I picked up Tara’s book on Radical Acceptance so so long ago. Today, finally arriving Home..where the deepest feelings of worthlessness are met with 100% acceptance and the ability to “be with”, whatever arises. No exceptions. And when the exceptions and all that obscures this clarity, when the part thats tried to protect me from my true beautiful self attempts to take over, especially there: i bring acceptance, mindfully in this body following the voice of my Soul…again and again and again, into loving acceptance. And all collapses, sometimes wholey, often just a bit. Enough to experience the beauty and Truth of Being in the Knowledge of Worth. The learning goes on and on……..What Tara went through at a young age (her story with a friend, who was the very opposite)…..was how i have lived all of my life, at the very core. How painful this has been and often still can be. thank you, thank you…..With Eternal Love
I felt that what Tara was saying was so true – that my strong feelings of judgment, self-hatred, unworthiness, insecurity was rooted in feelings of disconnection and the fear to reach out to others. To show my vulnerability. When Tara talked about being kind I felt how far away I am from myself and my own compassion towards myself and by extension, to others. But also her words identified what was happening in me which is a very helpful step forward.
Jane Goldschlager, Another Field, New York City, NY, USAsays
I felt fear from being alone and experiencing an unusual natural event in NYC, an earthquake and aftershock today. I felt isolated and upset that my daughter didn’t answer the phone or call me back. I reassured myself that it was really okay to have these feelings and to permit myself to experience them without feeling judgy about others.
anna Gavrilis Stran, Another Field, Lancaster, PA, USAsays
As I focused on self compassion, There was a sadness, much like if I was witnessing cruelty to an another human. Tears filled my eyes as I went from observer to participant. As I became the afflicted, I asked myself, “Why am I kinder to others but so critical n unfriendly to myself?”
When I tried to bring kindness, I noticed that the voices of judgement stopped volleying problems through my mind, and a clearer Self-voice was able to say “it’s going to be okay”.
As soon as I heard the words regarding being driven, etc…and that connection to a sense of extreme loneliness- I reached out to a friend of mine who I believe to be living a life of parallel experience. I am sharing this video, and funny enough- we have decided to go hiking in the mountains and use that time to decide how we can get back in touch with our own true hearts and best highest selves. Thank you for the opportunity of these few moments. They have served as a loved filled reminder to treat myself better.
I was critical of myself for being lazy. I wondered what would happen if I put a blanket of kindness over critical, lazy me. I experienced a small smile.
I’m still critical about being non productive, yet another day though.
Tend toward negative, self judgement, not doing what I ‘should’ be doing.
Bringing kindness, compassion and self inquiry (who is judging?) as I am able to.
Connection with others and also with the natural world helps.
Thank you Tara.
I feel an incredible sadness that I have been so unkind and unappreciative towards others, starting with my parents who made so many sacrifices for me; so I suppose I am burdened with huge guilt. I find it very difficult to bring kindness and self compassion toward my self.
I felt a gentleness or a sense of a possibility of being gentle with myself, as I look into what I’m feeling. I am seeing that there may be an alternative to self judgement, and being harsh in my view of myself. This brought about a feeling of calm and peace.
I noticed a kind of tightening up, or holding still in a contracted way. Then an urge to withdraw trickled in. It reminded me of times in the past when I’ve shut down or withdrawn when I was upset or I didn’t feel good. Rather than talking to someone or asking for help, I wanted to run away. But it has a double intention. There’s the wanting to hide… and the wanting someone to come and find me. Somehow, my feelings of worthiness are linked to this idea: That if someone sought me out, I was worthy. But usually, no one would. I was acting out a self-fulfilling prophecy of unworthiness. So eventually, I started seeking out others. This can come across as confidence, but it’s rooted in a deep insecurity. That I have to perform to get anyone to notice my hurt AND my worthiness.
It is a weird situation when I sit down, I quiet myself and I stay with the dislike I feel for my body, which takes me to feel I am not good enough because I don’t do enough to change it. With my intellectual mind I totally appreciate my healthy body, and I am thankful to have it, but there is this insidious feeling underneath that it is cold and unapproachable. it is there, and I don’t know how to relate with it as it feels like a numb part of myself.
I felt sensitive in my diaphragm, and when I offered myself kindness I felt a block there. As if it wasn’t possible to receive it.
