If I let go of judgment and blame of my husband, I am afraid I’ll always be married to someone who can’t meet my needs. This is, as Tara described, obviously self defeating, since my anger doesn’t help my husband get there. I know the “right“ answer here is if I let go of judgment and blame of my husband he will either change or not change but I will be a person who is without those angry feelings. But I can’t seem to get there. So that’s why I need Tara’s course.…
I loved this workshop and I want to join further training. I’ve been suffering for years with self-judgment and feelings of unworthiness. To answer the question: I would be free, content and present and my life would be so much more fulfilling.
I would certainly feel lighter and people in my surroundings would feel the subtle change as well and naturaly answer positively to it. It would open a space for me to try doing something good for myself instead of feeling trapped by others and bound to fail
Who Would I be if I let go of judgment and chronic blame?
I am a person blessed beyond measure by God Almighty my best friend. Blessed in every sphere of life making it so rich with wisdom and so many meaningful experiences.
I am on my way to skip judgement and blame for quite a while. Letting go of judgement and blame makes me softer, happier lets me feel closer to others, and widen my chest. I become a happier Person. Still from time to time I snap back to judgement and blame, both towards myself and towards others. Ist takes a lot of time and exercise to let go of judgement. But at the Same time I am quite sure that no effort is too much to go the way of happiness
Then I would be free to experience the now, with all its opportunities for connection, inspiration, learning, growth, intimacy, peace, service to others, and more.
I’d be free, I know it. Amazing how we cling to what’s familiar even though it doesn’t serve. I love your reassurance that it’s an ongoing practice. I’ve committed to re listening to this and other sharings each morning I take a walk through Autumn. I’m stood here now, having taken a pause in 7:45am sunshine with the trees and my hand on my heart. Deepest gratitude for your wise guidance leading my life Tara. The ripples are so far reaching.
This series has been a helpful reminder for me in gently guiding others and the instruction to be mindful of trauma very reassuring and necessary.
Fiona in the UK
My body would have less tension. My Tinnitus would be a peacce sound easy to stay with. I would have more intimacy with others and feel connection to the world.
Karen Brown, Another Field, Kansas City, MO, USAsays
It would free up so much energy and emotional space as well as all the related thoughts that go with the judgment and chronic blame. I pray daily to be relieved of my critical, judgmental spirit, to live and let live, to be kind. Haven’t gotten very far in releasing them because I didn’t know how. I believe this will be my path — concrete, specific things to do and nurturing a spirit of compassion toward myself. Thank you so much!
If I could let go of judgement and chronic blame, I’d feel free and happy. I can understand with compassion why the other person is doing it but the hurt still remains.
Jacob Salamon, Social Work, Spring valley, NY, USAsays
I tried doing the u turn exercise I found insecure wounded child who hurts and is ashamed feels afraid of speaking up and has no voice
I am putting now the hands on my heart and am trying to send love and compassion to myself letting my self know that’s ok to feel that way
it’s sooooo healing to me
I can now have more compassion to my wife too
it’s still a long way to go
The U-turn is helpful. I can see that with practice, the focus is less and less on judging others and makes space for healing. I could see as you were leading us through the exercise, that staying with the hurt keeps us in a vicious cycle with nowhere out, nowhere to turn.
I am interested this course, but it seems over the top for on line courses at $83 a class. If it is the question and answer class that makes it so expensive, is there anyway to take it without?
I was able to allow seeing my hurt and fear
That I hadn’t felt safe enough. WHO I would
Be is free, resilient and smiling more.
Quiet Gentle Curiousity
Whilst practicing the U-turn, although I felt peaceful, I was crying. With practice I can learn to let go of that anger, and gain greater self compassion for and understanding of myself. I’ll hold less anger at those who hurt me )and there have been a fair few) and return to being a more loving me.
This workshop allowed me to see the real fear behind the blame I was feeling. If I could let go of judgement and chronic blame I think I would be more free and calm as I feel right now.
If I let go of judgment and blame of my husband, I am afraid I’ll always be married to someone who can’t meet my needs. This is, as Tara described, obviously self defeating, since my anger doesn’t help my husband get there. I know the “right“ answer here is if I let go of judgment and blame of my husband he will either change or not change but I will be a person who is without those angry feelings. But I can’t seem to get there. So that’s why I need Tara’s course.…
A more kind, loving and gentle person.
I loved this workshop and I want to join further training. I’ve been suffering for years with self-judgment and feelings of unworthiness. To answer the question: I would be free, content and present and my life would be so much more fulfilling.
If I let go of judgement and chronic blame, I would be a better, more peaceful, more happier, more balanced, and more engaged person.
I would certainly feel lighter and people in my surroundings would feel the subtle change as well and naturaly answer positively to it. It would open a space for me to try doing something good for myself instead of feeling trapped by others and bound to fail
Who Would I be if I let go of judgment and chronic blame?
