I experienced a “letting go” in my body as I imagined compassion towards myself, which underscores your teachings on how powerful our thoughts are and how intimately connected they are with our experience of life from all dimensions
Hi, you (I’m not blaming) went through the sequence too fast for me to be able to firstly, locate an experience of blaming and then go through the steps to help it! Would you be able to go slower?
oh Tara
I did ok on step 1. I could see the thoughts clearly. Letting go of the 2nd arrow and feeling the terror was harder. I got stuck on what is it I’m afraid to feel? This is the part that is scary…and will take practice. Maybe it’s the fear itself I’m afraid of.
The video played well but the music is somewhat distracting.I have for years compared myself to others even though I have been told to avoid this . Anger enters my head and heart when I find myself not able to express my opinion because of the feeling this will create disagreement with others and to avoid conflict? Thanks to Tara’s programs I have begun to realize what is going on and hopefully make some well needed improvements.
I became aware of deep feelings of deficiency and comparison with others, specifically my brother and sister. I also gave myself some kindness and said I’m doing good in the lives of some other people by encouraging them daily and praying for them also.
Being critical of others has always been an issue for me.. Not sure why it took this video to let me understand that their is a deep sense of shame and criticalness of myself that is the deeper issue here….. A good start. I did not feel much when I did the exercise, but I will try again. Thank you for the direction.
The simple act of taking time to feel and sit with Waddie emotions and self judgment allowed me space to see it from a different perspective. To begin to understand that it comes from a young place within me. I began to have greater softness towards myself. It also helped me realize that from pain we can automatically react with blame and shame. And that simply externalize us and spreads the pain that is within. That is so harmful to self and others.
Thank you so much. I recognize all of this in myself. I have mastered the skills of archery for too long and am desperate to unlearn as they cause so much suffering.
Have been following and deeply appreciating your teachings, both personally and professionally for many years now, including attending workshops at Kripalu. These segments are succinct gems that provide core concepts and skills. I only wish that in future collaborations, a consideration could be made to shift from “client” language, so they could be more comfortably shared with clients and others. Deep gratitude, Deb S., Psychotherapist and Yoga Therapist
Finally got my video to work! And I am very happy I did– Tara has a way of speaking about these things that really move me, and after the meditation I feel…better, calmer. I woke up at 4am (as usual) and felt I needed a dose of support to calm some anxiety I so often feel the moment I wake up. And then the feelings of being incompetent and pathetic and depressed kick in. I know taking time to listen to some meditation almost always helps, but this one has been especially helpful. Thank you, Tara, for being you– and for your courage to keep sharing your wonderful practices with us! I’m 62 now and I still torture myself with regrets and self-aversion, and have hated these beliefs/feelings (or hated myself for having them) since I was a young girl (but it’s grown much worse over the past 5 years). It’s so good to spend time in a kinder place, with a compassionate trusted friend/ mentor who truly cares and believes I’m a beautiful person who is enough, is good enough, and I don’t need to hurt so much to be loved. It’s like I can’t get any love at all unless I’m bashing myself. Hmmm. (That just came out without me filtering anything or trying to sound normal (!!) — the trusted friend is my self- but I need much reminding that this friend/I am really there, or can be there/here for me, whenever I feel I’ve turned away and let the dark, collapsed, hopeless girl sit alone and she hasn’t a clue what to do. Not sure I made any sense, but it’s okay– I’m not going to pick it and myself apart and then spiral into the trance of unworthiness/self-judgement– not yet! I will listen to another meditation now just to keep the good feelings flowing. Many thanks for listening! 🥲🙏🙏🙏❤️✌️
An increased awareness of how I judge myself and others. Keeping me in the cycle of not allowing honesty with relationships. Keeping distance and staying separate. I received flashes of how it would be different if I stopped judging and instead offered self acceptance, by no longer putting barriers up. This was impactful. I also noticed I had my hand over my heart before I realized what I had done. Thank you for this time and space for introspection.
This practice is very challenging for me. I have for years compared myself to others who seem to manage so much more confidently.
But I will try and guide myself. Thank you Tara for your words and guidance that have helped me for a number of years and where I turn to when I need help.
This practice is very challenging for me. I have for years compared myself to others who seem to manage so much more confidently.
But I will try and guide myself. Thank you Tara for your words and guidance that have helped me for a number of years and where I turn to when I need help.
