The uturn shifts my thinking from sadness, even depression, to a quiet comfort…and helps me see how I can, admittedly with practice, extend that to those who have hurt me the most.
thank you Tara , What would be if I could let go of judgement and chronic blame,
I would be free and more of the loving person I was before the patterns formed with those closest to me that are so automatic to raise anger , resentment , defensiveness , judgement and blame towards others after a situation comes up that this happens, it’s damaging to myself and possibly others . Fortunately most times, I can take time to reflect on what happened what came up for me , but old patterns I have are hard to shift even when it is what I want to do
Fran Reich, Psychotherapy, San Francisco, CA, USAsays
I’ve been able to make a U-turn with many people in my life, see their vulnerability and have compassion for their pain. Some people are more difficult for me. I’ll need to continue the practice. Thank you Tara.
I ended this video in tears. My husband has deep routed anger issues from childhood trauma and at times lashes out at me when I don’t even know what I did wrong. I get so fearful of his anger and also of my reaction to his anger. Your words are so helpful and I am trying to get in better touch with my own emotions around this and to also see his vulnerability along with my own. Both of us are caught in this trap and I pray our marriage can be saved because I love him deeply. Thank you!
If I could let go of judgment and chronic blame, I would be able to love and accept others without condition. I would feel confident, full of energy, spontaneous, optimistic, and surrounded by people and circumstances that cherish me.
Much of the teaching in this workshop was familiar to me from prior courses that I have taken with Tara, beginning with her (free) courses with Jack Kornfield and continuing on with one I purchased from her website. But the healing process is so iterative, her wisdom so compelling, and I am such a slow learner that I did not mind at all. It just sinks in a little deeper each time. I hope these practices will eventually become a habit of mind and heart. But in the meantime, I will continue to enjoy and benefit from Tara’s teachings and meditations, through whatever venue they are offered.
I would hope to be my authentic self.
So busy fending off resentment that I miss
Exercising my talents and making whole hearted relationships. I feel that I am constantly defending myself and that the anger I receive is justified. Then i also begin to blame myself. Im tired of this.
Dear Tara,
thank you for that active affirmation and meditation, it really gave me a lot to rethink some situations in my life. But it is still a way to let go off everything that not only feels me with anger, but also with fear. So what kind of person would I be without that anger and fear? I would be just myself, lovely and cheerish to the people in my environment, as I used to be, before my soul was overwhelmed with darkness from evil persons in my environment. I would just love myself and the people I would share my life with and would grow under their nourishment and would give them their nourishment to grow. I am mentally occupied by an abuser he is a teacher at school where I learn. I see within his abusive behavior that this is something he experienced himself, what he learned to adopt to continue in his life somehow. But his abusive actions are focused on me as a woman, as a student, as a jew, as a weak person, only because I am high intelligent. So his fears of being not successfull and his motives to abuse me are embedded within the idea of being unworthy, stupid and without any knowledge. But it is natural that people don’t always know everything, because as human beings we are limited. But in his opinion there is no limitation given and this idea he follows with a great aggression. That makes him as dangerous as a ‘living robot’ that is just able to receive, but can barely give nor think in sense and meaning. I see his suffer, but I can’t support him to overcome this suffer, while being afflicted with his surpressed overplayed trauma of being himself an abused child, abused man and betrayed of his right to be without violence. Plus, I have to defend myself against that aggressions, hidden behind intellectual knowledge, what makes him even more dangerous, because he teaches young men and women in politics. There is something above all my own affliction to be against him. But I need to free myself from that being against, because that takes a lot of potential from me to just be myself. And I only can exist within my self being existence, like all people need to be themselve to live. Such a brute person needs professionell psychological support and I can’t give that to him, for I am not such profession. I have to care for myself, my own mental and emotional health, for I am mentally and emotionally abused of that teacher and the principal knows that, but does nothing against. So he feels secure in his evilness and that’s the biggest problem, that his inhumanity is tolerated somehow. I would just be a student at school to care for my study, without that violence, without those aggressions, without antisemetism. I would just be a helping and supported fellow student to the other students, without fearing any mental or emotional destruction. I could make healthy experiences with my fellow students and within the practice. I just would grow into my profession of being a nursery nurse and to learn to develop myself into that profession, without these permanent disturbings and hurts against my human rights. There