Bringing kindness to myself was cathartic. I cried , felt loved and open.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom and ways to heal ourselves. Looking forward to hearing ways to help others ….
An ache in my heart centre saying “please be kind to yourself and others, be compassionate to yourself and others, be true to yourself”
But within that ache also a nurturing that I am hearing those words back from others.
Accepting differences and remembering that we belong to each other awakens compassion. unconditional acceptance frees my troubled attitudes and judgments. thank you for you healing teaching! 🙏 Being true, honest, courageous and vulnerable in relationships is challenging due to the trance of unworthiness trap. Through pain we gain wisdom! ❤️
I keep feeling that I am not enough. When I focus on allow that feeling, instead of pushing back on it, there is a relief and a release about it. The energy that was being used, to resist that thought, flows out . . . somewhere . . . into the world? As a neutral wave and I can breath a bit easier.
I have been living your loving kindness belief for a few months now. I left a relationship in which I was constantly put down even though I knew what was being said was not true. Then I found a therapist who uses your mediations and this helped and now I give myself loving kindness, yes I am lonely and yes I have a bad body image because of the cortisol that landed in my stomach during so much stress, but I can forgive myself and move on in a positive and calm way.
Thank you Tara for sharing your vulnerable experience! I have been working with my inner critic and this video assisted me in dropping some of that mindset and accept myself!
This is a journey that I have been on and struggled with for a good part of my life. Kindness towards myself is both the hardest and best thing that I can do for me, which helps me be the best me that I can be for my clients.
I was previewing these videos to see if I could get my husband to watch them since he has anger bouts that seem to be habitual.
When I brought kindness to the picture I realised that it is me that is angry and has problems with self worth. I’m thinking that in the end it’s all about me and that’s the only thing I need to focus on. Thanks!
I felt a sadness , a realisation that I am not kind to myself as I am to others, like I have lost touch with myself as my mind is busy being critical instead.
Thank you for this film and allowing me to have this realisation.
It was a.struggle to get in tuned with that inner spirit. I experienced much resistance And then, it happened. There was a sense of sadness, of not being able to accept myself at this time. I was not friends with me, thus, very little compassion for me. Compassion for others, yet, not for me. I’m still punishing myself for deeply hurting a guy who just wanted to embrace me with the love and kindness I didn’t have for me.I feel like an impostor. How do I shake these feelings?
What I heard myself saying to myself was, things I would say to a friend if I was a bad friend to them. Things like, “You idiot, you know that those things are not true.” I had trouble even being kind to myself. I know that is not what I would really say to a friend, but I could not get beyond myself enough to say the things I would say.
When I experienced kindness the doors to my personality began to open up and the harsh voices of my family receded into the darkness. Thank you, I found it an excellent talk And I would like to listen to it over and over, like a mindfulness meditation until it really sinks in. I’m suffering from PTSS and it can take a few times for realities to become permanent so I feel a new and more realistic reality. Susan
I stopped projecting what I felt I should feel on myself and my tiredness and workload and situation. I appreciated the stretch in my often right hip flexor and enjoyed physically releasing that sensation of uprightness. I told myself that it’s okay that I’m tired and slightly nervous about a new book meeting this afternoon, that I’ve worked hard and I definitely deserve this moment of success, something I’d have avoided and ran away from in the past because praise and attention have usually compelled me to retreat. I know that this is a reflection of feeling unworthy. I accepted my still lingering resistance to this moment and told my inner child that I was proud of her and that she deserved this.
I liked the video. It’s true. If I were assessing myself, too analytical, too sacrificial, not always a nice person, My deceased husband told me one time I’m too “in my head”. I have a hard time taking the time to take care of myself. I don’t even really know who I am. How to find authentic me. I like real. How to handle awkward. Vulnerable
is fearful. Don’t know how to handle extended stillness. Too fixated on everything around me. Basic disciplines I didn’t learn years ago. Embarrassing. I’m worried about missed potential. With my life, what was/am I supposed to do? There are many interests. What is the right fit? Am gived out, I need a lot, but don’t know how to receive from multiple others, embarrassing, without being overwhelming. Aimless feeling. Don’t know who to ask for things or how to ask. Am ashamed to cry even when alone. I hate to go back over my things I’ve written, what is authentic and true or am I just looking for attention. Maybe if I gave more attention to myself, maybe be focused on myself as a person at all. Feels wobbly like being high up trying to walk across one of those swinging bridges with slats not close together.
Thank you. This has been a reminder for me of Ahimsa first to myself as I have been pretty much judgemental towards my own burning me out with the extremely increased Pitta.
Vron Auckland New Zealand
I feel a crushing overwhelming sadness as I realize the suffering I bring to myself, the unrelenting beating of being wrong tattooed on my being by neglect and abuse 60 plus years ago my best self envelops me holds me soothes me and for some moments I am home. thankyou for the words that show me how I can come home to myself
The inner duality appears and I realise this duality is 2 different identities. One is kind and benevolent; this is the default one; but the other one is critical and judgmental; however, this second one is the part of me that keeps me improving myself. I realise I demand a lot of myself and when I decrease this demand I feel a void
I know that sometimes when I do this exercise, I can experience a sense of being at home with myself just as I am, and at other times the feelings/thoughts overwhelm me and it is difficult to experience a feeling of kindness.
