I acknowledge that I have been living my life for others and they’re expectations. I still felt myself criticizing, or doubting, and feeling pity. But the whole idea of being kind with myself, as I would be for others started creeping in.
I recognised that in moments when I am kind to myself I can also be more true to who I want to be. I also felt that understanding the latter is a lifelong process, not a given
A kind of sadness came up, when I asked myself to be with kindness to my addictions and insecurity inside. I know I asked clients to do the same, but that is complete different to ask it ‘myself’. Thank you Tara
I am so happy that I have chosen to awaken from the momentum of the trance, and this journey to awakening…the knowing the universal source is within me. I am in my wayfinding on course, on purpose and even when feeling off course (scared, sad, inner critic) these moments are small. A critical life skill I am passing on to my daughter is about self compassion, self love, best friends to self…she is now a natural….meaning she is most connected to her source. Suffering and chaos, and those dark moments have been the gold –and well they still happening I am just flowing more and more…with a willingness for open loving heart to self. LOL this video and conversation is so important. Lets keep having these so we can shift the paradigms.
I felt like I wanted to push it back and ignore my feelings and just get on with my day so I reflected on this which made me feel sad so I tried to sit with bringing kindness to myself
Not easy…..
Hi Tara
Blessings, I’m a mindfulness facilitator and there is this sense of trying and effort with trying to be the best teacher, it comes from a sense of lack, when I try and bring a sense of kindness there is a sense of softness and opening, the heart still feels resistance but I know this is the work
It was very difficult to bring kindness to myself. Despite I empathized with the suffering of the sad faces of people in the video, then it is difficult for me to stay with the hardness of my “blocked and unwordiness emotions”.
Thanks again for a good and open-hearted video.
When I offered care to my feeling of not being good enough, and my self-criticism on that, I felt a softening and caring atmosphere within me.
I have struggled with self love and compassion for myself my whole life… having listened to your teachings for years and at the wonderful age of 60 I am finally being kind and value my self. Being a grandmother has definitely helped with this journey of love.
Being a skincare therapist, reflexologist and aromatherapist and listening to others stories for many years and encouraging them on their journeys has also been so valuable.
Thank you for your authenticity and vulnerability in sharing your journey.
Thank you very much, Tara!
I feel an immense sadness inside of me. It is a good feeling, I can live with this sadness, much better as to be closed up.
Love from Renate
I felt my heart a little, and experienced cleansing tears. It helped me feel my own Presence:)
Thank you for your beautiful energy, love and kindness, making our world a better place. You have been a huge inspiration.
“Please be kind to me ”
This is so simple but so powerful
I will use this for sure x doing the exercise I realized that I am not kind to myself because i am simply way too afraid of what is going on inside of me, I run away from my pain instead of becoming present to it and offering kindness and care .. Then this running away makes my inner self even MORE scared because I have added abandonment to feeling something is wrong with me. I realise that it’s like seeing a child that has been hurt themself in an accident and being so scared I run away .. instead of running to offer care and comfort .
Thank Tara you for your wisdom and your generous heart. YOur youtube talks and meditations have been my lifeline during a really challenging time.
Caroline UK
I feel some spaciousness within through the recognition that I carry this feeling of unworthiness and through listening to your personal experience.
Through the sharing I feel that we are not distant from each other. It brings back a feeling of inner security that I am not alone and that we are all on the path…
Gratitude
It helped to ease the pain and feeling of hopelessness. Thank you so much for your life-changing videos! Mindfulness meditation daily has been giving me hope and changing my life! 🙏❤️
I felt a greater sense of flow throughout my body, a lessening of tension in my jaw, throat, and body. I also caught a glimpse of peace—experienced a brief moment of silence free from the constant drama of self-evaluation and worry about how to fix all of my flaws.
I’m 69. I realized that I usually don’t take the time to bring compassion to how I’m feeling.
Like yesterday after I had struggled with a visit with an elderly friend who suffers with dimentia and she asked me to bring her home.
And another friend had a tough day at work and I struggled to empathize with him.
And I need to make arrangements to have a sofa delivered to my home.
I don’t practice being a good friend to myself.
Thank you for the first video.