is so much perversion given to teaches her in my field, it is unbelievebel that this black pedagogy is allowed to only to get feet into a school. As a free soul I am not responsible to refer to the desire of a dispoted teacher, to obey his desire to let go my human rights, to be free from violence, a violence that is structural created within the schools system, because of that single teacher. I mean can you imagine yourself that a democracy state shut its eyes to endure that in the name of justice? The state takes responsibility for which people they do allow to teach and to educate. But the state actually allows that children, youngsters and human in general become endangered of such a person. It’s impossible to develope any compassion for such disordered behave, and it’s hardly possible to find ways to not afflicted with that. Can you imagine that in a democracy system? I need to be myself as I love to be myself for myself and for others. I need to be without structural violence to be open minded and hearted for the people I am together with and I need as well their help and support, because I am myself just a human with needs. I would be a trustful friend if I would be allowed to be as I am. I want to be a beloved wife and mother, but my environment is programmed to deny me in that role, for religious and political purpose. Since seven years that’s my fake reality and I want my real reality back in real, but it is not clear to me if I even can trust in that people really want help and support me, because I always become structural attacked, even in my private. One and a half hour ago I woke up from mental abuse, my whole body is still in pain, because I was hurt in my nervous system. And my own family is involved in that, it is not clear to me if counsciously or uncounsciously. Can you imagine yourself what that means always not to be sure if betrayed and abused of own mother and sister or not? And I would be a loving daughter and sister, but it’s impossible to me to feel comfortable with them, by knowing their struggles, I can’t help them, even I tried hardly the last five years. I am always surrounded by people they just consume me, if I need to be consumed is not questioned and if that’s good to me, seems to be on nobodies interests, as long as they can have me for their games to be satisfied in their needs. I would experience real love if I just could let go all of this fictional nightmare, that always abuses me and my family in our reality, hurts us in our nature. But the german democracy is satisfied with that. I want experience myself without that satisfaction and I would be a happy woman to be just on earth for my purpose of being a good human to my fellows, I want to support them.
I became much more aware of the leg caught in the trap in my step-son. Then I was aware of my own trap and how I had been caught by judging myself harshly. At the end of the practice I felt much more serene.
I would be my authentic self which is something that I’ve worked towards for quite some time. Lack of judgment has brought me more peace and happiness.
Thanks for this teaching,and the encouragement to face painful feelings and emotions with love and acceptance. It’s like beginning on a journey with kindred spirits and working with the heart.
This was more powerful than I expected. I would be a much kinder person. I would like myself much better. And it would allow me to heal myself and my own feelings of not being enough, which get triggered by others… especially my husband. Thank you.
Thank you so much for making these videos available. I work with trauma survivors and having an uncomplicated way for them to drop from the head to the heart and allow themselves to develop compassion toward themselves and in turn toward others. I’ll be weaving into my practicethese concepts. Once again my grateful thanks to you and those you’ve worked with for sharing their stories and hard earnt wisdom.
Thank you for the practices. I’ve used something similar and it has opened my heart — but I need to keep working on it — compassion for my healing and compassion for the other.
Kinder. More tender, open, and thoughtful. Less restrictive in body and mind, less clenched overall. More creative and open to possibilities. More loving.
No doubt, this is work needed by all.
Yet, listening to this, I thought of my sister.
She really needs this but her English is not good.
Do you have subtitles for this video? I feel it may help her release a lot of anger and pain she has been experiencing for decades.
Wow found this very good to do U turn, Thank you
I would like to live with love not fear
I’d be a fuller, calmer, happier, more giving , me
Was wonderful to experience the softness of accepting ME.
The uturn shifts my thinking from sadness, even depression, to a quiet comfort…and helps me see how I can, admittedly with practice, extend that to those who have hurt me the most.
I experienced deep peace when attempting to practice the u-turn.. I am ver hopeful for deeper self compassion and understanding!
I would be more of the daughter I want to be.
Less angry, constricted…
Less immediately angry and more thoughtful and curious.
A freer man!
I would become my self again, a person who is capable, loving and kind.
Thanks Great question. I would be a softer more accepting me. I don’t know how to accept myself with so much judgement of me around
Better, relaxed, at ease, happier
Thanks for this! I’m working through letting go of the blame around some stuff that happened with my partner. This was very helpful!
Great job working on partner issues. I am too. Not judging him feel like excusing him.
