In only one hour, we found a key source of suffering.
Tara Brach kicked off our mindfulness series this week, and her wise words about the agony of self-judgment resonated.
She also told us why we need to show patients the goodness in themselves.
You added to her ideas on the comment board by sharing some thoughts on how to apply this. Here are a few:
- “In listening to this broadcast I realized that behind what someone said about feeling like a failure was probably his desire to do well. I had never thought to what was behind his words. I will suggest this to him and see if he can feel compassion for himself rather than the self reprimand.”- Joanne D. Gray, Mental Health Therapist, British Columbia
- “I am currently holding workshops for middle school counselors and teachers about applying mindfulness practices and in particular compassion practice when working with students who are struggling emotionally/behaviorally. After tonight’s lecture, I want to make sure that I refer them to RAIN.”- Kristen Leren, School Psychologist, Haddonfield, NJ
- “[Tara’s] precision of language, without using too much technical talk, really makes this understandable . . . Her description of RAIN and the trance of unworthiness is so useful! In fact, just this morning I described this to a colleague who feels trapped in an abusive relationship.”- Sarah Meredith, Yoga Teacher, Brooklyn, NY
Many of the staff here (and many of you) found Tara’s words about self-compassion particularly helpful. It’s essential for practitioners to share self-compassion with patients.
Tara’s way of putting this was so compelling, I’d hate for anyone to miss it. So we’d like to share this short video on compassion and self-judgment again:
How will you use this advice in your practice? If you saw last night’s call, what did you find most engaging about it? Share your thoughts below.
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Tara Brach is quite brilliant. Her presentation of the subject matter is clear, engaging and articulate. I particularly appreciate her avoidance of new age cliche’s which can be extremely off putting, or at least take away from the credibility of the information.
I highly recommend Tara Brach for another more compelling reason. Her talks have inspired great change and healing. 10/10
I find that acceptance of where I am at helps me become more peaceful when I am suffering. I try to be patient and practice self acceptance because fighting it makes it worse. If I relax my mind, my body follows and solutions present themselves. I can see my path out and my choices more clearly.
The comment by Joanne D. Gray, Mental Health Therapist, British Columbia – “…behind what someone said about feeling like a failure was probably his desire to do well. (Will) see if he can feel compassion for himself rather than self reprimand,” makes sense, resonates with me. It also helps in understanding why suicide seems the only way out for too many. Certainly suicide survivors participate in self-judgement. They ultimately want to do well, but feel unsuccessful and a burden on society and loved ones instead, lacking compassion for themsleves.
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Tara’s presentation was open, compassionate, informative, and deeply moving. It reinforces for me, why the integration of Mndfulness, in all of the ways she so articulately and and simply stated, and psychotherapy are such an exquisite blend of paradigms. Thank you for such a fantastic start into this series.
The night after listening to Tara, I had a most peaceful confirming dream that her method helps people understand that earlier experiences can continue to affect their later reactions to others. As a researcher of people’s nighttime dreams about family and other relationships, I suggest that work with understanding dreams can blend well with Tara’s healthful, helpful, caring nature — particularly her use of the RAIN model.
(I have heard Tara speak before and so knew that she would have a valuable presentation.)
Thank you for the beautiful and kind direction.
I´m looking forward to hearing this. and I´m grateful for the opportunity.