What’s happening? Fear for our world is in my heart. The divisions in so much of our culture are causing suffering.
Yes, I was able to be with these feelings with a degree of tenderness along with the sorrow. No solutions but more of a feeling of compassion for ua all – no matter which “side” of the political divide we are on.
I felt only numbness & found no true sense of kindness available. Nothing seemed to happen other than recognizing the sense of numbness. Such recognition is an important awareness, I think.
I used to be a nurse, then a college teacher. I do not fit any of the professions listed.
It made me cry when I tried to bring kindness to what I was experiencing.
It hit home when you said we would never treat others like we treat ourselves, its very sad. I also felt a gentleness towards myself. thank you x
the experience changed into something fluid and disappeared slowly into a feeling of equanimity and peace.
thanks got your caring and wisdom.
Love, Lini
I completely agree with and enjoy this practice which coincides with other teachers that have spoken about this ,namely John Bradshaw who wrote about healing the inner child and toxic shame that a lot of us grew up with.I agree that we need to have community (sanghas)of like minded people to talk with and get that sense of belonging and support along with our inner work but we live in an increasingly busy world that doesn’t seem to value the importance of community..not cliques but community..I read once that the definition of busy is made up of two characters in Chinese..one is heart and the other is murder.We live in an often insane system in place now with our A.I.machines (I phones etc.).of rapid information but people are so distracted no one takes the time to truly listen and connect deeply or question the validity of all this propaganda being presented . The powers that be want the divide and conquer agenda to seperate us even more.Increasingly,people,have even less of an attention span so I find myself trying to communicate, which needs to be reciprocal, but often the subject changes or the question gets unanswered because someone interupts which used to be bad manners and rude so communication remains disjointed and superficial..I’m an elder which means I’m often invalidated ,especially if you’re female, as someone else pointed out.Im a fairly good listener but would also appreciate being heard at times. Ive been triggered lately as I have P.T.S.D. because of a traumatic childhood so what’s happening in the world right now brings up this trauma shame place..as in ,what’s wrong with me because I am sensitive and have seen through the bullshit but often feel like I’m silenced because it doesn’t fit into the mainstream narrative.I have seen through the propaganda my whole life..Its often lonely.What I love about this practice is the pausing with mindfulness, kindness and compassion to self but it would be nice to have community too.I also appreciate that it also allows the feelings that are there without judgment…the body connection..I find this New age(not all of it but) religion that people expouse is often just a way of judging and fixing someone which just makes you feel even more shame and isolation.Im so grateful to Tara though that she has these talks and meditations on YouTube.Ive tried to start a group to listen and discuss them here in this coastal tourist town in Mexico but people are too busy.. or stoned..ha. I persevere..ha.Blessings to all and in this present moment ,only love is real.Namaste
Hi Tara I’ve been practising staying in my body and accepting as best I can all feelings and sensations and releasing most times with tears. I am becoming my own best friend and learning to trust myself in whatever feels right, feels best in any moment or situation. The key being how it feels. This always brings me to a place of comfort and compassion in my heart and Iembrace my whole Self. Judgment is gradually abating. I’m gratefull for all that you share and teach. You’ve been a great inspiration for me. All Blessings, Kath😊💖🎶🌈
I was able to see the places in my life where I could see my highest self engaged and felt hope and a lightness of being. However, I had a very difficult time bringing kindness to the harsh base critic that is judging my aging face and body. I feel both ashamed of my vanity and trapped in it.
It was challenging. I realize that I have a strong inter version the feelings of unworthiness and as you said I can come up with all sorts of reasons why I should feel what I feel the feelings of self-doubt self-incrimination
I was feeling fearful, wounded, vulnerable and like I’d done something wrong. Or simply that I’m fundamentally not ok. I pictured a tender, kind, nonjudgmental person at the door, asking to come in. I looked at this person with timid hope, but hope nonetheless.
It’s anew perspective that I will have to practice. it was a surprise to even consider viewing my pain and fear with kindness. I have been kind to others, but not to myself. The question “can I live with this? remains one to contemplate . I’m not sure at this point. Thank you Tara.
marian
It brought a softening of the negative emotion I was feeling. My thoughts became less entangled in the situation that brought on the negative emotions. I viewed the situation more objectively and realized I could live with the situation as it is now. I felt that I could deal with the situation as it unfolded.
I felt an exhale and compassion as I would for a friend. I have been working over the past year letting go of perfection and seeing it its ok to make mistakes. It is growth for me and once in a while there are happy mistakes
I felt some softening, warmth and lightness. I can’t say it was a very strong sensation, but it came from me. No one helped me, nothing in my environment lead me to that feeling. This in turn, is HUGE!
I can describe it as wrapping a warm blanket of light, full of kindness, around my mind. A smile then appeared on my face! I have been my own worst enemy, especially lately. I feel as though this workshop is the beginning of my freedom from suffering. Exactly what I need, thank you.
I realized I had started feeling “aloneness” when I was a child. Being emotional was not understood and at times not acceptable. I felt helpless to change.