Loved this. Felt like it was the first step to self I’ve and healing. It seems like this is the first step of a long journey
Thank you
More content and self-confident.
Free!
thank you Tara , What would be if I could let go of judgement and chronic blame,
I would be free and more of the loving person I was before the patterns formed with those closest to me that are so automatic to raise anger , resentment , defensiveness , judgement and blame towards others after a situation comes up that this happens, it’s damaging to myself and possibly others . Fortunately most times, I can take time to reflect on what happened what came up for me , but old patterns I have are hard to shift even when it is what I want to do
A less angry person
More peaceful and more joyful
Thank you so much, Tara
Tonight was just what I needed. For myself.
And to Ruth also
Peace and love
I’ve been able to make a U-turn with many people in my life, see their vulnerability and have compassion for their pain. Some people are more difficult for me. I’ll need to continue the practice. Thank you Tara.
Great job making a u turn. Finding my own self judgment is much more difficult than judging others
I ended this video in tears. My husband has deep routed anger issues from childhood trauma and at times lashes out at me when I don’t even know what I did wrong. I get so fearful of his anger and also of my reaction to his anger. Your words are so helpful and I am trying to get in better touch with my own emotions around this and to also see his vulnerability along with my own. Both of us are caught in this trap and I pray our marriage can be saved because I love him deeply. Thank you!
Love you Tara.
You’re the best !
Thank you.
Thank you Tara…it is always great to have some practices to work on healing.
I would be my authentic self.
Great question. I would be a softer more accepting me. I don’t know how to accept myself with so much judgement of me around
If I could let go of judgment and chronic blame, I would be able to love and accept others without condition. I would feel confident, full of energy, spontaneous, optimistic, and surrounded by people and circumstances that cherish me.
Much of the teaching in this workshop was familiar to me from prior courses that I have taken with Tara, beginning with her (free) courses with Jack Kornfield and continuing on with one I purchased from her website. But the healing process is so iterative, her wisdom so compelling, and I am such a slow learner that I did not mind at all. It just sinks in a little deeper each time. I hope these practices will eventually become a habit of mind and heart. But in the meantime, I will continue to enjoy and benefit from Tara’s teachings and meditations, through whatever venue they are offered.
I would hope to be my authentic self.
So busy fending off resentment that I miss
Exercising my talents and making whole hearted relationships. I feel that I am constantly defending myself and that the anger I receive is justified. Then i also begin to blame myself. Im tired of this.
I would be a person liberated to be more loving & compassionate.
Dear Tara,
thank you for that active affirmation and meditation, it really gave me a lot to rethink some situations in my life. But it is still a way to let go off everything that not only feels me with anger, but also with fear. So what kind of person would I be without that anger and fear? I would be just myself, lovely and cheerish to the people in my environment, as I used to be, before my soul was overwhelmed with darkness from evil persons in my environment. I would just love myself and the people I would share my life with and would grow under their nourishment and would give them their nourishment to grow. I am mentally occupied by an abuser he is a teacher at school where I learn. I see within his abusive behavior that this is something he experienced himself, what he learned to adopt to continue in his life somehow. But his abusive actions are focused on me as a woman, as a student, as a jew, as a weak person, only because I am high intelligent. So his fears of being not successfull and his motives to abuse me are embedded within the idea of being unworthy, stupid and without any knowledge. But it is natural that people don’t always know everything, because as human beings we are limited. But in his opinion there is no limitation given and this idea he follows with a great aggression. That makes him as dangerous as a ‘living robot’ that is just able to receive, but can barely give nor think in sense and meaning. I see his suffer, but I can’t support him to overcome this suffer, while being afflicted with his surpressed overplayed trauma of being himself an abused child, abused man and betrayed of his right to be without violence. Plus, I have to defend myself against that aggressions, hidden behind intellectual knowledge, what makes him even more dangerous, because he teaches young men and women in politics. There is something above all my own affliction to be against him. But I need to free myself from that being against, because that takes a lot of potential from me to just be myself. And I only can exist within my self being existence, like all people need to be themselve to live. Such a brute person needs professionell psychological support and I can’t give that to him, for I am not such profession. I have to care for myself, my own mental and emotional health, for I am mentally and emotionally abused of that teacher and the principal knows that, but does nothing against. So he feels secure in his evilness and that’s the biggest problem, that his inhumanity is tolerated somehow. I would just be a student