[1912] Radical Self-Compassion[3] PLC3 Confirmed [Tara Brach]

Part 1

Feelings of Unworthiness

Part 1

Feelings of Unworthiness

Part 2

Silence Self-Judgment

Part 2

Silence Self-Judgment

Part 3

Shift Out of Blame

Part 4

Radical Self-Compassion

Part 4

Radical Self-Compassion

Shift Out of Blame and Into Compassion

Who would you be if you let go of judgment and chronic blame?

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Marle, Another Field, NL says

I would-be an openminded, free, happy and authentiek person.

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Emma Sartwell, Counseling, Koloa, HI, USA says

Would love the audio recording, thank you

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rivky s, BROOKLYN, NY, USA says

I would be me.
Sounds simple, but it’s not.

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christine mackinnon, CA says

Lovely to find empathy and compassion for the person with the “leg in the trap”…
We all have a leg in the trap!! Free our hearts ! I love that! Yes! We belong to each other! We can’t find peace because we have forgotten that we belong to each other. ” It’s really ok to feel this.”… I needed that especially. u-turns are important.

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Joseph Coykendall, Counseling, Torrington, WY, USA says

As a young boy, going through major adverse childhood experiences, I always blamed myself for the dysfunction between my parents. I did not understand a whole lot for years and the substance abuse and self-hatred built up and my self-esteem suffered, looking for assurance from anybody. I eventually healed after major consequences for behaviors.
Tara is so correct in practice #2: “learning to see the vulnerabilities in others”. I am now in long-term recovery and couldn’t imagine living without seeing brokenness and suffering in others. This has become my mission.

Joe

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Alvin Glover, Another Field, CA says

Who would I be? A serious question.
At 17 I was barely able to function beyond instinct, so strong was my insecurity and self-doubt. Always a lingering affect, it followed me through a career, a family and now, after 3 stents from a heart event and a reoccurrence of prostate cancer to that rather grim word metastasis.
At 74 the affect, and effect, still peeks at me daily. I have wonderful, powerful children and am still with a highly performing and supportive partner, but those feelings of inauthenticity and insecurity, likely also shame, remain.
Both heavily challenged parents have passed, of course. Both at 96. Ha. And my blame and lack of forgiveness remains. What a shame. But, you have offered me serious food for thought. It’s perhaps still not too late for a possible Uturn.
L

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Samantha, Student, AU says

I touched a deep feeling of insecurity and unworthiness due to a work conflict. And Sat with my hurt feelings and fear of the unknown and the future.
A lovely practice of caring and getting to know my vulnerability and need for self compassion.
Thank you Tara

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Carina Symons, Other, GB says

I would be free
Thank you for your wisdom

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Teresa Patterson, Other, USA says

I found it very enlightening and felt it is something I can do. I really need to learn to have self compassion and loss blame.

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Veronica Mck, Teacher, CA says

I would be someone who was able to act from my true self if I let go judgment and chronic blame. Thank you for this helpful video Tara.

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Tascha Baer, Another Field, DE says

I’m so relieved to have found this. I’m stuck in exactly a vicious cycle of hurting others and blaming myself for it. It’s downward spiral and only these videos and podcasts help me through difficult hours. So glad and grateful for this.
Greetings from Germany

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Anonymous, Other, Bozeman, MT, USA says

This was very helpful as I get in touch with my own shame and blame connected with my partner’s addiction.

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beatrijs says

when i let go of judgment my relationship would get much better, because we both suffer of old pain and fears we learned when we were young now we are mirrors and hurt each other sometimes without noticing.
So for me it is very important to learn letting go of judgment.

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Karen Anderson, Other, Webster Groves, MO, USA says

This is a struggle for me, but I felt a shift toward compassion at the U-turn and will strive to be a more compassionate being.

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Furio Picco, Nursing, Ramona, CA, USA says

I would be a healthy compassionate person.

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Hanna, NL says

Dear Tara,
I thank you for all I have learned by you for several years now, it takes time.
I felt again softened and you gave me the inside of being closed to myself and others when I am angry and blaming and cannot construct.
With warmth, Hanna

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Heidi, DE says

I would probably be a more free and happier person than I used to be.

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James Behan, Other, Naples, FL, USA says

Free

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Carol Kyser, Another Field, Richmond, TX, USA says

I would be the peaceful, loving, nurturing person I wanted to be as a child, who I most admired!

