a gaping, empty, hollow expanse in my low chest, became warm with a soft light and gently softened in toward my heart (the empty space filled with light and also shrank)
The tenseness and constellation of thoughts and emotions began to break apart, fade and most have disappeared. Where did they go?
I am resting more comfortably now with no desire to chase them.
Thank you!
Could only feel/ sense pain in my back physically
Mental and emotional self felt distant but there was my judging voice saying pain is my own doing/fault
hello Tara ! when I tried to bring kindness to what I was experiencing during the video, my body became open and relax (excuse me I’m french !!). I felt ok with what seemed to be a big problem in my life. This problem can exist AND I can exist. Thank you so much to have helped me to understand that !!!
The idea of not living true to myself resonates loudly. I have always lived by the rules/ideas set down by others and have felt deficient.
All the things you listed, limiting beliefs, shame, anxiety and fear of failure have caused a war inside me.
Thank you so much for putting this into words and bringing it into my consciousness.
I can not bring kindness to myself because I do not feel I deserve it. My feelings of lacking and not being good enough simply fuel immense anger and self hatred towards myself which I can not seem to overcome.
I felt a deep holding and letting go at the same time. My higher self emerged and I heard and felt “I’m here” The loneliness and loss dissolved and clear presence and clarity emerged. Thank you Tara for your oh so gentle reminder!
With love and appreciation
on a recent vacation an inner voice said to me ” hey look at you being comfortable in your own skin” what could I do but smile thinking wow you are 69! hearing Tara speak I immediately relaxed and will apply this kindness and self compassion during a job interview this morning and I know it will be a critical underpinning of all my days going forward for myself and my patients. thank you
The video comments re: feelings of unworthiness leading to one’s being disconnected and shut off from people in our lives really struck a chord with me. Feeling a lot of sadness and regret, because this is how I was for the last several years before my husband died…stressed about work and feeling judged and found lacking (at work). I sank inward, trying to “fix” myself to perform better in my profession, which resulted in my not being truly present in the rest of my life. When I tried Tara’s exercise, I almost immediately felt my face soften and my shoulders relax. Thank you for this useful tool and your ever-loving insights.
Powerful…I felt my own self aversion and how other have felt towards this personal loathing. My heart and stomach aches with the knowing and the challenge of making changes to showing compassion and love towards myself. It is easy to love and show compassion to others …. Not to myself. This is exactly what my journey is now at 71. I feel sad for time spent in darkness but excited to find my way towards the light and self compassion. Thank you for sharing this series!!!
actually I didn’t experience any negative emotion(s) while watching the video. I just swam in the lake few hour ago & after my light lunch I’m feeling pretty relaxed, content, open to kindness towards myself and Why should i make such a “big deal out of my *Existence”? I would be so happy to not engage any more to my own self-created thoughts about myself.
Thanks again for such a wonderful opportunity to practice self compassion and understanding of our common humanity Tara. Softening always happens after such a two fold practice and the edge was taken off the pain .
I found this really helpful in my life but it can happen over and over. Self soothing eases my pain as does compassionate breathing always .
Wonderful experience with a world wide community.
This teaching is so on point for me. I have suffered from harsh self judgment, unworthiness and criticism for decades. Sometimes it feels like an overwhelming task to try and move past. Becoming aware of it and sending myself compassion softens my edges. I realize that I have practiced this behavior so long that it will not go away overnight. I am 71. To move beyond the restrictive walls I have put around myself, I have to continually practice compassion. I am so grateful for these teachings.
I tried to be kind to myself, but I didn’t really feel like it made much of a difference for me. I feel like others actions towards me has me constantly chasing love.
I felt lighter and more hopeful! It was an amazingly fast shift. Thank you, Tara, for showing so much kindness to the world. You are making an incredible difference in so many lives!
I have just been able to get away from a malignant narcissist. I subscribed to Dr. Les Carter’s channel. He so helped me understand. I had become the target of this woman’s anger and frustration. Not a fun place to be. I was the last boarder at this woman’s barn. Last week I moved my horse to a barn just 3 minutes away with friendly horses for my horse, and friendly humans for me. I can now feel in the air the difference between negative and positive energy. Something a horse feels all the time. We are both so much happier. Now my next step presented itself by my attention being called to Tara and I have subscribed to her channel. I’m moving forward guided by what I’m learning from her. Thanks
I am very blessed you are doing this.
I have been looking for tools to increase compassion in regard to my ex husband’s struggle to truly accepting my oldest daughters diagnosis of depression and anxiety. I get angry with his lack of support toward her, and I feel alone in dealing with this.