I could feel tension and physical pain. I always ask all the cells in my body to send love, peace and healing to all my cells especially where I am hurting. I am 86 and still trying to be at peace with myself.
Well, I remembered that I need to lighten up on myself and recognize that the losses and grief I’m going through are legitimate and understandable. Not really a reflection on poor choices, but just how it feels when people you love die and direction in life is dramatically changed. Thank you for this awareness and thank you for sharing a very personal and painful memory. It’s very kind of you Tara!
Things felt softer inside— but also I have a deeply embedded and for years enabled fear ( feels like layers of fear with multiple rationalizations) and I felt that fear starting to press in.
I appreciate greatly your you-tube talks and have learned so much, Tara. I am 59 years old and still struggling daily with an eating disorder (really it was created/ encouraged from early childhood in conjunction with family sexual abuse). I carry deep deep self loathing. Gotten worse as I have aged, as my aging body changes.
But I feel the only thing I can do is heal. It’s become my main occupation. I had been trying (and not often progressing well) since my late 20’s.
While watching this, I felt very strong upwelling of painful emotion in my chest/throat. I placed my crossed hands on my heart and told myself that “This is painful. I am here for you. I won’t leave you” (sort of like supportive parent to child). I still felt the strong emotion in my chest, but I also felt, in parallel, the positive inner strengthening from giving myself support.
Thank you Tara, for reminding me… that it is hearts desire to be loving creative and adventurous
That deep broken loneliness feeling
i just need to reach out to 1 person , make 1 connection
I felt a shift in my throat and chest. From tension and denseness to an effervescence and loosening grip of emotion. I’m not sure if I could have done that earlier in the day when I was in total reaction mode. To be with-without the story and judgement- with compassion toward the experience.
What’s happening? Fear for our world is in my heart. The divisions in so much of our culture are causing suffering.
Yes, I was able to be with these feelings with a degree of tenderness along with the sorrow. No solutions but more of a feeling of compassion for ua all – no matter which “side” of the political divide we are on.
I’ve entered my sixth decade of being on this planet and still am plagued by this shit
I felt only numbness & found no true sense of kindness available. Nothing seemed to happen other than recognizing the sense of numbness. Such recognition is an important awareness, I think.
I used to be a nurse, then a college teacher. I do not fit any of the professions listed.
My heart softened and my frequency shifted to a lighter frequency
Softness…
I felt a little weight lifting and calmed. I also felt some resistance from my inner voice.
Thank you – I felt sad
It made me cry when I tried to bring kindness to what I was experiencing.
It hit home when you said we would never treat others like we treat ourselves, its very sad. I also felt a gentleness towards myself. thank you x
the experience changed into something fluid and disappeared slowly into a feeling of equanimity and peace.
thanks got your caring and wisdom.
Love, Lini
I completely agree with and enjoy this practice which coincides with other teachers that have spoken about this ,namely John Bradshaw who wrote about healing the inner child and toxic shame that a lot of us grew up with.I agree that we need to have community (sanghas)of like minded people to talk with and get that sense of belonging and support along with our inner work but we live in an increasingly busy world that doesn’t seem to value the importance of community..not cliques but community..I read once that the definition of busy is made up of two characters in Chinese..one is heart and the other is murder.We live in an often insane system in place now with our A.I.machines (I phones etc.).of rapid information but people are so distracted no one takes the time to truly listen and connect deeply or question the validity of all this propaganda being presented . The powers that be want the divide and conquer agenda to seperate us even more.Increasingly,people,have even less of an attention span so I find myself trying to communicate, which needs to be reciprocal, but often the subject changes or the question gets unanswered because someone interupts which used to be bad manners and rude so communication remains disjointed and superficial..I’m an elder which means I’m often invalidated ,especially if you’re female, as someone else pointed out.Im a fairly good listener but would also appreciate being heard at times. Ive been triggered lately as I have P.T.S.D. because of a traumatic childhood so what’s happening in the world right now brings up this trauma shame place..as in ,what’s wrong with me because I am sensitive and have seen through the bullshit but often feel like I’m silenced because it doesn’t fit into the mainstream narrative.I have seen through the propaganda my whole life..Its often lonely.What I love about this practice is the pausing with mindfulness, kindness and compassion to self but it would be nice to have community too.I also appreciate that it also allows the feelings that are there without judgment…the body connection..I find this New age(not all of it but) religion that people expouse is often just a way of judging and fixing someone which just makes you feel even more shame and isolation.Im so grateful to Tara though that she has these talks and meditations on YouTube.Ive tried to start a group to listen and discuss them here in this coastal tourist town in Mexico but people are too busy.. or stoned..ha. I persevere..ha.Blessings to all and in this present moment ,only love is real.Namaste
Hi Tara I’ve been practising staying in my body and accepting as best I can all feelings and sensations and releasing most times with tears. I am becoming my own best friend and learning to trust myself in whatever feels right, feels best in any moment or situation. The key being how it feels. This always brings me to a place of comfort and compassion in my heart and Iembrace my whole Self. Judgment is gradually abating. I’m gratefull for all that you share and teach. You’ve been a great inspiration for me. All Blessings, Kath😊💖🎶🌈
My mind started in with the “YES, but” list. Yes, but you don’t…you aren’t…you can’t…
(I’m very good at making lists…BUT they aren’t always useful). 😊
I was able to see the places in my life where I could see my highest self engaged and felt hope and a lightness of being. However, I had a very difficult time bringing kindness to the harsh base critic that is judging my aging face and body. I feel both ashamed of my vanity and trapped in it.
a moment of comfort
Went from cold and empty to feeling a bit warmer inside.
