I meet a deep inner knowledge that everything is changing and I am not holding anything back. I trust the way. Thank you very much, Tara, my great teacher🙏🌷
i just felt very tired and empty!
i lost my son aged 46 2 years ago and my husband 9 mouth ago after taking care of him at home for 3 years !
my days are so empty my body , my back is hurting long walks are impossible even feeling very privileged to live in a beautiful place in the mountains in Switzerland
ne
Had to stop video a couple of times, tears were flowing.
I can relate, I judge myself harshly, no mercy or compassion. I recognize and see myself that I have been the same with other people including my family, I regret it, as most of them do not talk to me anymore. I feel like hell.
I relate keenly to these issues; feelings of deficiency are a big part of my life. What happened is that I began listing instances of my incapacities, a listing process that I know I go through fairly often. Frankly, it is hard for me to feel self-kindness that doesn’t feel like excuses and rationalizations, even though I know very well that I am no more imperfect than other people. Am I my own best friend? It seems like such a foreign question to ask myself.
I felt a kind of liberation. I could feel the mussels of my face relaxed. And for a moment I left myself trust these feelings.
Thanks a lot.
Begoña. (Madrid/ Spain)
My 2nd time commenting on same video. I’m doing it wrong.
I feel like Will I ever be able to keep up with life, let alone treat myself with compassion at the same time. Seems like two exclusive worlds.
I felt better when I asked myself “Can I be with this?” “This” being feeling like a loser.
Family, sisters, nieces, acting like I am an untouchable.
I’m suffering, yet trying so hard to keep going. All they can see is I’m no good, not good enough.
they do not have any idea how much I do to help and better myself.
But I know how much I do. I don’t give up. I can’t let their thoughts about me tell me who I am. Only I know and will get to know more if I care deeply about me.
My mind immediately went to a ‘fix-it’ solution. I noticed that and just breathed with it and settled back into kindness. Then it felt like I was beginning to offer compassion.
I feel an emptiness and despair and that l am somehow stuck and will sink deeper into it. I have practiced mindfulness for several years and the only thing that helps when the emotions are so negative is to remember that everything passes, the good, the bad, it all passes whether we like it or not.
Tears are flowing from the heart telling me that I deserve to be gentle with myself and that I can accept the love that is given to me by others without doubting it -but rather accepting it as a Gift .
Tears are flowing from the heart telling me that I deserve to be gentle with myself and that I can accept the love that is given to me by others without doubting it -but rather accepting it as a Gift .
My mind was drawn in to bring excuses as to why I couldn’t and shouldn’t bring kindness to the feeling of irritation. I was drawn to the story and the thoughts around it. Found it difficult to hold only on to the feeling long enough to bring kindness to it
today has been a quiet good day, saw fullness in stomach from overeating; didn’t judge- rubbed tummy and was just present- I’ve listened to your teaching & online before- this is such a help
I have a difficult time connecting with myself. I judge myself, feel inadequate for not knowing myself. Bringing kindness, allows me to slow down and realize I need more time to feel.
I can look kind upon my feelings but am so convinced others cannot, which is making it quite difficult to really accept it. I am looking forward to the next videos though.
I immediately had a teary feeling of compassion – and acceptance. After being in an abyss of self-judgement, remorse and confusion yesterday, today I am choosing to be in the light, and listening to Tara is soothing and supportive.
Thank you Tara for all you have given over the years.
While this is very familiar territory for me as a therapist, and as Tara Brach listener, your voice and validation of hope to deal with what will inevitably come around again gives me so much solace.
Finding my self-compassion with your meditation brings me to a deep connection with my little girl. Then no matter what state she is in she feels safer with me seeing her, holding her, and loving her.
I look forward to hearing about more tools to get in touch with that self compassion during the more difficult times.
When I sat with what I was feeling – a sadness/heaviness in my chest, feeling pulled in many directions by a sense of “need to accomplish these things today”, and neck pain/headache – each of the sensations slightly loosened their grip. Thank you for this exercise!
I feel overwhelm, and the experience is so intense and real for me that I want to teach it to the Spanish’s students that I am teaching this year. I know how important it is “accept and love my self as it is”. I need to be patient because is a long journey that never end.
