What a beautiful heartfelt video. This was exactly what I needed. Thank you Tara Brach. I need to study and practice self-compassion over and over and over again. I learned (somehow it totally became clear to me) watching this video, that I can extend compassion to all beings, except to myself. This was a revelation to me. Thank you.
Dear Dr. Tara, I really enjoyed all 3 of the videos. I am back on a path to align myself, balancing my chakra and changing my life. Right now I am in classes for chakra balancing and since viewing your videos I see a direct connection. Energy into physical and mindfulness.
We are all bombarded with society standards that shift with the wind. Our foundation is ourself. I have noticed a weakening since I’ve been aging. My foundation has cracks and there are leaks. It has taken my some time to be aware!
The 3rd video has really opened my brain. Thank you.
I have a quest-ion. How do we transition from healing to cured? Is there such a thing?
Thank you for being…
I believe LindaMurphy.
I am thankful that I was able to listen to all three sessions last night. My heart and mind were lightened as I listened to your words. Rays of hope continue to shine within…
Thank you Tara, that is very helpful. I love the visual with the dog trapped, having extreme pain. I know I have to stop judging, and I deeply feel I have to change to be more free.
I cannot help but wish I had this wisdom a very long time ago. Self-compassion has been a truly healing experience. I am familiar with that concept. The U turn is quite the shift! I am still working on it.
I am grateful for these 3 free videos. Thank you.
I saw the person that I thought about in a different light, clearly saw their “trap”. Felt kinder to them and less defensive. In looking inside of me saw my vulnerabilities that have been locked inside by anger and hurt
In my younger years I was separated from my husband had custody of my son we rented a place, had a job and my son went to school I was irritable and confused of what my future would be, resented my ex husband for not trusting me, resentment never disappeared lately I have started guided meditation and healing words from knowledgeable teachers it helped me be at ease with those younger years
I realized that I was blocking, due to hurt, fear and disappointment, my capacity to love and be loved. I see a possibility, with practice, a chance to break through and risk vulnerability. I am getting tired living this way. The energy to change is less than energy demand to remain the same.
Blame is such a slippery slope. I learned it’s a child and am beginning to see how it pairs with judgement which then (for me) shifts into judgement. Thank you!
Thanks, Tara. Through applying your three steps I managed to ease the anger/frustration I am currently feeling towards someone close to me. I can’t say it was a perfect exercise but the reflective process enabled me to think of the challenge through another lens.
Your video did hit a nerve, I had been struggling with my relationship with my father and demonstrated the compassion required to mend the relationship a year after my brother had passed away I started to understand his grief and also Understand resentment or jealousy he might’ve had given how close I was to his father – I had let go of all the hurt from judgment and criticism And had compassion for the pain my father experienced in his life. My biggest challenge is that my spouse delivers criticism and judgment similar to the way my father did, so my big project is: who can I be if I let go of my resentment toward my spouse, knowing that she has justifiable anger toward me- I’ve made lots of mistakes in my life
When trying the practices there is an almost organic feeling of defensiveness, however, as you continue the practice there is a softening that happens. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom!
Tara, I would really like to know your views (or anyone’s, for that matter) on the experience of dealing with someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
My experience was quite devastating. It is no longer ongoing but how does one deal with the emotions and memories regarding a person who, it turns out, had zero kindness, compassion, caring or love – but who presented themselves as over-flowing with these qualities? A person incapable of empathy or self awareness, motivated by sheer self-centredness.
How does one come to terms with the fact that a fellow human being has no “true-self”? How can one feel compassion for someone who will lie, project, deflect, avoid, gaslight – anything to make their damaged persona look and feel better? It is difficult to recover from such an experience.
I hope this question has a relevance to a Buddhist view on life. I believe it does, and would very much like to hear it. Many thanks
So important in a season of division and blame on a huge scale in our nation. Some narratives encourage this, coming from multiple perspectives. Thank you for more tools to do what I have been working to do, moving against the flow of negativity to a place of forgiveness and release.