I am a person blessed beyond measure by God Almighty my best friend. Blessed in every sphere of life making it so rich with wisdom and so many meaningful experiences.
I can let go more easily by doing a u turn. Letting go of wright of past opens me up to gift of the present.
I am on my way to skip judgement and blame for quite a while. Letting go of judgement and blame makes me softer, happier lets me feel closer to others, and widen my chest. I become a happier Person. Still from time to time I snap back to judgement and blame, both towards myself and towards others. Ist takes a lot of time and exercise to let go of judgement. But at the Same time I am quite sure that no effort is too much to go the way of happiness
Then I would be free to experience the now, with all its opportunities for connection, inspiration, learning, growth, intimacy, peace, service to others, and more.
Already feeling to reconnect with myself
Happy person
M-G The Self
The more I feel love for myself
The more understanding – respect and love I have for others
The work is ongoing
Many thanks Tara
Felt so good to have self xompassion
Hi Tara. My leg has definitely been in a trap. Great example by the way. Love your calming voice. Thx for sharing your calm.
“Here’s the thing” is what Ruth says all the time.
“Here’s the thing” is what Ruth says all the time.
I would be a good therapist and see my self worth r a ther sitting with my judgements. (Caroline, UK)
I’d be free, I know it. Amazing how we cling to what’s familiar even though it doesn’t serve. I love your reassurance that it’s an ongoing practice. I’ve committed to re listening to this and other sharings each morning I take a walk through Autumn. I’m stood here now, having taken a pause in 7:45am sunshine with the trees and my hand on my heart. Deepest gratitude for your wise guidance leading my life Tara. The ripples are so far reaching.
This series has been a helpful reminder for me in gently guiding others and the instruction to be mindful of trauma very reassuring and necessary.
Fiona in the UK
my best self
So much easier to be with these feelings! Thank you!
From fear to warmth. Thank you Tara.
I would have the option to make different choices of how I relate to the individual I struggle with.
My body would have less tension. My Tinnitus would be a peacce sound easy to stay with. I would have more intimacy with others and feel connection to the world.
I would still be me and I would feel lighter and be further along on my path
Helpful practice!
Looking forward to learning more.
I tried this practice, but even after seeing the other person’s woundedness, it didn’t ease the pain their actions (and neglect) have caused.
My higher self
I guess I will be free , in peace . More accepting of myself and my flaws more honest with myself and others.
I would be free and at peace. Thank you!
It would free up so much energy and emotional space as well as all the related thoughts that go with the judgment and chronic blame. I pray daily to be relieved of my critical, judgmental spirit, to live and let live, to be kind. Haven’t gotten very far in releasing them because I didn’t know how. I believe this will be my path — concrete, specific things to do and nurturing a spirit of compassion toward myself. Thank you so much!
I would feel lighter with this gentle care and acceptance, more open and kind to myself and others
Free & present
It made my feelings of hurt softer and easier to cope with and to eventually release the hurt further from my heart
Free❣️
Amazing & transformative. Thank you!
If I could let go of judgement and chronic blame, I’d feel free and happy. I can understand with compassion why the other person is doing it but the hurt still remains.
u-turn and vulnerabity – what a lovely combo that can allow acceptance and change.
I tried doing the u turn exercise I found insecure wounded child who hurts and is ashamed feels afraid of speaking up and has no voice
I am putting now the hands on my heart and am trying to send love and compassion to myself letting my self know that’s ok to feel that way
it’s sooooo healing to me
I can now have more compassion to my wife too
it’s still a long way to go
The U-turn is helpful. I can see that with practice, the focus is less and less on judging others and makes space for healing. I could see as you were leading us through the exercise, that staying with the hurt keeps us in a vicious cycle with nowhere out, nowhere to turn.
Thanks Tara.
I am interested this course, but it seems over the top for on line courses at $83 a class. If it is the question and answer class that makes it so expensive, is there anyway to take it without?
Thank you for your response.
It’s okay little buddy. You’ll be okay. I’ll protect you.
I was able to allow seeing my hurt and fear
That I hadn’t felt safe enough. WHO I would
Be is free, resilient and smiling more.
Quiet Gentle Curiousity
I loved the U turn concept
Thank you for your compassionate teaching! I love the wounded dog in the forest analogy.
More peaceful and content. Happier.
Able to cry again. Not feel so numb. Find peace and contentment. Feel joy.
Whilst practicing the U-turn, although I felt peaceful, I was crying. With practice I can learn to let go of that anger, and gain greater self compassion for and understanding of myself. I’ll hold less anger at those who hurt me )and there have been a fair few) and return to being a more loving me.
The best version of me Healed.
This workshop allowed me to see the real fear behind the blame I was feeling. If I could let go of judgement and chronic blame I think I would be more free and calm as I feel right now.
I would feel lighter. I would also hopefully be able to turn hurt into healing.
I would be a more peaceful loving person