If l let go of blame and judgement, and shifted into compassion, for myself and others, l feel and see my little girl inside, when l was little and being scapegoated by my parents. I feel her sense of helplessness and guilt, even when she was not at fault. I can go in as my adult self, give her a hug and say, “it’s ok honey, there’s nothing wrong with you, you are beautiful inside and out, and l love you.”
For a 71 year old like me, not much of what you teach in new, as such;
but regardless of how long one has been ”practising”; reminders & nudges “to keep at it'”; are absolutely necessary.
Thank You…
I will be honoured to host you, when you visit.
When are you coming?
Hugs & Namaste
I find this practice so hard. Often I am so consumed with emotion I don’t know how to undo the tight ball and find a way to stop the blame and anger. I acknowledge the damage I am doing but the u-turn whilst I’m feeling this way is extremely difficult. Should I be removing myself from the situation or sitting with the emotion in the moment?
Thank you again. This is a powerful practice premised on a notion of an individual learning to be more that their trauma, pain and loss in their own heart, body and thoughts. I think even caring enough to be the ways that are self-compassionate when compassion has not been internalised can be very hard for our most traumatised people. Offering a consistent and reliable lived experience of a healing relationship as a therapist or teacher can allow people to be willing to truly engage in such practices. The “tools” are just not enough on their own.
The U-turn practice helps to attenuate the resentment or anger towards the other; and encourage willingness to forgive and let go; the act of letting go is freeing
Tara,
Thank you, I found this very inspiring in dealing with family issues. I realized I have used it with some family members of an older generation but now seeing the steps I recognize the wounds of my siblings and look inward with compassion and will practice the u-turn for others to free myself of my anger of others in recognizing their wounds, calming myself and providing myself room to grow and shake off the second arrow of shame and blame, the self-defeating pattern. Opening my heart space is liberating and up-lifting, having more energy and happiness. It allows me to let stuff go that is binding me in a bad, sad, mad place.It is a slow process but my experience tells me it works so I will continue to use it for myself and I also see how I can use the steps in my practice with clients so thank you from my heart.??
Tara, your 3 Part video series is truly wonderful & I deeply appreciated all of it. Thank you for sharing these. Your strategies to shift out of judgment & blame and into compassion as from Buddhist psychology are beautifully delivered. Your retreats would be very special indeed … Menique
I would be someone who feels much freer and much lighter, less burdened. I would feel even more connected to others as well as myself. As a result of letting go of judgment, I believe I also would have far fewer physical manifestations, such as headaches and occasional sleeplessness.
My partner is very critical, defensive and blaming and I have no way to clarify how did this happen since none of us know the reason for it. I have found the blaming is mostly among the men, may be am i discriminating or too gender focused here. We both are very mindful of others but in close intimately with me, it is just beyond control.
What kind of person would I be if I let go of judgemental attitudes toward those who hurt me and had more compassion for myself? I’d probably have to start living. Facing my fears and getting outside of my own anxieties. I would have to interact and not hide behind someone else’s personality. I’d have to compromise, listen, take criticism. I would need to be fully functional.
A much lighter and happier woman! 🙂 Thank you, Tara and Team!
Someone that could live in daily peace
Was very inspirational ?
I would be more free, more at peace
Thanks!
Thank you for these helpful teachings.
If l let go of blame and judgement, and shifted into compassion, for myself and others, l feel and see my little girl inside, when l was little and being scapegoated by my parents. I feel her sense of helplessness and guilt, even when she was not at fault. I can go in as my adult self, give her a hug and say, “it’s ok honey, there’s nothing wrong with you, you are beautiful inside and out, and l love you.”
Ready to live my life
Thankyou for your insights. Moving from self blame to self compassion and compassion for others is so freeing.
Thankyou for sharing this message
Greetings from Singapore, Tara….
For a 71 year old like me, not much of what you teach in new, as such;
but regardless of how long one has been ”practising”; reminders & nudges “to keep at it'”; are absolutely necessary.
Thank You…
I will be honoured to host you, when you visit.
When are you coming?
