Hello Tara
I really struggle with the word compasion. But words are purely words and it is the practise of compasion that is what I need to find. I hope that your practises will help with this.
Who would I be? I would be happy, happy enough to give up doubt and disbelief. I would be able to see the souls in my fellow human beings rather than empty vessels mindlessly getting through life. I would feel comfortable with joy as my norm. Thank you kindly Tara for sharing your gifts of deep wisdom with me and my community around the world. You are amazing. I managed to get through 2020 with hope and promise largely because of you.
Free from reliving past conflicts and preventing reconciliation, my relationships with others would have more space to grow if appropriate or an opportunity for me to move on.
Initially, with the u-turn exercise, I felt intense pain in my chest and throat, my face felt as though it was swelling as I came close to tears; I also experienced feelings of great sadness,loss, and loneliness. As I spoke compassionately to myself, and gently stroked my sternum, I began to feel a release of pain, I exhaled deeply and a sense of clam and peace arose within me. Thank you.
Thank you, so much. so interesting to listen to your guidance and know I am in the exact space where you are trying to teach here.
Even the illustrations of some of the pictures n videos reminds us of our behaviours as a couple. The funny thing, is yes, holding onto resentment is not letting us free our own selves instead it’s holding both parties back. I keep hoping that my partner will come to understand the pain he causes n he is feeling the same too. So after listening to your guidance, I need to really shift my thinking as otherwise the round will just deepen. Your work is incredibly powerful, Tara. Thank you for being so kind to the human heart.
I felt a sense of freedom as I said and felt its OK to feel that sense of judgement and anger. I’ve tried so long to overcome it and not have it, and this acceptance has worked with anxiety for me, but never thought to sit with anger in non judgement. Thank you ??
I was going to say that I would be more relaxed and peaceful. But that would be skipping a step! If I let go of judgment and blame, I would be left face to face with the feelings that I deflected by going to judgment and blame: anxiety, overwhelm, confusion, inadequacy… So, can I really accept that it is okay to have these feelings? This gives me a window into the people in my life who have judged and blamed me. They may also have felt anxious, overwhelmed, confused and inadequate and were unable to acknowledge these feelings within themselves. I can feel some compassion and understanding towards them. I need to spend more time giving myself this compassion and understanding before jumping to finding a solution to my situation.
This is really helpful, thank you Tara ?? What I like about it is that the limbic is fully online aswell as the prefrontal and I experienced a relaxation of the autonomic nervoussystem.
The U Turn reminds me of NonViolent Communication needing Self Empathy before being able to give empathy to others.
I found the dog with leg in trap metaphor extremely helpful!
This is the real work of our lives. It is beyond a good idea– it is essential for our very survival as a species. Hatred, blame, shame and guilt, internalized or externalized, is the same poison. It’s not our fault as it has been passed down, taught and inculcated through generations. As we accept with compassion that it is present in us as well as others, it gives us the freedom of kindness and a sense of oneness. It can be a long slog for so many and my hope is that the coalescing fields of psychedelics and psychotherapy will greatly accelerate the process.
That was very helpful Tara. The image of the dog in the trap really resonated with me. Normally I react and take others anger personally.
I need to practice the 3 steps. Thankyou for your generosity and wisdom.
I really liked the image of the u turn. I am presently going through a difficult divorce and am greatly saddened by the turn of events. Letting go of blame allows me to change my expectations, to shift from a place of resentment to one of forgiveness. It allows me to see it’s not such a huge shift but really a movement of a few centimetres. It’s so much simpler than I actually anticipated. Not getting stuck in the story, not reliving it over and over but instead honouring it and then letting go in order to move forward.
Thank you ?
Thank you ever so much for your help offered in this episode. It feels so liberating, peaceful and empowering to keep on on my path to more self compassion and compassion with all living organisms on this planet. Your clear guidance is so essential in these difficult times.
Someone who I don’t know yet, but probably happier, more content and living more easily live. Someone who does make a difference without putting effort or worry into it. Someone who loves herself as is and loves everyone else as is. Someone who can learn and teach. Someone who know what she wants…
Helpful reminder of the importance of being compassionate with myself when I feel angry or hurt with a friend, and judge myself for being judgemental , even if I don’t voice it! Allowing the uncomfortable feeling, with compassion opens me to considering the other’s wounds or traps. Thanks!
What kind of person would I be? More peaceful and open and the kind of person who could remember and engage with her ex husband with an open heart. Thank you,
Happy and free!
I have these old judgements towards my husband, which are hard to let go.
I really wish to leave them behind, because they keep me away from my heart.
This is helpful, but still REALLY hard to not be mad.
Thank you, Tara. I’m so grateful to have you here with us, as a teacher of love.
I’d be the person who I long to be and help to bring healing to me, my family and extended family of humanity.
I would be less anxious!
Hello Tara
I really struggle with the word compasion. But words are purely words and it is the practise of compasion that is what I need to find. I hope that your practises will help with this.
Who would I be? I would be happy, happy enough to give up doubt and disbelief. I would be able to see the souls in my fellow human beings rather than empty vessels mindlessly getting through life. I would feel comfortable with joy as my norm. Thank you kindly Tara for sharing your gifts of deep wisdom with me and my community around the world. You are amazing. I managed to get through 2020 with hope and promise largely because of you.
I’d be so much more peaceful and light…not so heavy and sad.
Thank you I feel peaceful.
This was a very good talk about vulnerability and compassion/self compassion.
Thanks.