As soon as I touched into the edge of the feeling of being flawed or deficient my attention flitted away to look for a distraction, like taking a sip of coffee or picking up the mail to go through. I’ve had a daily sitting practice for many years, and I’ve seen this reflex countless times. Sometimes I can stay with what is there and gently go into it, seeing what opens out. Other times not. The nature of mind.
The idea of self compassion always makes me soften immediately. Why am I so unable in the moment to recognize my self criticism and not trust who I really am. I keep losing my way when I don’t practice mindfulness everyday. It’s so easy to lose myself in the news of the day which is always disturbing. Today I refuse to let that happen. I will recognize as soon as possible when I go into trance which will happen because I’m human but I will try to go back to myself through mindfulness. Sorry I’m rambling.
Noticed a sense of impatience with myself and a sense of wanting to run away. when I brought kindness to this place I could feel my muscles relax a little especially my biceps. So I feel a sense that this impatience is a fight/flight feeling in me.
I felt a deep sadness, tightness in my chest and was ready to cry. But then when asked if I could be with this feeling with kindness and care, I felt an openness and a lightness in my chest. This process moved me very much. I am ready to do more. thank you.
A feeling of lightness in my shoulders, scattered thoughts but deep sense of groundless beneath that. I don’t have all the answers and I know not what I am searching for. But I can be patient with myself.
I noticed the feeling of emptiness. But instead of trying to cover it or push it away, I was able to accept that it was there and be with it. It felt like it changed a little, and became less oppressive. Thank you, Tara, for your work.
These teaching are a good reminder of what I already know & have studied in my mindfulness meditation course here in Sydnry. I will share & fwd them to others
Thank you.
Namaste
Sallie
I had a hard time accepting the arrogance of my unfulfilled expectations for myself. I am ashamed both of the hubris of the expectations and of not having fulfilled them.
Dear Tara
Thanks to your weekly talks, to the 40 meetings course and following your practices as much as I can, it is easier now to “be” with myself without loathing me, or judging myself so harshly as I have done till now (I am 80!). It makes life so much more pleasant. The old habits are there of course but often right away the new path presents itself. I take the RAIN way, which helps me enormously; I find compassion and kindness and use them. The talk I listened to today came right in time – as these things often do. I think of this hard spot I am in now as an opportunity to learn, and I find there are answers in myself that have not been there before. I am awfully grateful to you Tara and to all mindfulness teachers and participants for putting in motion a huge wave of love in our suffering world
Good morning, thank you for this beautiful awareness this morning. I woke again with dreams of being the victim and unexplained need for travel. This video brought me back to embracing self compassion and being my own best friend. Part of the regret is not having this experience in my 20s but now having it in my 50s. Although I have tried many times I believe my need for travel is actually an inward journey of truth and compassion for the traumas I have been through in my life. I am trying to learn that it’s never too late to be your own best friend. Much love and many thanks for the grace and compassion you bring to the world. Namaste, Diane
My feelings of unworthiness are so entrenched that I am not able to fully accept compassion from myself. I have awareness of the need change but do not know how to get there. I feel hopeful to know that others are on the same journey.
I was shocked to hear that Tara once experienced the same inner critic that inhabits me! During the exercise, I focused on my life-long struggle with controlling my weight. The image that emerged was me as a child being berated by an adult (me?…my mom?…society?). When I invoked a sense of kindness, the child simply got up and softly walked away while the adult continued their tirade of scolding and shaming language. It felt as though I was taking the first step in protecting both my young heart and psyche from abuse and bullying. I look forward to exploring this further!
I meet a deep inner knowledge that everything is changing and I am not holding anything back. I trust the way. Thank you very much, Tara, my great teacher🙏🌷
i just felt very tired and empty!
i lost my son aged 46 2 years ago and my husband 9 mouth ago after taking care of him at home for 3 years !
my days are so empty my body , my back is hurting long walks are impossible even feeling very privileged to live in a beautiful place in the mountains in Switzerland
ne
Had to stop video a couple of times, tears were flowing.
I can relate, I judge myself harshly, no mercy or compassion. I recognize and see myself that I have been the same with other people including my family, I regret it, as most of them do not talk to me anymore. I feel like hell.