at school to care for my study, without that violence, without those aggressions, without antisemetism. I would just be a helping and supported fellow student to the other students, without fearing any mental or emotional destruction. I could make healthy experiences with my fellow students and within the practice. I just would grow into my profession of being a nursery nurse and to learn to develop myself into that profession, without these permanent disturbings and hurts against my human rights. There is so much perversion given to teaches her in my field, it is unbelievebel that this black pedagogy is allowed to only to get feet into a school. As a free soul I am not responsible to refer to the desire of a dispoted teacher, to obey his desire to let go my human rights, to be free from violence, a violence that is structural created within the schools system, because of that single teacher. I mean can you imagine yourself that a democracy state shut its eyes to endure that in the name of justice? The state takes responsibility for which people they do allow to teach and to educate. But the state actually allows that children, youngsters and human in general become endangered of such a person. It’s impossible to develope any compassion for such disordered behave, and it’s hardly possible to find ways to not afflicted with that. Can you imagine that in a democracy system? I need to be myself as I love to be myself for myself and for others. I need to be without structural violence to be open minded and hearted for the people I am together with and I need as well their help and support, because I am myself just a human with needs. I would be a trustful friend if I would be allowed to be as I am. I want to be a beloved wife and mother, but my environment is programmed to deny me in that role, for religious and political purpose. Since seven years that’s my fake reality and I want my real reality back in real, but it is not clear to me if I even can trust in that people really want help and support me, because I always become structural attacked, even in my private. One and a half hour ago I woke up from mental abuse, my whole body is still in pain, because I was hurt in my nervous system. And my own family is involved in that, it is not clear to me if counsciously or uncounsciously. Can you imagine yourself what that means always not to be sure if betrayed and abused of own mother and sister or not? And I would be a loving daughter and sister, but it’s impossible to me to feel comfortable with them, by knowing their struggles, I can’t help them, even I tried hardly the last five years. I am always surrounded by people they just consume me, if I need to be consumed is not questioned and if that’s good to me, seems to be on nobodies interests, as long as they can have me for their games to be satisfied in their needs. I would experience real love if I just could let go all of this fictional nightmare, that always abuses me and my family in our reality, hurts us in our nature. But the german democracy is satisfied with that. I want experience myself without that satisfaction and I would be a happy woman to be just on earth for my purpose of being a good human to my fellows, I want to support them.
Wish you a peaceful time.
Lovely wishes,
Silvana
Wow.
I became much more aware of the leg caught in the trap in my step-son. Then I was aware of my own trap and how I had been caught by judging myself harshly. At the end of the practice I felt much more serene.
Free
I would be free to be my authentic self at any moment. I would be more open to being a blessing for others.
I would be my authentic self which is something that I’ve worked towards for quite some time. Lack of judgment has brought me more peace and happiness.
Thanks for this teaching,and the encouragement to face painful feelings and emotions with love and acceptance. It’s like beginning on a journey with kindred spirits and working with the heart.
Liked it until it turned into a sales pitch.
This was more powerful than I expected. I would be a much kinder person. I would like myself much better. And it would allow me to heal myself and my own feelings of not being enough, which get triggered by others… especially my husband. Thank you.
Thank-you so much. This is helpful!
I would be free and at peace, in a feeling of serene and gentle fluidity
Thank you so much for making these videos available. I work with trauma survivors and having an uncomplicated way for them to drop from the head to the heart and allow themselves to develop compassion toward themselves and in turn toward others. I’ll be weaving into my practicethese concepts. Once again my grateful thanks to you and those you’ve worked with for sharing their stories and hard earnt wisdom.
Thank you for the practices. I’ve used something similar and it has opened my heart — but I need to keep working on it — compassion for my healing and compassion for the other.
i struggled with this during being interrupted while watching – that was useful. A start. Thank you!
Happier, more well being, inner peace, and friendlier and kinder . A nicer person?!
Kinder. More tender, open, and thoughtful. Less restrictive in body and mind, less clenched overall. More creative and open to possibilities. More loving.
I would feel a weighted heaviness lifted from my heart.
a greater version of me. a true me
No doubt, this is work needed by all.
Yet, listening to this, I thought of my sister.
She really needs this but her English is not good.
Do you have subtitles for this video? I feel it may help her release a lot of anger and pain she has been experiencing for decades.
a person who can say ‘thank you’.