When I try to bring kindness it works for a bit but when I see that I live in a cold and dark country and feel very alone, I loose all hope to
Ever having a good peaceful happy life. I am divorced and my choices are to blame and the loneliness means in my mind that I have done something wrong to deserve this sad life that I live. I don’t stay sad, I work and try to make sure my younger son who lives with me don’t see me sad. But he senses it as he knows how much happier I am in my hometown Rio and not in London. However, I cannot see myself living away from my sons and without a partner. I’m not sure there is much hope for me as often enough I find myself in the crossroads stuck unable to move forward. The pandemic made the loneliness a lot worse and the fact that many of my friends voted on a dangerous populist who is destroying the Amazon Rainforest. I do what
I can as a indigenous rights activist but feel so alone in this path. I lost friends I loved for not agreeing with their aggressive actions in choosing such president and they are trying to re-elect him again. What else can I do to support my country, the indigenous peoples and find a more meaningful life near nature where is warmer and where people live a more harmonious life? I feel very hopeless when I see day by day, month by month and year by year that nothing has changed for the better and that the world has become a more cruel place than before… and at times I am not able to find a place for me in this coarse and harsh way of existing.
I realised that I have mostly been looking for someone else to carry me.
That realisation reveals deep disappointment in myself, because I’m still a baby and because it has affected the choices I have made.
I experienced a sense of blockage at a physical level, as if I needed to work with the feelings of unworthiness somatically to release them. They felt like contractions.
I felt the intensity of my sorrow, but I felt more self-compassion. There’s something that I have long to do well For quite Sometime. However it is a struggle for me, so I’m problem solving about it after hearing this video. Thank you dear Tara-you’re like an Earth mother who is warm and caring.
My journey to self acceptance has been a long windy road. Although I do have a daily practice this session was a reminder about the importance of not just DOING the practice but BEING the practice. Really looking inward and the feelings and sensations. Naming the emotions helps to tame them. And feeling the various sensation in my body, tight, stiff, tender … helps to heal them.
Libby Edmonds/ EQ facilitator/Mental fitness coach
I became aware of an instinctual impatience with an ‘other’, that they (and the thought that sometimes in other circumstances it is even an ‘it’, an inanimate object) were purposely interfering or restricting some intent or behaviour of mine – an ‘other’ was the cause of a developing frustration.
In trying to introduce kindness, it had the effect of immediately restructuring the reaction away from the ‘other’.
In such moments the challenge will be to be kind, then, to myself, the subconscious harbourer of the feelings of unworthiness to be able to actually ‘do’ what I wanted to do all along.
I felt nervous, uneasy, hesitant, and reluctant. Likely because I haven’t meditated or practiced mindfulness in awhile. I feel as though I’m settling back into my “natural” state of being harsh on myself. Looking forward to the following videos!
I felt a deep sorrow and sadness. And a somewhat of a relief in feeling it. And I tried staying with it. Even though my mind wanted to leave elsewhere. It was hard.
Thank you. I really wondered why I hate myself so much and realised I do not touch myself and my body enough because I hate my body. So need to touch my own skin more often.
I have become better in recent years at showing kindness to myself on a daily basis but when truly overwhelmed by painful feelings I feel pitiable and overcome by sadness, shame at finding myself in that place and deeply, deeply alone. In those moments kindness is difficult.
I acknowledge that I have been living my life for others and they’re expectations. I still felt myself criticizing, or doubting, and feeling pity. But the whole idea of being kind with myself, as I would be for others started creeping in.
A sense of relief and relaxing. Not fighting myself. PS this is a great message for entering the Jewish New Year
I recognised that in moments when I am kind to myself I can also be more true to who I want to be. I also felt that understanding the latter is a lifelong process, not a given
Good info
I felt a heaviness on my chest, which I wasnt sure what to do with, however I did sit with it and acknowledged it .