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Susan Banks, Arlington, VA, USA says

I kinder, less encumbered being.

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Phyllis Warren says

I have found the techniques/teachings you talked about to be very profound and effective. I strive to incorporate them in my life. It’s not easy but so worthwhile.

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sara nascent, USA says

I would be liberated from my self blame and liberated to love the other As Is-

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Ivana Skarupka, Dietetics, HR says

I would be more peacefull.

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Bertha Breen, CA says

I would be as I remember I was as a small child,carefree,trusting and full of love and life. How did I become so fearful judgemental and blaming

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Judy Singleton, Other, Washington , IN, USA says

I would be at peace with others and myself.

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Anonymous says

If I could let go – I would run the world. The world of happiness within myself and those that I love.

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Jarek M, Another Field, PL says

I would be less anxious, but most of all more true myself: open-hearted, caring and compassionate

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Linda Chamberlain, Another Field, Homer , AK, USA says

So helpful!

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ערן ירוחם, Teacher, IL says

I will breath more fully and easly

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Marie D.M., Teacher, DK says

More free, present and light

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Tara Lease, Student, Birdsboro, PA, USA says

If I could let go of judgment, rage, anger, guilt, fear, and chronic blame, it would change my life dramatically. I have deep issues from my past and also a troubled future if I don’t receive help for my anger and get in under control!! I’m afraid of how truly hateful I am. Needing to get to the root of the problem is how I need to begin my journey with letting things go and finding peace within myself. I can’t and won’t live like this anymore. Everyday is a struggle with rage and anger. I want to be happy, free and not learn how to deal with my issues in a healthy way.

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Mimi Hallowell, Social Work, Dover, NH, USA says

Thank you Tara,
Touched compassion for myself. Brought up feelings of both anger and compassion for others, w/ the anger fear that if and when I show compassion I will continue to be hurt by them. Questions about how to hold compassion AND boundaries at the same time.

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Inga Scheitz, Another Field, NO says

Thank you. Lot of the thing is inside me!

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Greta Anon, Other, DE says

Touched right down into deep vulnerability, burst shortly into tears, like a flash, now feeling much, much lighter and peaceful and present and like being myself again.

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Louise Caffrey, Health Education, IE says

Happy

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Anonymous, GB says

radiant

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Caty Hartung, Coach, DE says

Thank you Tara! To see in the other person the wish to be close, and accepted was so strong that he hurt me. I could see that during your questions and forgive. I was so ashamed that the person treated me like that at the time that I closed up and felt attacked.

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Tony Ah-Vee, Other, MU says

The “leg in a trap” awareness is mind-awakening.

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Solange Huang, Other, MU says

i would be more natural, a better me, feeling free as i would no longer carry the heavy burden of of my hurts

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Kristin Asbjørnsen, NO says

Thanks for sharing there videos.
I would be more in peace.

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Louise Gray, Other, GB says

Powerful to recognise the Emotion and reason behind it and then to Focus on feeling compassion for Myself. Also Interesting to look for the other’s leg in the trap But finding that hard to find still making it hard to open my heart to them but open to keep trying and have the feeling of how powerful that could be to find it

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Rosalind Wilson, Other, GB says

Someone who could use their time in a more understanding, free and loving way.

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A C, Counseling, SG says

I’d be happier and more at peace. I have a habit of blaming myself when I notice myself judging others, so the self-compassion and letting go of judgement and blame of others truly come hand in hand.

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Janet Reed says

I have been listening to your talks and I love the way you work. I am trying to change my relationship with one of my sons and this tralk has given me some strength to approach him.
thank you!

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Maria Curtin-McKenna, Social Work, Easthampton , MA, USA says

Thank you for offering your kindness and the practices in the 3 videos.

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Carolyn Henry, Marriage/Family Therapy, Stillwater, OK, USA says

This is such an important question — I’ve written it down to focus on this for awhile. But, I’m feeling peace thinking of this.

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Susan Alle, Other, Palo Alto, CA, USA says

I would be less stressed and able to live with more joy and presence.

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Laura M, Psychology, Other, OK, USA says

Spend more time experiencing the person I want to be. Thank you for sharing these videos

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Annie Wright, Other, Ashland, OR, USA says

I’d not only give my lambic system a break, but in doing so, I’d be a person I admire rather than loathe!

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Barbara Katz, Another Field, Brooklyn, NY, USA says

“ Whole-ly”… MYSELF

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