Hugs & Namaste
Kishore
Liberated ❤
I find this practice so hard. Often I am so consumed with emotion I don’t know how to undo the tight ball and find a way to stop the blame and anger. I acknowledge the damage I am doing but the u-turn whilst I’m feeling this way is extremely difficult. Should I be removing myself from the situation or sitting with the emotion in the moment?
I will use some of these techniques in my practice. Thanks for the wonderful video’s. Great work!
I would be the person god created me to be.
was very helpful thank you.
I intend to incorporate more of this in my work. Thank you!
Thank you again. This is a powerful practice premised on a notion of an individual learning to be more that their trauma, pain and loss in their own heart, body and thoughts. I think even caring enough to be the ways that are self-compassionate when compassion has not been internalised can be very hard for our most traumatised people. Offering a consistent and reliable lived experience of a healing relationship as a therapist or teacher can allow people to be willing to truly engage in such practices. The “tools” are just not enough on their own.
Thank you Tara
The U-turn practice helps to attenuate the resentment or anger towards the other; and encourage willingness to forgive and let go; the act of letting go is freeing
Loving and lovable
I would simply be myself, and not who other people expect (or fear) me to be.
Tara,
Thank you, I found this very inspiring in dealing with family issues. I realized I have used it with some family members of an older generation but now seeing the steps I recognize the wounds of my siblings and look inward with compassion and will practice the u-turn for others to free myself of my anger of others in recognizing their wounds, calming myself and providing myself room to grow and shake off the second arrow of shame and blame, the self-defeating pattern. Opening my heart space is liberating and up-lifting, having more energy and happiness. It allows me to let stuff go that is binding me in a bad, sad, mad place.It is a slow process but my experience tells me it works so I will continue to use it for myself and I also see how I can use the steps in my practice with clients so thank you from my heart.??
I wouldn’t be concerned about people judging me. I would be free to be myself and to let others be themselves without trying to change them.
I would feel more compassion towards me and to others
I loved feeling the heart space. The u turn is powerful tool.
My heart would feel lighter and the dark cloud over my head would move on, letting the sun back in. Maybe I would feel I belong…
I would be my best compassionate & loving Self
Thank you for your great work <3
I would be free. I would be who I know I am before I tried yet again to love another person who was wounded
Tara, your 3 Part video series is truly wonderful & I deeply appreciated all of it. Thank you for sharing these. Your strategies to shift out of judgment & blame and into compassion as from Buddhist psychology are beautifully delivered. Your retreats would be very special indeed … Menique
I would be someone who feels much freer and much lighter, less burdened. I would feel even more connected to others as well as myself. As a result of letting go of judgment, I believe I also would have far fewer physical manifestations, such as headaches and occasional sleeplessness.
A very insightful video to better understand how to liberate myself from feelings of unworthiness. Thanks for sharing it.
I was able to touch the vulnerability of those who are trapped by their own experiences.
I would be softer, gentler, kinder and have so much more vulnerability-which I am not sure I am ready for.
Friendlier and more open
I would be free and have a lot more energy to live and to love as I would like to.
eileen
Imperfect and happy
I would reach my full potential. I would stop cutting myself and damaging my relationships. I would be free to be myself.
I’d be more relaxed, at ease, open. For myself and others.
Practised this many times and my mind still wanders away. So hard to be with my feelings without distraction
I believe I would be more social and less isolated.
Finding the way back to vulnerability …. beautiful. Thankyou
at ease
I want that giggly little girl I was born to be
i’d be an empowered, confident leader with more ability to take risk in sharing of myself and my acquired wisdom.
Be my best self
It works. Revelations that I had never had before.
I would be more assertive and free being my own self.
Looking at other person as having their leg trapped is an amazing insight.
My partner is very critical, defensive and blaming and I have no way to clarify how did this happen since none of us know the reason for it. I have found the blaming is mostly among the men, may be am i discriminating or too gender focused here. We both are very mindful of others but in close intimately with me, it is just beyond control.
What kind of person would I be if I let go of judgemental attitudes toward those who hurt me and had more compassion for myself? I’d probably have to start living. Facing my fears and getting outside of my own anxieties. I would have to interact and not hide behind someone else’s personality. I’d have to compromise, listen, take criticism. I would need to be fully functional.