I would have like a little more explanation of the process of bringing kindness to it. I was feeling rushed and wanting to do a lot in a few hours…..took time to watch your video and found it interesting…..but I wasn’t exactly sure what bringing kindness meant from your perspective.
I have denied myself forgiveness and self-acceptance, including giving myself time to heal. It’s along way back but is starting now. I can do this. Thanks!
In the moment I took part in the video, I was experiencing happiness. It was interesting to sit with this positive emotion and bring kindness to it – and to realise that with my joy comes some fear.
I felt more peaceful as I visualized myself as a compassionate friend to myself and considered the greater reality that all people must feel flawed sometimes.
I identified sadness, a sadness that has been with me for few hours, and my inner voice answered “Yes” to the question “Can I be with this?”… It was like one part of me was hugging the other little, sad part of me. The sadness didn’t go away. But the feeling or thought that I am going to be OK, I can take care of myself, care for myself, and a kind of comfort coming from within.
Thank you Tara. I am able to sit with my to a certain degree. I am aware of my uncomfortableness. And, I am doing my best to stay open. Not easy, present to, barely (trying to be compassionate) to my self judgment.
Thank you. Practice Practice Practice is what is essential and illusive for me. I ‘know’ what to do to feel more alive as my true self and to feel at peace yet I resist practicing. The trance is seductive in its familiarity and I allow it to consume me, to cut off the fresh air between it and the freedom of self compassion. Your lessons help me – especially in the middle of the night- to break free and breathe for awhile, to be more fully now.
I see that taking care of myself is a constant process. It has paid off for me in so many ways and I know this so well. But there are times where I’m uncertain of my worthiness and I totally lose sight of what’s going on inside because I’m reacting to what’s going on outside from a place of separateness.
I’m a very visual thinker, so when I tuned into what I was feeling – a little tension, maybe even slight anger – it came up as a tiny ball of orange light. That’s when I noticed that it was quite small, so I could be with it. Thank you!
I would tell a friend to take care of themselves, but I myself just keep pushing myself to do for others.
Actually I feel that I have not lived to my own potential. I have many ,”I should have become a…chiropractor,…a physical therapist, a…. health educator,….a physiological psychologist. I feel that I have failed.
I didn’t want to do it as I thought it would make me feel worse if it didn’t work.I will keep doing this exercise and see what happens.
Thank you.
Joan
It lifted my soul and reminded me to choose my best expression of my self, connecting to my humanity and realizing I have a choice or choices around suffering self compassion and awareness
Well
I can see relief and a upward lift in attitude when I can offer myself acceptance and nonjudgment
It do’s the solve any problems. I guess it’s not supposed to.
But it does offer at least temporary relief
Funny how this came in the nick of time! I’d been starting to run gain inn life and been away from my meditation choosing watching a ton of other things on screen So first thank you!
Yes, fear, lots of fear, uneasiness with growing older, being almost retired, sickness.I was actually surprised! Then, an addictive busyness to get away from my feelings…this is not new to me but it does creep up when I’m not watching, being present. Sad, very sad and that too was a huge surprise! So onto the second video.So glad you out all three in the same message!!
I am feeling quite exhausted and in quite a bit of physical pain. Bringing kindness into the experience helped me relax and stop “fighting” the experience. I felt ease and openness even though the pain and tiredness is still here. Thank you, Tara.
Bringing kindness to a problematic experience is something soothing…relief…less tension…feeling lighter…
It takes an effort to do it…
Habitually I want to do “old thing” but being mindful I choose to do “new thing”- kindness towards myself…if I remember…if I do not get lost before…
I work in a Crisis MH team as a Peer Support Worker. Self-Compassion is really important for our clients, and I hope to bring it more into my work.
Today, I realise I am doing pretty well, although facing health challenges currently. I am not being hard on myself, and doing well with self-care, even though my health issues are unclear.
Thank you for such lovely clearness.
Wow . This video really resonated with me. All the boxes of self criticism were ticked!
