder person
I feel all of my pure beauty
i’d be a surprise to myself❣️
Me too!
Il like this comment, because I think that I would be new person still being myself.
With the u turn, and sinking into the process, There was a shift in my body to calm as I listened and practiced.
I have already been doing a similar practice with situations that are triggered, which are currently not so hard. There are certain old relationships that are not valid today but that have marked me, I know that they are the reason for certain reactions that are being moderated thanks to my practice of mindfulness and self-compassion. There is a long way to go.
(By mistake I posted it in the previous video)
I’d be me! Who I was meant to be. Free. Authentic. Kinder. More understanding and more connected. Less afraid. Less guarded. Less angry, isolated and alone.
If I let go of judgement and chronic blame, I would be free of my past self loathing and blame towards my mother who is no longer alive. I would be free to have a loving and compassionate relationship with my husband and children.
I would be grounded and at peace.
I would be happier. I would be more comfortable and relaxed in my relationships. It may also be easier to form new relationships.
I will feel too vulnerable to be hurt
Thank you for this U turn practice to open my heart to compassion for myself and others.
I would come out of this whole I am for 2 years and be connected to myself again.
With the U-turn, I worry that I will create a false story about the origins of the other person’s hurt, which could be harmful. How do we avoid this? (I’m sensitive to this in part because I’m a member of a marginalized group and am often subject to a set of false assumptions about my experience. When I come up against that, it’s very alienating and gets in the way of closeness. I would hate to do that to someone else.)
If I let go of chronic anger and blame, I would feel freer, lighter and more connected to myself and others.
A more relaxed loving person in my marriage .
A person who is capable of letting go and feel the love that she deserve.
I would gain freedom to be who I am and I can see the importance of looking at other persons feelings/wounds as their experience just as many as I do! This would also allow me to accept myself and others with our imperfections! Thank you Tara
This has helped me heal, as my daughter is still healing from the divorce and has limited communication with me.
Thank you
Wendy
The image of the dog’s leg caught in the trap is such a powerful metaphor that softens me and propels me toward compassion for self and others. Thank you, Tara!
I would be softer, warmer & more open to myself & others.
Robot
I have been working on this with a client. Your guidance has been timely and excellent!
The first 45 seconds of the video perfectly describes my only defense toward my husband. He repeatedly refused over the years to change his many forms of extremely inappropriate and harmful behavior toward my son and me. So I found myself relieved in a way when Tara said to use this practice on moderate situations, not trauma, etc. I can see “the trap,” however, his years of out of control rages have taken such a horrific toll, which he still refuses to acknowledge, that I struggle just to be civil toward him on a daily basis.
After scanning some comments, I see another woman in a similar situation with a shallow uncaring partner who doesn’t see any need to alter his insensitive behavior, so I’m hoping Tara and nicabm might consider sharing how to help those of us who have partners who aren’t willing to grow or reflect or change in any way, shape, or form, please?
In the meantime, I think this video helped me realize I shut out others when I perceive they are hurting me with almost as huge a wall for self protection as I have for my husband, even though the situations with others are usually mild or moderate in comparison. So I was able to use Tara’s guidance in the video to try to keep the pain of a moderate situation from growing to the proportions of the pain from the marital situation, which I think has become my default for blocking any and all potential pain out completely. There was a glimmer of hope with this activity today, thankfully, and I can see why Tara says it can take a little practice. Thank you, Tara and nicabm, for helping to shift the focus to a healthier and loving place to enjoy a calmer and freer flowing existence.
A better person
Thank you for providing us with this wonderful experience of self-compassion. The U-turn and the image of the dog in the woods was incredible plus the exercise that helps to transform a negative experience into a compassionate and caring one.
Thanks for the beautiful reminder of the pause for wisdom. I will consider the program.
In peace.
I would be joyful and fun and without fear
To take time , to see myself where I am in the relation and having compassion for myself , help to see the other one and having a different view of them. It’s helpful to stay present and not with the resentment of the past. Thank you
Thank you so much for your loving guidance! You give me a feeling of safty, your soothing voice sounds like music in my mind. I feel blessed to be able to join your community.