I would be more at peace, happy, joyful, flourishing more easily, connected to my kids in a much more open way. I would feel more self-confidence and trust.
Gabrielle Antal says
What a beautiful heartfelt video. This was exactly what I needed. Thank you Tara Brach. I need to study and practice self-compassion over and over and over again. I learned (somehow it totally became clear to me) watching this video, that I can extend compassion to all beings, except to myself. This was a revelation to me. Thank you.
anonymous anonymous says
Unencumbered, with the time, openness, and ability to discover and explore my me, and to do and be what I want in this life.
Jody L says
Free :))
Debbie says
I could identify with the story of Stefan, in my relationship with my mother. I would love to move forward into healing.
Linda Murphy says
Dear Dr. Tara, I really enjoyed all 3 of the videos. I am back on a path to align myself, balancing my chakra and changing my life. Right now I am in classes for chakra balancing and since viewing your videos I see a direct connection. Energy into physical and mindfulness.
We are all bombarded with society standards that shift with the wind. Our foundation is ourself. I have noticed a weakening since I’ve been aging. My foundation has cracks and there are leaks. It has taken my some time to be aware!
The 3rd video has really opened my brain. Thank you.
I have a quest-ion. How do we transition from healing to cured? Is there such a thing?
Thank you for being…
I believe LindaMurphy.
Amy Momb-Deen says
I am thankful that I was able to listen to all three sessions last night. My heart and mind were lightened as I listened to your words. Rays of hope continue to shine within…
Jess S says
Cultivating more compassion for myself and others will provide me with the ultimate freedom. Thank you so much for all you’ve taught me so far Tara.
Anonymous says
Thank you Tara, that is very helpful. I love the visual with the dog trapped, having extreme pain. I know I have to stop judging, and I deeply feel I have to change to be more free.
Janet Jancar says
I cannot help but wish I had this wisdom a very long time ago. Self-compassion has been a truly healing experience. I am familiar with that concept. The U turn is quite the shift! I am still working on it.
I am grateful for these 3 free videos. Thank you.
Anna Zeigler says
Very helpful, and timely for my life these days. Both personally and within the context of the larger world in which I find myself these days.
Marguerite Stiefbold says
Loved your compassion approach!! Not only to the other but more importantly to yourself!!
Abigail Collins says
Thank you! That was really helpful this morning.
Julie Barker says
Thank you Tara. These tools are life-changing and I am so grateful.
Marie Greer says
I saw the person that I thought about in a different light, clearly saw their “trap”. Felt kinder to them and less defensive. In looking inside of me saw my vulnerabilities that have been locked inside by anger and hurt
Kathy Fox says
Thank you. This brought me great peace. I loved the tool of making the U Turn.
Rene Bosen says
Thank you Tara. Compassion, for loving & healing..
Maria Braun says
In my younger years I was separated from my husband had custody of my son we rented a place, had a job and my son went to school I was irritable and confused of what my future would be, resented my ex husband for not trusting me, resentment never disappeared lately I have started guided meditation and healing words from knowledgeable teachers it helped me be at ease with those younger years
Jeannie Low says
One more at peace and feels less burdened
Janet says
I would feel freer and not held back
Er says
I realized that I was blocking, due to hurt, fear and disappointment, my capacity to love and be loved. I see a possibility, with practice, a chance to break through and risk vulnerability. I am getting tired living this way. The energy to change is less than energy demand to remain the same.
Nina Wærstad Palmer says
Hello! Wonderful series. Thank you. Best wishes to you and all the other listeners! We will get there ? Love from Nina
Anon Ymous says
Freedom
Suzy Krawczyk says
Blame is such a slippery slope. I learned it’s a child and am beginning to see how it pairs with judgement which then (for me) shifts into judgement. Thank you!