I like the arrow imagery. Silencing self-judgment is a practice; it isn’t a race nor am I being graded. Saying these simple things to myself helps in not judging myself. When I practice self-compassion and being kind to myself I am able to offer those qualities to others. I feel more in tuned to the rhythms of life.
When I get trapped in self blame I feel my heart sink and shrink. It’s painful to acknowledge how harsh I can be on myself, always believing I should be doing more or something different. It’s exhausting and prevents me from enjoying all the beautiful things I have in my life.
Just recently I lost 56 pounds mostly on my own but the last few pounds using Noom. One of the most valuable lessons they taught me was to forgive myself. I’ve gotten a lot of relief from forgiving myself and Tara’s videos on being a part of that loving energy in the universe. I’m made of gold and so is everyone else.
The shift from mind conscious chatter to heart felt awareness has opened a channel of self compassion. The hearts very substance is of positiveness. It’s radiates the very nature of all that is. The spark of Devine wisdom and therefore judgement vanishes giving way to compassion.
Where do thoughts come from? Are they localised, stored or created in our brains. Or are they non localised. Being brought into awareness by attraction. One leading to another which is in harmony, leading to another and eventually many forming beliefs.
It is as if we can attract negative or positive thoughts. The choice is ours to plant weeds or roses in our mind. The heart loves the beauty of roses, for there is great alignment and the food of the heart will grow beautiful roses.
I have a lot of weeding to do, but that is ok for once my garden is prepared there will be a beautiful vibrant every growing garden of Roses. A garden where weeds cannot grow.
Thank you Tara
I’m in a major shift in my life and had already noticed that self blame was in the way. So great full for the synchronicity of your offering! When I shifted from head to heart I first felt a freezing feeling which finally settled in my lungs. Giving it space and whispering with reassurance the name I was called when a little child helped me enter the heart space and felt that I am here now with all that is with love and compassion.
I felt anxiety in my heart like a nervous flutter. And in the heart space I wouldn’t be judge mental, just caring . Taking away the arrow of self judgment makes me less fearful.
I appreciate the 3 step method and love the term heart space.
It reminds me of a poem by Dorothy Hunt. “Peace is this moment without judgement.”
Thank you, Tara.
A quiet stillness swept over me. I observed my thoughts of not being good enough. I held still and with a steady inner voice told myself I was okay just the way I was. My anxiety began to melt.
Releasing blame, holding myself and rethinking does release my suffering. I find I have to be awake to what triggers this, be with it and move through it to loving myself. My heart has been wounded …. It’s up to me to heal it.
I am reminded of a beautiful quote by Rumi:
I am no longer just one drop.
I have become the entire sea.
I speak the language of the heart where every particle of me, united, shouts in ecstasy.
It is beneficial to have a guide with three simple steps. That being said, it does take some in-depth thought and concentration to open myself to what is going through my consciousness and open my heart. Practice, practice, practice!
What helped me was the question: does it help if you shoot the second arrow? And it`s true, it doesn`t help to solve the problem but I always felt that it is my duty to punish myself if I behaved in a difficult way. Because otherwise I would be an asshole because I´m not ashamed of myself. I can remember that when I was a child and we made something bad my parents said: stand in the corner and be ashamed of yourself.
So far in between, the intellect and emotional. Mights well pronounce it infinity.
During the video, I did put my hand on my heart and cheek, while tears spill from my eyes and heart. A baby step towards self soothing.. Hmm
I experienced a “letting go” in my body as I imagined compassion towards myself, which underscores your teachings on how powerful our thoughts are and how intimately connected they are with our experience of life from all dimensions
Thank you Tara. I am constantly shooting the second arrow. Your compassion and encouragement are so helpful.
I fell asleep
I felt a spacious expansion feeling when I allowed the self judgement that was there and gave myself kindness
Hi, you (I’m not blaming) went through the sequence too fast for me to be able to firstly, locate an experience of blaming and then go through the steps to help it! Would you be able to go slower?
I could see clearly self blame, that it made things worse and wasn’t a positive or motivating force in managing the issue.
oh Tara
I did ok on step 1. I could see the thoughts clearly. Letting go of the 2nd arrow and feeling the terror was harder. I got stuck on what is it I’m afraid to feel? This is the part that is scary…and will take practice. Maybe it’s the fear itself I’m afraid of.