I picked up Tara’s book on Radical Acceptance so so long ago. Today, finally arriving Home..where the deepest feelings of worthlessness are met with 100% acceptance and the ability to “be with”, whatever arises. No exceptions. And when the exceptions and all that obscures this clarity, when the part thats tried to protect me from my true beautiful self attempts to take over, especially there: i bring acceptance, mindfully in this body following the voice of my Soul…again and again and again, into loving acceptance. And all collapses, sometimes wholey, often just a bit. Enough to experience the beauty and Truth of Being in the Knowledge of Worth. The learning goes on and on……..What Tara went through at a young age (her story with a friend, who was the very opposite)…..was how i have lived all of my life, at the very core. How painful this has been and often still can be. thank you, thank you…..With Eternal Love
I felt that what Tara was saying was so true – that my strong feelings of judgment, self-hatred, unworthiness, insecurity was rooted in feelings of disconnection and the fear to reach out to others. To show my vulnerability. When Tara talked about being kind I felt how far away I am from myself and my own compassion towards myself and by extension, to others. But also her words identified what was happening in me which is a very helpful step forward.
I could feel disappointment deep inside of me when we did the exercise and when offered kindness to myself, I cried…
I felt fear from being alone and experiencing an unusual natural event in NYC, an earthquake and aftershock today. I felt isolated and upset that my daughter didn’t answer the phone or call me back. I reassured myself that it was really okay to have these feelings and to permit myself to experience them without feeling judgy about others.
Thank you Tara for your excellent teachings as always!
I’m actually smiling at me and with me🥰
Kindness is the key ❤️
I so relate to your story of self dislike, feeling sad and sitting with it was not easy.
As I focused on self compassion, There was a sadness, much like if I was witnessing cruelty to an another human. Tears filled my eyes as I went from observer to participant. As I became the afflicted, I asked myself, “Why am I kinder to others but so critical n unfriendly to myself?”
When I tried to bring kindness, I noticed that the voices of judgement stopped volleying problems through my mind, and a clearer Self-voice was able to say “it’s going to be okay”.
As soon as I heard the words regarding being driven, etc…and that connection to a sense of extreme loneliness- I reached out to a friend of mine who I believe to be living a life of parallel experience. I am sharing this video, and funny enough- we have decided to go hiking in the mountains and use that time to decide how we can get back in touch with our own true hearts and best highest selves. Thank you for the opportunity of these few moments. They have served as a loved filled reminder to treat myself better.
As soon as I brought kindness to the anxiety I was feeling it softened and eased.
I was critical of myself for being lazy. I wondered what would happen if I put a blanket of kindness over critical, lazy me. I experienced a small smile.
I’m still critical about being non productive, yet another day though.
I recognized that making a mistake isn’t a reflection on my character and that I can be kinder to myself when things go wrong.
I felt inspired to have Tara as a teacher. I was cultivating compassion for myself when I am suffering and judging myself, and I was feeling lighter.
Tend toward negative, self judgement, not doing what I ‘should’ be doing.
Bringing kindness, compassion and self inquiry (who is judging?) as I am able to.
Connection with others and also with the natural world helps.
Thank you Tara.
I felt a compassion for my judgment, knowing where it came from, but it felt so much like a root of me, so hard to see otherwise.
I feel an incredible sadness that I have been so unkind and unappreciative towards others, starting with my parents who made so many sacrifices for me; so I suppose I am burdened with huge guilt. I find it very difficult to bring kindness and self compassion toward my self.
I felt a gentleness or a sense of a possibility of being gentle with myself, as I look into what I’m feeling. I am seeing that there may be an alternative to self judgement, and being harsh in my view of myself. This brought about a feeling of calm and peace.
I noticed a kind of tightening up, or holding still in a contracted way. Then an urge to withdraw trickled in. It reminded me of times in the past when I’ve shut down or withdrawn when I was upset or I didn’t feel good. Rather than talking to someone or asking for help, I wanted to run away. But it has a double intention. There’s the wanting to hide… and the wanting someone to come and find me. Somehow, my feelings of worthiness are linked to this idea: That if someone sought me out, I was worthy. But usually, no one would. I was acting out a self-fulfilling prophecy of unworthiness. So eventually, I started seeking out others. This can come across as confidence, but it’s rooted in a deep insecurity. That I have to perform to get anyone to notice my hurt AND my worthiness.
It is a weird situation when I sit down, I quiet myself and I stay with the dislike I feel for my body, which takes me to feel I am not good enough because I don’t do enough to change it. With my intellectual mind I totally appreciate my healthy body, and I am thankful to have it, but there is this insidious feeling underneath that it is cold and unapproachable. it is there, and I don’t know how to relate with it as it feels like a numb part of myself.