Sarah M says
I would have more energy to do positive things instead of using all my energy blaming myself
NualaGintyPR Ginty says
I would be lighter.
Bruce Condon says
Thanks, Tara. Through applying your three steps I managed to ease the anger/frustration I am currently feeling towards someone close to me. I can’t say it was a perfect exercise but the reflective process enabled me to think of the challenge through another lens.
Carol van Doorn says
Lighter, freer, more content and accepting.
Robin Hubbard says
So helpful. Love Tara. Who would I be if I let go of judgement and chronic pain? A person with less numbing behaviors.
Susan Berry says
Thank you the image of a dog caught in a trap and linking that to how we can have compassion for the other and so let go of judgement and blame.
Donna Rosen says
I would be able to let go of feelings of shame and act from a place of true confidence and freedom.
Tim Seksinsky says
Your video did hit a nerve, I had been struggling with my relationship with my father and demonstrated the compassion required to mend the relationship a year after my brother had passed away I started to understand his grief and also Understand resentment or jealousy he might’ve had given how close I was to his father – I had let go of all the hurt from judgment and criticism And had compassion for the pain my father experienced in his life. My biggest challenge is that my spouse delivers criticism and judgment similar to the way my father did, so my big project is: who can I be if I let go of my resentment toward my spouse, knowing that she has justifiable anger toward me- I’ve made lots of mistakes in my life
Deborah Hart says
I feel like I am wrapped in a white blanket, leaning against a big tree in the forest , in the moonlight, waiting.
Stefanie Wilson says
Thanks Tara – wise words and practise – but what if a couple are caught in the loop of blaming each other?
Anne Almy says
I think I would be more of my true self, more part of the ocean and less involved with the waves.
Patricia Collins says
It felt so warm and caring to show forgiveness and compassion to myself. Truly moving, thank you for this.
Anonymous says
So helpful. Love Tara.
Jennifer Casey says
When trying the practices there is an almost organic feeling of defensiveness, however, as you continue the practice there is a softening that happens. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom!
-Jennifer
Christine Mann says
Thank you. I enjoy listening to you. Very calm and lots of simplicity. and thank you for being on Insight Timer
Gayle MacDonald says
I would be different.
Sandra Scott says
Amazing resource; and a lovely way to gently work with clients to help them recognize what is going on and shift their focus. Thank you!
Penny Justice says
Tara, I would really like to know your views (or anyone’s, for that matter) on the experience of dealing with someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
My experience was quite devastating. It is no longer ongoing but how does one deal with the emotions and memories regarding a person who, it turns out, had zero kindness, compassion, caring or love – but who presented themselves as over-flowing with these qualities? A person incapable of empathy or self awareness, motivated by sheer self-centredness.
How does one come to terms with the fact that a fellow human being has no “true-self”? How can one feel compassion for someone who will lie, project, deflect, avoid, gaslight – anything to make their damaged persona look and feel better? It is difficult to recover from such an experience.
I hope this question has a relevance to a Buddhist view on life. I believe it does, and would very much like to hear it. Many thanks
Marie Lavendier says
Beautiful reminder of the radical compassion practices, Tara. Thank you.
Vicky M. says
I would feel safe to be me with compassion for myself and others and the ability to feel the joys of authentic connection.
Linda Monm says
I don’t know who I would be if I let all the blame and resentment go. I hope I’m strong enough to find out. Thank you
Jennifer van de Ven says
I would feel free.
Donna Stevenson says
So important in a season of division and blame on a huge scale in our nation. Some narratives encourage this, coming from multiple perspectives. Thank you for more tools to do what I have been working to do, moving against the flow of negativity to a place of forgiveness and release.
V Newton says
Very helpful practices. Thank you Tara
Adriana Escobar says
A person who could be more focused in what really is important for my growth.
P M says
It would change my life completely.
Elin Fahlgren says
I would be more at peace, happy, joyful, flourishing more easily, connected to my kids in a much more open way. I would feel more self-confidence and trust.