Just wonderful, how you break such a big topic down to those simple, but essential questions. When asking those questions in times of big self doubt, I often hear very uncompassionate voices within myself that I heard hundreds of times from my outside world during childhood. If I manage to compassionately talk with them they are often calming down.
I felt anxiety and fear at first. Beating myself up was such an old, deep habit I was afraid I could not actually break it. I then also realized that whenever I give myself a break and let myself just be, I’m able to smile and accept what is and it actually is okay, sometimes, it’s even joyful. I need to say mindful of this. Thank you.
I get stuck with self compassion and kindness to myself, while still dealing with the effects of having recently lost my mother and a narcissistic husband who broke my spirit after 52 years of marriage. Daily struggle and boundaries but it is so difficult.
I have been dealing with self-doubt. I feel the information in this video may help me re-think my goals in life to help me fulfill the goals in my life both personal and professionally.
At first I felt depressed and started to cry. Then as I asked if I could be with this with kindness and compassion I felt an immediate lifting of the darkness! It was beautiful! I’m hopeful!
I felt uncomfortable in the very beginning. However, I recognize it is ok and begin practicing mindfulness and compassion for myself on a daily basis. Also, learn to become my own best friend. Thank you for sharing this message.
At first,I felt a wave of sadness. though I know this sadness is there, but I try not to acknowledge that it’s there. So of course it bubbles up. So I feel if I can learn not to dwell on it , but instead ask myself if I can be with it, it seems to help.
there must be a difference between feeling unworthyness and remembering that not good situations were happening leading to blame of others and taking it on myself, somewhere between anger and sad.
what to do about feeling coming to the surface often, but it was in the past and nothing can be don about it.
Bringing kindness to myself was cathartic. I cried , felt loved and open.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom and ways to heal ourselves. Looking forward to hearing ways to help others ….
An ache in my heart centre saying “please be kind to yourself and others, be compassionate to yourself and others, be true to yourself”
But within that ache also a nurturing that I am hearing those words back from others.
Accepting differences and remembering that we belong to each other awakens compassion. unconditional acceptance frees my troubled attitudes and judgments. thank you for you healing teaching! 🙏 Being true, honest, courageous and vulnerable in relationships is challenging due to the trance of unworthiness trap. Through pain we gain wisdom! ❤️
Yes, I softened.
My pain disappeared.
I felt kind of stiff.
Helen Morrison
I felt a gentle warmth come over me
Calm, ease – a release of tension
I keep feeling that I am not enough. When I focus on allow that feeling, instead of pushing back on it, there is a relief and a release about it. The energy that was being used, to resist that thought, flows out . . . somewhere . . . into the world? As a neutral wave and I can breath a bit easier.
I am feeling very curious and want to learn what you are teaching. With kindness I told myself that “Yes! I can learn! It feels confident.
I felt held and comforted.
I have been living your loving kindness belief for a few months now. I left a relationship in which I was constantly put down even though I knew what was being said was not true. Then I found a therapist who uses your mediations and this helped and now I give myself loving kindness, yes I am lonely and yes I have a bad body image because of the cortisol that landed in my stomach during so much stress, but I can forgive myself and move on in a positive and calm way.
Thank you Tara for sharing your vulnerable experience! I have been working with my inner critic and this video assisted me in dropping some of that mindset and accept myself!
Felt relief
Powerful, indeed! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for providing this freely!
An acknowledgement of how exhausting it is to constantly worry about not measuring up.
It felt foreign, I didn’t know where or how to offer it.
I cried because it was disarming to not feel defensive against my own critcism.
This is a journey that I have been on and struggled with for a good part of my life. Kindness towards myself is both the hardest and best thing that I can do for me, which helps me be the best me that I can be for my clients.
relief
I was previewing these videos to see if I could get my husband to watch them since he has anger bouts that seem to be habitual.
When I brought kindness to the picture I realised that it is me that is angry and has problems with self worth. I’m thinking that in the end it’s all about me and that’s the only thing I need to focus on. Thanks!
I felt a sadness , a realisation that I am not kind to myself as I am to others, like I have lost touch with myself as my mind is busy being critical instead.
Thank you for this film and allowing me to have this realisation.
I realized I had acted from my true self today when working with children.
I tried to give myself love and this felt soothing and good
It was a.struggle to get in tuned with that inner spirit. I experienced much resistance And then, it happened. There was a sense of sadness, of not being able to accept myself at this time. I was not friends with me, thus, very little compassion for me. Compassion for others, yet, not for me. I’m still punishing myself for deeply hurting a guy who just wanted to embrace me with the love and kindness I didn’t have for me.I feel like an impostor. How do I shake these feelings?