I pushed the fear away wanting to be free of it and disappointed in myself for lacking self control & the self love I know I need
I can have compassion with in choices and it felt soothing. it can softness to a harden place
A kind of sadness came up, when I asked myself to be with kindness to my addictions and insecurity inside. I know I asked clients to do the same, but that is complete different to ask it ‘myself’. Thank you Tara
I am so happy that I have chosen to awaken from the momentum of the trance, and this journey to awakening…the knowing the universal source is within me. I am in my wayfinding on course, on purpose and even when feeling off course (scared, sad, inner critic) these moments are small. A critical life skill I am passing on to my daughter is about self compassion, self love, best friends to self…she is now a natural….meaning she is most connected to her source. Suffering and chaos, and those dark moments have been the gold –and well they still happening I am just flowing more and more…with a willingness for open loving heart to self. LOL this video and conversation is so important. Lets keep having these so we can shift the paradigms.
I felt like I wanted to push it back and ignore my feelings and just get on with my day so I reflected on this which made me feel sad so I tried to sit with bringing kindness to myself
Not easy…..
A slowing down. A moment to accept and remind myself that I’m not bad or faulty for feeling irritated this morning.
Hi Tara
Blessings, I’m a mindfulness facilitator and there is this sense of trying and effort with trying to be the best teacher, it comes from a sense of lack, when I try and bring a sense of kindness there is a sense of softness and opening, the heart still feels resistance but I know this is the work
Thankyou Tara 🌟
Your compassionate presence brings much light into this existence for all.
Thankyou
Xx
It was very difficult to bring kindness to myself. Despite I empathized with the suffering of the sad faces of people in the video, then it is difficult for me to stay with the hardness of my “blocked and unwordiness emotions”.
Thanks again for a good and open-hearted video.
When I offered care to my feeling of not being good enough, and my self-criticism on that, I felt a softening and caring atmosphere within me.
I have struggled with self love and compassion for myself my whole life… having listened to your teachings for years and at the wonderful age of 60 I am finally being kind and value my self. Being a grandmother has definitely helped with this journey of love.
Being a skincare therapist, reflexologist and aromatherapist and listening to others stories for many years and encouraging them on their journeys has also been so valuable.
Thank you for your authenticity and vulnerability in sharing your journey.
Thank you very much, Tara!
I feel an immense sadness inside of me. It is a good feeling, I can live with this sadness, much better as to be closed up.
Love from Renate
I felt my heart a little, and experienced cleansing tears. It helped me feel my own Presence:)
Thank you for your beautiful energy, love and kindness, making our world a better place. You have been a huge inspiration.
Love
Roshni
“Please be kind to me ”
This is so simple but so powerful
I will use this for sure x doing the exercise I realized that I am not kind to myself because i am simply way too afraid of what is going on inside of me, I run away from my pain instead of becoming present to it and offering kindness and care .. Then this running away makes my inner self even MORE scared because I have added abandonment to feeling something is wrong with me. I realise that it’s like seeing a child that has been hurt themself in an accident and being so scared I run away .. instead of running to offer care and comfort .
Thank Tara you for your wisdom and your generous heart. YOur youtube talks and meditations have been my lifeline during a really challenging time.
Caroline UK
I felt tired and realised that there is no wisdom in caring for others if I don’t take care of my own needs
first.
Kindness towards myself takes commitment. A decision to allow the felt sense of love towards myself and that I’m deserving of that love.
Not alone 🙂 Thank You
Unable to experience a felt sense of kindness
Felt comforted and sense of positive direction back
I feel some spaciousness within through the recognition that I carry this feeling of unworthiness and through listening to your personal experience.
Through the sharing I feel that we are not distant from each other. It brings back a feeling of inner security that I am not alone and that we are all on the path…
Gratitude
🙏🏻
As I opened up to the pain inside, your guidance helped me open my heart and resolve this pain with tears.
It helped to ease the pain and feeling of hopelessness. Thank you so much for your life-changing videos! Mindfulness meditation daily has been giving me hope and changing my life! 🙏❤️
I felt a greater sense of flow throughout my body, a lessening of tension in my jaw, throat, and body. I also caught a glimpse of peace—experienced a brief moment of silence free from the constant drama of self-evaluation and worry about how to fix all of my flaws.
I’m 69. I realized that I usually don’t take the time to bring compassion to how I’m feeling.
Like yesterday after I had struggled with a visit with an elderly friend who suffers with dimentia and she asked me to bring her home.
And another friend had a tough day at work and I struggled to empathize with him.
And I need to make arrangements to have a sofa delivered to my home.
I don’t practice being a good friend to myself.