The shift to welcoming the vulnerable feeling – applying tenderness and care, what a freeing experience. Feels lighter and like I’m operating from a deeper, truer part of myself.
This feels life changing, and it needs to begin with me so as I can be more with my heart again. The me that has been lost for so long and left me, and other people not having the real me.
This resonates so deeply with me, thank you so much!
I immediately have wanted to share it with many of my family, and with the strongest desire within me to follow path now.
I could feel my shoulders relax and a melting happening inside of me…as if something that was gripping me was letting go. I am a regular practitioner of mindfulness meditation with Tara and I am so grateful for the practice of RAIN and her gentle guidance in meditation.
The video reflects my present struggles with my sense of worthiness, my sense of loneliness, and mild depression. I am currently working on breaking my habit of protecting myself from hurt and convincing myself that I am deserving of self kindness. I am grateful for the video’s message that I can become my own best friend.
I felt less tense physically, and internally I felt safe, a feeling of ‘it’s okay. I’m okay.’ When I allow myself to be honest with myself about how I’m feeling instead of running from it, it’s definitely less scary than trying to avoid it.
Thanks for sharing your own story. I did find that bringing kindness into play changed how I regarded my flaws. You described it as a doorway and I found that to be true. Thanks again.
It was so interesting as I immediately began to soften inside myself. I felt more relaxed and calmer. I felt that my personal struggles with myself had somehow lessened even though nothing had actually changed other than doing the exercise.
Thank You!
Thank you for helping me (and so many other humans) to be kind to themselves. Probably this is the best way to bring peace to the heart. For me right now, it seems to be a longer way to feel truely loved by myself. But I feel how this practice helps me to soften up. It’s a revelation.
I first felt anxious and fearful. Honestly, I was almost resistant to bring kindness to myself.
a gaping, empty, hollow expanse in my low chest, became warm with a soft light and gently softened in toward my heart (the empty space filled with light and also shrank)
I felt a softening towards my experience, a lack of resistance and a sense of care towards myself
The tenseness and constellation of thoughts and emotions began to break apart, fade and most have disappeared. Where did they go?
I am resting more comfortably now with no desire to chase them.
Thank you!
Forgiveness and connection. ❤️
Could only feel/ sense pain in my back physically
Mental and emotional self felt distant but there was my judging voice saying pain is my own doing/fault
A softening
Tears, lots of tears. I realized I was appalled, deeply disgusted with myself.
I noticed pain and tightness ..then had a lot of crying
it needed to be noticed and expressed .. was sadness
thank you
i feel gratefulness and the desire to open, give and share.
hello Tara ! when I tried to bring kindness to what I was experiencing during the video, my body became open and relax (excuse me I’m french !!). I felt ok with what seemed to be a big problem in my life. This problem can exist AND I can exist. Thank you so much to have helped me to understand that !!!
I felt a softening inside
The idea of not living true to myself resonates loudly. I have always lived by the rules/ideas set down by others and have felt deficient.
All the things you listed, limiting beliefs, shame, anxiety and fear of failure have caused a war inside me.
Thank you so much for putting this into words and bringing it into my consciousness.
I felt calm, even before asking the questions, giving myself a pause, the opportunity to be with me with kindness. Thank you!
A beautiful reflection- thank you for bringing light to the feelings of sadness and regret that have been unacknowledged.
I can not bring kindness to myself because I do not feel I deserve it. My feelings of lacking and not being good enough simply fuel immense anger and self hatred towards myself which I can not seem to overcome.
I felt a deep holding and letting go at the same time. My higher self emerged and I heard and felt “I’m here” The loneliness and loss dissolved and clear presence and clarity emerged. Thank you Tara for your oh so gentle reminder!
With love and appreciation
I felt safe, protected and at ease.
on a recent vacation an inner voice said to me ” hey look at you being comfortable in your own skin” what could I do but smile thinking wow you are 69! hearing Tara speak I immediately relaxed and will apply this kindness and self compassion during a job interview this morning and I know it will be a critical underpinning of all my days going forward for myself and my patients. thank you
The video comments re: feelings of unworthiness leading to one’s being disconnected and shut off from people in our lives really struck a chord with me. Feeling a lot of sadness and regret, because this is how I was for the last several years before my husband died…stressed about work and feeling judged and found lacking (at work). I sank inward, trying to “fix” myself to perform better in my profession, which resulted in my not being truly present in the rest of my life. When I tried Tara’s exercise, I almost immediately felt my face soften and my shoulders relax. Thank you for this useful tool and your ever-loving insights.
Awareness ❤️
I felt sadness and also pride to be how I am today …
The orientation of unconditional self acceptance is a powerful gift. Thank you.