It Worked!
Confronting to notice that effacing or condemning myself, out of anger, hits me double. Takes courage to be vulnerable.
I felt a smile move from my face to my heart. And there was warmth.
I couldn’t hear how to move from head to heart. I was too contracted in my body and head. It was like I was watching a silent movie.
The video played well but the music is somewhat distracting.I have for years compared myself to others even though I have been told to avoid this . Anger enters my head and heart when I find myself not able to express my opinion because of the feeling this will create disagreement with others and to avoid conflict? Thanks to Tara’s programs I have begun to realize what is going on and hopefully make some well needed improvements.
I became aware of deep feelings of deficiency and comparison with others, specifically my brother and sister. I also gave myself some kindness and said I’m doing good in the lives of some other people by encouraging them daily and praying for them also.
I was able to separate the layers of feeling bad about myself: judging others, then judging myself for it.
Being critical of others has always been an issue for me.. Not sure why it took this video to let me understand that their is a deep sense of shame and criticalness of myself that is the deeper issue here….. A good start. I did not feel much when I did the exercise, but I will try again. Thank you for the direction.
The background music was too distracting for me.
bit distracted today but trying to remember that is okay too
I cannot get the video to play. Can you halo? Thanks
The simple act of taking time to feel and sit with Waddie emotions and self judgment allowed me space to see it from a different perspective. To begin to understand that it comes from a young place within me. I began to have greater softness towards myself. It also helped me realize that from pain we can automatically react with blame and shame. And that simply externalize us and spreads the pain that is within. That is so harmful to self and others.
Thank you so much. I recognize all of this in myself. I have mastered the skills of archery for too long and am desperate to unlearn as they cause so much suffering.
Have been following and deeply appreciating your teachings, both personally and professionally for many years now, including attending workshops at Kripalu. These segments are succinct gems that provide core concepts and skills. I only wish that in future collaborations, a consideration could be made to shift from “client” language, so they could be more comfortably shared with clients and others. Deep gratitude, Deb S., Psychotherapist and Yoga Therapist
Finally got my video to work! And I am very happy I did– Tara has a way of speaking about these things that really move me, and after the meditation I feel…better, calmer. I woke up at 4am (as usual) and felt I needed a dose of support to calm some anxiety I so often feel the moment I wake up. And then the feelings of being incompetent and pathetic and depressed kick in. I know taking time to listen to some meditation almost always helps, but this one has been especially helpful. Thank you, Tara, for being you– and for your courage to keep sharing your wonderful practices with us! I’m 62 now and I still torture myself with regrets and self-aversion, and have hated these beliefs/feelings (or hated myself for having them) since I was a young girl (but it’s grown much worse over the past 5 years). It’s so good to spend time in a kinder place, with a compassionate trusted friend/ mentor who truly cares and believes I’m a beautiful person who is enough, is good enough, and I don’t need to hurt so much to be loved. It’s like I can’t get any love at all unless I’m bashing myself. Hmmm. (That just came out without me filtering anything or trying to sound normal (!!) — the trusted friend is my self- but I need much reminding that this friend/I am really there, or can be there/here for me, whenever I feel I’ve turned away and let the dark, collapsed, hopeless girl sit alone and she hasn’t a clue what to do. Not sure I made any sense, but it’s okay– I’m not going to pick it and myself apart and then spiral into the trance of unworthiness/self-judgement– not yet! I will listen to another meditation now just to keep the good feelings flowing. Many thanks for listening! 🥲🙏🙏🙏❤️✌️
An increased awareness of how I judge myself and others. Keeping me in the cycle of not allowing honesty with relationships. Keeping distance and staying separate. I received flashes of how it would be different if I stopped judging and instead offered self acceptance, by no longer putting barriers up. This was impactful. I also noticed I had my hand over my heart before I realized what I had done. Thank you for this time and space for introspection.
This practice is very challenging for me. I have for years compared myself to others who seem to manage so much more confidently.
But I will try and guide myself. Thank you Tara for your words and guidance that have helped me for a number of years and where I turn to when I need help.
This practice is very challenging for me. I have for years compared myself to others who seem to manage so much more confidently.
But I will try and guide myself. Thank you Tara for your words and guidance that have helped me for a number of years and where I turn to when I need help.
