Everyone is busy (or at least, it certainly feels that way). There’s always people to care for, things that need to be checked off the list, and deadlines to meet.
In the business of life, it’s easy to fall into harmful shortcuts instead of seeking out long-term solutions. And sometimes these habits may seem like the right thing to do.
But in this video, Tara Brach, PhD reveals two of these patterns and why they might actually make things worse.
To find out about strategies we can give our clients to help them cultivate deeper self-compassion, check out our courses on mindfulness.
How do your clients use false refuge to avoid conflict? Please leave your response in the comment section below.
I’d like to thank Tara Brach for her talk on the webinar this evening. I am a counsellor working at a university in England. A friend introduced me to the work of Tara Brach and it has become a huge resource in awakening to my own strategies in response to stress and to deepening my insight into mindfulness. Tomorrow I will be a running an introductory workshop on mindfulness for students at the university. I am so grateful for Tara’s generosity of spirit in helping therapists to introduce and integrate mindfulness into their practice.
This is coming at a nice time. I’m curious about the idea of False Refuges. I’m going through a separation. I feel a lot of guilt over failing my family, and worse, feeling like I’m a failure as a father. My partner doesn’t want the separation despite severe neglect of our relationship. She’s been amazing since I asked for the separation. That makes me question and doubt my decision. I have to wonder if it’s because it’s playing it safe. Is this my Crystal palace? I’m really looking forward to this webinar! My own practice has faltered a bit through this last couple months.
We are such an instant quick fix society and its driven in uk by the national
Health everything has to be measured and its so called results driven. Mindfulness has gone the same way 8 week fix. Depression or stress. There is no value or very lille put on deep change and i guess the long hard work of change and therapy. I am even writing this on the bas as i go to work.
Claire Hershman psychotherapist in Folkestone. I teach meditation and practice long term psychotherapy. It’s avshame if things get diluted. Claire Hershman folkestone uk
am grateful for the up to the minute information on being present , mindful ” coming home to myself ” to a large degree it has helped me be less anxious life at 81 is easier in myself thanks thanks ann
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Thank you,
Bill Zeckhausen
I read pretty much all of the comments here, Bill.