Bringing kindness to a situation I am experiencing allowed my physical body to soften and let go.
Powerful…I felt my own self aversion and how other have felt towards this personal loathing. My heart and stomach aches with the knowing and the challenge of making changes to showing compassion and love towards myself. It is easy to love and show compassion to others …. Not to myself. This is exactly what my journey is now at 71. I feel sad for time spent in darkness but excited to find my way towards the light and self compassion. Thank you for sharing this series!!!
Tears
actually I didn’t experience any negative emotion(s) while watching the video. I just swam in the lake few hour ago & after my light lunch I’m feeling pretty relaxed, content, open to kindness towards myself and Why should i make such a “big deal out of my *Existence”? I would be so happy to not engage any more to my own self-created thoughts about myself.
So good so kind in your delivery as ever Tara & I loved the meditation.
Thank you
Thanks again for such a wonderful opportunity to practice self compassion and understanding of our common humanity Tara. Softening always happens after such a two fold practice and the edge was taken off the pain .
I found this really helpful in my life but it can happen over and over. Self soothing eases my pain as does compassionate breathing always .
Wonderful experience with a world wide community.
This teaching is so on point for me. I have suffered from harsh self judgment, unworthiness and criticism for decades. Sometimes it feels like an overwhelming task to try and move past. Becoming aware of it and sending myself compassion softens my edges. I realize that I have practiced this behavior so long that it will not go away overnight. I am 71. To move beyond the restrictive walls I have put around myself, I have to continually practice compassion. I am so grateful for these teachings.
Relaxation and calm.
I tried to be kind to myself, but I didn’t really feel like it made much of a difference for me. I feel like others actions towards me has me constantly chasing love.
I felt lighter and more hopeful! It was an amazingly fast shift. Thank you, Tara, for showing so much kindness to the world. You are making an incredible difference in so many lives!
I have just been able to get away from a malignant narcissist. I subscribed to Dr. Les Carter’s channel. He so helped me understand. I had become the target of this woman’s anger and frustration. Not a fun place to be. I was the last boarder at this woman’s barn. Last week I moved my horse to a barn just 3 minutes away with friendly horses for my horse, and friendly humans for me. I can now feel in the air the difference between negative and positive energy. Something a horse feels all the time. We are both so much happier. Now my next step presented itself by my attention being called to Tara and I have subscribed to her channel. I’m moving forward guided by what I’m learning from her. Thanks
I truly felt more love for myself .
Hello –
I am very blessed you are doing this.
I have been looking for tools to increase compassion in regard to my ex husband’s struggle to truly accepting my oldest daughters diagnosis of depression and anxiety. I get angry with his lack of support toward her, and I feel alone in dealing with this.
Thank you.
The shift to welcoming the vulnerable feeling – applying tenderness and care, what a freeing experience. Feels lighter and like I’m operating from a deeper, truer part of myself.
Looking forward to the next video 😌
This feels life changing, and it needs to begin with me so as I can be more with my heart again. The me that has been lost for so long and left me, and other people not having the real me.
This resonates so deeply with me, thank you so much!
I immediately have wanted to share it with many of my family, and with the strongest desire within me to follow path now.
A softening
when i apply kindness to my undeserved unworthiness, I feel relieved and stronger.
I could feel my shoulders relax and a melting happening inside of me…as if something that was gripping me was letting go. I am a regular practitioner of mindfulness meditation with Tara and I am so grateful for the practice of RAIN and her gentle guidance in meditation.
I heard a voice I could finally trust.
The video reflects my present struggles with my sense of worthiness, my sense of loneliness, and mild depression. I am currently working on breaking my habit of protecting myself from hurt and convincing myself that I am deserving of self kindness. I am grateful for the video’s message that I can become my own best friend.
I felt less tense physically, and internally I felt safe, a feeling of ‘it’s okay. I’m okay.’ When I allow myself to be honest with myself about how I’m feeling instead of running from it, it’s definitely less scary than trying to avoid it.
Thanks for sharing your own story. I did find that bringing kindness into play changed how I regarded my flaws. You described it as a doorway and I found that to be true. Thanks again.
A smile came to my face and I became “softer”.
It was so interesting as I immediately began to soften inside myself. I felt more relaxed and calmer. I felt that my personal struggles with myself had somehow lessened even though nothing had actually changed other than doing the exercise.
Thank You!
A sense of gentleness and possibility 🙂
Thank you for helping me (and so many other humans) to be kind to themselves. Probably this is the best way to bring peace to the heart. For me right now, it seems to be a longer way to feel truely loved by myself. But I feel how this practice helps me to soften up. It’s a revelation.