Thank you for the first video.
When I try to bring kindness it works for a bit but when I see that I live in a cold and dark country and feel very alone, I loose all hope to
Ever having a good peaceful happy life. I am divorced and my choices are to blame and the loneliness means in my mind that I have done something wrong to deserve this sad life that I live. I don’t stay sad, I work and try to make sure my younger son who lives with me don’t see me sad. But he senses it as he knows how much happier I am in my hometown Rio and not in London. However, I cannot see myself living away from my sons and without a partner. I’m not sure there is much hope for me as often enough I find myself in the crossroads stuck unable to move forward. The pandemic made the loneliness a lot worse and the fact that many of my friends voted on a dangerous populist who is destroying the Amazon Rainforest. I do what
I can as a indigenous rights activist but feel so alone in this path. I lost friends I loved for not agreeing with their aggressive actions in choosing such president and they are trying to re-elect him again. What else can I do to support my country, the indigenous peoples and find a more meaningful life near nature where is warmer and where people live a more harmonious life? I feel very hopeless when I see day by day, month by month and year by year that nothing has changed for the better and that the world has become a more cruel place than before… and at times I am not able to find a place for me in this coarse and harsh way of existing.
I feel stagnated , stiffened. Will I be able to bring movement to the thougts in my brain?
But also the freedom in bring my true self
I realised that I have mostly been looking for someone else to carry me.
That realisation reveals deep disappointment in myself, because I’m still a baby and because it has affected the choices I have made.
I experienced a sense of blockage at a physical level, as if I needed to work with the feelings of unworthiness somatically to release them. They felt like contractions.
I feel deep sorrow for myself and at the same time a kind of relief – looking at my self working so hard to belong and do the right thing.
I felt the intensity of my sorrow, but I felt more self-compassion. There’s something that I have long to do well For quite Sometime. However it is a struggle for me, so I’m problem solving about it after hearing this video. Thank you dear Tara-you’re like an Earth mother who is warm and caring.
My journey to self acceptance has been a long windy road. Although I do have a daily practice this session was a reminder about the importance of not just DOING the practice but BEING the practice. Really looking inward and the feelings and sensations. Naming the emotions helps to tame them. And feeling the various sensation in my body, tight, stiff, tender … helps to heal them.
Libby Edmonds/ EQ facilitator/Mental fitness coach
I became aware of an instinctual impatience with an ‘other’, that they (and the thought that sometimes in other circumstances it is even an ‘it’, an inanimate object) were purposely interfering or restricting some intent or behaviour of mine – an ‘other’ was the cause of a developing frustration.
In trying to introduce kindness, it had the effect of immediately restructuring the reaction away from the ‘other’.
In such moments the challenge will be to be kind, then, to myself, the subconscious harbourer of the feelings of unworthiness to be able to actually ‘do’ what I wanted to do all along.
I felt very exhausted. Almost Und too exhausted to concentrate.
When I bring kindness to any situation I feel much better about me. I’m I’d a win-win for all.
I felt nervous, uneasy, hesitant, and reluctant. Likely because I haven’t meditated or practiced mindfulness in awhile. I feel as though I’m settling back into my “natural” state of being harsh on myself. Looking forward to the following videos!
I felt a deep sorrow and sadness. And a somewhat of a relief in feeling it. And I tried staying with it. Even though my mind wanted to leave elsewhere. It was hard.
Felt subtly calmer
I felt my body soften and relax.
Peace…..and realisation that my internal criticism of others is linked to my own self judgement and fears.
Thank you. I really wondered why I hate myself so much and realised I do not touch myself and my body enough because I hate my body. So need to touch my own skin more often.
There First come a deep sorrow an sadness about all the struggle and loneliness.
Than a glimpse of hope for tenderness for myself and my beloved ones
It was difficult to identify the emotion. I felt empty, nothing there to apply kindness to but also no sadness or difficult feelings either.
I have become better in recent years at showing kindness to myself on a daily basis but when truly overwhelmed by painful feelings I feel pitiable and overcome by sadness, shame at finding myself in that place and deeply, deeply alone. In those moments kindness is difficult.
I felt a subtle opening in my heart
I felt self compassion for a brief few minutes then the negative talking starts again!