I relate keenly to these issues; feelings of deficiency are a big part of my life. What happened is that I began listing instances of my incapacities, a listing process that I know I go through fairly often. Frankly, it is hard for me to feel self-kindness that doesn’t feel like excuses and rationalizations, even though I know very well that I am no more imperfect than other people. Am I my own best friend? It seems like such a foreign question to ask myself.
I felt a kind of liberation. I could feel the mussels of my face relaxed. And for a moment I left myself trust these feelings.
Thanks a lot.
Begoña. (Madrid/ Spain)
My 2nd time commenting on same video. I’m doing it wrong.
I feel like Will I ever be able to keep up with life, let alone treat myself with compassion at the same time. Seems like two exclusive worlds.
I felt better when I asked myself “Can I be with this?” “This” being feeling like a loser.
Family, sisters, nieces, acting like I am an untouchable.
I’m suffering, yet trying so hard to keep going. All they can see is I’m no good, not good enough.
they do not have any idea how much I do to help and better myself.
But I know how much I do. I don’t give up. I can’t let their thoughts about me tell me who I am. Only I know and will get to know more if I care deeply about me.
Today the feeling is blah. Holding that with compassion brought tears to my eyes.
Thanks
Thank you for another set of tools. Self forgiveness and self-compassion, have been on my meditation list. Lovingkindness always
Increased self awareness and acceptance
My mind immediately went to a ‘fix-it’ solution. I noticed that and just breathed with it and settled back into kindness. Then it felt like I was beginning to offer compassion.
I feel an emptiness and despair and that l am somehow stuck and will sink deeper into it. I have practiced mindfulness for several years and the only thing that helps when the emotions are so negative is to remember that everything passes, the good, the bad, it all passes whether we like it or not.
Tears are flowing from the heart telling me that I deserve to be gentle with myself and that I can accept the love that is given to me by others without doubting it -but rather accepting it as a Gift .
Tears are flowing from the heart telling me that I deserve to be gentle with myself and that I can accept the love that is given to me by others without doubting it -but rather accepting it as a Gift .
Relief, amidst scattered attention and doubt.
When I offered kindness to my feelings of fear, I began to feel a sense of peace.
Aware of fear, doubt, always examining where I failed..self compassion raised a wall..dull impenetrable
Lack of ability to overcome.
My mind was drawn in to bring excuses as to why I couldn’t and shouldn’t bring kindness to the feeling of irritation. I was drawn to the story and the thoughts around it. Found it difficult to hold only on to the feeling long enough to bring kindness to it
today has been a quiet good day, saw fullness in stomach from overeating; didn’t judge- rubbed tummy and was just present- I’ve listened to your teaching & online before- this is such a help
I felt a lot of stress / resistants in my body and against the thoughts in my mind.
I have a difficult time connecting with myself. I judge myself, feel inadequate for not knowing myself. Bringing kindness, allows me to slow down and realize I need more time to feel.
I can look kind upon my feelings but am so convinced others cannot, which is making it quite difficult to really accept it. I am looking forward to the next videos though.
I immediately had a teary feeling of compassion – and acceptance. After being in an abyss of self-judgement, remorse and confusion yesterday, today I am choosing to be in the light, and listening to Tara is soothing and supportive.
Thank you Tara for all you have given over the years.
While this is very familiar territory for me as a therapist, and as Tara Brach listener, your voice and validation of hope to deal with what will inevitably come around again gives me so much solace.
Finding my self-compassion with your meditation brings me to a deep connection with my little girl. Then no matter what state she is in she feels safer with me seeing her, holding her, and loving her.
I look forward to hearing about more tools to get in touch with that self compassion during the more difficult times.
When I sat with what I was feeling – a sadness/heaviness in my chest, feeling pulled in many directions by a sense of “need to accomplish these things today”, and neck pain/headache – each of the sensations slightly loosened their grip. Thank you for this exercise!
I felt lighter, less tension in my body.
Less harsh with myself and more understandingo
I feel overwhelm, and the experience is so intense and real for me that I want to teach it to the Spanish’s students that I am teaching this year. I know how important it is “accept and love my self as it is”. I need to be patient because is a long journey that never end.