I like the arrow imagery. Silencing self-judgment is a practice; it isn’t a race nor am I being graded. Saying these simple things to myself helps in not judging myself. When I practice self-compassion and being kind to myself I am able to offer those qualities to others. I feel more in tuned to the rhythms of life.
When I get trapped in self blame I feel my heart sink and shrink. It’s painful to acknowledge how harsh I can be on myself, always believing I should be doing more or something different. It’s exhausting and prevents me from enjoying all the beautiful things I have in my life.
My video stopped working (just buffering endlessly) – but the beginning was beautiful and helpful. Thank you!
Just recently I lost 56 pounds mostly on my own but the last few pounds using Noom. One of the most valuable lessons they taught me was to forgive myself. I’ve gotten a lot of relief from forgiving myself and Tara’s videos on being a part of that loving energy in the universe. I’m made of gold and so is everyone else.
The shift from mind conscious chatter to heart felt awareness has opened a channel of self compassion. The hearts very substance is of positiveness. It’s radiates the very nature of all that is. The spark of Devine wisdom and therefore judgement vanishes giving way to compassion.
Where do thoughts come from? Are they localised, stored or created in our brains. Or are they non localised. Being brought into awareness by attraction. One leading to another which is in harmony, leading to another and eventually many forming beliefs.
It is as if we can attract negative or positive thoughts. The choice is ours to plant weeds or roses in our mind. The heart loves the beauty of roses, for there is great alignment and the food of the heart will grow beautiful roses.
I have a lot of weeding to do, but that is ok for once my garden is prepared there will be a beautiful vibrant every growing garden of Roses. A garden where weeds cannot grow.
Thank you Tara
I’m in a major shift in my life and had already noticed that self blame was in the way. So great full for the synchronicity of your offering! When I shifted from head to heart I first felt a freezing feeling which finally settled in my lungs. Giving it space and whispering with reassurance the name I was called when a little child helped me enter the heart space and felt that I am here now with all that is with love and compassion.
I cried
This belongs is powerful to allow self compassion. Tightness in throat settles with slow, deep breath as dicipates into expansive heart space of body.
I have been using this technique for a while now. It has opened my world to love myself and others and I experience more compassion.
I felt the arrows in my knees. Wao! That’s profound. Thank you
I felt anxiety in my heart like a nervous flutter. And in the heart space I wouldn’t be judge mental, just caring . Taking away the arrow of self judgment makes me less fearful.
I appreciate the 3 step method and love the term heart space.
It reminds me of a poem by Dorothy Hunt. “Peace is this moment without judgement.”
Thank you, Tara.
A quiet stillness swept over me. I observed my thoughts of not being good enough. I held still and with a steady inner voice told myself I was okay just the way I was. My anxiety began to melt.
Releasing blame, holding myself and rethinking does release my suffering. I find I have to be awake to what triggers this, be with it and move through it to loving myself. My heart has been wounded …. It’s up to me to heal it.
I am reminded of a beautiful quote by Rumi:
I am no longer just one drop.
I have become the entire sea.
I speak the language of the heart where every particle of me, united, shouts in ecstasy.
It is beneficial to have a guide with three simple steps. That being said, it does take some in-depth thought and concentration to open myself to what is going through my consciousness and open my heart. Practice, practice, practice!
It certainly makes sense, but my mind wants to stay with familiarity. I will definitely have plenty of opportunity to practice. Thank you.
I learned that I need to stop blaming myself for everything wrong in my life!
What helped me was the question: does it help if you shoot the second arrow? And it`s true, it doesn`t help to solve the problem but I always felt that it is my duty to punish myself if I behaved in a difficult way. Because otherwise I would be an asshole because I´m not ashamed of myself. I can remember that when I was a child and we made something bad my parents said: stand in the corner and be ashamed of yourself.
It’s complicated.
It is OK to be me. This is how I think and feel after this practice.
I felt a lessening of hurt and judgement. A feeling that everything is going to be okay came over me.
I was beautifully reminded how much I Love and need this practice in my life.
Just the tiniest awareness occured that “maybe I’m not totally broken”, “maybe I’m just a normal human after all”
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The intensity of my emotion reduced.
So far in between, the intellect and emotional. Mights well pronounce it infinity.
During the video, I did put my hand on my heart and cheek, while tears spill from my eyes and heart. A baby step towards self soothing.. Hmm