Doing the practice was remarkable. To be honest I was surprised. Just closing my eyes and asking the two questions caused a sensation of release / wellbeing. Hard to put this feeling into words.
I have realised that I CAN do this ….but I need to do it over and over again. It shocks me how deep that sense of unworthiness runs. I don’t even feel worthy of rest when I am exhausted…..its like a fear of being ‘caught out’, even though my partner and friends tell me all the time I need to rest. As I do it now,, theres an underlying sense of guilt and anxiety. I see that and offer myself compassion in THIS moment, but see that it has to become a habit, not to keep pushing this poor (70 year) old body. It is changing and so must my attitude towards it.
I find Taras voice a bit too soothing…
Sorry… this might lull me to sleep while Im
Aspiring to awaken….I think its more valuable more for those who are in a “regressed” infantile period if their lives..
Good stuff but its not for me….
I found this very difficult. I realise that the inner voice in me tells me I’ll get it wrong and I won’t “do it properly” and feel what I’m supposed to. Problem is I do believe this to be true. I will keep going as I trust this will help me.
My strong feeling was grouchiness. I felt impatience around this feeling and wanted to say to myself….Just snap out of it! It did soften a bit, but I still felt judgmental.
A kind of softness that things could be alright arose.
nothing happened but I know as a frequent user of your meditations that it helps (eventually) just to have the intention of compassion
I would have like a little more explanation of the process of bringing kindness to it. I was feeling rushed and wanting to do a lot in a few hours…..took time to watch your video and found it interesting…..but I wasn’t exactly sure what bringing kindness meant from your perspective.
A softening occurred when I focused inward.
No comment
I have denied myself forgiveness and self-acceptance, including giving myself time to heal. It’s along way back but is starting now. I can do this. Thanks!
In the moment I took part in the video, I was experiencing happiness. It was interesting to sit with this positive emotion and bring kindness to it – and to realise that with my joy comes some fear.
This practice felt empty to me today, but I do know from my own meditative practice that it will work eventually. Thank you for it.
I felt a softening and releasing.
I felt more peaceful as I visualized myself as a compassionate friend to myself and considered the greater reality that all people must feel flawed sometimes.
I identified sadness, a sadness that has been with me for few hours, and my inner voice answered “Yes” to the question “Can I be with this?”… It was like one part of me was hugging the other little, sad part of me. The sadness didn’t go away. But the feeling or thought that I am going to be OK, I can take care of myself, care for myself, and a kind of comfort coming from within.
Thank you Tara. I am able to sit with my to a certain degree. I am aware of my uncomfortableness. And, I am doing my best to stay open. Not easy, present to, barely (trying to be compassionate) to my self judgment.
Such a powerful and life changing emotion/action
Thank you
Is softening. Brings more calm.
Each time I do this practice I am reminded of how difficult this must be for my clients. It’s not easy to sit with our pain.
Thanks Tara. I felt some relief of the clenching in my gut and compassion for myself.
I experienced sadness.
I felt a resistance to the kindness.
I felt a great feeling of peace and acceptance.
my listening skills in English are not very good. Without close captions in English I can’t understand the content of the video well.
Thank you. Practice Practice Practice is what is essential and illusive for me. I ‘know’ what to do to feel more alive as my true self and to feel at peace yet I resist practicing. The trance is seductive in its familiarity and I allow it to consume me, to cut off the fresh air between it and the freedom of self compassion. Your lessons help me – especially in the middle of the night- to break free and breathe for awhile, to be more fully now.
I see that taking care of myself is a constant process. It has paid off for me in so many ways and I know this so well. But there are times where I’m uncertain of my worthiness and I totally lose sight of what’s going on inside because I’m reacting to what’s going on outside from a place of separateness.
I’m a very visual thinker, so when I tuned into what I was feeling – a little tension, maybe even slight anger – it came up as a tiny ball of orange light. That’s when I noticed that it was quite small, so I could be with it. Thank you!