As soon as I touched into the edge of the feeling of being flawed or deficient my attention flitted away to look for a distraction, like taking a sip of coffee or picking up the mail to go through. I’ve had a daily sitting practice for many years, and I’ve seen this reflex countless times. Sometimes I can stay with what is there and gently go into it, seeing what opens out. Other times not. The nature of mind.
I realize the urge to distract myself, to look away, to rationalize away the feeling…
I somehow Dismiss the kindness as if it’s a lie to myself.
I realize that I am constantly working on my legacy of doing the right thing for others, but wondering if I’m really doing what’s right for me.
The idea of self compassion always makes me soften immediately. Why am I so unable in the moment to recognize my self criticism and not trust who I really am. I keep losing my way when I don’t practice mindfulness everyday. It’s so easy to lose myself in the news of the day which is always disturbing. Today I refuse to let that happen. I will recognize as soon as possible when I go into trance which will happen because I’m human but I will try to go back to myself through mindfulness. Sorry I’m rambling.
Noticed a sense of impatience with myself and a sense of wanting to run away. when I brought kindness to this place I could feel my muscles relax a little especially my biceps. So I feel a sense that this impatience is a fight/flight feeling in me.
RELEASE
I felt a deep sadness, tightness in my chest and was ready to cry. But then when asked if I could be with this feeling with kindness and care, I felt an openness and a lightness in my chest. This process moved me very much. I am ready to do more. thank you.
Thanks
My unworthiness is my life source. How do I break this grip?
The unpleasant tightness around my solar plexus I started with, dissolved into a pleasant warm and loving feeling.
A feeling of lightness in my shoulders, scattered thoughts but deep sense of groundless beneath that. I don’t have all the answers and I know not what I am searching for. But I can be patient with myself.
I noticed the feeling of emptiness. But instead of trying to cover it or push it away, I was able to accept that it was there and be with it. It felt like it changed a little, and became less oppressive. Thank you, Tara, for your work.
The thought: but i don’t deserve kindness
These teaching are a good reminder of what I already know & have studied in my mindfulness meditation course here in Sydnry. I will share & fwd them to others
Thank you.
Namaste
Sallie
I had a hard time accepting the arrogance of my unfulfilled expectations for myself. I am ashamed both of the hubris of the expectations and of not having fulfilled them.
Dear Tara
Thanks to your weekly talks, to the 40 meetings course and following your practices as much as I can, it is easier now to “be” with myself without loathing me, or judging myself so harshly as I have done till now (I am 80!). It makes life so much more pleasant. The old habits are there of course but often right away the new path presents itself. I take the RAIN way, which helps me enormously; I find compassion and kindness and use them. The talk I listened to today came right in time – as these things often do. I think of this hard spot I am in now as an opportunity to learn, and I find there are answers in myself that have not been there before. I am awfully grateful to you Tara and to all mindfulness teachers and participants for putting in motion a huge wave of love in our suffering world
Good morning, thank you for this beautiful awareness this morning. I woke again with dreams of being the victim and unexplained need for travel. This video brought me back to embracing self compassion and being my own best friend. Part of the regret is not having this experience in my 20s but now having it in my 50s. Although I have tried many times I believe my need for travel is actually an inward journey of truth and compassion for the traumas I have been through in my life. I am trying to learn that it’s never too late to be your own best friend. Much love and many thanks for the grace and compassion you bring to the world. Namaste, Diane
I cried
I felt warmth inside and a feeling of relief.
My feelings of unworthiness are so entrenched that I am not able to fully accept compassion from myself. I have awareness of the need change but do not know how to get there. I feel hopeful to know that others are on the same journey.
I was shocked to hear that Tara once experienced the same inner critic that inhabits me! During the exercise, I focused on my life-long struggle with controlling my weight. The image that emerged was me as a child being berated by an adult (me?…my mom?…society?). When I invoked a sense of kindness, the child simply got up and softly walked away while the adult continued their tirade of scolding and shaming language. It felt as though I was taking the first step in protecting both my young heart and psyche from abuse and bullying. I look forward to exploring this further!