It was challenging. I realize that I have a strong inter version the feelings of unworthiness and as you said I can come up with all sorts of reasons why I should feel what I feel the feelings of self-doubt self-incrimination
I felt a sense of warmth and safety…like I was saying “hello” again to an old and dear friend…myself
Thank you Tara and Namaste
A slight smile. Looking forward to next video
I was feeling fearful, wounded, vulnerable and like I’d done something wrong. Or simply that I’m fundamentally not ok. I pictured a tender, kind, nonjudgmental person at the door, asking to come in. I looked at this person with timid hope, but hope nonetheless.
It’s anew perspective that I will have to practice. it was a surprise to even consider viewing my pain and fear with kindness. I have been kind to others, but not to myself. The question “can I live with this? remains one to contemplate . I’m not sure at this point. Thank you Tara.
marian
Nothing
It brought a softening of the negative emotion I was feeling. My thoughts became less entangled in the situation that brought on the negative emotions. I viewed the situation more objectively and realized I could live with the situation as it is now. I felt that I could deal with the situation as it unfolded.
I felt an exhale and compassion as I would for a friend. I have been working over the past year letting go of perfection and seeing it its ok to make mistakes. It is growth for me and once in a while there are happy mistakes
I felt some softening, warmth and lightness. I can’t say it was a very strong sensation, but it came from me. No one helped me, nothing in my environment lead me to that feeling. This in turn, is HUGE!
My heart opened…..
I can describe it as wrapping a warm blanket of light, full of kindness, around my mind. A smile then appeared on my face! I have been my own worst enemy, especially lately. I feel as though this workshop is the beginning of my freedom from suffering. Exactly what I need, thank you.
I realized I had started feeling “aloneness” when I was a child. Being emotional was not understood and at times not acceptable. I felt helpless to change.
I could feel tension and physical pain. I always ask all the cells in my body to send love, peace and healing to all my cells especially where I am hurting. I am 86 and still trying to be at peace with myself.
Well, I remembered that I need to lighten up on myself and recognize that the losses and grief I’m going through are legitimate and understandable. Not really a reflection on poor choices, but just how it feels when people you love die and direction in life is dramatically changed. Thank you for this awareness and thank you for sharing a very personal and painful memory. It’s very kind of you Tara!
I really like the 2 step simplicity that Tara outines
Sadness. Stomach distress. Would loved to have been more of my authentic self in my young years
I felt deep sadness, a feeling that I will never be able to overcome the unworthiness I feel.
sadness and tears
hopeful
Things felt softer inside— but also I have a deeply embedded and for years enabled fear ( feels like layers of fear with multiple rationalizations) and I felt that fear starting to press in.
I appreciate greatly your you-tube talks and have learned so much, Tara. I am 59 years old and still struggling daily with an eating disorder (really it was created/ encouraged from early childhood in conjunction with family sexual abuse). I carry deep deep self loathing. Gotten worse as I have aged, as my aging body changes.
But I feel the only thing I can do is heal. It’s become my main occupation. I had been trying (and not often progressing well) since my late 20’s.
While watching this, I felt very strong upwelling of painful emotion in my chest/throat. I placed my crossed hands on my heart and told myself that “This is painful. I am here for you. I won’t leave you” (sort of like supportive parent to child). I still felt the strong emotion in my chest, but I also felt, in parallel, the positive inner strengthening from giving myself support.
The stress lessened when I approached a task with mindful kindness.
I smiled and felt calmer
I liked your video , thank you 😊
I saw someone who tries their best and is worth being with
I felt an opening of my heart space and the need to sit in silence and nurture myself.
I relaxed and it felt lighter, less gripping.
Thought how this practice goes along with my prayer life
It softened the feelings of unworthiness a little bit. I need to practice this for it to feel more profound.
A shift in my belly
Thank you Tara, for reminding me… that it is hearts desire to be loving creative and adventurous
That deep broken loneliness feeling
i just need to reach out to 1 person , make 1 connection
Rejection and pain
I felt a shift in my throat and chest. From tension and denseness to an effervescence and loosening grip of emotion. I’m not sure if I could have done that earlier in the day when I was in total reaction mode. To be with-without the story and judgement- with compassion toward the experience.
So greaful for your openness and courage to be sincere. Such a treasure is to hear your words. Thank you Tara
I felt a gentleness towards myself, that would have otherwise been glaring distain had you not asked that question of us.