I would tell a friend to take care of themselves, but I myself just keep pushing myself to do for others.
Actually I feel that I have not lived to my own potential. I have many ,”I should have become a…chiropractor,…a physical therapist, a…. health educator,….a physiological psychologist. I feel that I have failed.
I didn’t want to do it as I thought it would make me feel worse if it didn’t work.I will keep doing this exercise and see what happens.
Thank you.
Joan
I felt resting in love…thank you so much…
The anxiety that I was feeling in my chest dissipated a little. It was like it was being fuelled by a sense of calm.
I feel cared for.
It lifted my soul and reminded me to choose my best expression of my self, connecting to my humanity and realizing I have a choice or choices around suffering self compassion and awareness
Thanks!
I am recognizing the pain inside and daring to be with it with kindness.
Well
I can see relief and a upward lift in attitude when I can offer myself acceptance and nonjudgment
It do’s the solve any problems. I guess it’s not supposed to.
But it does offer at least temporary relief
Funny how this came in the nick of time! I’d been starting to run gain inn life and been away from my meditation choosing watching a ton of other things on screen So first thank you!
Yes, fear, lots of fear, uneasiness with growing older, being almost retired, sickness.I was actually surprised! Then, an addictive busyness to get away from my feelings…this is not new to me but it does creep up when I’m not watching, being present. Sad, very sad and that too was a huge surprise! So onto the second video.So glad you out all three in the same message!!
I am feeling quite exhausted and in quite a bit of physical pain. Bringing kindness into the experience helped me relax and stop “fighting” the experience. I felt ease and openness even though the pain and tiredness is still here. Thank you, Tara.
Bringing kindness to a problematic experience is something soothing…relief…less tension…feeling lighter…
It takes an effort to do it…
Habitually I want to do “old thing” but being mindful I choose to do “new thing”- kindness towards myself…if I remember…if I do not get lost before…
I feel more confident with myself and at ease
I work in a Crisis MH team as a Peer Support Worker. Self-Compassion is really important for our clients, and I hope to bring it more into my work.
Today, I realise I am doing pretty well, although facing health challenges currently. I am not being hard on myself, and doing well with self-care, even though my health issues are unclear.
Thank you for such lovely clearness.
I felt peaceful
I regained a positive outlook on my situation
it feels like tension melting. Release. Im getting soft.
my heart gets warm. I reconnect with myself.
A kind space for it to be in.
a melting sensation
Wow . This video really resonated with me. All the boxes of self criticism were ticked!
Doing the practice was remarkable. To be honest I was surprised. Just closing my eyes and asking the two questions caused a sensation of release / wellbeing. Hard to put this feeling into words.
I felt a sense of calm come over me
I have realised that I CAN do this ….but I need to do it over and over again. It shocks me how deep that sense of unworthiness runs. I don’t even feel worthy of rest when I am exhausted…..its like a fear of being ‘caught out’, even though my partner and friends tell me all the time I need to rest. As I do it now,, theres an underlying sense of guilt and anxiety. I see that and offer myself compassion in THIS moment, but see that it has to become a habit, not to keep pushing this poor (70 year) old body. It is changing and so must my attitude towards it.
Thank you Tara
I find Taras voice a bit too soothing…
Sorry… this might lull me to sleep while Im
Aspiring to awaken….I think its more valuable more for those who are in a “regressed” infantile period if their lives..
Good stuff but its not for me….
I found this very difficult. I realise that the inner voice in me tells me I’ll get it wrong and I won’t “do it properly” and feel what I’m supposed to. Problem is I do believe this to be true. I will keep going as I trust this will help me.
i found it a little difficult to accept that I wish I had more energy … and it made me realize how big an issue that is for me … Thank you!
I felt my heart softening and opening up
My strong feeling was grouchiness. I felt impatience around this feeling and wanted to say to myself….Just snap out of it! It did soften a bit, but I still felt judgmental.