What I heard myself saying to myself was, things I would say to a friend if I was a bad friend to them. Things like, “You idiot, you know that those things are not true.” I had trouble even being kind to myself. I know that is not what I would really say to a friend, but I could not get beyond myself enough to say the things I would say.
Pleased I have taken the time for this series.
i was quiet gently holding myself felt tender
I felt warmer inside
When I experienced kindness the doors to my personality began to open up and the harsh voices of my family receded into the darkness. Thank you, I found it an excellent talk And I would like to listen to it over and over, like a mindfulness meditation until it really sinks in. I’m suffering from PTSS and it can take a few times for realities to become permanent so I feel a new and more realistic reality. Susan
I experienced a warm feeling in my lower back and waist and and I addressed myself (in my thoughts) as “my love”.
I liked the experience.
Felt tender towards myself.
A huge feeling of relaxation across my shoulders.😊
I stopped projecting what I felt I should feel on myself and my tiredness and workload and situation. I appreciated the stretch in my often right hip flexor and enjoyed physically releasing that sensation of uprightness. I told myself that it’s okay that I’m tired and slightly nervous about a new book meeting this afternoon, that I’ve worked hard and I definitely deserve this moment of success, something I’d have avoided and ran away from in the past because praise and attention have usually compelled me to retreat. I know that this is a reflection of feeling unworthy. I accepted my still lingering resistance to this moment and told my inner child that I was proud of her and that she deserved this.
I liked the video. It’s true. If I were assessing myself, too analytical, too sacrificial, not always a nice person, My deceased husband told me one time I’m too “in my head”. I have a hard time taking the time to take care of myself. I don’t even really know who I am. How to find authentic me. I like real. How to handle awkward. Vulnerable
is fearful. Don’t know how to handle extended stillness. Too fixated on everything around me. Basic disciplines I didn’t learn years ago. Embarrassing. I’m worried about missed potential. With my life, what was/am I supposed to do? There are many interests. What is the right fit? Am gived out, I need a lot, but don’t know how to receive from multiple others, embarrassing, without being overwhelming. Aimless feeling. Don’t know who to ask for things or how to ask. Am ashamed to cry even when alone. I hate to go back over my things I’ve written, what is authentic and true or am I just looking for attention. Maybe if I gave more attention to myself, maybe be focused on myself as a person at all. Feels wobbly like being high up trying to walk across one of those swinging bridges with slats not close together.
I feel loved…
Thank you. This has been a reminder for me of Ahimsa first to myself as I have been pretty much judgemental towards my own burning me out with the extremely increased Pitta.
Vron Auckland New Zealand
I feel a crushing overwhelming sadness as I realize the suffering I bring to myself, the unrelenting beating of being wrong tattooed on my being by neglect and abuse 60 plus years ago my best self envelops me holds me soothes me and for some moments I am home. thankyou for the words that show me how I can come home to myself
The inner duality appears and I realise this duality is 2 different identities. One is kind and benevolent; this is the default one; but the other one is critical and judgmental; however, this second one is the part of me that keeps me improving myself. I realise I demand a lot of myself and when I decrease this demand I feel a void
I know that sometimes when I do this exercise, I can experience a sense of being at home with myself just as I am, and at other times the feelings/thoughts overwhelm me and it is difficult to experience a feeling of kindness.
Thanks for the reminder.
I feel this is helping me so much after watching a few days ago. Thank you.
beginnings of release thank you
Just wonderful, how you break such a big topic down to those simple, but essential questions. When asking those questions in times of big self doubt, I often hear very uncompassionate voices within myself that I heard hundreds of times from my outside world during childhood. If I manage to compassionately talk with them they are often calming down.
I felt anxiety and fear at first. Beating myself up was such an old, deep habit I was afraid I could not actually break it. I then also realized that whenever I give myself a break and let myself just be, I’m able to smile and accept what is and it actually is okay, sometimes, it’s even joyful. I need to say mindful of this. Thank you.
I get stuck with self compassion and kindness to myself, while still dealing with the effects of having recently lost my mother and a narcissistic husband who broke my spirit after 52 years of marriage. Daily struggle and boundaries but it is so difficult.
I have been dealing with self-doubt. I feel the information in this video may help me re-think my goals in life to help me fulfill the goals in my life both personal and professionally.
At first I felt depressed and started to cry. Then as I asked if I could be with this with kindness and compassion I felt an immediate lifting of the darkness! It was beautiful! I’m hopeful!
I felt uncomfortable in the very beginning. However, I recognize it is ok and begin practicing mindfulness and compassion for myself on a daily basis. Also, learn to become my own best friend. Thank you for sharing this message.
At first,I felt a wave of sadness. though I know this sadness is there, but I try not to acknowledge that it’s there. So of course it bubbles up. So I feel if I can learn not to dwell on it , but instead ask myself if I can be with it, it seems to help.
there must be a difference between feeling unworthyness and remembering that not good situations were happening leading to blame of others and taking it on myself, somewhere between anger and sad.
what to do about feeling coming to the surface often, but it was in the past and nothing can be don about it.