I’ll be using the U Turn practice
Free from reliving past conflicts and preventing reconciliation, my relationships with others would have more space to grow if appropriate or an opportunity for me to move on.
This is a truly helpful practice. Thank you.
A happier me.
Initially, with the u-turn exercise, I felt intense pain in my chest and throat, my face felt as though it was swelling as I came close to tears; I also experienced feelings of great sadness,loss, and loneliness. As I spoke compassionately to myself, and gently stroked my sternum, I began to feel a release of pain, I exhaled deeply and a sense of clam and peace arose within me. Thank you.
Thank you, so much. so interesting to listen to your guidance and know I am in the exact space where you are trying to teach here.
Even the illustrations of some of the pictures n videos reminds us of our behaviours as a couple. The funny thing, is yes, holding onto resentment is not letting us free our own selves instead it’s holding both parties back. I keep hoping that my partner will come to understand the pain he causes n he is feeling the same too. So after listening to your guidance, I need to really shift my thinking as otherwise the round will just deepen. Your work is incredibly powerful, Tara. Thank you for being so kind to the human heart.
I would be more free and I would feel lighter. But it’s very hard to let go of blame. It’s rooted so deep. The practice helped for a few moments.
I felt a sense of freedom as I said and felt its OK to feel that sense of judgement and anger. I’ve tried so long to overcome it and not have it, and this acceptance has worked with anxiety for me, but never thought to sit with anger in non judgement. Thank you ??
I was going to say that I would be more relaxed and peaceful. But that would be skipping a step! If I let go of judgment and blame, I would be left face to face with the feelings that I deflected by going to judgment and blame: anxiety, overwhelm, confusion, inadequacy… So, can I really accept that it is okay to have these feelings? This gives me a window into the people in my life who have judged and blamed me. They may also have felt anxious, overwhelmed, confused and inadequate and were unable to acknowledge these feelings within themselves. I can feel some compassion and understanding towards them. I need to spend more time giving myself this compassion and understanding before jumping to finding a solution to my situation.
Thank you Tara! The tools you offer are very helpful.
This is really helpful, thank you Tara ?? What I like about it is that the limbic is fully online aswell as the prefrontal and I experienced a relaxation of the autonomic nervoussystem.
Thank you Tara
The U Turn reminds me of NonViolent Communication needing Self Empathy before being able to give empathy to others.
I found the dog with leg in trap metaphor extremely helpful!
Thank you dear Tara.
I would be much happier & calm. I am so tired of blaming myself for everything that goes wrong. Second guessing myself
I’d be more free, more present, and better able to celebrate life and living…
Who would I be if. . . That’s quite a question. Something for me to definitely delve into. Thank you.
I would like myself a whole lot better!
This is the real work of our lives. It is beyond a good idea– it is essential for our very survival as a species. Hatred, blame, shame and guilt, internalized or externalized, is the same poison. It’s not our fault as it has been passed down, taught and inculcated through generations. As we accept with compassion that it is present in us as well as others, it gives us the freedom of kindness and a sense of oneness. It can be a long slog for so many and my hope is that the coalescing fields of psychedelics and psychotherapy will greatly accelerate the process.
That was very helpful Tara. The image of the dog in the trap really resonated with me. Normally I react and take others anger personally.
I need to practice the 3 steps. Thankyou for your generosity and wisdom.
I really liked the image of the u turn. I am presently going through a difficult divorce and am greatly saddened by the turn of events. Letting go of blame allows me to change my expectations, to shift from a place of resentment to one of forgiveness. It allows me to see it’s not such a huge shift but really a movement of a few centimetres. It’s so much simpler than I actually anticipated. Not getting stuck in the story, not reliving it over and over but instead honouring it and then letting go in order to move forward.
Thank you ?
Thank you ever so much for your help offered in this episode. It feels so liberating, peaceful and empowering to keep on on my path to more self compassion and compassion with all living organisms on this planet. Your clear guidance is so essential in these difficult times.
Thank you Tara, they are amazing and so compassionate ways at looking at the human experience, loved all the practices.
I would feel free and much lighter.
More space for others being who they are.
More space for my true self.
Thank you Tara that was so helpful
Someone who I don’t know yet, but probably happier, more content and living more easily live. Someone who does make a difference without putting effort or worry into it. Someone who loves herself as is and loves everyone else as is. Someone who can learn and teach. Someone who know what she wants…
Helpful reminder of the importance of being compassionate with myself when I feel angry or hurt with a friend, and judge myself for being judgemental , even if I don’t voice it! Allowing the uncomfortable feeling, with compassion opens me to considering the other’s wounds or traps. Thanks!
Very helpful. I need to do these 3 steps again and again.
I found it very helpful
Thank you, Tara. The practices you introduce have been transformative for me, and I invite my clients to them as well.
Thank you so much for this series. I would be kinder to myself and live in the present.
What kind of person would I be? More peaceful and open and the kind of person who could remember and engage with her ex husband with an open heart. Thank you,
If I let go of all judgment and chronic blame of myself and others, I would experience more joy and peace in life.
Just what I need today, thank you.
Free of pain and embrace the joy and love that I am. Thank you
Thank you, Tara.
Thank you, Tara. So needed.
As always, great insights and lovely helpful practices. Thank you, Tara.
A kinder, gentler human.
Happy and free!
I have these old judgements towards my husband, which are hard to let go.
I really wish to leave them behind, because they keep me away from my heart.
this was helpful for me I do understand my sons own pain that left me devastated angry and abandoned. I was able to feel some healing